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Three months, three replies.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey everyone.
I'm not going to lie I'm a total amateur and pretty inexperienced within this whole scene but I've been dabbling in and off with this site for about three months. Today is the first time I've looked to use the forums and start to post. Previously I've just been private messaging people and have honestly had about three replies which have led to nothing at all. Where am I going wrong here? |
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Hey Ferris!
This site doesn't guarantee instant sex. Intact, it doesn't guarentee sex.
Your success/failure totally has to do with the way you market yourself. It's a great idea just to make friends with ladies on here - do not see them as sex objects.
There are a couple of things which could be improved on your profile.
Your text, is ok for the most part, but I'd remove anything which draws attention to how good you are. I.e. "I can make people laugh.", etc.
Don't use the profile to say how good you are, that's not what women want. They want you to entertain them; show them how fun, exciting or interesting you are.
Your photos aren't right either in my opinion. Never have cock pic as the first pic and never show an overly posed photo. Just try to take a normal photo. Six pack is fine but don't emphasise it. Make it look as though you aren't aware of your six pack.
Smile in your face pic and have all of your pics in light, clean backgrounds.
Messages... Basically, don't shoe any sexual interest in women. Just befriend them. If they like you. They will show hints, then and only then should you make a move.
Jeez, there are too many secrets in here. But anyway!!!
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey Ferris!
This site doesn't guarantee instant sex. Intact, it doesn't guarentee sex.
Your success/failure totally has to do with the way you market yourself. It's a great idea just to make friends with ladies on here - do not see them as sex objects.
There are a couple of things which could be improved on your profile.
Your text, is ok for the most part, but I'd remove anything which draws attention to how good you are. I.e. "I can make people laugh.", etc.
Don't use the profile to say how good you are, that's not what women want. They want you to entertain them; show them how fun, exciting or interesting you are.
Your photos aren't right either in my opinion. Never have cock pic as the first pic and never show an overly posed photo. Just try to take a normal photo. Six pack is fine but don't emphasise it. Make it look as though you aren't aware of your six pack.
Smile in your face pic and have all of your pics in light, clean backgrounds.
Messages... Basically, don't shoe any sexual interest in women. Just befriend them. If they like you. They will show hints, then and only then should you make a move.
Jeez, there are too many secrets in here. But anyway!!!
Good luck!"
Jesus! You are officially crowned 'Fabdoctor'!!
Great advice which the rest of us are sick of repeating - maybe you should do this full time?  |
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"Hey Ferris!
This site doesn't guarantee instant sex. Intact, it doesn't guarentee sex.
Your success/failure totally has to do with the way you market yourself. It's a great idea just to make friends with ladies on here - do not see them as sex objects.
There are a couple of things which could be improved on your profile.
Your text, is ok for the most part, but I'd remove anything which draws attention to how good you are. I.e. "I can make people laugh.", etc.
Don't use the profile to say how good you are, that's not what women want. They want you to entertain them; show them how fun, exciting or interesting you are.
Your photos aren't right either in my opinion. Never have cock pic as the first pic and never show an overly posed photo. Just try to take a normal photo. Six pack is fine but don't emphasise it. Make it look as though you aren't aware of your six pack.
Smile in your face pic and have all of your pics in light, clean backgrounds.
Messages... Basically, don't shoe any sexual interest in women. Just befriend them. If they like you. They will show hints, then and only then should you make a move.
Jeez, there are too many secrets in here. But anyway!!!
Good luck!
Jesus! You are officially crowned 'Fabdoctor'!!
Great advice which the rest of us are sick of repeating - maybe you should do this full time? "
Are you taking the piss? Haha! |
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"I must admit I was a bit overwhelmed By the whole site initially so I will try and get to know people rather than be a sex hungry weirdo lol. "
It's normal for new guys to think like that.
Ladies like you to be sex hungry... But just don't tell them that until the right time! |
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"It's strange. The only approaches I've had is ones I'm not looking for and that's from the males. Lol."
You can get approaches from women but you have to give them a reason to approach you. Just basically take your balls off each time you come on the site! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Milf club? Sounds decent!!! I'm afraid I work full time so things like that on a week day are off the cards at the moment.  I really do want to go to a club if some sort but honestly wouldn't know where to start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Milf club? Sounds decent!!! I'm afraid I work full time so things like that on a week day are off the cards at the moment. I really do want to go to a club if some sort but honestly wouldn't know where to start."
Treat it like a night out.
I know this place, and swinging, is sex based but it's basically normal people doing normal things and some sex thrown in if they fancy you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey Ferris!
This site doesn't guarantee instant sex. Intact, it doesn't guarentee sex.
Your success/failure totally has to do with the way you market yourself. It's a great idea just to make friends with ladies on here - do not see them as sex objects.
There are a couple of things which could be improved on your profile.
Your text, is ok for the most part, but I'd remove anything which draws attention to how good you are. I.e. "I can make people laugh.", etc.
Don't use the profile to say how good you are, that's not what women want. They want you to entertain them; show them how fun, exciting or interesting you are.
Your photos aren't right either in my opinion. Never have cock pic as the first pic and never show an overly posed photo. Just try to take a normal photo. Six pack is fine but don't emphasise it. Make it look as though you aren't aware of your six pack.
Smile in your face pic and have all of your pics in light, clean backgrounds.
Messages... Basically, don't shoe any sexual interest in women. Just befriend them. If they like you. They will show hints, then and only then should you make a move.
Jeez, there are too many secrets in here. But anyway!!!
Good luck!
Jesus! You are officially crowned 'Fabdoctor'!!
Great advice which the rest of us are sick of repeating - maybe you should do this full time?
Are you taking the piss? Haha!"
No!! Meant every word ! |
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Your pics are good and your text puts you across nicely If we were reading it, I think we'd like to know a bit about what brought you to fab and what you're looking for specifically.
Being open to anything is great but some people (such as ourselves) are looking for some common ground when it comes to swinging ambitions.
Maybe put something in the text about an experience that made you interested in swinging? Or a fantasy? Something that someone could identify with and continue a conversation with.
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Your pics are good and your text puts you across nicely If we were reading it, I think we'd like to know a bit about what brought you to fab and what you're looking for specifically.
Being open to anything is great but some people (such as ourselves) are looking for some common ground when it comes to swinging ambitions.
Maybe put something in the text about an experience that made you interested in swinging? Or a fantasy? Something that someone could identify with and continue a conversation with.
Good luck! "
Very kind and helpful words. Thank you! |
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