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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are very ready to pop our swinging cherry but so far it's not happened ??
We tried a club but felt very uncomfortable so need to figure out what's next...
Do we try another club or busier night at the same one or do we find a sexy couple to lead us astray? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would suggest going to a club again, on a couples-only or couples and single women night, and don't go looking to play. Just treat it as a social event to meet new people, and whatever happens, happens.
Or if there's an organised social in your area, try that. |
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"We are very ready to pop our swinging cherry but so far it's not happened ??
We tried a club but felt very uncomfortable so need to figure out what's next...
Do we try another club or busier night at the same one or do we find a sexy couple to lead us astray?"
You need to figure out what it was that made you uncomfortable.
Was it something about the club itself or the clientele for example?
Clubs are all different and are not for everyone. You might prefer to meet a couple you get on with and take things more slowly.
You're welcome to message privately if you want.
Nita
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are very ready to pop our swinging cherry but so far it's not happened ??
We tried a club but felt very uncomfortable so need to figure out what's next...
Do we try another club or busier night at the same one or do we find a sexy couple to lead us astray?"
A busier night may well offer more choice , but it will still be difficult to find a more experienced couple you both find attractive . Not to mention the fact that you are going to be viewed by plenty of others , adding to the pressure .
Maybe find a couple you both like who have the experience with newbies , and break your duck with them . Either at their place or yours , and I'm sure once you've got over the first meet it'll all feel better for the future  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are very ready to pop our swinging cherry but so far it's not happened ??
We tried a club but felt very uncomfortable so need to figure out what's next...
Do we try another club or busier night at the same one or do we find a sexy couple to lead us astray?"
Clubs are all different, what makes a club good for some people is what outs others off attending. So try another one. Or maybe go on a night when there's an event advertised as it will almost certainly be busier |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thanks everyone I think it's worth trying again as we've paid a years membership we may as well lol
I think we would prefer less social and more fun so I wonder if the socials and clubs are the wrong direction maybe |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks everyone I think it's worth trying again as we've paid a years membership we may as well lol
I think we would prefer less social and more fun so I wonder if the socials and clubs are the wrong direction maybe "
Might be worth trying the same club but on a different night, most clubs have different theme nights running through the week. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks everyone I think it's worth trying again as we've paid a years membership we may as well lol
I think we would prefer less social and more fun so I wonder if the socials and clubs are the wrong direction maybe "
Yeah , gotta agree with you there .
When you are looking for fun , socials and clubs can often be the wrong place . Way too many attend clubs for the social side over the play  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Decision made we're looking for a couple to meet with who will lead us astray! Lol
Maybe try clubs and parties again later but first find someone to have some fun with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Decision made we're looking for a couple to meet with who will lead us astray! Lol
Maybe try clubs and parties again later but first find someone to have some fun with."
Or combine the two and arrange a meet at a club x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would suggest going to a club again, on a couples-only or couples and single women night, and don't go looking to play. Just treat it as a social event to meet new people, and whatever happens, happens.
Or if there's an organised social in your area, try that."
I agree. I went to a club alone. I was upfront about being there to socialise so as not to waste anyones time.
I met some great people and,made good contacts.I was made to feel welcome and,wasn't at all intimidated. |
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"Decision made we're looking for a couple to meet with who will lead us astray! Lol
Maybe try clubs and parties again later but first find someone to have some fun with.
Or combine the two and arrange a meet at a club x "
We are going to do the club visit this way !
But have also had some really good socials that have broke the ice , opened our eyes !and led to some fun
The right couple can make all the difference |
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"Decision made we're looking for a couple to meet with who will lead us astray! Lol
Maybe try clubs and parties again later but first find someone to have some fun with.
Or combine the two and arrange a meet at a club x
We are going to do the club visit this way !
But have also had some really good socials that have broke the ice , opened our eyes !and led to some fun
The right couple can make all the difference "
That is very very true.
The right people make all the difference. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Decision made we're looking for a couple to meet with who will lead us astray! Lol
Maybe try clubs and parties again later but first find someone to have some fun with.
Or combine the two and arrange a meet at a club x "
If you meet a couple at a club are you expected to stay with them? I worry that if we don't click we'll be stuck. We're not very good at letting people down ?? |
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"If you meet a couple at a club are you expected to stay with them? I worry that if we don't click we'll be stuck. We're not very good at letting people down ??"
You've more chance of "escaping" in a club than at a private meet. In a club, both couples can go their separate ways and still have fun. At a private meet, you're stuck with them until you can come up with an excuse to leave. If it were us, we'd meet in a club but make it clear we will only play if all 4 of us get on. Good luck! |
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"Decision made we're looking for a couple to meet with who will lead us astray! Lol
Maybe try clubs and parties again later but first find someone to have some fun with.
Or combine the two and arrange a meet at a club x
If you meet a couple at a club are you expected to stay with them? I worry that if we don't click we'll be stuck. We're not very good at letting people down ??"
'We're just going for a wonder. Maybe we'll see you later  ' |
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"Decision made we're looking for a couple to meet with who will lead us astray! Lol
Maybe try clubs and parties again later but first find someone to have some fun with.
Or combine the two and arrange a meet at a club x
If you meet a couple at a club are you expected to stay with them? I worry that if we don't click we'll be stuck. We're not very good at letting people down ??"
Know what you mean which is why we never arrange to meet and just go with the flow. We tend to go when it's busy so no shortage of play to be had as we aren't there to socialise.  |
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