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Hi we are a cpl fairly new to this site but been swinging for a few years ,so not newbys.
There is not much we haven't tried and enjoyed ,but one thing that has intruqued us both over the years is dabbling with a cuckold lifestyle ,
Have had a few varied opinions on how it's suppose to be done ,some we like and some we don't .
One thing we are divided on is ,some say a proper cuckold partner needs to be with a black bull as a partner ( which is what I'd like to try ) but my husband says it's not true and says it can be a male of any race.
Obviously we understand cuckhold is a step on from the regular and we accept that and are happy to commit to it.
What we don't quite understand is if I take on a bull as a regular partner for myself and I'm in fact shared by both him and my husband ,without the involvement of any of the husband humiliation,stuff is this still classed as a cuckhold relationship !!
Any views or opinions would help please ,as I'm keen to try this.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It does not have to be a black Bull. But ask ten people and get eleven answers! lol
I would say THE most important thing is keep within agreed limits. The Cuck might enjoy one level of the lifestyle, but the 'next step' might just be the thing that breaks the relationship! Seen it happen to some nice couples.
It's a standard thing in sub/Dom relationships. Who really is in control?
Not as easy to say as you might think!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi
Phoenix is entirely right!
the essence of a cuckold relationship is the usurping of the husband as the 'alpha male'. This can be on a temporary basis or something more long term and has nothing to do with the ethnicity of the 'bull'
Play can take lots of different forms as well, so in the past when I have been the 'bull' for one couple, hubby was always tied to a chair in the corner and a D/s scene was happening between his F partner and myself. All had been very carefully negotiated first and very strict rules and boundaries put in place so everyone got what they wanted from the play and no-one offended.
You both have to have a clear idea of what you want, then find the appropriate bull who is prepared to deliver, within YOUR boundaries, no compromise...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, less than half cuckold situations involve any humiliation and it's doesn't interest me one bit either!
The 'bull' (hate that term) can be black, white, yellow or green with pink spots. Whatever your preferences are... |
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By *inups99Couple
over a year ago
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Good replies and sound advice - the extent of the relationship is entirely down to you but probably falls somewhere on the cuckold spectrum which runs from total humiliation and dominance of the 'bull' to simply enjoying watching your wife having another man. |
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yes every couple is different explore yer limits tocether black is good for us also we have had white bulls hubby likes to be told how big they feel compared to his but will not do creampie each couple different i have had lots of bulls and hubby only alllowed oral contact for months at a time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The thing to watch out for (IMHO), is humiliating the cuck in the wrong way or too much. This is where what seems like a 'bit of fun' can have disastrous consequences on a relationship. The cuck might feel humiliated sexually but NEVER as a person. Remember it is meant to be for pleasure of ALL parties! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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@ Phoenix
"The cuck might feel humiliated sexually but NEVER as a person"
Hi, I do have to take issue with you there Phoenix. That is a matter for negotiation and yes becomes very much fetish play and possibly a little heavy duty for a more general swinging forum.
In the past I have done such play where the husband is 'sissy' , made to be maid (fetch, carry, clean up etc) and one time where objectification came into it and the cuck was simply the 'footstool' for me whilst his wife entertained me.
The range of scenarios are vast and yes personal humiliation might well come into it...during the scene. If the couple themselves have a 24/7 dynamic it may well be appropriate outside of the scene as well!
its all about communication, communication and even more communication! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"@ Phoenix
"The cuck might feel humiliated sexually but NEVER as a person"
Hi, I do have to take issue with you there Phoenix. That is a matter for negotiation and yes becomes very much fetish play and possibly a little heavy duty for a more general swinging forum.
In the past I have done such play where the husband is 'sissy' , made to be maid (fetch, carry, clean up etc) and one time where objectification came into it and the cuck was simply the 'footstool' for me whilst his wife entertained me.
The range of scenarios are vast and yes personal humiliation might well come into it...during the scene. If the couple themselves have a 24/7 dynamic it may well be appropriate outside of the scene as well!
its all about communication, communication and even more communication!"
Agreed. BUT there is a point (which is dif for each person), that must not be crossed. As you say that comes down to communication GOOD communication. I have seen many times where the humiliation gets out of hand and what was for sexual pleasure, turns to resentment and anger. What I am saying is that it is very easy to go beyond the agreed limits in the heat of the moment. Especially with non experienced bulls.
This is where is it so important to keep to agreed limits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"@ ShagTonight
It is a power exchange and very much a state of mind.
Physical appearance is just that, it may be a preference, it may be not."
That is a good point and yeah it might be a preference for some or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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@ Phoenix
Exactly right, The bull must never threaten the sanctity of the relationship and, sadly, I have known self styled bulls do just that in the past. The bull is the 3rd party and need to remember they are their to provide gratification to the couple(in whatever form that takes)
To Jane (OP) I hope we are not over-complicating things but do some 'due diligence' on potential bulls!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It does not have to be a black Bull. But ask ten people and get eleven answers! lol
I would say THE most important thing is keep within agreed limits. The Cuck might enjoy one level of the lifestyle, but the 'next step' might just be the thing that breaks the relationship! Seen it happen to some nice couples.
It's a standard thing in sub/Dom relationships. Who really is in control?
Not as easy to say as you might think!
xxxx"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is still cuckolding, humiliation in any form is not required. Seeing your wife being fucked by a bull is real humiliation for a cuck  "
Ever heard of the personal porn star preference? |
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"It is still cuckolding, humiliation in any form is not required. Seeing your wife being fucked by a bull is real humiliation for a cuck
Ever heard of the personal porn star preference? "
Never... Tell me more please... |
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"It is still cuckolding, humiliation in any form is not required. Seeing your wife being fucked by a bull is real humiliation for a cuck
Ever heard of the personal porn star preference?
Never... Tell me more please..."
In survey studies of cuckolds, just over half of men responded that they liked cuckolding because it was like have a "personal porn star". This was the most popular response with the second most popular being humiliation. However the responses were largely seperate meaning those who liked having a personal porn star weren't really interested in humiliation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds more to us that a hotwife situation would be a better place for you to start. You get to play with (bull of any colour) no humiliation and your other half gets to watch you enjoy. This can then be taken step by step to cuckolding if its what you guys want. All depends really on how far you want to go and what your aim/end goal is. Whichever way you decide have fun with it, if at any stage it begins to feel awkward or wrong it usually is |
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"It is still cuckolding, humiliation in any form is not required. Seeing your wife being fucked by a bull is real humiliation for a cuck
Ever heard of the personal porn star preference?
Never... Tell me more please...
In survey studies of cuckolds, just over half of men responded that they liked cuckolding because it was like have a "personal porn star". This was the most popular response with the second most popular being humiliation. However the responses were largely seperate meaning those who liked having a personal porn star weren't really interested in humiliation."
So bull is the 'personal porn star'...tend to agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Dont over think it.
The definition of a 'Cuckold' is a man with an unfaithful wife.
So that just requires marriage and being unfaithful... the challenge on this site is that many do not consider swingers as being unfaithful.
The only real UK legal test to that is in the divorce laws. They state you are unfaithful if you have penetrative sex with the opposite sex... so not if same sex.
But popular culture and fashion (porn) often combines several fetishes into the genre that are options. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What you decide to do is something for discussion between you, your husband and whoever it is that you invite to join your relationship. For some the ultimate cuckolding is to take a black lover but colour of their skin shouldn't matter just can they offer you something that you can't already get from your husband like a bigger cock, more intense orgasms or dirtier sex. Whether you then decide to deny your husband sex over this alpha male or make him earn his time or carry on as normal when your lovers not available is up to whatever you guys are comfortable with. The main thing husband must be prepared to handle is that as a cuck joining in to have sex with you while bull is present is a no-no until they've done it together. He's going to be center of attention for her although he might be happy for husband to watch and get involved in other ways. |
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A Dominants strength is not in the size of his/her muscles or the size of anything else. Just like it is not in the colour of his or her skin.
I agree with the above poster though. Why not go for a hot wife type scenario and move on from there if you choose to.
Any sort of fetishism scenario is what you as the participants want it to be, call it whatever you want labels at the end don't mean jack anyway.
Through communication, stating boundaries and agreement all participants can find something that works for then. Then worry about what to call it
Thing is finding three or more people prepared to be that honest and open.... that's not so easy lol
Good luck sexies... |
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By *olgateMan
over a year ago
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You sound like you might be more into the hotwife scenario rather than cuck. Ie: enjoying but without any humiliation.
Cuck can range from knowing the wife is with another lover right up to inserting the Bulls penis into the wife and cleaning up the bull afterwards.
Hope this helps.
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Thank you all for the great replays ,that have been very helpful in pointing a few things out for us.
I think we can safely say we are in the hotwife catagory.
Although I would very much like to enter into somthing more long term with somone
Dick is very much into watching and sharing me with another ,where as I very much enjoy being watched by him as I'm with another .
Engaging in somthing long term and more trustworthy will allow us to experiment with fun and fantasies we would not normally otherwise practice in a 1-2-1 meet.
Thanks again xx |
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