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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I struggle to find fun time. So many commitments, work, kids, home life.
I was binned for my first time ever for rarely being available, although he's messaging again already.
Is it just me?
How do you make time for fun? |
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"I generally just go to clubs so I can doll a whole night of socialising and play into one   "
This is what I do too.
I seldom meet one on one and don't want to waste my precious free time being stood up or end up with someone I'm really not attracted to. I think a lot more women do this now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in the same boat atm.
I only meet at clubs or parties now firstly because I love them but secondly because I don't have time for socials looking for someone I click with and get sick of men nagging me because I hardly have time to meet.xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whats it like for a single fem in a club? As just split with a ex i used to have this account with idk if i trust the single not to crowd me like flys around shit x |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Whats it like for a single fem in a club? As just split with a ex i used to have this account with idk if i trust the single not to crowd me like flys around shit x"
Yeah. Cos that's exactly what's going to happen! lol  |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"Whats it like for a single fem in a club? As just split with a ex i used to have this account with idk if i trust the single not to crowd me like flys around shit x"
I guess all clubs are different. I go to my local club Atlantis and decide who I play with or I might just spend the evening chatting. But they are careful with the numbers admitted.....so you never get loads of single guys lurking.
If you have a club that you are familiar with, maybe give that a go. Perhaps find a male or female to go with. Look at reviews and make contact with regulars before you go. I enjoy having another single female as my wingman. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whats it like for a single fem in a club? As just split with a ex i used to have this account with idk if i trust the single not to crowd me like flys around shit x"
Yeah like the above it depends on the club. I got left alone and the atmosphere at the club i went to was chill. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I struggle to find fun time. So many commitments, work, kids, home life.
I was binned for my first time ever for rarely being available, although he's messaging again already.
Is it just me?
How do you make time for fun?"
It drives me insane I have to say. Chat to someone who wants regular. Then meet but they're idea of regular is my idea of seldom. Once every 6 weeks is not regular.
I suppose I have it easy in that I have every weekend free but I'd say people should be honest with their availability |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whats it like for a single fem in a club? As just split with a ex i used to have this account with idk if i trust the single not to crowd me like flys around shit x"
I've been to a club on my own. The clubs I go to vet the single guys. I didn't feel uncomfortable with the single guys. But when I was on my own I also didn't feel comfortable playing so it became social rather than sexual fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think we all need a 30 hour day'. I too struggle to juggle social time with possible fun time.
Helps to find elusive local friends so,social time can be at short notice without travelling too far and,as others have said. Not, being stood up'. x 4 now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I struggle to find fun time. So many commitments, work, kids, home life.
I was binned for my first time ever for rarely being available, although he's messaging again already.
Is it just me?
How do you make time for fun?
It drives me insane I have to say. Chat to someone who wants regular. Then meet but they're idea of regular is my idea of seldom. Once every 6 weeks is not regular.
I suppose I have it easy in that I have every weekend free but I'd say people should be honest with their availability "
I agree with you...regular for me is at least 2x a week. That's not available on here...I think because of choice too. I've a friend who says regular is couple times a month....another is similar...I'm needing 5 to be regular. So why you so far away? Life sucks at times. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Admittedly last year was busy. Turned an outbuilding into a home. In and out of court all year fighting custody with a close friend. Full time self employed. Then my father moved in.
In the middle of this I found the man of my dreams. I don't blame him for getting fed up of not seeing me.
He's showing interest again now though so I may get what I need regularly soon  |
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By far our biggest challenge is fitting play dates in. Young family, shift work, new area and both working full time is a nightmare. So we tend to play mainly at clubs and events now. Just don't have the time for that many private meets. Though every now and again we manage to wangle one lol
Xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just manage to meet infrequently. And since I'm forever talking to people who are miles away and busy too, it's a wonder I ever manage it. I'm trying to do more opportunity-seizing and spontaneity this year, as my New Years resolution |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm with you, OP. I've had to write January off completely for lack of free time. I'm always honest, and hope the men I'm chatting with are genuinely patient and don't mind waiting til I'm free. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep I struggle to fit in what I already do on a weekly basis without adding anything else into the mix.
Overall though I'm not too bothered as I'm not into meeting frequently, as long as I have a few future dates in the diary then all is good |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep I struggle to fit in what I already do on a weekly basis without adding anything else into the mix.
Overall though I'm not too bothered as I'm not into meeting frequently, as long as I have a few future dates in the diary then all is good "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got to much free time on my hands, all I do is going to the gym in the mornings then coming home and relaxing, watching tv and eating my muscle meals  "
Doesn't your role at the embassy keep you busy? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got to much free time on my hands, all I do is going to the gym in the mornings then coming home and relaxing, watching tv and eating my muscle meals
Doesn't your role at the embassy keep you busy? "
Yes it does as well. I am in the passport control section lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got to much free time on my hands, all I do is going to the gym in the mornings then coming home and relaxing, watching tv and eating my muscle meals
Doesn't your role at the embassy keep you busy? Yes it does as well. I am in the passport control section lol."
Is that your excuse to see face pictures on fab? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got to much free time on my hands, all I do is going to the gym in the mornings then coming home and relaxing, watching tv and eating my muscle meals
Doesn't your role at the embassy keep you busy? Yes it does as well. I am in the passport control section lol.
Is that your excuse to see face pictures on fab? "
That is right it is, to check so they are real and not tampered with u know  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got to much free time on my hands, all I do is going to the gym in the mornings then coming home and relaxing, watching tv and eating my muscle meals
Doesn't your role at the embassy keep you busy? Yes it does as well. I am in the passport control section lol.
Is that your excuse to see face pictures on fab? That is right it is, to check so they are real and not tampered with u know "
It's an important job, fake profiles cab upset relations between Swedish people and Fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got to much free time on my hands, all I do is going to the gym in the mornings then coming home and relaxing, watching tv and eating my muscle meals
Doesn't your role at the embassy keep you busy? Yes it does as well. I am in the passport control section lol.
Is that your excuse to see face pictures on fab? That is right it is, to check so they are real and not tampered with u know
It's an important job, fake profiles cab upset relations between Swedish people and Fab"
That is right it does, so by doing this it will keep both parties happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know what you mean. We can't meet frequently or spontaneously due to work and family commitments. We just make people aware of what we can manage. Christmas and now the cold weather make it more difficult , but meeting others is an added extra. Real life has to come first. Life goes in cycles so we all have different periods of free time within that. Just make the most of what you do have. Hope you get him back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I struggle to find fun time. So many commitments, work, kids, home life.
I was binned for my first time ever for rarely being available, although he's messaging again already.
Is it just me?
How do you make time for fun?"
Hi Rachael
I am very much the same as you, its actually really difficult to make time which is why I generally settle for two meets a week maximum I also like some me time to recharge the batteries as well, come a week today I will have done 14 days solid at work so will be totally fooked. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I struggle to find fun time. So many commitments, work, kids, home life.
I was binned for my first time ever for rarely being available, although he's messaging again already.
Is it just me?
How do you make time for fun?
Hi Rachael
I am very much the same as you, its actually really difficult to make time which is why I generally settle for two meets a week maximum I also like some me time to recharge the batteries as well, come a week today I will have done 14 days solid at work so will be totally fooked."
Two a week? Wow. That'd be a dream. I have enough offers for several a day but I'm lucky to get out twice a month! |
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