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over a year ago
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The real trick is reading the guys responses...verbally or physically. But it does take practice. Slight twisting motion at the same time does it for me...but not too much! No-one likes a Chinese burn on their cock! |
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One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again. |
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"One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again. "
What time can i come around? |
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"One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again. "
Wow! This sounds amazing and I havent even got a cock!  Thanks lovely. Will be trying this xx |
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"I have many, amazing, sexual skills (Baha) However.... Handjobs are not amongst them!  Have never been confident about this, sounds daft but I can never get the rhythm right, never know how hard to grip while I'm doing it, never know how fast to go, how far up? Right to the end? Lmao. It's a complicated business and I hate being bad at stuff!  I'm a perfectionist! Lol. Any tips would be great guys xx"
I sort of know what you mean. I'm not always good at this, yet I should be fine as I know how I like it. But that is the thing, every guy is different.
So I would do as Imnoangel suggests and just have a nice relaxing session enjoying playing with it how you want. If you use oil or lube and aren't too rough then very few guys will complain and before long you'll find you've developed a rhythm.
You have an advantage over most in that you are visually very hot in the first place. If you were to talk dirty too I doubt many men will last too long. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Trust ne right op tie his hands and lube him up and use two fingers in an up ab down movement on his frenulum bring him to the brink nd stop then repeat.till he's leaking prespunk like mad.Don't give him an handhobvyou want to milk him keeo bringing him to that brink |
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Practice is the key, the problem is men have had years of practice, sometimes they practice, five six times a day, so you will have a lot to catch up on,but I'm sure you're get plenty of men offering to help out
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"The real trick is reading the guys responses...verbally or physically. But it does take practice. Slight twisting motion at the same time does it for me...but not too much! No-one likes a Chinese burn on their cock!"
The slight twist is the key
My wife has the action spot on.
She can milk a cock like a porn star..... |
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"One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again.
What time can i come around?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My problem with hand jobs is I just can't wait to get it in my mouth. Perhaps I look at it as a form of relaxation to  "
That's why I use baby oil. If I use cherry lube I'm tempted to suck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Dont worry i have only ever had 1 woman who has given me a good handjob. And by good i mean exceptional. I was so shocked i told her afterwards her handjob skill was soooo good she must have vagina hands..
Luckily we both had a similar sense of humor and she loved the term.. |
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"I have many, amazing, sexual skills (Baha) However.... Handjobs are not amongst them! Have never been confident about this, sounds daft but I can never get the rhythm right, never know how hard to grip while I'm doing it, never know how fast to go, how far up? Right to the end? Lmao. It's a complicated business and I hate being bad at stuff! I'm a perfectionist! Lol.
Any tips would be great guys xx"
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Ditto that that a thing I've never been too confidant at ha
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"My problem with hand jobs is I just can't wait to get it in my mouth. Perhaps I look at it as a form of relaxation to
That's why I use baby oil. If I use cherry lube I'm tempted to suck "
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This is my forte - I much prefer it to giving a BJ. I use lube and change the motion of my hand - I also use my other hand to play with the balls and perineum at the same time. I don't see it as a basic 'wank' but as a very erotic method of driving a bloke wild.
I once made at least 12 guys cum one after another in the dungeon at Abfabs just using my hands whilst Z watched. It was a lot of sexy fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Envisaging a pair of "masterclasses" offered by fab now.
One for the ladies to learn cock play and what turns each make partner on and one for the gents to learn to be sensual or the art of finding just the right spot/a for each individual partner.
Lets face it, it's true of both sexes and well done OP for asking for help in what your perceive to be your weakness.
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"I have many, amazing, sexual skills (Baha) However.... Handjobs are not amongst them! Have never been confident about this, sounds daft but I can never get the rhythm right, never know how hard to grip while I'm doing it, never know how fast to go, how far up? Right to the end? Lmao. It's a complicated business and I hate being bad at stuff! I'm a perfectionist! Lol. Any tips would be great guys xx"
. Different men will react differently and this may depend on the age of the.man concerned . I have witnessed a man come at a swingers club in Cap d Agde as soon as the lady touched him .
Your first priority might be to decide how quickly you want the man to come . Do you want to give a quickie or a prolonged one . Hard fast wanking will generally bring the matter to a conclusion so you may need to talk to the man to decide when is the appropriate point . If I am about to come I will pushh the ladies hands away .
As a start point it is nice to have your balls massaged with one hand while the other teases the head and runs hands up and down the shaft . Wanks can be slow and gentle or hard and fast .Massaging the head with both hands is also good .
There is probably no right or wrong technique .
The only problems I ever had were with ladies pulling the skin back so hard whenoing long hard wanks that it was painfull. I am usually able to bend forward as this released the pressure slightly in order to make it less painfully.
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Don't forget slight, gentle squeezing pressure- what what you're trying to mimic is the tightening of the pussy when a man is inside you. The thumb works best when it's over the top of the shaft....
I like having the pudenda (the area of flesh between arsehole and scrotum base ie a woman's pussy) licked at the same time as having my cock played with. |
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"I have many, amazing, sexual skills (Baha) However.... Handjobs are not amongst them! Have never been confident about this, sounds daft but I can never get the rhythm right, never know how hard to grip while I'm doing it, never know how fast to go, how far up? Right to the end? Lmao. It's a complicated business and I hate being bad at stuff! I'm a
perfectionist! Lol. Any tips would be great guys xx"
Its a tricky one no ones ever been successful with me they cant do it fast enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can't remember the last time anyone gave me a hand job. Before you get your violins out, most people seem to be more orally fixated. I'm not complaining. But a helping hand is always welcome! |
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There's no guide to a wank, every time is different, sometimes hard n fast, slow n gentle, banging the hand off the balls on down stroke, sometimes not involving the balls. Depending how the guy feels will determine how he's wanting wanked.
Mr here lol |
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Ok. Here is the ultimate. It's called the hand over hand. Think about it.... The penis gets the most pleasure on the "in stroke" This is the advantage the hands have over the vagina.
Place yourself below the penis. Between the legs as he lays back. Use a lube and plenty of it, warmed up on your hands. Assuming the member is hard use the hand in a down stroke (like you are rolling on a condom) as the hand passes the glands have the next hand do the same take the first hand and continue in a hand over hand fashion.
It's the most pleasure a penis can have. |
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"One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again. "
I do pretty much the same - but as a guy mentioned above - I use a slight twisting moment on the shaft too. Also fondle the guys balls with my other hand or teabag and - if he likes it- play with his arse with a lubricated finger too! X |
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"I'm rubbish at this, I never do handjobs for long enough. Lots of good advice though here  "
saw that one on a tv show where gay men have sex tips to straight women. My ex got on her knees with some Hand cream and did that we were shocked at how well it works. If guys could do it to themselves nothing would ever get done. |
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"One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again.
I do pretty much the same - but as a guy mentioned above - I use a slight twisting moment on the shaft too. Also fondle the guys balls with my other hand or teabag and - if he likes it- play with his arse with a lubricated finger too! X"
I'm on my way lol x |
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By *b586Couple
over a year ago
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I think the idea is to relax , like some others have said. Not really go for the end so much but enjoy it. This is easy for me as I truly enjoy pleasuring my partner and I don't want it to stop. I may start caressing thru the covers and feel him grow that way. Listening to him and feeling him move with me. Reading his body language is definitely priority.
Like some others my problem is I have a difficult time not jus popping his cock into my mouth once I've exposed it. I must stay in almost a meditative, relaxed state. I can play with him for hours teasing him, edging him.
Unfortunately, he usually grabs me and decides what happenes from there. So I don't usually finish it. But I could have like 10xs. I have too much fun enjoying myself .
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"I'm rubbish at this, I never do handjobs for long enough. Lots of good advice though here saw that one on a tv show where gay men have sex tips to straight women. My ex got on her knees with some Hand cream and did that we were shocked at how well it works. If guys could do it to themselves nothing would ever get done. "
The Sex Inspectors show is good too. The gay guy (I don't remember his name), shows the women how to give amazing handjobs |
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By *onnie55Man
over a year ago
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"One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again. "
To quote The Fast Show: 'I've just come..' |
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"One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again. "
Like she says! lubrication is a must. And as others have said, pay heed to his responses.....some men like a very hard squeeze others a gentler touch |
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"One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again.
I do pretty much the same - but as a guy mentioned above - I use a slight twisting moment on the shaft too. Also fondle the guys balls with my other hand or teabag and - if he likes it- play with his arse with a lubricated finger too! X"
Well this is an awkward hardon to have in the canteen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Excellent question. I'm circumcised so nice and gentle stroking rather than vigorous yanking up and down (ouch!) is most appreciated. And I'm sure the ladies have their preferences (as receivers) too? |
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"One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again.
I do pretty much the same - but as a guy mentioned above - I use a slight twisting moment on the shaft too. Also fondle the guys balls with my other hand or teabag and - if he likes it- play with his arse with a lubricated finger too! X
Well this is an awkward hardon to have in the canteen "
Well nip round here asap and I'll be happy to relieve the tension! |
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"I have many, amazing, sexual skills (Baha) However.... Handjobs are not amongst them! Have never been confident about this, sounds daft but I can never get the rhythm right, never know how hard to grip while I'm doing it, never know how fast to go, how far up? Right to the end? Lmao. It's a complicated business and I hate being bad at stuff! I'm a perfectionist! Lol. Any tips would be great guys xx"
There is no such thing as the right rhythm. Like women, all men require varying degrees of pressure and stimulus at different times throughout the milking process. We're all unique.
I wouldn't worry too much, to be honest. No woman has made me ejaculate from a hand-job alone, I'm sure I'm not the only one, either. |
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"One of my favourite,if not favourite,things to do to a man is play with his cock. I don't see it as a hand job,or wank. I oil up my hands and use it as a form of relaxation for myself. Lots of oil feels nice and one hand after the other. Gently squeezing to start and slowly,getting faster and firmer with the palms going over the head. Rub my thumbs on the tip and along the shaft. Some men will give hints on what they prefer but I generally do my own thing. Mix it up a bit,stop when he's close and let it calm down a bit,then start again.
Like she says! lubrication is a must. And as others have said, pay heed to his responses.....some men like a very hard squeeze others a gentler touch "
Generally speaking if you're getting started and the penis is semi-flaccid, you can be a bit rougher... as it stiffens and grows fully erect, be a bit more deliberate.
Roughly speaking, of course.
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"Pussy" is so brilliant at this and "Prick" now understands the reasoning behind the well used expression "If you find a woman who gives you amazing hand-jobs . . . marry her!" |
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Don't do it facing him...the hand angle and direction is wrong. I sit to his left side...using right hand, just as he would. Kiss his neck etc, snuggle in close...learn his breathing then u can read what he needs. Vocal encouragement....as he's about to cum...aim where he wants |
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"Don't do it facing him...the hand angle and direction is wrong. I sit to his left side...using right hand, just as he would. Kiss his neck etc, snuggle in close...learn his breathing then u can read what he needs. Vocal encouragement....as he's about to cum...aim where he wants"
You could do it anyway you wanted lol |
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it really has to be personal taste of the man your touching surely?
It's all in the reaction to what your doing
ask them directly or ask them to wank whilst you watch ...best of both worlds right there |
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"Ok. Here is the ultimate. It's called the hand over hand. Think about it.... The penis gets the most pleasure on the "in stroke" This is the advantage the hands have over the vagina.
Place yourself below the penis. Between the legs as he lays back. Use a lube and plenty of it, warmed up on your hands. Assuming the member is hard use the hand in a down stroke (like you are rolling on a condom) as the hand passes the glands have the next hand do the same take the first hand and continue in a hand over hand fashion.
It's the most pleasure a penis can have. "
I do that but it does depend on the guy and the mood he's in at the time. x |
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Lube helps don't worry a lot of women ain't that good at hand jobs, I don't mean to sound horrible. It's true though it's only because men are experts at it lol |
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"I have many, amazing, sexual skills (Baha) However.... Handjobs are not amongst them! Have never been confident about this, sounds daft but I can never get the rhythm right, never know how hard to grip while I'm doing it, never know how fast to go, how far up? Right to the end? Lmao. It's a complicated business and I hate being bad at stuff! I'm a perfectionist! Lol. Any tips would be great guys xx"
Hi BooKitty.
Apparently I wank backwards but the sensation is great and the orgasms can be so poweful.
My advice would be to use a lube,a little bit of cocont nut oil,olive oil or vaseline works a trick
Use both hands. With the fry hand pull the foreskin back and gently hold the base of the cock just above the balls.
You will feel the blood rushing into the penis and will feel the hard cock literally becoming rigid when the man is ready to cum
With your other hand hold the cock by making a ring using just your thumb and first finger.
Slowly rub you 'finger ring',applying a little pressure up the cock and over the helmet. When you get to the top,loosen your grip and just brush against the skin on the downward stroke.
An erection is full of blood and imagine that you are trying to push all of that blood into the helmet (a bit like squeezing the air into the tip of the balloon)
A mans helmet is really sensative and you should make him feel every caress so dont rush and stay in control.
You will your hand passing over the ridge between the helmet and shaft and the more blood that you push into the helmet the bigger the ridge will become and the more sensative the sensation he will feel.
You can start to use you hole hand. gripping him firmly but not too tightly on the upward stroke and loosening your grip to gently caress it down.
Talk dirty yo h I him,compliment him on his cock,tell him how hard it feels and play with his mind.
Tell him that you will want to feel it inside you later and ask him if he wants to to fuck you,to put his cock inside your pussy but be firm and tell him that if he must show you just how much he wants you first by cuming for you.
As you tease him,tell him that you want him to spunk,that you want to make him cum,to see him shoot his load.
Play with his mind and tell him that you want him to cum for you,that you want him to spunk and to release his load but dont rush.
When a man is ready to cum he feels a pleasurable pain. Its a pain that every man craves as his hard cock literally becomes rigid and as his pulsating throbbing helmet becomes so swollen that it literally feels as if its going to burst.
If he was fucking you, he would fuck you harder to make himself cum and the chances are that he will now start to fuck you hand.
Again dont rush,stay in control and just tell him to cum and to spunk for you.
Watch his balls beginning to heave and prepare yourself to keep wanking when starts to cum so that you can milk four five big spurts out of his cock
Have fun and swap hands if you get tired.
Ooh and dont forget your playing with his mind as well as his cock so a little bit of cleavage and a flash of stocking will do a lot more for his arousal than your naked body
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Be careful with the bloody thing!! 
