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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can anybody offer me any tips,advice or offers? I'm a single guy wanting to explore my bi side. I have crossed dressed when I was a teenager but looking to explore that side again too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have a look in the events section for a bi night at a club. If you go there's no pressure to play and you can chat to like minded people face to face, probably easiest way to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can anybody offer me any tips,advice or offers? I'm a single guy wanting to explore my bi side. I have crossed dressed when I was a teenager but looking to explore that side again too. "
You have a few verifications so you are obviously not doing badly.
For us, we are afraid that your profile text is just not personal enough - just a few short sentences revealing little of yourself - and your photos are uninspiring cock shots.
As for your wish for bi experiences, you describe yourself as straight. That would exclude you immediately from any meet for us. If you are bi, say so. Otherwise, how can anyone know? How can anyone trust anything else you say? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can anybody offer me any tips,advice or offers? I'm a single guy wanting to explore my bi side. I have crossed dressed when I was a teenager but looking to explore that side again too.
You have a few verifications so you are obviously not doing badly.
For us, we are afraid that your profile text is just not personal enough - just a few short sentences revealing little of yourself - and your photos are uninspiring cock shots.
As for your wish for bi experiences, you describe yourself as straight. That would exclude you immediately from any meet for us. If you are bi, say so. Otherwise, how can anyone know? How can anyone trust anything else you say?"
To be fair to the OP his verifications how back a few years. Maybe considering his bi side is something more recent?
Do agree that at least putting bi-curious on profile would be more honest though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I know that this might sound really revolutionary on a swingers site, but why don't you write to a man and ask them to meet?"
Thanks for all the advice think I'm going to take the plunge on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems he didn't listen to a word anyone said, still got straight on his profile.
'Straight' is just a word  "
A word that actually has virtually no meaning on fab anyway.
He would be far from the only gay/bi guy on this site maintaining a straight profile whilst looking to meet other guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your either one or other, stop pretending or sitting on the fence
I am bisexual and happy to admit that, and accept that by doing so on here totally limits your prospects of meeting women/couples - but id rather be honest than have to worry what lies I told to try and bed someone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your either one or other, stop pretending or sitting on the fence
I am bisexual and happy to admit that, and accept that by doing so on here totally limits your prospects of meeting women/couples - but id rather be honest than have to worry what lies I told to try and bed someone "
That is an attitude I can respect however I think it is increasingly rare on this site.
One recent post was arguing the case that a guy having sex with a tv was in fact heterosexual and both parties straight since one was dressed as a woman.
The logic being that if the tv perceived himself to be a woman then that is exactly what he, sorry she was.
Lewis Caroll eat your heart out.
Going back to my point the word straight therefor has virtually no meaning.
Drawing attention to the logical inconsistencies in this weird logic apparently proves I am homophobic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your either one or other, stop pretending or sitting on the fence
I am bisexual and happy to admit that, and accept that by doing so on here totally limits your prospects of meeting women/couples - but id rather be honest than have to worry what lies I told to try and bed someone
That is an attitude I can respect however I think it is increasingly rare on this site.
One recent post was arguing the case that a guy having sex with a tv was in fact heterosexual and both parties straight since one was dressed as a woman.
The logic being that if the tv perceived himself to be a woman then that is exactly what he, sorry she was.
Lewis Caroll eat your heart out.
Going back to my point the word straight therefor has virtually no meaning.
Drawing attention to the logical inconsistencies in this weird logic apparently proves I am homophobic. "
Transwomen are not men. Saying that transwomen are men is bigoted and transphobic.
A man who has sex with a crossdresser is interested in men. A man who has sex with a transwoman might not be interested in men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So if I follow your logic then simply by claiming to perceive oneself as a woman a guy should be treated as one. Without any of that inconvenient messiness of hormone treatment or gender reassignment ops?
And failing to accept this makes a person transphobic?
Maybe Eusain Bolt should simply declare himself a women and he can become the first person in history to win both male and female Olympic records.
Of course any objections from the women athletics could be disregarded as they are obviously transphobic.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So if I follow your logic then simply by claiming to perceive oneself as a woman a guy should be treated as one. Without any of that inconvenient messiness of hormone treatment or gender reassignment ops?
And failing to accept this makes a person transphobic?
Maybe Eusain Bolt should simply declare himself a women and he can become the first person in history to win both male and female Olympic records.
Of course any objections from the women athletics could be disregarded as they are obviously transphobic.
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There is no fixed point where a person transitions from one gender to another. It takes several years usually before they even start hormone treatment - and you have to live as your new gender for all that time.
Just because you don't think it's right, doesn't mean that others can't accept people as the gender they will transition to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So if I follow your logic then simply by claiming to perceive oneself as a woman a guy should be treated as one. Without any of that inconvenient messiness of hormone treatment or gender reassignment ops?
And failing to accept this makes a person transphobic?
Maybe Eusain Bolt should simply declare himself a women and he can become the first person in history to win both male and female Olympic records.
Of course any objections from the women athletics could be disregarded as they are obviously transphobic.
There is no fixed point where a person transitions from one gender to another. It takes several years usually before they even start hormone treatment - and you have to live as your new gender for all that time.
Just because you don't think it's right, doesn't mean that others can't accept people as the gender they will transition to."
And no - it's not a failure to accept it that makes someone transphobic. It's your language and public judgement that makes you transphobic. |
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Maybe Eusain Bolt should simply declare himself a women and he can become the first person in history to win both male and female Olympic records.
Of course any objections from the women athletics could be disregarded as they are obviously transphobic.
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The vast majority of trans people aren't Olympic athletes, funnily enough, so this is pretty irrelevant. The implications of top level athletics can be safely ignored when you just meet a person who prefers pronouns different to those you might expect. It won't crash the world to just be decent and use those pronouns. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So if I follow your logic then simply by claiming to perceive oneself as a woman a guy should be treated as one. Without any of that inconvenient messiness of hormone treatment or gender reassignment ops?
And failing to accept this makes a person transphobic?
Maybe Eusain Bolt should simply declare himself a women and he can become the first person in history to win both male and female Olympic records.
Of course any objections from the women athletics could be disregarded as they are obviously transphobic.
There is no fixed point where a person transitions from one gender to another. It takes several years usually before they even start hormone treatment - and you have to live as your new gender for all that time.
Just because you don't think it's right, doesn't mean that others can't accept people as the gender they will transition to.
And no - it's not a failure to accept it that makes someone transphobic. It's your language and public judgement that makes you transphobic."
That's always the trouble with this type of conversation. If a person does not accept your version of logic (and I dont) then it is dismissed as transphobic or some other phobic.
Call me what you wish as I really don't care what your opinion is. Your argument is weak otherwise you would not feel the need to resort to name calling.
I have not heard a coherent logical case to support your views apart from wishful thinking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So if I follow your logic then simply by claiming to perceive oneself as a woman a guy should be treated as one. "
Yes. Honestly, it is this simple. A person's gender is their business, not yours. It's polite for you to ask them what pronoun they would like you to use, and then use it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So if I follow your logic then simply by claiming to perceive oneself as a woman a guy should be treated as one. Without any of that inconvenient messiness of hormone treatment or gender reassignment ops?
And failing to accept this makes a person transphobic?
Maybe Eusain Bolt should simply declare himself a women and he can become the first person in history to win both male and female Olympic records.
Of course any objections from the women athletics could be disregarded as they are obviously transphobic.
There is no fixed point where a person transitions from one gender to another. It takes several years usually before they even start hormone treatment - and you have to live as your new gender for all that time.
Just because you don't think it's right, doesn't mean that others can't accept people as the gender they will transition to.
And no - it's not a failure to accept it that makes someone transphobic. It's your language and public judgement that makes you transphobic.
That's always the trouble with this type of conversation. If a person does not accept your version of logic (and I dont) then it is dismissed as transphobic or some other phobic.
Call me what you wish as I really don't care what your opinion is. Your argument is weak otherwise you would not feel the need to resort to name calling.
I have not heard a coherent logical case to support your views apart from wishful thinking. "
exactly right what you say here,you can't change your gender like you can't change the moon to the sun and visa versa |
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By *van ArdenMan
over a year ago
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I would suggest visiting a gay / bisexual sauna where you can participate if you wish to or simply observe.
I visit the Greenhouse (Chameleons ) in Newport and have always enjoyed my visits there as the atmosphere is always relaxed. There is never any pressure and it is much safer than secret meets which could be a little insecure or possibly dangerous.
Saunas allow you to develop your interest and feelings at your own pace and in relative security.
There are many activities and rooms in which you can enjoy the "pursuits " which you feel most comfortable with.
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Call me what you wish as I really don't care what your opinion is. Your argument is weak otherwise you would not feel the need to resort to name calling.
I have not heard a coherent logical case to support your views apart from wishful thinking. "
For such a straight guy you seem to have an unerring aim to find every thread where people are unsure of their sexuality. Is there something you're not sure of yourself?
The stigma for guys to admit to bisexuality means that many will hide it from themselves. If they are not willing to see themselves as bisexual it's not for us to force them. They will arrive at that point when they are ready to. Don't worry if you're straight, they won't jump you. |
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"Yeah you need to change the straight to bi or bi curios, I'm not interested in any guys with straight on there profile particularly if your new "
You may not be interested in guys with straight on profile but i am. |
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Well done OP, status updated to Bi-curious, hope you find what you're looking for!
Took the plunge myself a few years back from Straight to Curious, tried it, liked it! Now not ashamed to class myself as Bisexual, honesty is the best policy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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because a straight guy doesn't agree with your way of thinking they are automatically not straight,what a load of twaddle of course there are 100% straight men i meet straight men only  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well done OP, status updated to Bi-curious, hope you find what you're looking for!
Took the plunge myself a few years back from Straight to Curious, tried it, liked it! Now not ashamed to class myself as Bisexual, honesty is the best policy.
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i have every respect for men who admit their sexuality and have come out as bi |
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"Well done OP, status updated to Bi-curious, hope you find what you're looking for!
Took the plunge myself a few years back from Straight to Curious, tried it, liked it! Now not ashamed to class myself as Bisexual, honesty is the best policy.
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This is what I did just over a year ago... best thing I could have done and hasn't caused the meets to dry up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's what they tell you ladylicker lol"
they are all straight believe me there are straight men, yes that means they don't play with men and tv/ts they do exist on here,not fab straight but really straight |
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By Mia and Enzo 321 Couple13 weeks agoStratford upon AvonYou have to accept the fact that every situation is different and this changes your level of, how can I put it....perv meter! Personally, walking to work on a rainy Monday morning, the thought of another blokes tool is the last thing on my mind. However...when I've been in 3somes with my woman, wild horses won't stop me from sucking another guy so he is nice and hard, ready to slide into her wet pussy. Don't worry about labels..bi, bi curious etc. No one gives a damn these days. I work on a building site; a real testosterone city and some blokes are completely open about having bi experiences. Try it and if you don't like it, leave it. What you don't want is to be 80 years old thinking..i wish. Hope I don't come across as "preaching" in any way. Good luck. P.S. Have a read of our stories on this site |
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