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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Being total club and fab newbies, we're looking for a wee bit of advice.
We are attending Xtasia at the end of the month for the FFFF night and possibly the unicorn night on the Saturday.
Belle has a collar and leash that she loves and we incorporate into our play times.
She loves the idea of being on her leash in the club and myself parading her about in her underwear, with people asking me if they can touch and feel her.
What we would like to know is.....
1) would this be frowned upon or is it something we could do?
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2) would we be offending any proper d/s couples? We understand that being collared means a lot more for others and we don't want to offend anyone.
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We are also attending on the ffff night at xtasia. We recently spent new years eve at xtas and saw someone in a leash and collar being paraded around so you would not cause offence or be judged
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By (user no longer on site)
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2) would we be offending any proper d/s couples? We understand that being collared means a lot more for others and we don't want to offend anyone.
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I really can't imagine it being an issue But I really wouldn't worry about 'proper D/S couples' who might be so uptight that how you choose to play upsets them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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2) would we be offending any proper d/s couples? We understand that being collared means a lot more for others and we don't want to offend anyone.
I really can't imagine it being an issue But I really wouldn't worry about 'proper D/S couples' who might be so uptight that how you choose to play upsets them"
Thanks mate. Just new to the scene and not wanting to cause any offence. |
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How you choose to play is entirely up to you as long as it doesn't impact those a round you in a negative way. Which this doesn't, then go for it. No one has a right to judge you for it.
However having a little experience in the field be aware that some that don't understand will see a collar as a sign that Belle is an easy target. I'm sure it's nothing that either of you can't handle but it's worth being aware.
Just gutted we're not going we'd enjoy an introduction  |
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Ooooh. What exactly is the ffff night? Is only women who can attend or is it for couples so that the girls play together? I havent heard about these before. Sorry for derailing the thread a little  |
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"Ooooh. What exactly is the ffff night? Is only women who can attend or is it for couples so that the girls play together? I havent heard about these before. Sorry for derailing the thread a little "
I googled, it sounds like fun but I am a little disappointed  |
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"How you choose to play is entirely up to you as long as it doesn't impact those a round you in a negative way. Which this doesn't, then go for it. No one has a right to judge you for it.
However having a little experience in the field be aware that some that don't understand will see a collar as a sign that Belle is an easy target. I'm sure it's nothing that either of you can't handle but it's worth being aware.
Just gutted we're not going we'd enjoy an introduction "
Belle most certainly isn't a target and I'd like to think people ask before they do anything??? |
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"How you choose to play is entirely up to you as long as it doesn't impact those a round you in a negative way. Which this doesn't, then go for it. No one has a right to judge you for it.
However having a little experience in the field be aware that some that don't understand will see a collar as a sign that Belle is an easy target. I'm sure it's nothing that either of you can't handle but it's worth being aware.
Just gutted we're not going we'd enjoy an introduction
Belle most certainly isn't a target and I'd like to think people ask before they do anything???"
Almost all people we have come across will ask of course. There is always the odd one that thinks different though. I'm not trying to scare monger. Just that some people think that a collar means they can push their luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How you choose to play is entirely up to you as long as it doesn't impact those a round you in a negative way. Which this doesn't, then go for it. No one has a right to judge you for it.
However having a little experience in the field be aware that some that don't understand will see a collar as a sign that Belle is an easy target. I'm sure it's nothing that either of you can't handle but it's worth being aware.
Just gutted we're not going we'd enjoy an introduction
Belle most certainly isn't a target and I'd like to think people ask before they do anything???
Almost all people we have come across will ask of course. There is always the odd one that thinks different though. I'm not trying to scare monger. Just that some people think that a collar means they can push their luck."
Thanks for the advice and I'll be sure to be firm  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How you choose to play is entirely up to you as long as it doesn't impact those a round you in a negative way. Which this doesn't, then go for it. No one has a right to judge you for it.
However having a little experience in the field be aware that some that don't understand will see a collar as a sign that Belle is an easy target. I'm sure it's nothing that either of you can't handle but it's worth being aware.
Just gutted we're not going we'd enjoy an introduction
Belle most certainly isn't a target and I'd like to think people ask before they do anything???
Almost all people we have come across will ask of course. There is always the odd one that thinks different though. I'm not trying to scare monger. Just that some people think that a collar means they can push their luck.
Thanks for the advice and I'll be sure to be firm "
In a good clubs a "No" is a "No"...if there is an issue go straight to a staff member. In good clubs the issue is sorted within minutes and no one will comment on how you play or dress as long as you are polite and ask if you can join  Naughty |
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"Being total club and fab newbies, we're looking for a wee bit of advice.
We are attending Xtasia at the end of the month for the FFFF night and possibly the unicorn night on the Saturday.
Belle has a collar and leash that she loves and we incorporate into our play times.
She loves the idea of being on her leash in the club and myself parading her about in her underwear, with people asking me if they can touch and feel her.
What we would like to know is.....
1) would this be frowned upon or is it something we could do?
And
2) would we be offending any proper d/s couples? We understand that being collared means a lot more for others and we don't want to offend anyone.
Advice is much appreciated "
People in the club scene are very open minded, i cant see why anyone would be offended at what you want to do |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"People in the club scene are very open minded, i cant see why anyone would be offended at what you want to do"
Thank you. Feeling we've maybe been a bit silly to ask now but all advice is much appreciated. |
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"People in the club scene are very open minded, i cant see why anyone would be offended at what you want to do
Thank you. Feeling we've maybe been a bit silly to ask now but all advice is much appreciated. "
Glad you guys are coming down and making a weekend of it.
Also note that in front of xtasia is Flirts bar. You can pop in there for a pre-club drink and Paul & Flirt can give you a mini tour of the bar, as there may be some areas of interest.
But just to concur, each to their own at Flirts and Xtasia. You will get people will many different needs and kinks, sexuality, straight, bi, TV/Transgender, BDSM, swingers, voyoeurs and party people.
We're all one happy family!
And don't forget, any advice if you don't want to go through the forum, just mail us. No such thing as a silly question. xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"People in the club scene are very open minded, i cant see why anyone would be offended at what you want to do
Thank you. Feeling we've maybe been a bit silly to ask now but all advice is much appreciated.
Glad you guys are coming down and making a weekend of it.
Also note that in front of xtasia is Flirts bar. You can pop in there for a pre-club drink and Paul & Flirt can give you a mini tour of the bar, as there may be some areas of interest.
But just to concur, each to their own at Flirts and Xtasia. You will get people will many different needs and kinks, sexuality, straight, bi, TV/Transgender, BDSM, swingers, voyoeurs and party people.
We're all one happy family!
And don't forget, any advice if you don't want to go through the forum, just mail us. No such thing as a silly question. xx"
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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A collar and lead sounds good and you incorporate it into play however you want. I doubt anyone will get sniffy about it not having the same symbolism for you as it does in D/s. I have done collar and lead (not paraded round but for play while being watched) on a swinging night before in two clubs and really enjoyed it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A collar and lead sounds good and you incorporate it into play however you want. I doubt anyone will get sniffy about it not having the same symbolism for you as it does in D/s. I have done collar and lead (not paraded round but for play while being watched) on a swinging night before in two clubs and really enjoyed it. "
Oh ideal. Mrs likes playing sub atm so we thought it could be fun  |
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By *awkesWoman
over a year ago
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Awww don't feel silly for asking a question. I'm sure you'll have a great time and enjoy it how you wish. I can't think you'd be offending anyone.. and any D/s folk there enjoy their kink in their way too. To be honest I have never experienced and D/s assuming a collar was a target either...actually the opposite. A collared sub is a highly honoured, cared for submissive by One who truly deserves them and in no way would appear an easy target more like someone who's in the safety and protection of One they trust.
That aside.. hope you have an awesome night xx |
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By *mmag2bCouple
over a year ago
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I will be at xtasia on 29th (on my own) and on the 30th with my hubby. If you want a friendly face to chat to til you settle in then give me a shout. .. otherwise .. please please parade her pass me and please may i touch her!
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