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"I know that. But its not like I am ugly " Arrogance however is an ugly trait | |||
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"Yes I know I have a few veris and the last one was 2 months ago and most of them are socials that I been too. But when I send a message nobody seems to reply. " That's not what your first statement said....so if you're getting meets and veris, then people ARE responding to your messages.....or if your meets and veris are from socials then that saves time and effort messaging. All win  | |||
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"Then it's down to either your messages or the recipients have decided you are not for them, no reply means no thanks op. You've done a lot better than some men, be thankful "This pretty much sums it up - it's not about the recipient at all, it's about who you approach and what you say. | |||
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"But its very true thou it is a waste of time and effort. We are on here for fun that's what the site is about " If it's a waste of time, don't send any! Or have one you can cut n paste and that will save effort. Let your time on fab be fun not a chore.   | |||
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"Yes I know I have a few veris and the last one was 2 months ago and most of them are socials that I been too. But when I send a message nobody seems to reply. " Do you put any effort on to your nmessages? | |||
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"But its very true thou it is a waste of time and effort. We are on here for fun that's what the site is about " Women are having fun on this site. Just apparently not with you. | |||
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"Most of the messages I send just get deleted. " So what is that telling you about the messages you send out...??? | |||
"Just don't get it. This site is for fun. " Exactly. So do you think it's possible that the women you're messaging also just want fun but see your message/ profile, and don't think you're the kind of fun they're after? Incredulity at an absence of response on a site that, as you said yourself, is for fun and sex and not a relationship, is kind of hypocritical.... You say you don't want loads of messages, but won't accept women not messaging you. If your messages are being deleted is it such an inconceivable notion that... well.... you're just not their type, buddy...? *shoulder punch* | |||
"Most of the messages I send just get deleted. " Maybe take some different public pics, the suited ones look fine but have a few more relaxed ones too. And try to smile more, its nervewracking yes,ive been there myself, still am nervous sometimes. You have had meets though so not really sure of the problem. Good luck | |||
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"Just cause I want to have fun and not wait for months and months of pointless messages. At end of day its sex not a relationship " Thank The Lord for a block button, not if you were the last man on Earth - no offence intended ! | |||
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"The green arrow reveals a remarkably similar thread to this one from the OP six months ago. Same sort of questions, same advice given, none of which is acknowledged, most of it batted away with some pithy negative comment. Is it really advice you seek? (I asked that same question six months ago) " Learned what the green button is for today! lol. Yeah.... OP definitely thinks that the amount of effort he is putting in means he "deserves" loads of women messaging him back and organising some kind of relay race in an effort to be the one lucky enough to sleep with him. Anything less, and he must be doing something "wrong". Bless him. | |||
"Most of the messages I send just get deleted. " Maybe you need to consider what your message initially says. We delete a lot of emails without opening as the "Preview" of the unopened emails just "suck my cock" or "Wanna fuck". These never, ever get e response from us. | |||
"Just don't get it. This site is for fun. Exactly. So do you think it's possible that the women you're messaging also just want fun but see your message/ profile, and don't think you're the kind of fun they're after? Incredulity at an absence of response on a site that, as you said yourself, is for fun and sex and not a relationship, is kind of hypocritical.... You say you don't want loads of messages, but won't accept women not messaging you. If your messages are being deleted is it such an inconceivable notion that... well.... you're just not their type, buddy...? *shoulder punch*" | |||
"The green arrow reveals a remarkably similar thread to this one from the OP six months ago. Same sort of questions, same advice given, none of which is acknowledged, most of it batted away with some pithy negative comment. Is it really advice you seek? (I asked that same question six months ago) " Does anyone remember a similar thread? Where the OP was quoting Einstein saying the definition of madness is to do the same thing over and again and expect a different result? Lol And the more advice he got the more he tried to defend and justify his actions lol What a k--b It puts the lotion on its skin Then it puts the lotion in the basket | |||
"Just don't get it. This site is for fun. Exactly. So do you think it's possible that the women you're messaging also just want fun but see your message/ profile, and don't think you're the kind of fun they're after? Incredulity at an absence of response on a site that, as you said yourself, is for fun and sex and not a relationship, is kind of hypocritical.... You say you don't want loads of messages, but won't accept women not messaging you. If your messages are being deleted is it such an inconceivable notion that... well.... you're just not their type, buddy...? *shoulder punch*"  | |||
"The green arrow reveals a remarkably similar thread to this one from the OP six months ago. Same sort of questions, same advice given, none of which is acknowledged, most of it batted away with some pithy negative comment. Is it really advice you seek? (I asked that same question six months ago) Does anyone remember a similar thread? Where the OP was quoting Einstein saying the definition of madness is to do the same thing over and again and expect a different result? Lol And the more advice he got the more he tried to defend and justify his actions lol "Actually it's not that uncommon in threads like this for the OP to take advice purely as criticism and get all defensive. Some just won't be helped. | |||
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"Most of the messages I send just get deleted. " Perhaps because you think this site is for fun, and apparently you think it should be instant fun without taking any time for anyone to get to know you, your messages are too direct or graphic and put people off. I prefer men who approach me as if they want to get to know me and find out if we'd be comfortable together. Those that dive in with the 'you are on a sex site, I want sex with you, when can we meet?' attitude get their messages deleted without a reply. If you want instant, with no social niceties, try dogging. Failing that, you're looking for prostitutes, not swingers (or swingles). | |||
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"Most of the messages I send just get deleted. Perhaps because you think this site is for fun, and apparently you think it should be instant fun without taking any time for anyone to get to know you, your messages are too direct or graphic and put people off. I prefer men who approach me as if they want to get to know me and find out if we'd be comfortable together. Those that dive in with the 'you are on a sex site, I want sex with you, when can we meet?' attitude get their messages deleted without a reply. If you want instant, with no social niceties, try dogging. Failing that, you're looking for prostitutes, not swingers (or swingles)." Totally agree with you. If you look at the other threads from OP he has looked for dogging. | |||
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"Just cause I want to have fun and not wait for months and months of pointless messages. At end of day its sex not a relationship " At this point of the comments I was going to advise you to bale out of your own thread while you could....... The number of meets you've had during your time on here is much higher than many of the other single males here. You say "they were only socials" like that's a bad thing. Some men here would kill for that many socials. | |||
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"First thing is I want to have fun sexually cause that's what this is all about. If I want dating I will go to pof and if I want friends there is facebook. And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. I have always replied even to when I have had messages from gay people and tv/ts people cause I was brought up with manners. Maybe you woman don't see it from my side cause you can click your fingers and get a guy. But most guys on here will agree with me. Reason I have veris from socials is cause I got went to one and talked to a few people but nearly everyone there was over 45 or black. I preferences To just like everyone on this site. " It's nothing to do with manners. "No reply" IS a reply. It means "I'm not interested, thank you." You might have to change your expectations for this site, or find another site that caters more to your wishes. Perhaps one where the women are paid to reply or something. | |||
"But most guys on here will agree with me." You sure about that, bud? Cos, according to forum behaviour, and my limited experience here, "most guys" have no issue with taking a no reply as meaning "not interested". | |||
"First thing is I want to have fun sexually cause that's what this is all about. If I want dating I will go to pof and if I want friends there is facebook. And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. I have always replied even to when I have had messages from gay people and tv/ts people cause I was brought up with manners. Maybe you woman don't see it from my side cause you can click your fingers and get a guy. But most guys on here will agree with me. Reason I have veris from socials is cause I got went to one and talked to a few people but nearly everyone there was over 45 or black. I preferences To just like everyone on this site. " You're asking for advice and then not taking it, exactly as you did last time. You say you must be doing something wrong but actually think you are not doing anything wrong. If you carry on doing the same, you'll get the same results. You can accept the same results, or you can take the advice you've now been given twice. Your call. Oh, and taking a bit of time to feel comfortable with someone here and establish a rapport is not the same as dating. The more you say, the more I understand your difficulty. | |||
"And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply." So you think that all women should reply to you if they're not interested? Do you think that they should reply to every message, or just yours? Maybe you don't see it from those women's side cause you don't stop to think just how many messages they get in a day. Women are bombarded with scores of messages a day (I get a low amount for a woman, and I average 5 an hour, all day. If I leave it over a work day, I get 30-50 messages when I'm back). And you feel you get to dictate how these women deal with these messages? How entitled are you?! | |||
" First thing is I want to have fun sexually cause that's what this is all about. If I want dating I will go to pof and if I want friends there is facebook." And here, as it's a "sex site", you expect to be able pick from a menu of women and jump straight into bed with one, with no effort at all on your part. You talk about "what it's all about" a lot but you've not quite understood what this site is actually about. | |||
"And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. So you think that all women should reply to you if they're not interested? Do you think that they should reply to every message, or just yours? Maybe you don't see it from those women's side cause you don't stop to think just how many messages they get in a day. Women are bombarded with scores of messages a day (I get a low amount for a woman, and I average 5 an hour, all day. If I leave it over a work day, I get 30-50 messages when I'm back). And you feel you get to dictate how these women deal with these messages? How entitled are you?!" Plus by replying it means you've just allowed that person, that you're not interested in, through your mail filters for evermore, unless you specifically block them. Then they moan about being blocked. | |||
"And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. So you think that all women should reply to you if they're not interested? Do you think that they should reply to every message, or just yours? Maybe you don't see it from those women's side cause you don't stop to think just how many messages they get in a day. Women are bombarded with scores of messages a day (I get a low amount for a woman, and I average 5 an hour, all day. If I leave it over a work day, I get 30-50 messages when I'm back). And you feel you get to dictate how these women deal with these messages? How entitled are you?! Plus by replying it means you've just allowed that person, that you're not interested in, through your mail filters for evermore, unless you specifically block them. Then they moan about being blocked." lol! | |||
"First thing is I want to have fun sexually cause that's what this is all about. If I want dating I will go to pof and if I want friends there is facebook. And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. I have always replied even to when I have had messages from gay people and tv/ts people cause I was brought up with manners. Maybe you woman don't see it from my side cause you can click your fingers and get a guy. But most guys on here will agree with me. Reason I have veris from socials is cause I got went to one and talked to a few people but nearly everyone there was over 45 or black. I preferences To just like everyone on this site. You're asking for advice and then not taking it, exactly as you did last time. You say you must be doing something wrong but actually think you are not doing anything wrong. If you carry on doing the same, you'll get the same results. You can accept the same results, or you can take the advice you've now been given twice. Your call. Oh, and taking a bit of time to feel comfortable with someone here and establish a rapport is not the same as dating. The more you say, the more I understand your difficulty."
You've had similar advice over and over OP, from women and from men who do ok on the site...but you seem to choose either to ignore or refute it.
Carry on then just as you are. | |||
" You've had similar advice over and over OP, from women and from men who do ok on the site...but you seem to choose either to ignore or refute it. Carry on then just as you are." I think he's trying to convince us that we are wrong, after all, it's a "sex site" so if he's not getting sex, we're all doing something wrong! | |||
"First thing is I want to have fun sexually cause that's what this is all about. If I want dating I will go to pof and if I want friends there is facebook. And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. I have always replied even to when I have had messages from gay people and tv/ts people cause I was brought up with manners. Maybe you woman don't see it from my side cause you can click your fingers and get a guy. But most guys on here will agree with me. Reason I have veris from socials is cause I got went to one and talked to a few people but nearly everyone there was over 45 or black. I preferences To just like everyone on this site. " I did say that I "was" going to advise you to bale out of your own thread. Now its a definite bale out!!!! Read through the posts from beginning to end. Take a second to understand the advice you've been given. Twice apparently. Quit while you're behind op.  | |||
"I know that. But its not like I am ugly " So? If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it | |||
"First thing is I want to have fun sexually cause that's what this is all about. If I want dating I will go to pof and if I want friends there is facebook. And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. I have always replied even to when I have had messages from gay people and tv/ts people cause I was brought up with manners. Maybe you woman don't see it from my side cause you can click your fingers and get a guy. But most guys on here will agree with me. Reason I have veris from socials is cause I got went to one and talked to a few people but nearly everyone there was over 45 or black. I preferences To just like everyone on this site. " Mate, it's really not rocket science. I have a good friend on here who gets over 30 messages a day. She works and has family. Perhaps five messages a day are of interest in some way. If you were her, would you copy and paste 25 "no thank you" messages and press send. Every day? Nah, didn't think so. There are masses of blokes on here, many who seem to think that sex should be on tap. It's not like that - there's ripped 25 years olds with huge cocks utterly bewildered why no-one is interested and portly, bald 55 year olds who are (to quote from a well-known music do I) "getting more pussy than Frank Sinatra". Go figure. I'm afraid your perceptions off this site are way off. Take a step back and relax. Sure you'll be fine in time. | |||
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"What is it. I mean come on we are on here to have fun not play mind games and months of messages for nothing cause that's just a waste of time and effort. " People are on here for fun with people they fancy. You on other hand, opinion based on your comments here are just out to fuck anything that breathes | |||
"What is it. I mean come on we are on here to have fun not play mind games and months of messages for nothing cause that's just a waste of time and effort. " This is precisely why would not meet you. It's up to others to say whether they find you attractive physically and mentally likewise. Some people like interaction before engaging in any sort of play. If it is robotic bam wham,thank you ma'm,there another website decorated in purple that caters for that very nicely! If you want more meet,change your attitude as you frankly come across as arrogant!! | |||
"Just don't get it. This site is for fun. " Actually it is set up as a swingers site...it is about a lifestyle. Perhaps you are getting into the "instashag" mindset that far too many guys have on here? | |||
" You've had similar advice over and over OP, from women and from men who do ok on the site...but you seem to choose either to ignore or refute it. Carry on then just as you are. I think he's trying to convince us that we are wrong, after all, it's a "sex site" so if he's not getting sex, we're all doing something wrong!" Exactly | |||
" You've had similar advice over and over OP, from women and from men who do ok on the site...but you seem to choose either to ignore or refute it. Carry on then just as you are. I think he's trying to convince us that we are wrong, after all, it's a "sex site" so if he's not getting sex, we're all doing something wrong!" I would disagree that this is a sex site. It's a swingers site where people openly talk about sex and it's many varied issues. If people so happen to meet to live/act out said discussions then that's lifeb | |||
"First thing is I want to have fun sexually cause that's what this is all about. If I want dating I will go to pof and if I want friends there is facebook. And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. I have always replied even to when I have had messages from gay people and tv/ts people cause I was brought up with manners. Maybe you woman don't see it from my side cause you can click your fingers and get a guy. But most guys on here will agree with me. Reason I have veris from socials is cause I got went to one and talked to a few people but nearly everyone there was over 45 or black. I preferences To just like everyone on this site. " Try replying to over 100 messages a say day in day out. Tough shit if you think its polite to reply, the site has stated no reply = no thanks Get off your high horse | |||
"Just cause I want to have fun and not wait for months and months of pointless messages. At end of day its sex not a relationship " Actually, its a contact site to make contact snd chat with people with the view of meeting for sex. Sex sites is where you go pick a person, pay your money, get your fuck | |||
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"Oh, and if socials and chatting arent your thing can I ask why you winked my profile? Winking is a indication you are interested is it not? Yet my profile, had you read it clearly says I like chatting and socials. Oh wait, that must mean I'm dating, as thats what you think those are. So does winking an profile asking for socials and chatting mean actually you want to date? Or does it actually show the real problem in that you don't read profiles to ensure you are a 100% match before telling that profile via wink or message that you are interested " And then complain that he gets no replies?? lol | |||
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"I know that. But its not like I am ugly " Is that your opinion? | |||
"I know that. But its not like I am ugly Is that your opinion? "His opinion, fact - tomayto, tomahto.  | |||
"I know that. But its not like I am ugly So? If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it" I think that's the core of the ops problem, thinking "good looking" equates to being instantly balls deep in pum pum...bless! | |||
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"I know that. But its not like I am ugly So? If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it I think that's the core of the ops problem, thinking "good looking" equates to being instantly balls deep in pum pum...bless!" Well, on a "sex site" why would he need to have a nice personality and get to know people? After all, "it's about fun". Apparently. He wants "fun" and that's what we're here for. How very dare anyone not jump into bed with him at the click of his fingers? He's clearly happy to hop straight into bed with anyone he thinks is attractive. He's attractive, (according to him), so what the hell is the problem with the women on here? | |||
"First thing is I want to have fun sexually cause that's what this is all about. If I want dating I will go to pof and if I want friends there is facebook. And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. I have always replied even to when I have had messages from gay people and tv/ts people cause I was brought up with manners. Maybe you woman don't see it from my side cause you can click your fingers and get a guy. But most guys on here will agree with me. Reason I have veris from socials is cause I got went to one and talked to a few people but nearly everyone there was over 45 or black. I preferences To just like everyone on this site. " I don't send a "not interested" reply to every piece of unsolicited junk-mail. You are no different to junk-mail | |||
"I know that. But its not like I am ugly So? If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it I think that's the core of the ops problem, thinking "good looking" equates to being instantly balls deep in pum pum...bless! Well, on a "sex site" why would he need to have a nice personality and get to know people? After all, "it's about fun". Apparently. He wants "fun" and that's what we're here for. How very dare anyone not jump into bed with him at the click of his fingers? He's clearly happy to hop straight into bed with anyone he thinks is attractive. He's attractive, (according to him), so what the hell is the problem with the women on here?"  | |||
"First thing is I want to have fun sexually cause that's what this is all about. If I want dating I will go to pof and if I want friends there is facebook. And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. I have always replied even to when I have had messages from gay people and tv/ts people cause I was brought up with manners. Maybe you woman don't see it from my side cause you can click your fingers and get a guy. But most guys on here will agree with me. Reason I have veris from socials is cause I got went to one and talked to a few people but nearly everyone there was over 45 or black. I preferences To just like everyone on this site. " No changes made to your profile then. People wasted their time trying to help you. And I maybe naive at my age but you can have friends on here, it can sometimes lead to more if there is a connection | |||
"First thing is I want to have fun sexually cause that's what this is all about. If I want dating I will go to pof and if I want friends there is facebook. And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. I have always replied even to when I have had messages from gay people and tv/ts people cause I was brought up with manners. Maybe you woman don't see it from my side cause you can click your fingers and get a guy. But most guys on here will agree with me. Reason I have veris from socials is cause I got went to one and talked to a few people but nearly everyone there was over 45 or black. I preferences To just like everyone on this site. No changes made to your profile then. People wasted their time trying to help you. And I maybe naive at my age but you can have friends on here, it can sometimes lead to more if there is a connection " He asked the same thing 6 months ago and ignored all the advice given. Why would this time be any different? He thinks it's us and/or the site that is to blame, not him. | |||
"First thing is I want to have fun sexually cause that's what this is all about. If I want dating I will go to pof and if I want friends there is facebook. And when I do send a message and ask for a reply even if its a no thank you that's just cause I hate being ignored and plus its polite to reply. I have always replied even to when I have had messages from gay people and tv/ts people cause I was brought up with manners. Maybe you woman don't see it from my side cause you can click your fingers and get a guy. But most guys on here will agree with me. Reason I have veris from socials is cause I got went to one and talked to a few people but nearly everyone there was over 45 or black. I preferences To just like everyone on this site. No changes made to your profile then. People wasted their time trying to help you. And I maybe naive at my age but you can have friends on here, it can sometimes lead to more if there is a connection He asked the same thing 6 months ago and ignored all the advice given. Why would this time be any different? He thinks it's us and/or the site that is to blame, not him." It's not us or the site, definitely. We have had couples look at our profile and a couple of messages but until we are ready to meet others, our profile states that we will post up when ready for this. Profiles reflect what's required by the owner of it, so if it's not working, they are to blame no one else but doubt he will learn this | |||
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"I must be doing something wrong as nobody seems to want to meet for fun. " And now it's "There is nothing wrong with my profile." Lol. Make up your mind, mate! Look, you obviously suffer from some serious reading comprehension difficulties, so I'm going to help you out here. The advice I've seen so far, just from this thread, that you are blatantly ignoring: 1. "Then reconsider what/who you are mailing." 2. "it's down to either your messages or the recipients have decided you are not for them, no reply means no thanks op" 3. "You can't force people to be interested in you!" 4. "Arrogance however is an ugly trait" 5. "perhaps the issue is your personality. Perhaps once people get to know you they don't like you and don't want to have sex with you." 6. "If it's a waste of time, don't send any! Or have one you can cut n paste and that will save effort. Let your time on fab be fun not a chore." 7. "You can't make people want to shag you. Either you are not what they want, or can't offer what they want." 8. "How about paying a prostitute, quick clean transaction" 9. "Perhaps broaden your search" 10. "For whatever reason, the people you have approached do not want fun with you at that particular moment. Move on." 11. "this site is for fun, but that doesn't mean the women on here shag anybody and everybody." 12. "Maybe you would have better luck at a club" 13. "Maybe take some different public pics, the suited ones look fine but have a few more relaxed ones too. And try to smile more" 14. "Profile polishing is the way forward" 15. "Maybe you need to consider what your message initially says." 16. "You really do need to think about what you write on here. Most of us "adults" are turned off by arrogance that lacks a smattering of charm. Read and accept the advice offered to you on here and your other threads. It makes sense." 17. "If you want instant, with no social niceties, try dogging. Failing that, you're looking for prostitutes, not swingers (or swingles)." 18. "save your pennies; then hire a hooker" 19. "maybe the tone of your messages, your attitude, or something else (pressure to have sex with you) is turning people off you??" 20. " I was going to advise you to bale out of your own thread while you could......." 21. ""No reply" IS a reply. It means "I'm not interested, thank you."" 22. "If you carry on doing the same, you'll get the same results. You can accept the same results, or you can take the advice you've now been given twice. Your call." 23. "Oh, and taking a bit of time to feel comfortable with someone here and establish a rapport is not the same as dating" 24. "Maybe you don't see it from those women's side cause you don't stop to think just how many messages they get in a day" 25. "Read through the posts from beginning to end. Take a second to understand the advice you've been given." 26. "If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it" 27. "I'm afraid your perceptions off this site are way off. Take a step back and relax. " 28. "It's up to others to say whether they find you attractive physically and mentally likewise" 29. "Perhaps you are getting into the "instashag" mindset that far too many guys have on here?" 30. "Get off your high horse" That last one is my fave, if I'm honest.... | |||
"There is nothing wrong with my profile. I don't have nude pics and I ain't rude. So where is all this advice cause I ain't seen any apart from change your message " OK, I'm going to try and be polite. There's nothing wrong with your profile as such, but I'm sure women will find it very bland and there's nothing to make you stand out from the gazillion other guys on here. I said there are guys much older and uglier than you getting meets. There's an obvious reason. You didn't really ask for advice, more just made statements (pretty negative ones if I'm honest). You did get advice - I said take a step back, relax and think why others get replies. We can't write messages for you - we can only do so much. You seem to have a massive hang up about not getting replies, but you've been given very clear, obvious reasons why that can't happen. I have to say it seems you're completely unwilling to comprehend that. The best bit of advice you can get is forget the replies thing. It ain't happening, for obvious reasons and it's in the site rules too. It may seem people are being harsh, but you didn't really come across very politely either and have a look at how many guys post similar messages each day. Honestly - have a think about your expectations. That's my advice. Do that and things will hopefully start getting better for you. | |||
"There is nothing wrong with my profile. I don't have nude pics and I ain't rude. So where is all this advice cause I ain't seen any apart from change your message " I'm known for being blunt and you did ask for advice so here it is. Climb back out of your arse and start thinking of the women on here as people, not a vessel for you to empty your sack in. You come across as arrogant, stuck up and abit of a dick, the issue is with you not everyone else. | |||
"There is nothing wrong with my profile. I don't have nude pics and I ain't rude. So where is all this advice cause I ain't seen any apart from change your message " Not to expect to be balls deep in pussy, just because some people on here are to swing. | |||
"Wait, so your first post was I must be doing something wrong as nobody seems to want to meet for fun. And now it's There is nothing wrong with my profile.Lol. Make up your mind, mate! Look, you obviously suffer from some serious reading comprehension difficulties, so I'm going to help you out here. The advice I've seen so far, just from this thread, that you are blatantly ignoring: 1. Then reconsider what/who you are mailing. 2. it's down to either your messages or the recipients have decided you are not for them, no reply means no thanks op 3. You can't force people to be interested in you! 4. Arrogance however is an ugly trait 5. perhaps the issue is your personality. Perhaps once people get to know you they don't like you and don't want to have sex with you. 6. If it's a waste of time, don't send any! Or have one you can cut n paste and that will save effort. Let your time on fab be fun not a chore. 7. You can't make people want to shag you. Either you are not what they want, or can't offer what they want. 8. How about paying a prostitute, quick clean transaction 9. Perhaps broaden your search 10. For whatever reason, the people you have approached do not want fun with you at that particular moment. Move on. 11. this site is for fun, but that doesn't mean the women on here shag anybody and everybody. 12. Maybe you would have better luck at a club 13. Maybe take some different public pics, the suited ones look fine but have a few more relaxed ones too. And try to smile more 14. Profile polishing is the way forward 15. Maybe you need to consider what your message initially says. 16. You really do need to think about what you write on here. Most of us "adults" are turned off by arrogance that lacks a smattering of charm. Read and accept the advice offered to you on here and your other threads. It makes sense. 17. If you want instant, with no social niceties, try dogging. Failing that, you're looking for prostitutes, not swingers (or swingles). 18. save your pennies; then hire a hooker 19. maybe the tone of your messages, your attitude, or something else (pressure to have sex with you) is turning people off you?? 20. I was going to advise you to bale out of your own thread while you could....... 21. "No reply" IS a reply. It means "I'm not interested, thank you." 22. If you carry on doing the same, you'll get the same results. You can accept the same results, or you can take the advice you've now been given twice. Your call. 23. Oh, and taking a bit of time to feel comfortable with someone here and establish a rapport is not the same as dating 24. Maybe you don't see it from those women's side cause you don't stop to think just how many messages they get in a day 25. Read through the posts from beginning to end. Take a second to understand the advice you've been given. 26. If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it 27. I'm afraid your perceptions off this site are way off. Take a step back and relax. 28. It's up to others to say whether they find you attractive physically and mentally likewise 29. Perhaps you are getting into the "instashag" mindset that far too many guys have on here? 30. Get off your high horse That last one is my fave, if I'm honest...." awesome post | |||
"There is nothing wrong with my profile. I don't have nude pics and I ain't rude. So where is all this advice cause I ain't seen any apart from change your message " my advice would be to ditch the profile, and get out there and meet women in clubs and pubs like we used to do in the 'olden days' .... maybe chatting to real people in the real world would help you see how difficult it is trying to do it online, where your profile is competing with hundreds of other mediocre profiles .... if you cant be arsed to help yourself then how can you expect others to want to help you? | |||
"But its very true thou it is a waste of time and effort. We are on here for fun that's what the site is about " Your last sentence is kind of telling people what this site is TO YOU. Other people may have different perceptions. | |||
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"I know that. But its not like I am ugly " That's not the best attitude to have, maybe that's why people are not meeting you? | |||
"I must be doing something wrong as nobody seems to want to meet for fun. " Yes, I agree. Total Epic Fail. | |||
"You had a meet 2 months ago & have a good few veri's too. I'd say you're doing pretty ok " | |||
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"Wait, so your first post was I must be doing something wrong as nobody seems to want to meet for fun. And now it's There is nothing wrong with my profile.Lol. Make up your mind, mate! Look, you obviously suffer from some serious reading comprehension difficulties, so I'm going to help you out here. The advice I've seen so far, just from this thread, that you are blatantly ignoring: 1. Then reconsider what/who you are mailing. 2. it's down to either your messages or the recipients have decided you are not for them, no reply means no thanks op 3. You can't force people to be interested in you! 4. Arrogance however is an ugly trait 5. perhaps the issue is your personality. Perhaps once people get to know you they don't like you and don't want to have sex with you. 6. If it's a waste of time, don't send any! Or have one you can cut n paste and that will save effort. Let your time on fab be fun not a chore. 7. You can't make people want to shag you. Either you are not what they want, or can't offer what they want. 8. How about paying a prostitute, quick clean transaction 9. Perhaps broaden your search 10. For whatever reason, the people you have approached do not want fun with you at that particular moment. Move on. 11. this site is for fun, but that doesn't mean the women on here shag anybody and everybody. 12. Maybe you would have better luck at a club 13. Maybe take some different public pics, the suited ones look fine but have a few more relaxed ones too. And try to smile more 14. Profile polishing is the way forward 15. Maybe you need to consider what your message initially says. 16. You really do need to think about what you write on here. Most of us "adults" are turned off by arrogance that lacks a smattering of charm. Read and accept the advice offered to you on here and your other threads. It makes sense. 17. If you want instant, with no social niceties, try dogging. Failing that, you're looking for prostitutes, not swingers (or swingles). 18. save your pennies; then hire a hooker 19. maybe the tone of your messages, your attitude, or something else (pressure to have sex with you) is turning people off you?? 20. I was going to advise you to bale out of your own thread while you could....... 21. "No reply" IS a reply. It means "I'm not interested, thank you." 22. If you carry on doing the same, you'll get the same results. You can accept the same results, or you can take the advice you've now been given twice. Your call. 23. Oh, and taking a bit of time to feel comfortable with someone here and establish a rapport is not the same as dating 24. Maybe you don't see it from those women's side cause you don't stop to think just how many messages they get in a day 25. Read through the posts from beginning to end. Take a second to understand the advice you've been given. 26. If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it 27. I'm afraid your perceptions off this site are way off. Take a step back and relax. 28. It's up to others to say whether they find you attractive physically and mentally likewise 29. Perhaps you are getting into the "instashag" mindset that far too many guys have on here? 30. Get off your high horse That last one is my fave, if I'm honest.... awesome post" | |||
"Wait, so your first post was I must be doing something wrong as nobody seems to want to meet for fun. And now it's There is nothing wrong with my profile.Lol. Make up your mind, mate! Look, you obviously suffer from some serious reading comprehension difficulties, so I'm going to help you out here. The advice I've seen so far, just from this thread, that you are blatantly ignoring: 1. Then reconsider what/who you are mailing. 2. it's down to either your messages or the recipients have decided you are not for them, no reply means no thanks op 3. You can't force people to be interested in you! 4. Arrogance however is an ugly trait 5. perhaps the issue is your personality. Perhaps once people get to know you they don't like you and don't want to have sex with you. 6. If it's a waste of time, don't send any! Or have one you can cut n paste and that will save effort. Let your time on fab be fun not a chore. 7. You can't make people want to shag you. Either you are not what they want, or can't offer what they want. 8. How about paying a prostitute, quick clean transaction 9. Perhaps broaden your search 10. For whatever reason, the people you have approached do not want fun with you at that particular moment. Move on. 11. this site is for fun, but that doesn't mean the women on here shag anybody and everybody. 12. Maybe you would have better luck at a club 13. Maybe take some different public pics, the suited ones look fine but have a few more relaxed ones too. And try to smile more 14. Profile polishing is the way forward 15. Maybe you need to consider what your message initially says. 16. You really do need to think about what you write on here. Most of us "adults" are turned off by arrogance that lacks a smattering of charm. Read and accept the advice offered to you on here and your other threads. It makes sense. 17. If you want instant, with no social niceties, try dogging. Failing that, you're looking for prostitutes, not swingers (or swingles). 18. save your pennies; then hire a hooker 19. maybe the tone of your messages, your attitude, or something else (pressure to have sex with you) is turning people off you?? 20. I was going to advise you to bale out of your own thread while you could....... 21. "No reply" IS a reply. It means "I'm not interested, thank you." 22. If you carry on doing the same, you'll get the same results. You can accept the same results, or you can take the advice you've now been given twice. Your call. 23. Oh, and taking a bit of time to feel comfortable with someone here and establish a rapport is not the same as dating 24. Maybe you don't see it from those women's side cause you don't stop to think just how many messages they get in a day 25. Read through the posts from beginning to end. Take a second to understand the advice you've been given. 26. If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it 27. I'm afraid your perceptions off this site are way off. Take a step back and relax. 28. It's up to others to say whether they find you attractive physically and mentally likewise 29. Perhaps you are getting into the "instashag" mindset that far too many guys have on here? 30. Get off your high horse That last one is my fave, if I'm honest...." Yay im a favourite | |||
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"I must be doing something wrong as nobody seems to want to meet for fun. Yes, I agree. Total Epic Fail. " LoL | |||
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"I know that. But its not like I am ugly " Maybe not ugly, but your pictures do you no justice at all, i looked at your profile when you winked, then saw your "up your own arse" comments on here, and said to myself no ta | |||
"I have read the things you have written. I don't post crude or rude things I am polite and I haven't put up pics of my dick I send a polite message. So just looks like I should just either redo everything on my profile " No one on this site owes you anything, least of all a reply, sooner get that into your head, the sooner you will find the site fun | |||
"I have read the things you have written. I don't post crude or rude things I am polite and I haven't put up pics of my dick I send a polite message. So just looks like I should just either redo everything on my profile " Either you're not actually reading what people have said or you're just completely oblivious to the fact that people have said its your attitude that stinks, not your profile! | |||
"I have read the things you have written. I don't post crude or rude things I am polite and I haven't put up pics of my dick I send a polite message. So just looks like I should just either redo everything on my profile Either you're not actually reading what people have said or you're just completely oblivious to the fact that people have said its your attitude that stinks, not your profile!" | |||
OP are you for real? I can't help thinking this is one of those attention seeking posts.
Because the stuff you are saying about the site, plus the belief that your looks mean you should be getting sex, is just plain bonkers | |||
"I have read the things you have written. I don't post crude or rude things I am polite and I haven't put up pics of my dick I send a polite message. So just looks like I should just either redo everything on my profile " No one has accused you of posting rude or crude things. No one has ever talked about cock pics. How are you so blatantly missing the point? It's like if you asked "How can I improve my cooking" and people responded with "Use different seasoning, maybe research other cuisines." and you come back with, "But I buy all the expensive knives and pans!" Like, what you are saying has nothing to do with anything anyone has said on this thread. You are purposefully being a troll. | |||
"I have read the things you have written. I don't post crude or rude things I am polite and I haven't put up pics of my dick I send a polite message. So just looks like I should just either redo everything on my profile No one has accused you of posting rude or crude things. No one has ever talked about cock pics. How are you so blatantly missing the point? It's like if you asked "How can I improve my cooking" and people responded with "Use different seasoning, maybe research other cuisines." and you come back with, "But I buy all the expensive knives and pans!" Like, what you are saying has nothing to do with anything anyone has said on this thread. You are purposefully being a troll. " I agree | |||
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"I messaged the OP & asked him to send me a message to see what it was like. It was absolutely fine. It was chatty, friendly and not rude or crude at all." I think his issue is the self entitled whining on the forums to be honest. | |||
"I messaged the OP & asked him to send me a message to see what it was like. It was absolutely fine. It was chatty, friendly and not rude or crude at all." So this must mean you'll sleep with him now right? Since we're all here for fun and he's not ugly?? Lol | |||
"I think his issue is the self entitled whining on the forums to be honest." | |||
"I messaged the OP & asked him to send me a message to see what it was like. It was absolutely fine. It was chatty, friendly and not rude or crude at all. So this must mean you'll sleep with him now right? Since we're all here for fun and he's not ugly?? Lol" No, he was asked what sort of messages he sent so I thought I'd see for myself. And I am here for fun, don't know about you | |||
"Wait, so your first post was I must be doing something wrong as nobody seems to want to meet for fun. And now it's There is nothing wrong with my profile.Lol. Make up your mind, mate! Look, you obviously suffer from some serious reading comprehension difficulties, so I'm going to help you out here. The advice I've seen so far, just from this thread, that you are blatantly ignoring: 1. Then reconsider what/who you are mailing. 2. it's down to either your messages or the recipients have decided you are not for them, no reply means no thanks op 3. You can't force people to be interested in you! 4. Arrogance however is an ugly trait 5. perhaps the issue is your personality. Perhaps once people get to know you they don't like you and don't want to have sex with you. 6. If it's a waste of time, don't send any! Or have one you can cut n paste and that will save effort. Let your time on fab be fun not a chore. 7. You can't make people want to shag you. Either you are not what they want, or can't offer what they want. 8. How about paying a prostitute, quick clean transaction 9. Perhaps broaden your search 10. For whatever reason, the people you have approached do not want fun with you at that particular moment. Move on. 11. this site is for fun, but that doesn't mean the women on here shag anybody and everybody. 12. Maybe you would have better luck at a club 13. Maybe take some different public pics, the suited ones look fine but have a few more relaxed ones too. And try to smile more 14. Profile polishing is the way forward 15. Maybe you need to consider what your message initially says. 16. You really do need to think about what you write on here. Most of us "adults" are turned off by arrogance that lacks a smattering of charm. Read and accept the advice offered to you on here and your other threads. It makes sense. 17. If you want instant, with no social niceties, try dogging. Failing that, you're looking for prostitutes, not swingers (or swingles). 18. save your pennies; then hire a hooker 19. maybe the tone of your messages, your attitude, or something else (pressure to have sex with you) is turning people off you?? 20. I was going to advise you to bale out of your own thread while you could....... 21. "No reply" IS a reply. It means "I'm not interested, thank you." 22. If you carry on doing the same, you'll get the same results. You can accept the same results, or you can take the advice you've now been given twice. Your call. 23. Oh, and taking a bit of time to feel comfortable with someone here and establish a rapport is not the same as dating 24. Maybe you don't see it from those women's side cause you don't stop to think just how many messages they get in a day 25. Read through the posts from beginning to end. Take a second to understand the advice you've been given. 26. If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it 27. I'm afraid your perceptions off this site are way off. Take a step back and relax. 28. It's up to others to say whether they find you attractive physically and mentally likewise 29. Perhaps you are getting into the "instashag" mindset that far too many guys have on here? 30. Get off your high horse That last one is my fave, if I'm honest.... Yay im a favourite "Me too.
I've been away for a while so missed commenting, this is post of the year material.
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"Wait, so your first post was I must be doing something wrong as nobody seems to want to meet for fun. And now it's There is nothing wrong with my profile.Lol. Make up your mind, mate! Look, you obviously suffer from some serious reading comprehension difficulties, so I'm going to help you out here. The advice I've seen so far, just from this thread, that you are blatantly ignoring: 1. Then reconsider what/who you are mailing. 2. it's down to either your messages or the recipients have decided you are not for them, no reply means no thanks op 3. You can't force people to be interested in you! 4. Arrogance however is an ugly trait 5. perhaps the issue is your personality. Perhaps once people get to know you they don't like you and don't want to have sex with you. 6. If it's a waste of time, don't send any! Or have one you can cut n paste and that will save effort. Let your time on fab be fun not a chore. 7. You can't make people want to shag you. Either you are not what they want, or can't offer what they want. 8. How about paying a prostitute, quick clean transaction 9. Perhaps broaden your search 10. For whatever reason, the people you have approached do not want fun with you at that particular moment. Move on. 11. this site is for fun, but that doesn't mean the women on here shag anybody and everybody. 12. Maybe you would have better luck at a club 13. Maybe take some different public pics, the suited ones look fine but have a few more relaxed ones too. And try to smile more 14. Profile polishing is the way forward 15. Maybe you need to consider what your message initially says. 16. You really do need to think about what you write on here. Most of us "adults" are turned off by arrogance that lacks a smattering of charm. Read and accept the advice offered to you on here and your other threads. It makes sense. 17. If you want instant, with no social niceties, try dogging. Failing that, you're looking for prostitutes, not swingers (or swingles). 18. save your pennies; then hire a hooker 19. maybe the tone of your messages, your attitude, or something else (pressure to have sex with you) is turning people off you?? 20. I was going to advise you to bale out of your own thread while you could....... 21. "No reply" IS a reply. It means "I'm not interested, thank you." 22. If you carry on doing the same, you'll get the same results. You can accept the same results, or you can take the advice you've now been given twice. Your call. 23. Oh, and taking a bit of time to feel comfortable with someone here and establish a rapport is not the same as dating 24. Maybe you don't see it from those women's side cause you don't stop to think just how many messages they get in a day 25. Read through the posts from beginning to end. Take a second to understand the advice you've been given. 26. If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it 27. I'm afraid your perceptions off this site are way off. Take a step back and relax. 28. It's up to others to say whether they find you attractive physically and mentally likewise 29. Perhaps you are getting into the "instashag" mindset that far too many guys have on here? 30. Get off your high horse That last one is my fave, if I'm honest.... Yay im a favourite
Me too.
I've been away for a while so missed commenting, this is post of the year material.
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"I have read the things you have written. I don't post crude or rude things I am polite and I haven't put up pics of my dick I send a polite message. So just looks like I should just either redo everything on my profile Either you're not actually reading what people have said or you're just completely oblivious to the fact that people have said its your attitude that stinks, not your profile!" I'm voting for completely oblivious | |||
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"Jesus,nothing like ganging up on someone is there..." Not so much ganging up, more a question of like-minded advisers | |||
"Wait, so your first post was I must be doing something wrong as nobody seems to want to meet for fun. And now it's There is nothing wrong with my profile.Lol. Make up your mind, mate! Look, you obviously suffer from some serious reading comprehension difficulties, so I'm going to help you out here. The advice I've seen so far, just from this thread, that you are blatantly ignoring: 1. Then reconsider what/who you are mailing. 2. it's down to either your messages or the recipients have decided you are not for them, no reply means no thanks op 3. You can't force people to be interested in you! 4. Arrogance however is an ugly trait 5. perhaps the issue is your personality. Perhaps once people get to know you they don't like you and don't want to have sex with you. 6. If it's a waste of time, don't send any! Or have one you can cut n paste and that will save effort. Let your time on fab be fun not a chore. 7. You can't make people want to shag you. Either you are not what they want, or can't offer what they want. 8. How about paying a prostitute, quick clean transaction 9. Perhaps broaden your search 10. For whatever reason, the people you have approached do not want fun with you at that particular moment. Move on. 11. this site is for fun, but that doesn't mean the women on here shag anybody and everybody. 12. Maybe you would have better luck at a club 13. Maybe take some different public pics, the suited ones look fine but have a few more relaxed ones too. And try to smile more 14. Profile polishing is the way forward 15. Maybe you need to consider what your message initially says. 16. You really do need to think about what you write on here. Most of us "adults" are turned off by arrogance that lacks a smattering of charm. Read and accept the advice offered to you on here and your other threads. It makes sense. 17. If you want instant, with no social niceties, try dogging. Failing that, you're looking for prostitutes, not swingers (or swingles). 18. save your pennies; then hire a hooker 19. maybe the tone of your messages, your attitude, or something else (pressure to have sex with you) is turning people off you?? 20. I was going to advise you to bale out of your own thread while you could....... 21. "No reply" IS a reply. It means "I'm not interested, thank you." 22. If you carry on doing the same, you'll get the same results. You can accept the same results, or you can take the advice you've now been given twice. Your call. 23. Oh, and taking a bit of time to feel comfortable with someone here and establish a rapport is not the same as dating 24. Maybe you don't see it from those women's side cause you don't stop to think just how many messages they get in a day 25. Read through the posts from beginning to end. Take a second to understand the advice you've been given. 26. If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it 27. I'm afraid your perceptions off this site are way off. Take a step back and relax. 28. It's up to others to say whether they find you attractive physically and mentally likewise 29. Perhaps you are getting into the "instashag" mindset that far too many guys have on here? 30. Get off your high horse That last one is my fave, if I'm honest.... Yay im a favourite
Me too.
I've been away for a while so missed commenting, this is post of the year material.
"This needs to be cut and pasted onto every thread where the guy complains he can't get meets. It sums the whole thing up perfectly | |||
"Wait, so your first post was I must be doing something wrong as nobody seems to want to meet for fun. And now it's There is nothing wrong with my profile.Lol. Make up your mind, mate! Look, you obviously suffer from some serious reading comprehension difficulties, so I'm going to help you out here. The advice I've seen so far, just from this thread, that you are blatantly ignoring: 1. Then reconsider what/who you are mailing. 2. it's down to either your messages or the recipients have decided you are not for them, no reply means no thanks op 3. You can't force people to be interested in you! 4. Arrogance however is an ugly trait 5. perhaps the issue is your personality. Perhaps once people get to know you they don't like you and don't want to have sex with you. 6. If it's a waste of time, don't send any! Or have one you can cut n paste and that will save effort. Let your time on fab be fun not a chore. 7. You can't make people want to shag you. Either you are not what they want, or can't offer what they want. 8. How about paying a prostitute, quick clean transaction 9. Perhaps broaden your search 10. For whatever reason, the people you have approached do not want fun with you at that particular moment. Move on. 11. this site is for fun, but that doesn't mean the women on here shag anybody and everybody. 12. Maybe you would have better luck at a club 13. Maybe take some different public pics, the suited ones look fine but have a few more relaxed ones too. And try to smile more 14. Profile polishing is the way forward 15. Maybe you need to consider what your message initially says. 16. You really do need to think about what you write on here. Most of us "adults" are turned off by arrogance that lacks a smattering of charm. Read and accept the advice offered to you on here and your other threads. It makes sense. 17. If you want instant, with no social niceties, try dogging. Failing that, you're looking for prostitutes, not swingers (or swingles). 18. save your pennies; then hire a hooker 19. maybe the tone of your messages, your attitude, or something else (pressure to have sex with you) is turning people off you?? 20. I was going to advise you to bale out of your own thread while you could....... 21. "No reply" IS a reply. It means "I'm not interested, thank you." 22. If you carry on doing the same, you'll get the same results. You can accept the same results, or you can take the advice you've now been given twice. Your call. 23. Oh, and taking a bit of time to feel comfortable with someone here and establish a rapport is not the same as dating 24. Maybe you don't see it from those women's side cause you don't stop to think just how many messages they get in a day 25. Read through the posts from beginning to end. Take a second to understand the advice you've been given. 26. If people aren't interested they aren't interested, get over it 27. I'm afraid your perceptions off this site are way off. Take a step back and relax. 28. It's up to others to say whether they find you attractive physically and mentally likewise 29. Perhaps you are getting into the "instashag" mindset that far too many guys have on here? 30. Get off your high horse That last one is my fave, if I'm honest.... Yay im a favourite
Me too.
I've been away for a while so missed commenting, this is post of the year material.
This needs to be cut and pasted onto every thread where the guy complains he can't get meets.
It sums the whole thing up perfectly "I've long argued on the forums for a "sticky" thread such as you're suggesting here, but it needs updated software on the site to display it apparetly. | |||
