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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So later in the year I'd like to organize a gangbang for my male partner.
I'm wondering if anyone has done this and what their experiences were like.
I would be there to supervise and make sure he doesn't get hurt, "no" is respected, and nobody breaks any of our safe sex rules. Is there anything in particular I should be mindful about when thinking about it though?
One of my big concerns is that guys will be expecting me, as a female-bodied person, to join in. Which will almost certainly be off the cards. What do you think the best way to manage expectations there would be? |
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I think as you said "no" is to be respected and that should mean you too. I also think dress the part meaning nothing skimpy that looks like you're going to join. As the previous poster said only invite men who want men or trusted friends.
Having read posts you have posted before you're a very strong willed person so I'm sure guys would take notice of you and respect you. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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if they are anything like female gangbangs and you are simply there to observe you want to make sure they all wear or are comfortable using condoms before the meet - it'll avoid disappointment. I have been to a few - the good ones are where the woman says her expectation and boundaries before and gets actively involved during (the partner would either watch from a distance, or get involved). Those that just lay on a bed like a sack of spuds don't really get the crowd going. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"if they are anything like female gangbangs and you are simply there to observe you want to make sure they all wear or are comfortable using condoms before the meet - it'll avoid disappointment. I have been to a few - the good ones are where the woman says her expectation and boundaries before and gets actively involved during (the partner would either watch from a distance, or get involved). Those that just lay on a bed like a sack of spuds don't really get the crowd going. "
I think my current plan is to have him tied up, so there might not be much 'involvement' that he can give. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why should male gang bangs be any different to female ones? "
Because men who have sex with men can often come from a very different scene and quite a different attitude to sex than men who have sex with women. The gay scene *is* very different in many ways, and as someone without any experience in it I'm asking for advice. |
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Most of the best gangbangs I've been to have been the ones where, in advance, the guys were clearly informed what the rules were, i.e. you're supervising not playing, X and Y is acceptable but Z isn't and these rules are crystal clear to the guys in advance
That way you don't get the 'oh I didn't realise' brigade trying it on which can happen in some of these events |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"if they are anything like female gangbangs and you are simply there to observe you want to make sure they all wear or are comfortable using condoms before the meet - it'll avoid disappointment. I have been to a few - the good ones are where the woman says her expectation and boundaries before and gets actively involved during (the partner would either watch from a distance, or get involved). Those that just lay on a bed like a sack of spuds don't really get the crowd going.
I think my current plan is to have him tied up, so there might not be much 'involvement' that he can give."
It may be best to fist see how they are together with a few items brought in later. Having shackles around wrists and ankles or a collar on can more than set the scene sometimes - and saves time later when you are comfortable that they aren't going to take the piss |
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"if they are anything like female gangbangs and you are simply there to observe you want to make sure they all wear or are comfortable using condoms before the meet - it'll avoid disappointment. I have been to a few - the good ones are where the woman says her expectation and boundaries before and gets actively involved during (the partner would either watch from a distance, or get involved). Those that just lay on a bed like a sack of spuds don't really get the crowd going.
I think my current plan is to have him tied up, so there might not be much 'involvement' that he can give.
It may be best to fist see how they are together with a few items brought in later. Having shackles around wrists and ankles or a collar on can more than set the scene sometimes - and saves time later when you are comfortable that they aren't going to take the piss"
Freudian slip there?  |
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"if they are anything like female gangbangs and you are simply there to observe you want to make sure they all wear or are comfortable using condoms before the meet - it'll avoid disappointment. I have been to a few - the good ones are where the woman says her expectation and boundaries before and gets actively involved during (the partner would either watch from a distance, or get involved). Those that just lay on a bed like a sack of spuds don't really get the crowd going.
I think my current plan is to have him tied up, so there might not be much 'involvement' that he can give.
It may be best to fist see how they are together with a few items brought in later. Having shackles around wrists and ankles or a collar on can more than set the scene sometimes - and saves time later when you are comfortable that they aren't going to take the piss
Freudian slip there? "
I was thinking talking about fisting and watersports was a big premature  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why should male gang bangs be any different to female ones?
Because men who have sex with men can often come from a very different scene and quite a different attitude to sex than men who have sex with women. The gay scene *is* very different in many ways, and as someone without any experience in it I'm asking for advice."
This is very true.
I made the 'mistake' of jumping straight in by getting into the swing in a well known sauna.
At that point no one had been inside me yet, nor had I relaxed myself with any toys.
I was quickly surrounded and the first three I took were pretty rough with me. It can also get pretty frantic.
I had to stop before I got hurt and after a break I had a couple of one on one plays before trying again.
I think my biggest fear is the risk of pack mentality taking over and my being overpowered. I don't know how rational this fear is. It's quite exciting in a way but I'm not there to be repeatedly raped. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Know nothing of this kind of thing so don't really get it. Wouldn't the guys just fuck eachother instead of waiting in line?"
Not all men receive penetrative sex. The idea would be to find tops who enjoy penetration to play with him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why should male gang bangs be any different to female ones?
Because men who have sex with men can often come from a very different scene and quite a different attitude to sex than men who have sex with women. The gay scene *is* very different in many ways, and as someone without any experience in it I'm asking for advice.
This is very true.
I made the 'mistake' of jumping straight in by getting into the swing in a well known sauna.
At that point no one had been inside me yet, nor had I relaxed myself with any toys.
I was quickly surrounded and the first three I took were pretty rough with me. It can also get pretty frantic.
I had to stop before I got hurt and after a break I had a couple of one on one plays before trying again.
I think my biggest fear is the risk of pack mentality taking over and my being overpowered. I don't know how rational this fear is. It's quite exciting in a way but I'm not there to be repeatedly raped. "
Yes, that's our biggest fear I suppose - and the big difference between a small female-bodied person supervising and a man.
We were also interested in setting him up with a plug that you can fuck through (an Oxballs Pighole - if you know the one) so that he can have more sex for longer without being sore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My best gb experiences have been in saunas. I've tried arranging them in a club but seem to struggle to get them there at the same time so have to resort to a succession of spit roasts. Mind you they're quite fun too 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So later in the year I'd like to organize a gangbang for my male partner.
I'm wondering if anyone has done this and what their experiences were like.
I would be there to supervise and make sure he doesn't get hurt, "no" is respected, and nobody breaks any of our safe sex rules. Is there anything in particular I should be mindful about when thinking about it though?
One of my big concerns is that guys will be expecting me, as a female-bodied person, to join in. Which will almost certainly be off the cards. What do you think the best way to manage expectations there would be?"
clipboard , hard hat and high vis jacket ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My best gb experiences have been in saunas. I've tried arranging them in a club but seem to struggle to get them there at the same time so have to resort to a succession of spit roasts. Mind you they're quite fun too
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Ha, that would also not be entirely out of the question.
We'd honestly prefer it to happen in a sauna, but obviously, since I can't go... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would suggest a alcohol ban or at least a limit to what people are aloud to drink xxxxx"
Yes, that's very true. We don't play with people who have d*unk alcohol generally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes, that's our biggest fear I suppose - and the big difference between a small female-bodied person supervising and a man.
We were also interested in setting him up with a plug that you can fuck through (an Oxballs Pighole - if you know the one) so that he can have more sex for longer without being sore."
I've no experience with a plug like that. Can he still feel and enjoy being fucked?
I'm fairly confident of keeping control of a gang if I'm not tied. If I was helpless I'd want a guy to be present who I'd trust to step in if needed.
No disrespect intended but if you aren't fully confident you have the authority to keep him safe could you perhaps have one of your other partners there too?
My first gb was bent over a whipping stool. They wanted to strap me down but I refused at first. I must admit once we were going for it my resolve wained and I allowed it. I flexed as they strapped me down though so I felt I could wriggle free.
I was by then willing to take anyone with a hardon. My only fear was if safe sex wasn't practiced. It worked out well though and I enjoyed that fucked hard feeling for days after  |
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Hi At our last party I was surprised by how many wanted anal with a bj at the same time with another man, the best way we find is to chat, set your boundaries / fantasies and make it clear with safe words when it gets to much, my John is always around to make sure that its safe sex only.. connie x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best gb experiences have been in saunas. I've tried arranging them in a club but seem to struggle to get them there at the same time so have to resort to a succession of spit roasts. Mind you they're quite fun too
Ha, that would also not be entirely out of the question.
We'd honestly prefer it to happen in a sauna, but obviously, since I can't go..."
That depends how passable you can be. You could wear male fetish clothing to hide your shape. Can you do a reasonable male voice? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have arranged a few male gb's.
Apart from the usual (invite 50 expect 5! Seems to be more so in this situation).
Make it clear the ground rules and limits first.
Make sure the guy is 'warmed up ' first.
LOADS OF LUBE!!
more towels/wipes then with a lady gb.
You provide condoms. The type you are happy with.
Have fun but i have found they tend to last longer then lady gb's ( sorted one or two of those).
Enjoy
Xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For safety I would tell each man that you give their details to a trusted friend. Might seem a bit ott but you can never be too safe. "
Could you explain why?
Not having a go, I just can't see the point any more then with a lady gb. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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Yes, that's our biggest fear I suppose - and the big difference between a small female-bodied person supervising and a man.... "
I think some men have this fear too tbf. I'd love to set up a gb for one of my fbs in the future. Maybe for her birthday. I can't realistically see this happening anywhere other than in a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For safety I would tell each man that you give their details to a trusted friend. Might seem a bit ott but you can never be too safe.
Could you explain why?
Not having a go, I just can't see the point any more then with a lady gb."
I can't see this working the way you want. The chances are you'll get false details and even more no shows. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For safety I would tell each man that you give their details to a trusted friend. Might seem a bit ott but you can never be too safe.
Could you explain why?
Not having a go, I just can't see the point any more then with a lady gb."
I would do the same for any meet with strangers. If you knew someone had your face photo,car registration,phone number or whatever information you gave would you be less likely to do something that could get you arrested? It's extreme thinking but people are killed or abused during meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For safety I would tell each man that you give their details to a trusted friend. Might seem a bit ott but you can never be too safe.
Could you explain why?
Not having a go, I just can't see the point any more then with a lady gb.
I can't see this working the way you want. The chances are you'll get false details and even more no shows. "
They wouldn't give anything too personal anyway but face pics would be a start. If someone had the intention of turning up to abuse and,as you put it,rape someone then knowing you would do something about it would deter those kinds of people. I tell men I have given a face pic,the hotel details,their phone numbers,car reg etc to a trusted friend. No one has backed out so far. To be honest though,if I got a really bad vibe from someone I wouldn't be meeting them,but you can't tell the good guys from the bad guys. In this situation,with the man tied up helpless and one female in attendance I would want every bit of security I could muster,if I didn't know any of the people attending. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For safety I would tell each man that you give their details to a trusted friend. Might seem a bit ott but you can never be too safe.
Could you explain why?
Not having a go, I just can't see the point any more then with a lady gb.
I can't see this working the way you want. The chances are you'll get false details and even more no shows.
They wouldn't give anything too personal anyway but face pics would be a start. If someone had the intention of turning up to abuse and,as you put it,rape someone then knowing you would do something about it would deter those kinds of people. I tell men I have given a face pic,the hotel details,their phone numbers,car reg etc to a trusted friend. No one has backed out so far. To be honest though,if I got a really bad vibe from someone I wouldn't be meeting them,but you can't tell the good guys from the bad guys. In this situation,with the man tied up helpless and one female in attendance I would want every bit of security I could muster,if I didn't know any of the people attending. "
To be honest, I just don't automatically think the worst of people.
My partner isn't exactly hench, if a guy wanted to attack him when he *wasn't* tied up then he wouldn't really be able to stop him.
I/we would never meet anyone if we were terrified of the kind of scenario you mention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For safety I would tell each man that you give their details to a trusted friend. Might seem a bit ott but you can never be too safe.
Could you explain why?
Not having a go, I just can't see the point any more then with a lady gb.
I would do the same for any meet with strangers. If you knew someone had your face photo,car registration,phone number or whatever information you gave would you be less likely to do something that could get you arrested? It's extreme thinking but people are killed or abused during meets."
Of all the parties,gang bangs etc I have ever been to, this has never been felt by anyone to be needed. If it was to make you feel safer then fine but we would never do that. In twelve years of seinging, we have never felt the need. |
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"For safety I would tell each man that you give their details to a trusted friend. Might seem a bit ott but you can never be too safe.
Could you explain why?
Not having a go, I just can't see the point any more then with a lady gb.
I would do the same for any meet with strangers. If you knew someone had your face photo,car registration,phone number or whatever information you gave would you be less likely to do something that could get you arrested? It's extreme thinking but people are killed or abused during meets.
Of all the parties,gang bangs etc I have ever been to, this has never been felt by anyone to be needed. If it was to make you feel safer then fine but we would never do that. In twelve years of seinging, we have never felt the need."
Have you ever been tied up with men you know little about coming to fuck you,with only one woman there for your safety? If you have a group of friends who look after each other,having one new man turn up isn't going to be a problem. I'm looking at the OP's situation and thinking of the extreme situations and how to make it safer. If she could find a group of men who regularly have male gang bangs that would be better. |
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"For safety I would tell each man that you give their details to a trusted friend. Might seem a bit ott but you can never be too safe.
Could you explain why?
Not having a go, I just can't see the point any more then with a lady gb.
I can't see this working the way you want. The chances are you'll get false details and even more no shows.
They wouldn't give anything too personal anyway but face pics would be a start. If someone had the intention of turning up to abuse and,as you put it,rape someone then knowing you would do something about it would deter those kinds of people. I tell men I have given a face pic,the hotel details,their phone numbers,car reg etc to a trusted friend. No one has backed out so far. To be honest though,if I got a really bad vibe from someone I wouldn't be meeting them,but you can't tell the good guys from the bad guys. In this situation,with the man tied up helpless and one female in attendance I would want every bit of security I could muster,if I didn't know any of the people attending.
To be honest, I just don't automatically think the worst of people.
My partner isn't exactly hench, if a guy wanted to attack him when he *wasn't* tied up then he wouldn't really be able to stop him.
I/we would never meet anyone if we were terrified of the kind of scenario you mention."
I was thinking worse case here. It doesn't hurt to have some kind of security. As Rachael informed us,it can happen in clubs if you're not careful. You would be very unlucky to have something bad happen but I've read a few bad stories on the forums where people had met strange people |
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I've never felt an issue arising in a swing club. Saunas are a whole different game though.
Mostly they are safe too but there are the odd few guys in them who are proper nasty.
I did have a guy try to enter me unprotected. To which I said 'no. Put a condom on'. He silently just tried again to which I pushed him away and told him to respect me.
As he came at me a third time I hit him.
As I did several guys stepped forward asking if I needed help.
The guy in question left swiftly fighting for breath from my punch.
That was my scariest moment but I felt good that several guys were stepping up to protect me. I was just swifter to strike. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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I think if you are relaxed enough and say from the off this is your night as much as his. They will understand that they are there to perform as actors as much as get off and get him off as well as see you as a possible guide for harder, faster rule taking. |
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"My best gb experiences have been in saunas. I've tried arranging them in a club but seem to struggle to get them there at the same time so have to resort to a succession of spit roasts. Mind you they're quite fun too
Ha, that would also not be entirely out of the question.
We'd honestly prefer it to happen in a sauna, but obviously, since I can't go..."
Theres a sauna in leicester that females are welcome to go, lots bi and gay men attend |
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"So later in the year I'd like to organize a gangbang for my male partner.
I'm wondering if anyone has done this and what their experiences were like.
I would be there to supervise and make sure he doesn't get hurt, "no" is respected, and nobody breaks any of our safe sex rules. Is there anything in particular I should be mindful about when thinking about it though?
One of my big concerns is that guys will be expecting me, as a female-bodied person, to join in. Which will almost certainly be off the cards. What do you think the best way to manage expectations there would be?"
Are you saying your male partner wants to be gang-banged (anal fucked) by a number of guys, are you getting much response? im sure not into that and cringe at the thought.
wishing you well though, and hope he has plenty lubrication  |
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"For safety I would tell each man that you give their details to a trusted friend. Might seem a bit ott but you can never be too safe.
Could you explain why?
Not having a go, I just can't see the point any more then with a lady gb."
If they think a 3rd party has their details they less likely to break rules set at the gangbang, its a wise thing to state whether male or female gsngbang |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So later in the year I'd like to organize a gangbang for my male partner.
I'm wondering if anyone has done this and what their experiences were like.
I would be there to supervise and make sure he doesn't get hurt, "no" is respected, and nobody breaks any of our safe sex rules. Is there anything in particular I should be mindful about when thinking about it though?
One of my big concerns is that guys will be expecting me, as a female-bodied person, to join in. Which will almost certainly be off the cards. What do you think the best way to manage expectations there would be?
Are you saying your male partner wants to be gang-banged (anal fucked) by a number of guys, are you getting much response? im sure not into that and cringe at the thought.
wishing you well though, and hope he has plenty lubrication "
Yes, that's exactly what I'm talking about.
Not sure why you felt you had to add that it's not your thing... gangbangs aren't for everyone! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you ever been tied up with men you know little about coming to fuck you,with only one woman there for your safety? If you have a group of friends who look after each other,having one new man turn up isn't going to be a problem. I'm looking at the OP's situation and thinking of the extreme situations and how to make it safer. If she could find a group of men who regularly have male gang bangs that would be better."
In our home, we only let people that we know and/or are recommended. At clubs we always had a couple of 'bouncers' around just in case.
I can see where you are coming from, but I doubt it would deter the 'undesirables' as they prob would just lie. |
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"So later in the year I'd like to organize a gangbang for my male partner.
I'm wondering if anyone has done this and what their experiences were like.
I would be there to supervise and make sure he doesn't get hurt, "no" is respected, and nobody breaks any of our safe sex rules. Is there anything in particular I should be mindful about when thinking about it though?
One of my big concerns is that guys will be expecting me, as a female-bodied person, to join in. Which will almost certainly be off the cards. What do you think the best way to manage expectations there would be?
Are you saying your male partner wants to be gang-banged (anal fucked) by a number of guys, are you getting much response? im sure not into that and cringe at the thought.
wishing you well though, and hope he has plenty lubrication "
Welcome to the world of liberated grown ups.
Yes she's saying an anal gang bang and yes there are loads of guys into this.
Shit loads
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By (user no longer on site)
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Welcome to the world of liberated grown ups.
Yes she's saying an anal gang bang and yes there are loads of guys into this.
Shit loads
(Sorry, couldn't resist)"
well if that's what "liberated grown ups" do, im glad to be well away from it, I have never came across any male that would even consider this
The lady then says she is worried that guys will expect her to join in, she then says:
Which will almost certainly be off the cards.
as its worded "almost" this leaves it open to possibility and she could be entering into a difficult situation.
You either want to or you don't, no half way house. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My experience of gang bangs, male and female, both in and out of clubs is that the participants are generally more compliant and respectful than perhaps is sometimes expected. If it's a case of them all being there when it starts, they'll soon pick up on what is and isn't expected, and whilst it's human nature to prepare for a worst case scenario, I suspect you'll manage it well and have a great time. |
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"Are you saying your male partner wants to be gang-banged (anal fucked) by a number of guys, are you getting much response? im sure not into that and cringe at the thought.
wishing you well though, and hope he has plenty lubrication "
Some guys just NEED to be hear.
At the very least,this makes really good, eye-opening reading.
At the very least..  |
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Welcome to the world of liberated grown ups.
Yes she's saying an anal gang bang and yes there are loads of guys into this.
Shit loads
(Sorry, couldn't resist)
well if that's what "liberated grown ups" do, im glad to be well away from it, I have never came across any male that would even consider this
The lady then says she is worried that guys will expect her to join in, she then says:
Which will almost certainly be off the cards.
as its worded "almost" this leaves it open to possibility and she could be entering into a difficult situation.
You either want to or you don't, no half way house."
I imagine the 'almost certainly' is because this is in the planning stage.
Perhaps if she had a few trusted participants so she could enjoy things herself too she might consider guiding the occasional cock into him or whatever.
I'm sure Wasp will have things set in stone before she embarks on this.
As for not coming across a single guy up for this I could introduce you to loads.
I'm going to a sauna next Friday and the messages I'm getting include loads from guys who did me the last time wanting a second go. |
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"well if that's what "liberated grown ups" do, im glad to be well away from it, I have never came across any male that would even consider this
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I notice that your profile says ''Bi Curious' and your veris are from men and TV's?
Yet you seem disturbed that any man would want a male GB?
It may not be 'your thing' but come on! you are on a swingers site as a Bi curious male!
A lot of 'vanilla people' would consider what you are doing a disgusting.
If it's not for you then don't participate in the discussion abut it.
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I imagine the 'almost certainly' is because this is in the planning stage.
Perhaps if she had a few trusted participants so she could enjoy things herself too she might consider guiding the occasional cock into him or whatever.
I'm sure Wasp will have things set in stone before she embarks on this.
As for not coming across a single guy up for this I could introduce you to loads.
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I suspect you are correct;
and I have read some of her other posts where she is definitely into, and practices safe sex, which is very refreshing to read
every days a school day |
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over a year ago
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I imagine the 'almost certainly' is because this is in the planning stage.
Perhaps if she had a few trusted participants so she could enjoy things herself too she might consider guiding the occasional cock into him or whatever.
I'm sure Wasp will have things set in stone before she embarks on this.
As for not coming across a single guy up for this I could introduce you to loads.
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I suspect you are correct;
and I have read some of her other posts where she is definitely into, and practices safe sex, which is very refreshing to read
every days a school day"
It's almost like I'm an intelligent adult. (Also I'm TG - the pronoun is 'they' rather than 'she'. Thanks.)
I'm curious as to which bit you find horrid though. Is it the thought of group sex in general? Or group sex with anal? Or group sex between men? |
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I imagine the 'almost certainly' is because this is in the planning stage.
Perhaps if she had a few trusted participants so she could enjoy things herself too she might consider guiding the occasional cock into him or whatever.
I'm sure Wasp will have things set in stone before she embarks on this.
As for not coming across a single guy up for this I could introduce you to loads.
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I suspect you are correct;
and I have read some of her other posts where she is definitely into, and practices safe sex, which is very refreshing to read
every days a school day"
It sure is. I'm hoping to break double figures next Friday. Hopefully I don't learn that's too many
I always get through lots while I'm in the greenhouse but spread over hours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it's not for you then don't participate in the discussion abut it.
Simples!"
so what are you saying; your not allowed to comment on threads if you disagree with something, I have an opinion same as many others and willing to express it
I also have an opinion on people who end statements with the word "simples" but out of kindness I will refrain from informing you of what that is
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By (user no longer on site)
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Welcome to the world of liberated grown ups.
Yes she's saying an anal gang bang and yes there are loads of guys into this.
Shit loads
(Sorry, couldn't resist)
well if that's what "liberated grown ups" do, im glad to be well away from it, I have never came across any male that would even consider this
The lady then says she is worried that guys will expect her to join in, she then says:
Which will almost certainly be off the cards.
as its worded "almost" this leaves it open to possibility and she could be entering into a difficult situation.
You either want to or you don't, no half way house."
I've come across a lot of men who would love an all male anal gang bang. As for her joining in,that will be her choice,not the men's. |
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"If it's not for you then don't participate in the discussion abut it.
Simples!
so what are you saying; your not allowed to comment on threads if you disagree with something, I have an opinion same as many others and willing to express it
I also have an opinion on people who end statements with the word "simples" but out of kindness I will refrain from informing you of what that is
I hope you enjoy a well educated day"
Some of us also have an opinion of people that do 'veiled threats'!
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It's almost like I'm an intelligent adult. (Also I'm TG - the pronoun is 'they' rather than 'she'. Thanks.)
I'm curious as to which bit you find horrid though. Is it the thought of group sex in general? Or group sex with anal? Or group sex between men?"
to feed your curiosity, its the thought of group anal sex between men, its kind of like the horror stories you think of in jail, or the jail goings on you watch in Sons of Anarchy, scary stuff |
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It's almost like I'm an intelligent adult. (Also I'm TG - the pronoun is 'they' rather than 'she'. Thanks.)
I'm curious as to which bit you find horrid though. Is it the thought of group sex in general? Or group sex with anal? Or group sex between men?
to feed your curiosity, its the thought of group anal sex between men, its kind of like the horror stories you think of in jail, or the jail goings on you watch in Sons of Anarchy, scary stuff"
How can you even equate prison rape to mutually satisfactory consensual sex? |
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How can you even equate prison rape to mutually satisfactory consensual sex?"
IF and a big "IF"
if that is the case, why do you have such concerns of things getting out of hand,
which is what you say your concerns are, in your first post |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" (Also I'm TG - the pronoun is 'they' rather than 'she'. Thanks) "
Apologies. I should but didn't know better. As you refered to yourself as female earlier I was using the pronoun to suit that at that time.
I'm sorry. |
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How can you even equate prison rape to mutually satisfactory consensual sex?
IF and a big "IF"
if that is the case, why do you have such concerns of things getting out of hand,
which is what you say your concerns are, in your first post"
Things can (and do) get out of hand in female-centric gangbangs too. Rape, and gang rape, is not something that only happens to men. |
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How can you even equate prison rape to mutually satisfactory consensual sex?
IF and a big "IF"
if that is the case, why do you have such concerns of things getting out of hand,
which is what you say your concerns are, in your first post
Things can (and do) get out of hand in female-centric gangbangs too. Rape, and gang rape, is not something that only happens to men."
True, but im not really sure what you are?? or consider yourself to be ??
as from reading your profile you quote:
"Do not refer to me as a woman, a lady, or a girl"
so what do you refer yourself to be? and how do you wish to be referred as? |
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How can you even equate prison rape to mutually satisfactory consensual sex?
IF and a big "IF"
if that is the case, why do you have such concerns of things getting out of hand,
which is what you say your concerns are, in your first post
Things can (and do) get out of hand in female-centric gangbangs too. Rape, and gang rape, is not something that only happens to men.
True, but im not really sure what you are?? or consider yourself to be ??
as from reading your profile you quote:
"Do not refer to me as a woman, a lady, or a girl"
so what do you refer yourself to be? and how do you wish to be referred as?"
You can refer to me as 'they'. As I said above.
I am transgender, as I state on my profile. |
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How can you even equate prison rape to mutually satisfactory consensual sex?
IF and a big "IF"
if that is the case, why do you have such concerns of things getting out of hand,
which is what you say your concerns are, in your first post
Things can (and do) get out of hand in female-centric gangbangs too. Rape, and gang rape, is not something that only happens to men.
True, but im not really sure what you are?? or consider yourself to be ??
as from reading your profile you quote:
"Do not refer to me as a woman, a lady, or a girl"
so what do you refer yourself to be? and how do you wish to be referred as?
You can refer to me as 'they'. As I said above.
I am transgender, as I state on my profile."
I was wondering about how to address you. I noticed on here the site referred to a tv/ts as she,I wondered what if it's a he profile? |
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" (Also I'm TG - the pronoun is 'they' rather than 'she'. Thanks)
Apologies. I should but didn't know better. As you refered to yourself as female earlier I was using the pronoun to suit that at that time.
I'm sorry. "
That was me too |
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"Hope "They" post pics after the event and maybe a wee write up"
Why? Because you like reading about prison rape?
(Also the word *they* doesn't need inverted commas. Unless you're intending to be unkind and sarcastic.) |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Hope "They" post pics after the event and maybe a wee write up"
Is that what usually happens after a gb? Because I would have a job to take photos in a club. Also, I don't fancy verifying all the participants, neither would I want to display ALL of them on my profile. |
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From my experience everyone is too busy trying to get their cock into my hand, mouth or ass or a clear shot to cum over me, to be taking pictures
I don't ask names. It's just a blur of arousal. I may get a veri after and if I do I give one back.
I don't tend to ask if they're on fab either. I just play with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"proper made me laugh some of this thread
like watching enny hill "
Oh yeah, the Benny Hill episode where he chases that little bald fella and it ends with a prison rape scenario gang bang! |
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"proper made me laugh some of this thread
like watching benny hill
You actually laugh at Benny Hill? "
old school family fun lad
what's not to like
just like my ol mums fav sir terry may he rest in peace |
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"My experience of gang bangs, male and female, both in and out of clubs is that the participants are generally more compliant and respectful than perhaps is sometimes expected. If it's a case of them all being there when it starts, they'll soon pick up on what is and isn't expected, and whilst it's human nature to prepare for a worst case scenario, I suspect you'll manage it well and have a great time."
Agreed. The vast majority of guys are normal, well-adjusted human beings. In group situations, if one guy were to start to get a bit out of hand then the other guys sort it, especially if they are all strangers to each other.
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"My experience of gang bangs, male and female, both in and out of clubs is that the participants are generally more compliant and respectful than perhaps is sometimes expected. If it's a case of them all being there when it starts, they'll soon pick up on what is and isn't expected, and whilst it's human nature to prepare for a worst case scenario, I suspect you'll manage it well and have a great time.
Agreed. The vast majority of guys are normal, well-adjusted human beings. In group situations, if one guy were to start to get a bit out of hand then the other guys sort it, especially if they are all strangers to each other.
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Unlike the guys on fab |
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Hi Wasp Hunter,
You mentioned you would prefer a sauna scenario but can't attend yourself.
Lots of saunas do "anything goes" evenings.
We are off to to Remix in Swindon tonight which is a swingers night open to gay, straight, bi, t.s., t.g. Etc so you would be more than welcome.
There are privates rooms that you could use for a gang bang with people you had pre-arranged with.
If you get some bi-shows you would get some willing replacements on the night.
As for your completely understandable security concerns perhaps make sure you have at least one trusted and significant guy with you to have a firm word if need to be. |
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"Hi Wasp Hunter,
You mentioned you would prefer a sauna scenario but can't attend yourself.
Lots of saunas do "anything goes" evenings.
We are off to to Remix in Swindon tonight which is a swingers night open to gay, straight, bi, t.s., t.g. Etc so you would be more than welcome.
There are privates rooms that you could use for a gang bang with people you had pre-arranged with.
If you get some bi-shows you would get some willing replacements on the night.
As for your completely understandable security concerns perhaps make sure you have at least one trusted and significant guy with you to have a firm word if need to be. "
That's interesting, I didn't know there was a sauna in Swindon that allowed women to attend. |
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Yep, Touch Sauna on Henry Street.
They have an event open to all on the first and third Saturday of every month from 9pm to 3am.
The place is a cut above most saunas and although he event is fairly new the last few times we have been they have been very busy.
Well worth a visit, we are often happy to go with no expectations of anything happening and just enjoy the chat and the company. Not to far from you either. |
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Yep, Touch Sauna on Henry Street.
They have an event open to all on the first and third Saturday of every month from 9pm to 3am.
The place is a cut above most saunas and although he event is fairly new the last few times we have been they have been very busy.
Well worth a visit, we are often happy to go with no expectations of anything happening and just enjoy the chat and the company. Not to far from you either. "
Thanks, that's great! Saturday nights are the one night a week that the beau doesn't train, so it makes it easier to fit in!
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Hope "They" post pics after the event and maybe a wee write up"
Why? Since you have had nothing positive to say about the entire thing and say the idea makes you cringe.
Yes, you're entitled to an opinion but the thread is asking for advice. Your opinions are no help at all and are completely uncalled for.
I don't get why you'd want to involve yourself on a thread on a subject that makes you cringe and then say you want to see photos and an account of the event. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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Wasp Hunter, if you wanted someone else there to help you manage things, I'm sure you wouldn't have a problem finding someone if you asked.
I'd volunteer if I was closer, though as a woman, as you say, that may confuse things.
If you feel like you need someone to help though, I'm sure plenty of people would be happy to help. |
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"Why should male gang bangs be any different to female ones?
Because men who have sex with men can often come from a very different scene and quite a different attitude to sex than men who have sex with women. The gay scene *is* very different in many ways, and as someone without any experience in it I'm asking for advice.
This is very true.
I made the 'mistake' of jumping straight in by getting into the swing in a well known sauna.
At that point no one had been inside me yet, nor had I relaxed myself with any toys.
I was quickly surrounded and the first three I took were pretty rough with me. It can also get pretty frantic.
I had to stop before I got hurt and after a break I had a couple of one on one plays before trying again.
I think my biggest fear is the risk of pack mentality taking over and my being overpowered. I don't know how rational this fear is. It's quite exciting in a way but I'm not there to be repeatedly raped.
Yes, that's our biggest fear I suppose - and the big difference between a small female-bodied person supervising and a man.
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Get a couple of muscular trusted men to act as bouncers. They won't participate but will prevent any one forcing his way. |
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