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Hi everyone, we have been on fab a little while, we love the whole scene, we have messaged in a reg basis with some lovely people and we are often on cam, we are really desperate to take the next step but my nerves( Mrs cmy) are holding us back, anyway we have a free ngt tomorrow, which is a rare occasion we had thought we would have a ngt out in our town together and maybe keep an eye out to see if anyone on our friends or local updates were out too, but now we are thinking we would really like to go to townhouse but is this the best place to start, is it the best place for a social, I say social because I am thinking start with the idea of a social and if my nerves go and anything else happens well then bonus  , I just don't know what to do, mr cmy is happy to go with the flow, it really is my nerves, I find it all horny, we have an ace relationship with ace communication, we have been together a long time, we know what we like and we talk all the time about what we would like from swinging so I am sure we are ready anyway some advice would be so so apreciated as if left to my nerves we will still be trying when we're in our 80s  thanks in advance, Mrs cmy  |
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I like clubs because you can meet a lot of people without the pressure of having to stay with them all night that you might get on a private social.
The bar areas are really casual and you can have a chat with anyone, I find everyone is up for a chat and it's an easier conversation starter if you just say hi and that you're new - people will help you out. Also if you let the staff know it's your first time they'll make you feel welcome.
I was really nervous the first time but the club environment actually makes me more relaxed than a normal bar!
Hope you have a great time, and don't forget it's no pressure so just go with the intention of acclimatising to the club and playing together - if anything else happens it's a bonus 
MiscF x |
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"I like clubs because you can meet a lot of people without the pressure of having to stay with them all night that you might get on a private social.
The bar areas are really casual and you can have a chat with anyone, I find everyone is up for a chat and it's an easier conversation starter if you just say hi and that you're new - people will help you out. Also if you let the staff know it's your first time they'll make you feel welcome.
I was really nervous the first time but the club environment actually makes me more relaxed than a normal bar!
Hope you have a great time, and don't forget it's no pressure so just go with the intention of acclimatising to the club and playing together - if anything else happens it's a bonus
MiscF x "
. Thankyou so much for your advice, it's the walking in the door feeling, I have a black dress with some black ankle boots and the normal hold ups and sexy underwear would this be ok to wear, and I am not skinny or toned, if I do dare to go into areas to take my clothes off how am I gonna feel, omg so much to worry about and yet I am still horny at the thought, thanks again for the advice, Mrs cmyxxx |
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Sounds like a great outfit, people wear all different types of underwear so definitely go with what you feel comfortable with. Check the website for Townhouse if they dress down (just underwear) in the bar or if it's clothes - usually females can do as they please I find. And most places give you a towel for when you dress down.
You'll enjoy it once you're there and it's good your other half is aware of your nerves |
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"Sounds like a great outfit, people wear all different types of underwear so definitely go with what you feel comfortable with. Check the website for Townhouse if they dress down (just underwear) in the bar or if it's clothes - usually females can do as they please I find. And most places give you a towel for when you dress down.
You'll enjoy it once you're there and it's good your other half is aware of your nerves "
. Thankyou, I have checked the website it seems it's only dress down if you venture off to play so I should be ok in the bar area, it has brilliant reviews, I am not sure about walking in as in a bar or club it's so easy to mingle in with the crowd but not sure how easy it'll be to mingle in here, is it ever easy to mingle the first time
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"Sounds like a great outfit, people wear all different types of underwear so definitely go with what you feel comfortable with. Check the website for Townhouse if they dress down (just underwear) in the bar or if it's clothes - usually females can do as they please I find. And most places give you a towel for when you dress down.
You'll enjoy it once you're there and it's good your other half is aware of your nerves . Thankyou, I have checked the website it seems it's only dress down if you venture off to play so I should be ok in the bar area, it has brilliant reviews, I am not sure about walking in as in a bar or club it's so easy to mingle in with the crowd but not sure how easy it'll be to mingle in here, is it ever easy to mingle the first time
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Townhouse is a really friendly club. When you arrive they'll give you a tour and introduce you to some people to get you started socialising. If you stay downstairs there is no need to dress down at all. Upstairs is dress down after 11pm |
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We were both nervous the first time we went to a club. We have only been to dress down clubs and it actually feels normal walking round in underwear or towel as every one is dressed the same and on an even keel. We did not play with any one on our first visit , just got the feel of the place and talked to a few people. Had a great time and now love clubs.
Our next visit is to a dressed club and i am finding it hard to get my head around but looking forward to it to see how it differs from a dress down one.
Good luck and just relax and enjoy! No pressure to do any thing you don't want to and all shapes,sizes and ages at clubs with no one judging any one else. |
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"Sounds like a great outfit, people wear all different types of underwear so definitely go with what you feel comfortable with. Check the website for Townhouse if they dress down (just underwear) in the bar or if it's clothes - usually females can do as they please I find. And most places give you a towel for when you dress down.
You'll enjoy it once you're there and it's good
your other half is aware of your nerves . , I have checked the website it seems it's only dress down if you venture off to play so I should be ok in the bar area, it has brilliant reviews, I am not sure about walking in as in a bar or club it's so easy to mingle in with the crowd but not sure how easy it'll be to mingle in here, is it ever easy to mingle the first time
Townhouse is a really friendly club. When you arrive they'll give you a tour and introduce you to some people to get you started socialising. If you stay downstairs there is no need to dress down at all. Upstairs is dress down after 11pm"
. Ah thankyou, do you think tomorrow ngts Valentine night will be an ok ngt to go if we are only going to start with a social, thanks Mrs cmy |
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"We were both nervous the first time we went to a club. We have only been to dress down clubs and it actually feels normal walking round in underwear or towel as every one is dressed the same and on an even keel. We did not play with any one on our first visit , just got the feel of the place and talked to a few people. Had a great time and now love clubs.
Our next visit is to a dressed club and i am finding it hard to get my head around but looking forward to it to see how it differs from a dress down one.
Good luck and just relax and enjoy! No pressure to do any thing you don't want to and all shapes,sizes and ages at clubs with no one judging any one else."
. Thankyou so much, feeling so much less nervous, daft question but on your first time did you just introduce yourselves to people or wait for them to come and say hi and also what do you talk about |
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We're wanting to try new clubs soon and townhouse is on our list
Once you get through the door you'll be fine, I (mrs) was so nervous we sat in the car for ages before gathering up the courage to actually go inside.
If we meet a couple we usually meet them at clubs, mainly because there's no pressure and if they're a no show you can still have a good time
And the outfit sounds great, I'm sure you'll look gorgeous |
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"We're wanting to try new clubs soon and townhouse is on our list
Once you get through the door you'll be fine, I (mrs) was so nervous we sat in the car for ages before gathering up the courage to actually go inside.
If we meet a couple we usually meet them at clubs, mainly because there's no pressure and if they're a no show you can still have a good time
And the outfit sounds great, I'm sure you'll look gorgeous "
. Ah Thankyou so much, I am still nervous but I don't think that will change until we are in there, I suppose it's just the unknown and not wanting to make a fool of myself |
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"People will talk to you, just give someone a smile at the bar and say hi - that's all you need. Mostly I find people talk about swinging, if they've been there before etc x "
. Ok so smile say hi and talk about sex, I guess I can do that lol |
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"We were both nervous the first time we went to a club. We have only been to dress down clubs and it actually feels normal walking round in underwear or towel as every one is dressed the same and on an even keel. We did not play with any one on our first visit , just got the feel of the place and talked to a few people. Had a great time and now love clubs.
Our next visit is to a dressed club and i am finding it hard to get my head around but looking forward to it to see how it differs from a dress down one.
Good luck and just relax and enjoy! No pressure to do any thing you don't want to and all shapes,sizes and ages at clubs with no one judging any one else.. Thankyou so much, feeling so much less nervous, daft question but on your first time did you just introduce yourselves to people or wait for them to come and say hi and also what do you talk about "
We were like a couple of wall flowers to start with lol and did lots of people watching. Can't really remember who started talking first but was very relaxed and friendly. Mainly talk about swinging. We keep this private so good to talk to other people in the swinging scene openly! We went to try out and had said if not for us would not go again and now we love clubs. Like every one says no pressure and if you don't play you just take it as a good night out. Bonus of being a couple you can have fun together!! X |
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Thank you for asking all these questions they have been a big help to me as I'm feeling the same.
We are so excited about joining the swinging world but it's hard to take that step to make it real. We're also planning to go this weekend for our first time.
Good luck I hope you enjoy it x |
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"We were both nervous the first time we went to a club. We have only been to dress down clubs and it actually feels normal walking round in underwear or towel as every one is dressed the same and on an even keel. We did not play with any one on our first visit , just got the feel of the place and talked to a few people. Had a great time and now love clubs.
Our next visit is to a dressed club and i am finding it hard to get my head around but looking forward to it to see how it differs from a dress down one.
Good luck and just relax and enjoy! No pressure to do any thing you don't want to and all shapes,sizes and ages at clubs with no one judging any one else.. Thankyou so much, feeling so much less nervous, daft question but on your first time did you just introduce yourselves to people or wait for them to come and say hi and also what do you talk about
We were like a couple of wall flowers to start with lol and did lots of people watching. Can't really remember who started talking first but was very relaxed and friendly. Mainly talk about swinging. We keep this private so good to talk to other people in the swinging scene openly! We went to try out and had said if not for us would not go again and now we love clubs. Like every one says no pressure and if you don't play you just take it as a good night out. Bonus of being a couple you can have fun together!! X"
. Thankyou so much, everytime I read a new post it makes it that bit easier and the nerves settle, it's so strange to feel super excited and horny and yet super nervous, hopefully Sunday's thread will be yay we did it |
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"Thank you for asking all these questions they have been a big help to me as I'm feeling the same.
We are so excited about joining the swinging world but it's hard to take that step to make it real. We're also planning to go this weekend for our first time.
Good luck I hope you enjoy it x"
. It is so so hard to take those first steps, I had a msg from someone who said, just remember we are all here to get jiggy, which made me smile and think yeah no matter what we all definately have something in common that we love good luck and hopefully you will also be joining all us newbies on the yay we did it thread in Sunday |
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We had our first with a single guy in a pub for Mrs. Had a nice meal and she really got a feel for it and everything went really well. It could have been awkward and you're stuck in the bar then with someone you're not that keen on.
Id say club is the best start. No pressure to do anything and really relaxed atmosphere as everyone is there for the same reasons. No need to worry about people listening in. We have had a few meets in bars and guys sometimes talk loud enough for the whole bar to hear. These are the ones that you get funny looks lol |
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I haven't read the whole thread's contributions but I'd suggest townhouse would be ideal, as mentioned above. Plenty of people will be there, you can talk easily around how you're both feeling and nerves, and of course just mixing with plenty of people!
Good luck, go with what you both feel comfortable with and enjoy. I was at townhouse yesterday and whilst I'm fussy and don't play, the staff and people there are always so friendly! Great place to go |
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wish we were free to go with you 
clubs are no pressure but can still be re a bit daunting - but then so is meeting up anywhere for the first time and we love the nerves - youre a lovely couple and we will see you soon - |
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"wish we were free to go with you
clubs are no pressure but can still be re a bit daunting - but then so is meeting up anywhere for the first time and we love the nerves - youre a lovely couple and we will see you soon - "
. Ah Thankyou, we wish you were free to come too, I definately wouldn't run out of things to talk about lol |
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"Hi everyone, we have been on fab a little while, we love the whole scene, we have messaged in a reg basis with some lovely people and we are often on cam, we are really desperate to take the next step but my nerves( Mrs cmy) are holding us back, anyway we have a free ngt tomorrow, which is a rare occasion we had thought we would have a ngt out in our town together and maybe keep an eye out to see if anyone on our friends or local updates were out too, but now we are thinking we would really like to go to townhouse but is this the best place to start, is it the best place for a social, I say social because I am thinking start with the idea of a social and if my nerves go and anything else happens well then bonus , I just don't know what to do, mr cmy is happy to go with the flow, it really is my nerves, I find it all horny, we have an ace relationship with ace communication, we have been together a long time, we know what we like and we talk all the time about what we would like from swinging so I am sure we are ready anyway some advice would be so so apreciated as if left to my nerves we will still be trying when we're in our 80s thanks in advance, Mrs cmy "
Outside of clubs I find a weatherspoony type of pub to meet. A not too busy or noisy time so you can chat.
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"Hi everyone, we have been on fab a little while, we love the whole scene, we have messaged in a reg basis with some lovely people and we are often on cam, we are really desperate to take the next step but my nerves( Mrs cmy) are holding us back, anyway we have a free ngt tomorrow, which is a rare occasion we had thought we would have a ngt out in our town together and maybe keep an eye out to see if anyone on our friends or local updates were out too, but now we are thinking we would really like to go to townhouse but is this the best place to start, is it the best place for a social, I say social because I am thinking start with the idea of a social and if my nerves go and anything else happens well then bonus , I just don't know what to do, mr cmy is happy to go with the flow, it really is my nerves, I find it all horny, we have an ace relationship with ace communication, we have been together a long time, we know what we like and we talk all the time about what we would like from swinging so I am sure we are ready anyway some advice would be so so apreciated as if left to my nerves we will still be trying when we're in our 80s thanks in advance, Mrs cmy
Outside of clubs I find a weatherspoony type of pub to meet. A not too busy or noisy time so you can chat.
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plus think of it as "I'm not doing anything more than chat!" |
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Hi all you sexy lot that posted on Friday, although I did start a tread in the lounge to say Yayyy, I thought I would pop along here and say a huge Thankyou, because yep we did it, our first time in a club, and wow we had an amazing time, sat in the car park for a bit, nearly didn't go in but as soon as we got through the door everyone was brilliant, we said we would go with just having a social and that made it so much easier, we did strip and we did venture into all areas, it was soooo horny, we did use one of the private rooms, all of these things I didn't think I would be able to do because of nerves and now all I can think is I want to go back mr cmy loved it, he was always calm about everything anyway, he is a go with the flow kind of guy, anyway just wanted to say a huge Thankyou to all of you, because you got me there and not sure I would have done it without you, thanks again, Mrs cmy xxxxxx |
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"Hi all you sexy lot that posted on Friday, although I did start a tread in the lounge to say Yayyy, I thought I would pop along here and say a huge Thankyou, because yep we did it, our first time in a club, and wow we had an amazing time, sat in the car park for a bit, nearly didn't go in but as soon as we got through the door everyone was brilliant, we said we would go with just having a social and that made it so much easier, we did strip and we did venture into all areas, it was soooo horny, we did use one of the private rooms, all of these things I didn't think I would be able to do because of nerves and now all I can think is I want to go back mr cmy loved it, he was always calm about everything anyway, he is a go with the flow kind of guy, anyway just wanted to say a huge Thankyou to all of you, because you got me there and not sure I would have done it without you, thanks again, Mrs cmy xxxxxx"
Glad you enjoyed it.here's to many other visits |
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"Hi all you sexy lot that posted on Friday, although I did start a tread in the lounge to say Yayyy, I thought I would pop along here and say a huge Thankyou, because yep we did it, our first time in a club, and wow we had an amazing time, sat in the car park for a bit, nearly didn't go in but as soon as we got through the door everyone was brilliant, we said we would go with just having a social and that made it so much easier, we did strip and we did venture into all areas, it was soooo horny, we did use one of the private rooms, all of these things I didn't think I would be able to do because of nerves and now all I can think is I want to go back mr cmy loved it, he was always calm about everything anyway, he is a go with the flow kind of guy, anyway just wanted to say a huge Thankyou to all of you, because you got me there and not sure I would have done it without you, thanks again, Mrs cmy xxxxxx
Glad you enjoyed it.here's to many other visits "
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Hi yes townhouse is a great place to meet ppl. No pressure you can do as little or as much you want. Great bar and very friendly ppl there. You will feel totally relaxed at the townhouse. No need to be nervous there at all |
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