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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I'm not scared of hotel meets but I'm looking for a regular fb so that wouldn't really be possible mainly because of cost. But also they scream of one offs to me which do nothing for me most of the time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't see what the problem is with hotel meets..
Wish some one would invite me to one haha ..
Some one local that is!
Unless they scared that you have secret recording equipment in the room!! |
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Not that i am talking from experience as i can accomodate and dont do hotel meets.. but often heard men say they dont like hotel meets as they dont want the expense or desire to spend more time than necesssary with a person after sex... ofcourse not everyoje is like that |
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By *andy57 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
york |
"You could maybe ask them?
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I have had two guys this afternoon want to meet but told me they can not accomadate but not happy about meeting me in a hotel spooky the ones i have met have always turned out to be great meets |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
For me it would be commitment to play. If i havent met someone i never agree to play till i have.
Unless of course you are George Clooney in which case i dont mind sharing the cost of a room....
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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago
STOKE-ON-TRENT |
Depends if you trust who you are arranging to meet. If you have only messaged on here hiw do you know who is going to turn up or how many ? You might arrange to meet 1 person and they decide to bring friends who could be anybody. Maybe even dangerous? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it 'cheap' somehow and somewhat more sordid.
I can't explain these associations, I just feel far more at ease either in my home or at someone elses. It feels more private too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it 'cheap' somehow and somewhat more sordid.
I can't explain these associations, I just feel far more at ease either in my home or at someone elses. It feels more private too.
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"I have à meet posted for Thursday night this week loads of guys have said they would love a meet,but not happy meeting in a hotel.
Can anyone give me an answer why they are so scared."
We're not scared of them but they're not really our thing.
Much prefer to entertain at ours or go to someone home.
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
I don't meet in hotels and certainly not in homes. That is why God invented clubs so that one is surrounded by people
Most clubs have paper-thin doors and in any event, the rooms either have windows or one-way mirrors, just in case some weirdo starts getting a bit crazy |
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"Depends if you trust who you are arranging to meet. If you have only messaged on here hiw do you know who is going to turn up or how many ? You might arrange to meet 1 person and they decide to bring friends who could be anybody. Maybe even dangerous? "
I've seen women post they've arranged to meet a man, only to find a group of men, none the one they'd ben chatting to waiting for a gangbang: one they'd paid to attend.
People have paid for hotel rooms only to be left stood up having forked out for a room.
I don't like hotel meets: not for me. |
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How wierd;
I would prefer, first time at least, to
Meet at a hotel than go to someone's house....
Or would be happy to meet at mine, but then appreciate that women might feel uneasy going to an" unknown" person's house...
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I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe. |
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"I don't meet in hotels and certainly not in homes. That is why God invented clubs so that one is surrounded by people
Most clubs have paper-thin doors and in any event, the rooms either have windows or one-way mirrors, just in case some weirdo starts getting a bit crazy"
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"Depends if you trust who you are arranging to meet. If you have only messaged on here hiw do you know who is going to turn up or how many ? You might arrange to meet 1 person and they decide to bring friends who could be anybody. Maybe even dangerous?
I've seen women post they've arranged to meet a man, only to find a group of men, none the one they'd ben chatting to waiting for a gangbang: one they'd paid to attend.
People have paid for hotel rooms only to be left stood up having forked out for a room.
I don't like hotel meets: not for me."
I used to do hotel meets but then I read the same thread as you regarding the unplanned gang bang. Never again unless it's someone I know |
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"Depends if you trust who you are arranging to meet. If you have only messaged on here hiw do you know who is going to turn up or how many ? You might arrange to meet 1 person and they decide to bring friends who could be anybody. Maybe even dangerous?
I've seen women post they've arranged to meet a man, only to find a group of men, none the one they'd ben chatting to waiting for a gangbang: one they'd paid to attend.
People have paid for hotel rooms only to be left stood up having forked out for a room.
I don't like hotel meets: not for me."
and where they have been robbed of all their stuff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love hotel meets. Can make a right mess whilst having fun without worrying about having to do the washing later lol. Anyone in N West fancy hotel meet, I'll cover hotel. Pm me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love hotel meets. Can make a right mess whilst having fun without worrying about having to do the washing later lol. Anyone in N West fancy hotel meet, I'll cover hotel. Pm me"
I've stayed at wynnstay arms hotel a few times in Wrexham  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have à meet posted for Thursday night this week loads of guys have said they would love a meet,but not happy meeting in a hotel.
Can anyone give me an answer why they are so scared."
You'd have to ask their wives.. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
"I'm not scared of hotel meets but I'm looking for a regular fb so that wouldn't really be possible mainly because of cost. But also they scream of one offs to me which do nothing for me most of the time "
I stay in hotels in the same place regularly. So I'm looking for more than one off meets.
Also because I'm staying with work the cost isn't an issue.
I enjoy hotel meets the most. I've never had an issue with reception. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe. "
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
And unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
And unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things"
but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal      |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
And unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal "
It generally takes me a 4 or 5 dinner dates in the vanilla world before I would even contemplate going to his home and certainly not giving him my home address
Weirdos can hide their weirdness over several dates. I wouldn't meet someone for a 'social' and then next time meet him in his hotel room. A hotel is a public place; a hotel room, is private; there is no private space in a club
The fact that you may find clubs expensive does not now follow that I will even dream about compromising my safety. You will just have to make do with some woman who is willing to trust a man after meeting him just the one time for a 'social'
I have meet guys in clubs and not done anything with them but chat the first time around. It is rare that I will have sex with anyone in a club the first time. To you, that will a poor return on your 'investment' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
And unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal
It generally takes me a 4 or 5 dinner dates in the vanilla world before I would even contemplate going to his home and certainly not giving him my home address
Weirdos can hide their weirdness over several dates. I wouldn't meet someone for a 'social' and then next time meet him in his hotel room. A hotel is a public place; a hotel room, is private; there is no private space in a club
The fact that you may find clubs expensive does not now follow that I will even dream about compromising my safety. You will just have to make do with some woman who is willing to trust a man after meeting him just the one time for a 'social'
I have meet guys in clubs and not done anything with them but chat the first time around. It is rare that I will have sex with anyone in a club the first time. To you, that will a poor return on your 'investment' "
but that's the difference between us and how is meeting someone in a public place a risk I would never expect to have sex on the first date it has happened, I don't see how its fair to ask a guy to pay between £40&70 to get into a club and for you to decide you're not interested then you walk off and have sex with someone else ,I wouldn't be interested in staying after being snubbed so money wasted ,the hotel room is only used if theirs a connection and the hotel room doesn't need to be booked until that connection is established |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
And unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal
It generally takes me a 4 or 5 dinner dates in the vanilla world before I would even contemplate going to his home and certainly not giving him my home address
Weirdos can hide their weirdness over several dates. I wouldn't meet someone for a 'social' and then next time meet him in his hotel room. A hotel is a public place; a hotel room, is private; there is no private space in a club
The fact that you may find clubs expensive does not now follow that I will even dream about compromising my safety. You will just have to make do with some woman who is willing to trust a man after meeting him just the one time for a 'social'
I have meet guys in clubs and not done anything with them but chat the first time around. It is rare that I will have sex with anyone in a club the first time. To you, that will a poor return on your 'investment' but that's the difference between us and how is meeting someone in a public place a risk I would never expect to have sex on the first date it has happened, I don't see how its fair to ask a guy to pay between £40&70 to get into a club and for you to decide you're not interested then you walk off and have sex with someone else ,I wouldn't be interested in staying after being snubbed so money wasted ,the hotel room is only used if theirs a connection and the hotel room doesn't need to be booked until that connection is established "
But I am not asking anyone to pay anything. I am not demanding anyone meet me anywhere
I go to clubs and I will get to meet whoever else goes there too |
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"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
And unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal
It generally takes me a 4 or 5 dinner dates in the vanilla world before I would even contemplate going to his home and certainly not giving him my home address
Weirdos can hide their weirdness over several dates. I wouldn't meet someone for a 'social' and then next time meet him in his hotel room. A hotel is a public place; a hotel room, is private; there is no private space in a club
The fact that you may find clubs expensive does not now follow that I will even dream about compromising my safety. You will just have to make do with some woman who is willing to trust a man after meeting him just the one time for a 'social'
I have meet guys in clubs and not done anything with them but chat the first time around. It is rare that I will have sex with anyone in a club the first time. To you, that will a poor return on your 'investment' but that's the difference between us and how is meeting someone in a public place a risk I would never expect to have sex on the first date it has happened, I don't see how its fair to ask a guy to pay between £40&70 to get into a club and for you to decide you're not interested then you walk off and have sex with someone else ,I wouldn't be interested in staying after being snubbed so money wasted ,the hotel room is only used if theirs a connection and the hotel room doesn't need to be booked until that connection is established
But I am not asking anyone to pay anything. I am not demanding anyone meet me anywhere
I go to clubs and I will get to meet whoever else goes there too"
the threads about hotels !!! |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
And unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal
It generally takes me a 4 or 5 dinner dates in the vanilla world before I would even contemplate going to his home and certainly not giving him my home address
Weirdos can hide their weirdness over several dates. I wouldn't meet someone for a 'social' and then next time meet him in his hotel room. A hotel is a public place; a hotel room, is private; there is no private space in a club
The fact that you may find clubs expensive does not now follow that I will even dream about compromising my safety. You will just have to make do with some woman who is willing to trust a man after meeting him just the one time for a 'social'
I have meet guys in clubs and not done anything with them but chat the first time around. It is rare that I will have sex with anyone in a club the first time. To you, that will a poor return on your 'investment' but that's the difference between us and how is meeting someone in a public place a risk I would never expect to have sex on the first date it has happened, I don't see how its fair to ask a guy to pay between £40&70 to get into a club and for you to decide you're not interested then you walk off and have sex with someone else ,I wouldn't be interested in staying after being snubbed so money wasted ,the hotel room is only used if theirs a connection and the hotel room doesn't need to be booked until that connection is established
But I am not asking anyone to pay anything. I am not demanding anyone meet me anywhere
I go to clubs and I will get to meet whoever else goes there toothe threads about hotels !!! "
And I have explained why I don't meet in a hotel room
And you have explained why you meet in hotel rooms
I am not trying to convince you or anyone else to change their preferred venue |
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You would like to think those who really wanted a meet would accept a hotel, other than if it's a finance issue....like those who say they are looking for something regular....but if you don't meet someone how would you ascertain if they are suitable for regular fun. Part of the reason why it's difficult to meet on here is ever growing number of hurdles and potential obstacles to overcome! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hotel meets are the best type!
Why trash your own bed when you can trash theirs use the shower and walk... No washing no tidying up... Job done lol
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That's exactly my thinking! |
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"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
And unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal
It generally takes me a 4 or 5 dinner dates in the vanilla world before I would even contemplate going to his home and certainly not giving him my home address
Weirdos can hide their weirdness over several dates. I wouldn't meet someone for a 'social' and then next time meet him in his hotel room. A hotel is a public place; a hotel room, is private; there is no private space in a club
The fact that you may find clubs expensive does not now follow that I will even dream about compromising my safety. You will just have to make do with some woman who is willing to trust a man after meeting him just the one time for a 'social'
I have meet guys in clubs and not done anything with them but chat the first time around. It is rare that I will have sex with anyone in a club the first time. To you, that will a poor return on your 'investment' but that's the difference between us and how is meeting someone in a public place a risk I would never expect to have sex on the first date it has happened, I don't see how its fair to ask a guy to pay between £40&70 to get into a club and for you to decide you're not interested then you walk off and have sex with someone else ,I wouldn't be interested in staying after being snubbed so money wasted ,the hotel room is only used if theirs a connection and the hotel room doesn't need to be booked until that connection is established
But I am not asking anyone to pay anything. I am not demanding anyone meet me anywhere
I go to clubs and I will get to meet whoever else goes there too"
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We only ever do club or hotel meets as we can't accommodate and would feel very uncomfortable in someone else's home.
Still get people hugely offended if we ask them if they're OK to share the cost of a room though. |
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To be fair, we choose hotels based on the reception layout so there is no need for any unnecessary interaction. Most larger hotels have a bar so they expect random people to wander straight through reception without speaking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
And unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal
It generally takes me a 4 or 5 dinner dates in the vanilla world before I would even contemplate going to his home and certainly not giving him my home address
Weirdos can hide their weirdness over several dates. I wouldn't meet someone for a 'social' and then next time meet him in his hotel room. A hotel is a public place; a hotel room, is private; there is no private space in a club
The fact that you may find clubs expensive does not now follow that I will even dream about compromising my safety. You will just have to make do with some woman who is willing to trust a man after meeting him just the one time for a 'social'
I have meet guys in clubs and not done anything with them but chat the first time around. It is rare that I will have sex with anyone in a club the first time. To you, that will a poor return on your 'investment' but that's the difference between us and how is meeting someone in a public place a risk I would never expect to have sex on the first date it has happened, I don't see how its fair to ask a guy to pay between £40&70 to get into a club and for you to decide you're not interested then you walk off and have sex with someone else ,I wouldn't be interested in staying after being snubbed so money wasted ,the hotel room is only used if theirs a connection and the hotel room doesn't need to be booked until that connection is established
But I am not asking anyone to pay anything. I am not demanding anyone meet me anywhere
I go to clubs and I will get to meet whoever else goes there too
Agreed!"
hehe hey hotels are ok to meet in once you've established that's what you want but meet for coffee or lunch darn sight cheaper than making the guy pay a fortune and then discarding him for someone else in the name of a fuck ,you can go to a club after if that's your need    |
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"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
And unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal
It generally takes me a 4 or 5 dinner dates in the vanilla world before I would even contemplate going to his home and certainly not giving him my home address
Weirdos can hide their weirdness over several dates. I wouldn't meet someone for a 'social' and then next time meet him in his hotel room. A hotel is a public place; a hotel room, is private; there is no private space in a club
The fact that you may find clubs expensive does not now follow that I will even dream about compromising my safety. You will just have to make do with some woman who is willing to trust a man after meeting him just the one time for a 'social'
I have meet guys in clubs and not done anything with them but chat the first time around. It is rare that I will have sex with anyone in a club the first time. To you, that will a poor return on your 'investment' but that's the difference between us and how is meeting someone in a public place a risk I would never expect to have sex on the first date it has happened, I don't see how its fair to ask a guy to pay between £40&70 to get into a club and for you to decide you're not interested then you walk off and have sex with someone else ,I wouldn't be interested in staying after being snubbed so money wasted ,the hotel room is only used if theirs a connection and the hotel room doesn't need to be booked until that connection is established
But I am not asking anyone to pay anything. I am not demanding anyone meet me anywhere
I go to clubs and I will get to meet whoever else goes there too
Agreed! hehe hey hotels are ok to meet in once you've established that's what you want but meet for coffee or lunch darn sight cheaper than making the guy pay a fortune and then discarding him for someone else in the name of a fuck ,you can go to a club after if that's your need "
But I don't want to meet some tosspot or creep for coffee or lunch in the middle of the day. He may be unemployed but I barely get time for a sandwich when I am at work. And I am not going to meet him 4 or 5 times for coffees and lunches before I learn to trust him enough to end up in a room alone with him
To you it is all about cost and keeping her there with you all evening. To me it is all about my personal safety and not ending up with some possessive and dangerous stalker |
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I like hotels. I pretty much only meet at hotels, as the men who I've got to know and trust enough to go to their house don't accommodate anyway. And I don't do clubs, if I want to meet someone for sex I want to meet them for sex, not sex with a load of other hangers-on I didn't want to be there. |
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"I like hotels. I pretty much only meet at hotels, as the men who I've got to know and trust enough to go to their house don't accommodate anyway. And I don't do clubs, if I want to meet someone for sex I want to meet them for sex, not sex with a load of other hangers-on I didn't want to be there. "
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"I like hotels. I pretty much only meet at hotels, as the men who I've got to know and trust enough to go to their house don't accommodate anyway. And I don't do clubs, if I want to meet someone for sex I want to meet them for sex, not sex with a load of other hangers-on I didn't want to be there.
What's wrong with having sex while being watched and touched by a pile of wanking zombies? "
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"I have à meet posted for Thursday night this week loads of guys have said they would love a meet,but not happy meeting in a hotel.
Can anyone give me an answer why they are so scared."
I dont think anyone is scared, i think its case of some like hotels some dont |
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"I like hotels. I pretty much only meet at hotels, as the men who I've got to know and trust enough to go to their house don't accommodate anyway. And I don't do clubs, if I want to meet someone for sex I want to meet them for sex, not sex with a load of other hangers-on I didn't want to be there.
What's wrong with having sex while being watched and touched by a pile of wanking zombies? "
That's never happened in my times at a club. One on one meets are good too but every time I've been to a club I've had lots of fun and never experienced that. I don't think it happens as much as people think it's just no one posts threads about the great times they've had only ones where they are upset |
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"I like hotels. I pretty much only meet at hotels, as the men who I've got to know and trust enough to go to their house don't accommodate anyway. And I don't do clubs, if I want to meet someone for sex I want to meet them for sex, not sex with a load of other hangers-on I didn't want to be there.
What's wrong with having sex while being watched and touched by a pile of wanking zombies?
That's never happened in my times at a club. One on one meets are good too but every time I've been to a club I've had lots of fun and never experienced that. I don't think it happens as much as people think it's just no one posts threads about the great times they've had only ones where they are upset "
I wasn't even really thinking so much of wanking zombies - just other people I don't know being there full stop, I would go to a club for socialising but I absolutely know I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex in that environment. |
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I don't think they are scared or meeting at hotels. I think it's more about the payment.
2 reasons.... They won't want the payment on there bank statement then there secret partner can't see it.
And... They just don't want to have to pay out.
Why do I come to this conclusion? I can't meet at home.. So when I'm looking I look for hotel or club. I never get any interest.
Just for the record I have never expected the other party to pay either. I'm happy to pay my way. |
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"I have à meet posted for Thursday night this week loads of guys have said they would love a meet,but not happy meeting in a hotel.
Can anyone give me an answer why they are so scared."
We dont like the, feels soulless, cold, unerotic. No build up of sexual tension. |
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"We made the mistake of a hotel meet once . They guy did not turn up , so now we stick to clubs or party's , and will only have hotel meet if on holiday or hotel booked for other occasions "
Same for me also. The lady no showed so won't be making that mistake again. Not really sure how people can do that to someone knowing they've paid money for it but that's life I guess so I can see how it would put people off. |
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"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
And unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal
It generally takes me a 4 or 5 dinner dates in the vanilla world before I would even contemplate going to his home and certainly not giving him my home address
Weirdos can hide their weirdness over several dates. I wouldn't meet someone for a 'social' and then next time meet him in his hotel room. A hotel is a public place; a hotel room, is private; there is no private space in a club
The fact that you may find clubs expensive does not now follow that I will even dream about compromising my safety. You will just have to make do with some woman who is willing to trust a man after meeting him just the one time for a 'social'
I have meet guys in clubs and not done anything with them but chat the first time around. It is rare that I will have sex with anyone in a club the first time. To you, that will a poor return on your 'investment' but that's the difference between us and how is meeting someone in a public place a risk I would never expect to have sex on the first date it has happened, I don't see how its fair to ask a guy to pay between £40&70 to get into a club and for you to decide you're not interested then you walk off and have sex with someone else ,I wouldn't be interested in staying after being snubbed so money wasted ,the hotel room is only used if theirs a connection and the hotel room doesn't need to be booked until that connection is established
But I am not asking anyone to pay anything. I am not demanding anyone meet me anywhere
I go to clubs and I will get to meet whoever else goes there too
Agreed! hehe hey hotels are ok to meet in once you've established that's what you want but meet for coffee or lunch darn sight cheaper than making the guy pay a fortune and then discarding him for someone else in the name of a fuck ,you can go to a club after if that's your need
But I don't want to meet some tosspot or creep for coffee or lunch in the middle of the day. He may be unemployed but I barely get time for a sandwich when I am at work. And I am not going to meet him 4 or 5 times for coffees and lunches before I learn to trust him enough to end up in a room alone with him
To you it is all about cost and keeping her there with you all evening. To me it is all about my personal safety and not ending up with some possessive and dangerous stalker"
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"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.i
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
iAnd unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal
It generally takes me a 4 or 5 dinner dates in the vanilla world before I would even contemplate going to his home and certainly not giving him my home address
Weirdos can hide their weirdness over several dates. I wouldn't meet someone for a 'social' and then next time meet him in his hotel room. A hotel is a public place; a hotel room, is private; there is no private space in a club
The fact that you may find clubs expensive does not now follow that I will even dream about compromising my safety. You will just have to make do with some woman who is willing to trust a man after meeting him just the one time for a 'social'
I have meet guys in clubs and not done anything with them but chat the first time around. It is rare that I will have sex with anyone in a club the first time. To you, that will a poor return on your 'investment' but that's the difference between us and how is meeting someone in a public place a risk I would never expect to have sex on the first date it has happened, I don't see how its fair to ask a guy to pay between £40&70 to get into a club and for you to decide you're not interested then you walk off and have sex with someone else ,I wouldn't be interested in staying after being snubbed so money wasted ,the hotel room is only used if theirs a connection and the hotel room doesn't need to be booked until that connection is established
But I am not asking anyone to pay anything. I am not demanding anyone meet me anywhere
I go to clubs and I will get to meet whoever else goes there too
Agreed! hehe hey hotels are ok to meet in once you've established that's what you want but meet for coffee or lunch darn sight cheaper than making the guy pay a fortune and then discarding him for someone else in the name of a fuck ,you can go to a club after if that's your need
But I don't want to meet some tosspot or creep for coffee or lunch in the middle of the day. He may be unemployed but I barely get time for a sandwich when I am at work. And I am not going to meet him 4 or 5 times for coffees and lunches before I learn to trust him enough to end up in a room alone with him
To you it is all about cost and keeping her there with you all evening. To me it is all about my personal safety and not ending up with some possessive and dangerous stalker hey is everyone you meet a stalker then ?"
and you've got to meet him 4 or 5 times before you trust him so he's got to pay in the region of £300 before he gets you hehe hey a little excessive in fab terms  |
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"I like hotels. I pretty much only meet at hotels, as the men who I've got to know and trust enough to go to their house don't accommodate anyway. And I don't do clubs, if I want to meet someone for sex I want to meet them for sex, not sex with a load of other hangers-on I didn't want to be there.
What's wrong with having sex while being watched and touched by a pile of wanking zombies? "
"wanking zombies"
I've never been to a club - but I do get that impression from a lot of posts on here!
As for the OP's question - There are a million different scenarios!
Who knows what people think about things - it's always better to ask the person .....
My scenario would be that there are a lot of people on here that don't want to make this lifestyle public.
And meeting a TV / TS in a hotel would be uncomfortable for them.
I used to work in a hotel and trust me - the staff have seen it all - no one cares!
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"I am a single woman who does not like hotel meets or in someone's home. Neither are safe to me when it's a stranger. Once that door is locked.... anything can go wrong.
I either have to know him already or its a purely social meet.i
I prefer meeting at clubs or parties as no pressure and i feel safe.
And in addition to safety in a club, if I don't like him, I can go looking for someone else. Or if he doesn't turn up then I can meet someone else
iAnd unlike at home, I don't have to clean and tidy before and after. Plus clubs are cheap; some are free
No need to walk into a hotel room with a complete stranger and put, at worse, ones life at risk
Murders and gang-rapes have happened in hotel rooms. I've never heard of a single instance of something like that in a club where the staff and others can keep an eye on things but all of your points are made from the meet first time for sex perspective, most people meet for a social first so already know the person and a hotel is a public place don't forget ,clubs for guys are very expensive and I really don't like being asked to meet in a club with the idea being if I don't like you I can go off with someone else ,I chatted to a woman on here who said she didn't want to do the NSA sex thing she wanted a date and her profile referred to her wanting to be taken out for a meal so we were chatting for a bit a week or so and I said shall we meet she said yes but in a club sorry I don't get that at all ,its not about safety at all that is about sex ,you can't get safer than going out for a meal
It generally takes me a 4 or 5 dinner dates in the vanilla world before I would even contemplate going to his home and certainly not giving him my home address
Weirdos can hide their weirdness over several dates. I wouldn't meet someone for a 'social' and then next time meet him in his hotel room. A hotel is a public place; a hotel room, is private; there is no private space in a club
The fact that you may find clubs expensive does not now follow that I will even dream about compromising my safety. You will just have to make do with some woman who is willing to trust a man after meeting him just the one time for a 'social'
I have meet guys in clubs and not done anything with them but chat the first time around. It is rare that I will have sex with anyone in a club the first time. To you, that will a poor return on your 'investment' but that's the difference between us and how is meeting someone in a public place a risk I would never expect to have sex on the first date it has happened, I don't see how its fair to ask a guy to pay between £40&70 to get into a club and for you to decide you're not interested then you walk off and have sex with someone else ,I wouldn't be interested in staying after being snubbed so money wasted ,the hotel room is only used if theirs a connection and the hotel room doesn't need to be booked until that connection is established
But I am not asking anyone to pay anything. I am not demanding anyone meet me anywhere
I go to clubs and I will get to meet whoever else goes there too
Agreed! hehe hey hotels are ok to meet in once you've established that's what you want but meet for coffee or lunch darn sight cheaper than making the guy pay a fortune and then discarding him for someone else in the name of a fuck ,you can go to a club after if that's your need
But I don't want to meet some tosspot or creep for coffee or lunch in the middle of the day. He may be unemployed but I barely get time for a sandwich when I am at work. And I am not going to meet him 4 or 5 times for coffees and lunches before I learn to trust him enough to end up in a room alone with him
To you it is all about cost and keeping her there with you all evening. To me it is all about my personal safety and not ending up with some possessive and dangerous stalker hey is everyone you meet a stalker then ?and you've got to meet him 4 or 5 times before you trust him so he's got to pay in the region of £300 before he gets you hehe hey a little excessive in fab terms "
You are so hung up about money. Why do you keep suggesting that somebody has to pay to meet me? Nobody has to do anything just as I won't do anything which could potentially compromise my personal safety
Let us just agree to disagree. You are looking for the type of women who will walk into your hotel room with you after a coffee. And I am certain you meet loads of women who do just that. So, what is the issue then? |
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