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"Morning X I'm really unsure whether this site is for me?. I've been on and off for over 2 years. Anyway I met a bloke a few weeks back and we hit it off and talked about seeing each other often. He's now gone in a man huff and told me he doesn't want to see me anymore because I meet other men
Shit...I really fancied him too "He's the one with the wrong idea about the site, not you. You'll find it easier to get meets than he will so forget him and move on. | |||
"Morning X I'm really unsure whether this site is for me?. I've been on and off for over 2 years. Anyway I met a bloke a few weeks back and we hit it off and talked about seeing each other often. He's now gone in a man huff and told me he doesn't want to see me anymore because I meet other men
Shit...I really fancied him too
He's the one with the wrong idea about the site, not you.
You'll find it easier to get meets than he will so forget him and move on."Did the OP meet him on here though as its not clear from her post? | |||
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"Morning X I'm really unsure whether this site is for me?. I've been on and off for over 2 years. Anyway I met a bloke a few weeks back and we hit it off and talked about seeing each other often. He's now gone in a man huff and told me he doesn't want to see me anymore because I meet other men
Shit...I really fancied him too "When I'm chatting with someone on here who I seem to be getting on with I say quite early on that I don't expect anyone to be exclusive. That way they know and can decide if they want to continue chatting or not. I'm sure you'll find someone else on here. Better that you find out sooner that he is liable to have a 'man huff' (great phrase btw). That's probably not something you're looking for. | |||
"Morning X I'm really unsure whether this site is for me?. I've been on and off for over 2 years. Anyway I met a bloke a few weeks back and we hit it off and talked about seeing each other often. He's now gone in a man huff and told me he doesn't want to see me anymore because I meet other men
Shit...I really fancied him too "Depends what you want, if its a relationship with him then stop seeing men. If its a relationship but still swing, then this guy not for you | |||
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"He's all I'd want in a relationship without commitment. I'd like to see him more but can't go back to 1 on 1. Fuck he was a great shag too "He doesn't want the same as you. It wouldn't work. | |||
"He's all I'd want in a relationship without commitment. I'd like to see him more but can't go back to 1 on 1. Fuck he was a great shag too
He doesn't want the same as you. It wouldn't work."Don't understand why he's on a site like this. Never mind, I'll keep seeking a fbuddie who does want the same 
Thanks everyone xx | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards!" Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? | |||
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"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? " When he held my throat during sex (not hard) telling me I was his, I thought he was playing  | |||
"He's all I'd want in a relationship without commitment. I'd like to see him more but can't go back to 1 on 1. Fuck he was a great shag too "Then theres your answer | |||
"Did he want to give up seeing others too? Or was the expected exclusivity to be all on your side?" No, he received a veri a few days later. That's what I don't get? | |||
"He's all I'd want in a relationship without commitment. I'd like to see him more but can't go back to 1 on 1. Fuck he was a great shag too
He doesn't want the same as you. It wouldn't work.
Don't understand why he's on a site like this. Never mind, I'll keep seeking a fbuddie who does want the same
Thanks everyone xx"Maybe he joined not expecting to develop feelings for anyone | |||
"He's all I'd want in a relationship without commitment. I'd like to see him more but can't go back to 1 on 1. Fuck he was a great shag too
He doesn't want the same as you. It wouldn't work.
Don't understand why he's on a site like this. Never mind, I'll keep seeking a fbuddie who does want the same
Thanks everyone xx
Maybe he joined not expecting to develop feelings for anyone "It's not that, he has met 20+ times. Not like he's a novice swinger. I only met him once! He rings me now & then asking questions. I tell the truth then he goes all stroppy again. | |||
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"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? " How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession | |||
"I thought this was a swinging site... "People can use this site how they choose | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession " Well said... and as per previous quote above.. the man is not for op.. one could say is this site for op. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession " Which would appear to be exactly the case according to the OPs answer to my first question... | |||
"Did he want to give up seeing others too? Or was the expected exclusivity to be all on your side? No, he received a veri a few days later. That's what I don't get? " Before meeting my now hubby had a fb who was same from a different more extreme site. He wanted to shag everybody, but I wasnt allowed to as he regarded me as "property".... He was a good shag, but I didnt want to be resticted and that just after my divorce - end up in a "bye" and a move on from me...and winning lottery with my now hubby | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession " He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair | |||
"He's all I'd want in a relationship without commitment. I'd like to see him more but can't go back to 1 on 1. Fuck he was a great shag too
He doesn't want the same as you. It wouldn't work.
Don't understand why he's on a site like this. Never mind, I'll keep seeking a fbuddie who does want the same
Thanks everyone xx
Maybe he joined not expecting to develop feelings for anyone
It's not that, he has met 20+ times. Not like he's a novice swinger. I only met him once! He rings me now & then asking questions. I tell the truth then he goes all stroppy again."And? Not being a novice swinger doesn't mean people don't develop feelings for others, what exactly has he asked you for? | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair" And what was his response when you pointed that out | |||
"I thought this was a swinging site...
People can use this site how they choose"And whats your point. I didnt say anything about how people use this site! Ultimatley this is a swinging site | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair" Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... | |||
"I thought this was a swinging site...
People can use this site how they choose
And whats your point. I didnt say anything about how people use this site! Ultimatley this is a swinging site"You said "thought this was a swinging site" Fundamentally it was set up to be one, however more and more people sign up now that don't swing. So my point is, this site is for however people wish to use it, swinging or otherwise | |||
"He's all I'd want in a relationship without commitment. I'd like to see him more but can't go back to 1 on 1. Fuck he was a great shag too
He doesn't want the same as you. It wouldn't work.
Don't understand why he's on a site like this. Never mind, I'll keep seeking a fbuddie who does want the same
Thanks everyone xx
Maybe he joined not expecting to develop feelings for anyone
It's not that, he has met 20+ times. Not like he's a novice swinger. I only met him once! He rings me now & then asking questions. I tell the truth then he goes all stroppy again.
And? Not being a novice swinger doesn't mean people don't develop feelings for others, what exactly has he asked you for?"He hasn't asked for anything, just stated he doesn't want to see me whilst I'm seeing others. I met him once though. Feelings? Really? | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair" Just out of curiosity, but no real relevance, how does he know you see others, you don't display verifications or summary, so he wouldn't know from looking purely at your profile that you've met others. | |||
"He's all I'd want in a relationship without commitment. I'd like to see him more but can't go back to 1 on 1. Fuck he was a great shag too
He doesn't want the same as you. It wouldn't work.
Don't understand why he's on a site like this. Never mind, I'll keep seeking a fbuddie who does want the same
Thanks everyone xx
Maybe he joined not expecting to develop feelings for anyone
It's not that, he has met 20+ times. Not like he's a novice swinger. I only met him once! He rings me now & then asking questions. I tell the truth then he goes all stroppy again.
And? Not being a novice swinger doesn't mean people don't develop feelings for others, what exactly has he asked you for?
He hasn't asked for anything, just stated he doesn't want to see me whilst I'm seeing others. I met him once though. Feelings? Really? "Ive seen people on here meet once and go on to have relationships, granted, other than one couple most of those relationships didn't last the course, so yes, some can develop feelings for people they meet | |||
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"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair And what was his response when you pointed that out" I didn't mention it. I wasn't getting into that. I just messaged back 'OK, take care'. He still rings me though asking questions. I don't question him, it's none of my business who he meets | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Just out of curiosity, but no real relevance, how does he know you see others, you don't display verifications or summary, so he wouldn't know from looking purely at your profile that you've met others." Hi, I've only recently hidden my veri's. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet..." Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. | |||
"Morning X I'm really unsure whether this site is for me?. I've been on and off for over 2 years. Anyway I met a bloke a few weeks back and we hit it off and talked about seeing each other often. He's now gone in a man huff and told me he doesn't want to see me anymore because I meet other men
Shit...I really fancied him too "I guess looking at this from the mans point of _iew when meeting more regular was suggested maybe he thought this meant a relationship therefore was expecting you to give up meeting others. Was he prepared to stop meeting other people? if not then that is extremely unfair to say the least. But to answer you original question, no it is certainly him not you or the site | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair And what was his response when you pointed that out I didn't mention it. I wasn't getting into that. I just messaged back 'OK, take care'. He still rings me though asking questions. I don't question him, it's none of my business who he meets " And do you tell him its none of his business who he meets? It comes across to me as you like the attention this man is giving, you say you have messaged saying ok, take care, then you also say your still communicating and answering his questions. Why would you still be communicating with someone that you have said in above posts is not for you as you don't want exclusivity. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets." I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. | |||
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"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair And what was his response when you pointed that out I didn't mention it. I wasn't getting into that. I just messaged back 'OK, take care'. He still rings me though asking questions. I don't question him, it's none of my business who he meets " I would block him and stop any further communication with him. He is still trying to exert some form of control by continuing to ensure that he is a part of your life in some way. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair And what was his response when you pointed that out I didn't mention it. I wasn't getting into that. I just messaged back 'OK, take care'. He still rings me though asking questions. I don't question him, it's none of my business who he meets And do you tell him its none of his business who he meets? It comes across to me as you like the attention this man is giving, you say you have messaged saying ok, take care, then you also say your still communicating and answering his questions. Why would you still be communicating with someone that you have said in above posts is not for you as you don't want exclusivity. " Because I still do like him. I don't have feelings for him but would still see him | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. " My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession Well said... and as per previous quote above.. the man is not for op.. one could say is this site for op." I would somewhat agree | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. " I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. " OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? " He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
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"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
"If some guy said this to me I'd reply are you doing the same. Also you say you want him to accept you are someone that meets others, if thats the case why hide who you meet from him. It, to me anyway, comes across as you like him more than you are letting on, that you've hidden verifications, maybe to appear as though not meeting others, so you put yourself in a better stance with him. These are all maybes, just my thoughts and how I have processed them from this thread. I just know if it was me, and a bloke said that to me, i would say the exact same back, will you no longer be meeting others? If i wanted to see a guy again but equally have him accept who I am, i wouldn't start amending my profile or hiding things such as verifications on my profile | |||
"I enjoy going to clubs and parties - he doesn't. He'd be perfect for 1 on 1 meets. Cuddles and kisses, chilling together. Guess I need to accept its not going to happen. " It could just be an excuse rather than saying the real reason . I suggest talking to him and actually asking him if that's the real reason . Perhaps even suggest that you go as couple , | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
If some guy said this to me I'd reply are you doing the same.
Also you say you want him to accept you are someone that meets others, if thats the case why hide who you meet from him.
It, to me anyway, comes across as you like him more than you are letting on, that you've hidden verifications, maybe to appear as though not meeting others, so you put yourself in a better stance with him.
These are all maybes, just my thoughts and how I have processed them from this thread.
I just know if it was me, and a bloke said that to me, i would say the exact same back, will you no longer be meeting others? If i wanted to see a guy again but equally have him accept who I am, i wouldn't start amending my profile or hiding things such as verifications on my profile"I'm honest with him when he contacts me. I've hidden my veri's as he messaged some of the couples. (They told me). To be honest I just want his cock. Plain and simple. No hassle sex. | |||
"I enjoy going to clubs and parties - he doesn't. He'd be perfect for 1 on 1 meets. Cuddles and kisses, chilling together. Guess I need to accept its not going to happen. It could just be an excuse rather than saying the real reason . I suggest talking to him and actually asking him if that's the real reason . Perhaps even suggest that you go as couple , " Surely he'd block me though or cut contact if there was another reason? He's told me I can go back once I stop sleeping with others. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
If some guy said this to me I'd reply are you doing the same.
Also you say you want him to accept you are someone that meets others, if thats the case why hide who you meet from him.
It, to me anyway, comes across as you like him more than you are letting on, that you've hidden verifications, maybe to appear as though not meeting others, so you put yourself in a better stance with him.
These are all maybes, just my thoughts and how I have processed them from this thread.
I just know if it was me, and a bloke said that to me, i would say the exact same back, will you no longer be meeting others? If i wanted to see a guy again but equally have him accept who I am, i wouldn't start amending my profile or hiding things such as verifications on my profile
I'm honest with him when he contacts me. I've hidden my veri's as he messaged some of the couples. (They told me).
To be honest I just want his cock. Plain and simple. No hassle sex. "OP why do you seem reluctant to ask this man the same as he has suggested to you. He wants you not to meet others, I'm not saying for one second you have to agree to that, but why aren't you so keen to ask him if he also plans to do the same, not meet others, should you say yes to his suggestion. | |||
"Morning X I'm really unsure whether this site is for me?. I've been on and off for over 2 years. Anyway I met a bloke a few weeks back and we hit it off and talked about seeing each other often. He's now gone in a man huff and told me he doesn't want to see me anymore because I meet other men
Shit...I really fancied him too "Hope he is comfortable in his cave | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
"No - he is selfish and a hypocrite for making you feel bad for continuing to use the site how you want...yet he's not prepared to make the same concessions? Any man who wants sole possession of a woman after one meet sounds like trouble...I'd tell him to mind his own business and do one!  | |||
"I enjoy going to clubs and parties - he doesn't. He'd be perfect for 1 on 1 meets. Cuddles and kisses, chilling together. Guess I need to accept its not going to happen. It could just be an excuse rather than saying the real reason . I suggest talking to him and actually asking him if that's the real reason . Perhaps even suggest that you go as couple , Surely he'd block me though or cut contact if there was another reason? He's told me I can go back once I stop sleeping with others. " Some men would rather say something else is the reason , rather than say something that they feel would be deeply hurtful. He is probably worried that when he gets there he won't perform etc etc etc May be worried that you will enjoy sex with someone else more etc etc men have a lot more going on in their head than any woman thinks we Do . And sometimes we do think with our brain . If you like him take a break and see how it goes . What's a month without going to a club or party , compared to a lifetime of happiness | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
If some guy said this to me I'd reply are you doing the same.
Also you say you want him to accept you are someone that meets others, if thats the case why hide who you meet from him.
It, to me anyway, comes across as you like him more than you are letting on, that you've hidden verifications, maybe to appear as though not meeting others, so you put yourself in a better stance with him.
These are all maybes, just my thoughts and how I have processed them from this thread.
I just know if it was me, and a bloke said that to me, i would say the exact same back, will you no longer be meeting others? If i wanted to see a guy again but equally have him accept who I am, i wouldn't start amending my profile or hiding things such as verifications on my profile
I'm honest with him when he contacts me. I've hidden my veri's as he messaged some of the couples. (They told me).
To be honest I just want his cock. Plain and simple. No hassle sex.
OP why do you seem reluctant to ask this man the same as he has suggested to you. He wants you not to meet others, I'm not saying for one second you have to agree to that, but why aren't you so keen to ask him if he also plans to do the same, not meet others, should you say yes to his suggestion."Simply because I can't make a promise to the man that I can't keep. As I've said, I enjoy clubs and parties which I'm not willing to give up. I don't want to question him. I don't want to start off false hopes. | |||
"I enjoy going to clubs and parties - he doesn't. He'd be perfect for 1 on 1 meets. Cuddles and kisses, chilling together. Guess I need to accept its not going to happen. It could just be an excuse rather than saying the real reason . I suggest talking to him and actually asking him if that's the real reason . Perhaps even suggest that you go as couple , Surely he'd block me though or cut contact if there was another reason? He's told me I can go back once I stop sleeping with others. " Go back where? To his? Why would he block a woman if he has developed feelings? We don't know if he has or hadn't as we only hear your side of this. Maybe during your chats you could point him towards this thread in order we hear his side to | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
If some guy said this to me I'd reply are you doing the same.
Also you say you want him to accept you are someone that meets others, if thats the case why hide who you meet from him.
It, to me anyway, comes across as you like him more than you are letting on, that you've hidden verifications, maybe to appear as though not meeting others, so you put yourself in a better stance with him.
These are all maybes, just my thoughts and how I have processed them from this thread.
I just know if it was me, and a bloke said that to me, i would say the exact same back, will you no longer be meeting others? If i wanted to see a guy again but equally have him accept who I am, i wouldn't start amending my profile or hiding things such as verifications on my profile
I'm honest with him when he contacts me. I've hidden my veri's as he messaged some of the couples. (They told me).
To be honest I just want his cock. Plain and simple. No hassle sex.
OP why do you seem reluctant to ask this man the same as he has suggested to you. He wants you not to meet others, I'm not saying for one second you have to agree to that, but why aren't you so keen to ask him if he also plans to do the same, not meet others, should you say yes to his suggestion.
Simply because I can't make a promise to the man that I can't keep. As I've said, I enjoy clubs and parties which I'm not willing to give up. I don't want to question him. I don't want to start off false hopes.
"By asking him a question you aren't making a promise, you are gaining information to make a better judged decision | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
If some guy said this to me I'd reply are you doing the same.
Also you say you want him to accept you are someone that meets others, if thats the case why hide who you meet from him.
It, to me anyway, comes across as you like him more than you are letting on, that you've hidden verifications, maybe to appear as though not meeting others, so you put yourself in a better stance with him.
These are all maybes, just my thoughts and how I have processed them from this thread.
I just know if it was me, and a bloke said that to me, i would say the exact same back, will you no longer be meeting others? If i wanted to see a guy again but equally have him accept who I am, i wouldn't start amending my profile or hiding things such as verifications on my profile
I'm honest with him when he contacts me. I've hidden my veri's as he messaged some of the couples. (They told me).
To be honest I just want his cock. Plain and simple. No hassle sex. "He messaged your meets??? And you still want to see him???  | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
If some guy said this to me I'd reply are you doing the same.
Also you say you want him to accept you are someone that meets others, if thats the case why hide who you meet from him.
It, to me anyway, comes across as you like him more than you are letting on, that you've hidden verifications, maybe to appear as though not meeting others, so you put yourself in a better stance with him.
These are all maybes, just my thoughts and how I have processed them from this thread.
I just know if it was me, and a bloke said that to me, i would say the exact same back, will you no longer be meeting others? If i wanted to see a guy again but equally have him accept who I am, i wouldn't start amending my profile or hiding things such as verifications on my profile
I'm honest with him when he contacts me. I've hidden my veri's as he messaged some of the couples. (They told me).
To be honest I just want his cock. Plain and simple. No hassle sex. " | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
No - he is selfish and a hypocrite for making you feel bad for continuing to use the site how you want...yet he's not prepared to make the same concessions? Any man who wants sole possession of a woman after one meet sounds like trouble...I'd tell him to mind his own business and do one! "But she is the one that keeps answering his calls and messages, telling him everything he asks, she has the ability not to answer those calls, and many of us wouldnt, many of us would have blocked at the "ok take care stage", which makes me think the OP likes this guy more than shes letting on | |||
"Sorry to wade in, but I'm probably saying what has already been said. He is too possessive!! Why on earth was he messaging couples that you had meets with? That's out of order. Double standards, so he gets to shag who he wants, but yet wants you to only have meets with him. There are much nicer men on Fab. Happy Fabbing. xx Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
If some guy said this to me I'd reply are you doing the same.
Also you say you want him to accept you are someone that meets others, if thats the case why hide who you meet from him.
It, to me anyway, comes across as you like him more than you are letting on, that you've hidden verifications, maybe to appear as though not meeting others, so you put yourself in a better stance with him.
These are all maybes, just my thoughts and how I have processed them from this thread.
I just know if it was me, and a bloke said that to me, i would say the exact same back, will you no longer be meeting others? If i wanted to see a guy again but equally have him accept who I am, i wouldn't start amending my profile or hiding things such as verifications on my profile
I'm honest with him when he contacts me. I've hidden my veri's as he messaged some of the couples. (They told me).
To be honest I just want his cock. Plain and simple. No hassle sex. "She wont ask him if he is also planning on stopping seeing others, everyone is just assuming he will carry on meeting others, no one actually knows what this mans thoughts are, yet mist are condemning him | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
No - he is selfish and a hypocrite for making you feel bad for continuing to use the site how you want...yet he's not prepared to make the same concessions? Any man who wants sole possession of a woman after one meet sounds like trouble...I'd tell him to mind his own business and do one!
But she is the one that keeps answering his calls and messages, telling him everything he asks, she has the ability not to answer those calls, and many of us wouldnt, many of us would have blocked at the "ok take care stage", which makes me think the OP likes this guy more than shes letting on"I like him. I liked the sex. How many more times do I need to say it? | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
If some guy said this to me I'd reply are you doing the same.
Also you say you want him to accept you are someone that meets others, if thats the case why hide who you meet from him.
It, to me anyway, comes across as you like him more than you are letting on, that you've hidden verifications, maybe to appear as though not meeting others, so you put yourself in a better stance with him.
These are all maybes, just my thoughts and how I have processed them from this thread.
I just know if it was me, and a bloke said that to me, i would say the exact same back, will you no longer be meeting others? If i wanted to see a guy again but equally have him accept who I am, i wouldn't start amending my profile or hiding things such as verifications on my profile
I'm honest with him when he contacts me. I've hidden my veri's as he messaged some of the couples. (They told me).
To be honest I just want his cock. Plain and simple. No hassle sex.
He messaged your meets??? And you still want to see him??? "Precisely, why would anyone tolerate any of this behaviour? Sorry OP but i really do think you have more feelings for this man than you let on to, i don't think for one second you just want his cock, lets face it, plenty guys with cock on here if just sex after, you OP are one maintaining this communication with him, keeping him interested, i really do think its you thats smitten OP | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
No - he is selfish and a hypocrite for making you feel bad for continuing to use the site how you want...yet he's not prepared to make the same concessions? Any man who wants sole possession of a woman after one meet sounds like trouble...I'd tell him to mind his own business and do one!
But she is the one that keeps answering his calls and messages, telling him everything he asks, she has the ability not to answer those calls, and many of us wouldnt, many of us would have blocked at the "ok take care stage", which makes me think the OP likes this guy more than shes letting on
I like him. I liked the sex.
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" We don't know if he has or hadn't as we only hear your side of this. Maybe during your chats you could point him towards this thread in order we hear his side to " (Give me a nudge if this happens, I promise I'll bring popcorn )
" Guess I need to accept its not going to happen. " Yep, there's your answer right there. You are two individuals, each using the site how you choose, who have found out you aren't compatible. The rest risks looking like attention seeking if I'm honest. Mr ddc | |||
" We don't know if he has or hadn't as we only hear your side of this. Maybe during your chats you could point him towards this thread in order we hear his side to (Give me a nudge if this happens, I promise I'll bring popcorn )
Guess I need to accept its not going to happen.
Yep, there's your answer right there.
You are two individuals, each using the site how you choose, who have found out you aren't compatible.
The rest risks looking like attention seeking if I'm honest.
Mr ddc"Risks shes keeping his attention by continuing to answer his calls, assuming he rings her and not her ring him. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
No - he is selfish and a hypocrite for making you feel bad for continuing to use the site how you want...yet he's not prepared to make the same concessions? Any man who wants sole possession of a woman after one meet sounds like trouble...I'd tell him to mind his own business and do one!
But she is the one that keeps answering his calls and messages, telling him everything he asks, she has the ability not to answer those calls, and many of us wouldnt, many of us would have blocked at the "ok take care stage", which makes me think the OP likes this guy more than shes letting on
I like him. I liked the sex.
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" We don't know if he has or hadn't as we only hear your side of this. Maybe during your chats you could point him towards this thread in order we hear his side to (Give me a nudge if this happens, I promise I'll bring popcorn )
Guess I need to accept its not going to happen.
Yep, there's your answer right there.
You are two individuals, each using the site how you choose, who have found out you aren't compatible.
The rest risks looking like attention seeking if I'm honest.
Mr ddc
Risks shes keeping his attention by continuing to answer his calls, assuming he rings her and not her ring him."Of course I do. He was amazing in the sack. Who wouldn't want more? | |||
" We don't know if he has or hadn't as we only hear your side of this. Maybe during your chats you could point him towards this thread in order we hear his side to (Give me a nudge if this happens, I promise I'll bring popcorn )
Guess I need to accept its not going to happen.
Yep, there's your answer right there.
You are two individuals, each using the site how you choose, who have found out you aren't compatible.
The rest risks looking like attention seeking if I'm honest.
Mr ddc
Risks shes keeping his attention by continuing to answer his calls, assuming he rings her and not her ring him.
Of course I do. He was amazing in the sack. Who wouldn't want more? "Loads men are amazing in bed, loads men also don't call the shots after Sorry, but my thoughts still stand, i think its you that has feelings for him, and thats why you take his calls, answer his questions | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession He hasn't asked me for a relationship, he's said he doesn't want to see me anymore because I see others, although he still sees others. Yes, it's a funny old affair Sounds like an utter hypocrite to be honest...probably had a lucky escape from someone who could be so possessive from a single meet... Equally, same could be said from the OP, she is the one asking advice why he wants to stop seeing her, he is the one that said no more meets. I'm not asking advice on why he's stopped it, I quite understand why. It's just baffled me. My point is you are the one asking though, you are one creating a forum post, you are one still answering questions from a man you have said "ok, take care", from reading the entire thread OP it comes across to me that you are more than willing for this man to know your business otherwise you'd tell him to stop prying into your business. I've admitted I like him. I want to have more meets with him. I guess I still enjoy the contact in hope he will accept me for what I am and for what I do. OPwho you meet and how is no bodies business, im just baffled ad to why you are communicating and answering questions from a man that has stated he doesn't want to meet again. Is it a case of if i keep talking to him he might change his mind and meet again? He wants to meet if I stop seeing others. That's my point. Guess I'm selfish for wanting him and others
No - he is selfish and a hypocrite for making you feel bad for continuing to use the site how you want...yet he's not prepared to make the same concessions? Any man who wants sole possession of a woman after one meet sounds like trouble...I'd tell him to mind his own business and do one!
But she is the one that keeps answering his calls and messages, telling him everything he asks, she has the ability not to answer those calls, and many of us wouldnt, many of us would have blocked at the "ok take care stage", which makes me think the OP likes this guy more than shes letting on
I like him. I liked the sex.
How many more times do I need to say it?"In the end, the decision is yours. If you want to give up something you clearly enjoy for someone who isn't prepared to do the same. Who is controlling enough to continue to try to garner information not only from you but from other people you have met because you enjoyed one sexual encounter with him then make that choice. Frankly I'd have alarm bells from the second he put a hand around my throat but maybe that's the way you play. He's blackmailing you. No sex with anyone here would result in me changing who and what I am fundamentally as he appears to be asking you to do... | |||
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"Morning X I'm really unsure whether this site is for me?. I've been on and off for over 2 years. Anyway I met a bloke a few weeks back and we hit it off and talked about seeing each other often. He's now gone in a man huff and told me he doesn't want to see me anymore because I meet other men
Shit...I really fancied him too
Did the OP meet him on here though as its not clear from her post?"Maybe he had a good reason..... its only one side of the story. Love it when the white horse brigade come rushing over the hill....they rarely know what it is they're defending. Where's the objectivity girls.... | |||
"Women do this thing too. I had it a few weeks ago! Just be honest with him. X" Many have a couple arranged just in case.... its called...to quote a woman on a post 2 days ago... Plan B if A doesn't work. The problem then is its also used when B becomes a better option. ..so don't spill the milk too much. | |||
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"Morning X I'm really unsure whether this site is for me?. I've been on and off for over 2 years. Anyway I met a bloke a few weeks back and we hit it off and talked about seeing each other often. He's now gone in a man huff and told me he doesn't want to see me anymore because I meet other men
Shit...I really fancied him too
Did the OP meet him on here though as its not clear from her post?
Maybe he had a good reason..... its only one side of the story. Love it when the white horse brigade come rushing over the hill....they rarely know what it is they're defending. Where's the objectivity girls....
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" Ive been objective all the way through this discussion, i don't for one second think this man is anything like he is being painted to be" 
And, bearing in mind she is a married woman who has to hide her secret life from her husband, this would appear to be a train-wreck in the making
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" Ive been objective all the way through this discussion, i don't for one second think this man is anything like he is being painted to be
And, bearing in mind she is a married woman who has to hide her secret life from her husband, this would appear to be a train-wreck in the making
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" Ive been objective all the way through this discussion, i don't for one second think this man is anything like he is being painted to be
And, bearing in mind she is a married woman who has to hide her secret life from her husband, this would appear to be a train-wreck in the making
"Yes I am which he knows all about. I have my reasons for the life I live and won't explain that on here. | |||
" Ive been objective all the way through this discussion, i don't for one second think this man is anything like he is being painted to be
And, bearing in mind she is a married woman who has to hide her secret life from her husband, this would appear to be a train-wreck in the making
Yes I am which he knows all about. I have my reasons for the life I live and won't explain that on here. "No one is asking you to explain your marriage, but as a married women should you be letting feelings of "like" to be causing the situation you are in now. Does the man you met know you are married? Is your husband one if the men he expects you to stop sleeping with | |||
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" Ive been objective all the way through this discussion, i don't for one second think this man is anything like he is being painted to be
And, bearing in mind she is a married woman who has to hide her secret life from her husband, this would appear to be a train-wreck in the making
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"In another thread you mention you are married and have a secret dom lover, that find it tricky to hide the welts. In this thread you mention breathe play. Is the man in this thread your secret lover as that would explain a lot if things, such as him questioning you but you not questioning him" Nope totally different person. And the 'breath play' you talk about... Well is that what I actually said?!? | |||
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"Okay, I read the first 15 posts, made up my mind so skipped to the end. Now my thoughts: You both met on the site, he wants to keep playing and so do you (ie with others). But he doesn't want you playing with anyone else, while he still can? Is that the long and short of it? This is gonna sound harsh: he's an idiot. Anyone, male or female, with such a backward _iew of what they think swinging as a single is about and thinks that... Is an idiot. Or shouldn't be on the site. If I imposed a rule on someone else knowing fully well I couldn't keep to that rule myself, then am an idiot. I've fallen out with a number of women over the years over this very point (they wanted me to stop but they still wanted to play, so I said "bye")... and my only regret each time was not seeing the signs sooner." No one knows if he will still play as the OP hasnt actually asked him that | |||
"In another thread you mention you are married and have a secret dom lover, that find it tricky to hide the welts. In this thread you mention breathe play. Is the man in this thread your secret lover as that would explain a lot if things, such as him questioning you but you not questioning him Nope totally different person. And the 'breath play' you talk about... Well is that what I actually said?!? " Hand round throat is a form of breathe play is it not | |||
"In another thread you mention you are married and have a secret dom lover, that find it tricky to hide the welts. In this thread you mention breathe play. Is the man in this thread your secret lover as that would explain a lot if things, such as him questioning you but you not questioning him Nope totally different person. And the 'breath play' you talk about... Well is that what I actually said?!? Hand round throat is a form of breathe play is it not" No it's not. He was NOT restricting my air way. That would be breath play. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession Which would appear to be exactly the case according to the OPs answer to my first question..." Yet the OP hasnt actually asked him if he is to continue meeting others, people are making assumptions he will. | |||
"In another thread you mention you are married and have a secret dom lover, that find it tricky to hide the welts. In this thread you mention breathe play. Is the man in this thread your secret lover as that would explain a lot if things, such as him questioning you but you not questioning him Nope totally different person. And the 'breath play' you talk about... Well is that what I actually said?!? Hand round throat is a form of breathe play is it not No it's not. He was NOT restricting my air way. That would be breath play. " As you didnt mention either way restriction, but i think you will find holding of the throat whether light or hard is a form of breathe play and listed as interests on fetish sites as breathe play | |||
"In another thread you mention you are married and have a secret dom lover, that find it tricky to hide the welts. In this thread you mention breathe play. Is the man in this thread your secret lover as that would explain a lot if things, such as him questioning you but you not questioning him Nope totally different person. And the 'breath play' you talk about... Well is that what I actually said?!? Hand round throat is a form of breathe play is it not No it's not. He was NOT restricting my air way. That would be breath play. As you didnt mention either way restriction, but i think you will find holding of the throat whether light or hard is a form of breathe play and listed as interests on fetish sites as breathe play" Ah we're now going to disagree on breath play? There was no restriction of air at all. You seem obsessed with my post for some reason. There was NO breath play. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession Which would appear to be exactly the case according to the OPs answer to my first question... Yet the OP hasnt actually asked him if he is to continue meeting others, people are making assumptions he will." but she knows he did meet at least one other. I dont see the need to go into all of her life to get to what she originally asked. This is a new level of taking a thread and ripping it to shreds. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession Which would appear to be exactly the case according to the OPs answer to my first question... Yet the OP hasnt actually asked him if he is to continue meeting others, people are making assumptions he will. but she knows he did meet at least one other. I dont see the need to go into all of her life to get to what she originally asked. This is a new level of taking a thread and ripping it to shreds. " Thank you. x | |||
"In another thread you mention you are married and have a secret dom lover, that find it tricky to hide the welts. In this thread you mention breathe play. Is the man in this thread your secret lover as that would explain a lot if things, such as him questioning you but you not questioning him Nope totally different person. And the 'breath play' you talk about... Well is that what I actually said?!? Hand round throat is a form of breathe play is it not No it's not. He was NOT restricting my air way. That would be breath play. As you didnt mention either way restriction, but i think you will find holding of the throat whether light or hard is a form of breathe play and listed as interests on fetish sites as breathe play Ah we're now going to disagree on breath play? There was no restriction of air at all. You seem obsessed with my post for some reason. There was NO breath play. " Not obsessed at all, im entitled to post my opinions on any thread i desire to do so as long as I dont break any rules which im not | |||
"In another thread you mention you are married and have a secret dom lover, that find it tricky to hide the welts. In this thread you mention breathe play. Is the man in this thread your secret lover as that would explain a lot if things, such as him questioning you but you not questioning him Nope totally different person. And the 'breath play' you talk about... Well is that what I actually said?!? Hand round throat is a form of breathe play is it not No it's not. He was NOT restricting my air way. That would be breath play. As you didnt mention either way restriction, but i think you will find holding of the throat whether light or hard is a form of breathe play and listed as interests on fetish sites as breathe play Ah we're now going to disagree on breath play? There was no restriction of air at all. You seem obsessed with my post for some reason. There was NO breath play. Not obsessed at all, im entitled to post my opinions on any thread i desire to do so as long as I dont break any rules which im not" Thats fine so long as your opinions make sense | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession Which would appear to be exactly the case according to the OPs answer to my first question... Yet the OP hasnt actually asked him if he is to continue meeting others, people are making assumptions he will. but she knows he did meet at least one other. I dont see the need to go into all of her life to get to what she originally asked. This is a new level of taking a thread and ripping it to shreds. " As did she, my point i was making, she states she communicates yet she doesn't, its all one sided, she hasn't actually asked him if he intends to stop meeting others should she take up his suggestion, so people shouldn't automatically condemn the man as some sort of control freak | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession Which would appear to be exactly the case according to the OPs answer to my first question... Yet the OP hasnt actually asked him if he is to continue meeting others, people are making assumptions he will. but she knows he did meet at least one other. I dont see the need to go into all of her life to get to what she originally asked. This is a new level of taking a thread and ripping it to shreds. As did she, my point i was making, she states she communicates yet she doesn't, its all one sided, she hasn't actually asked him if he intends to stop meeting others should she take up his suggestion, so people shouldn't automatically condemn the man as some sort of control freak" Because I don't want to ask him that. It would give him some false hope that I was planning on doing the same. You know... Some things best left unsaid and all that. What I've said it true. There's no other (real) different story. Assume whatever makes you feel better. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession Which would appear to be exactly the case according to the OPs answer to my first question... Yet the OP hasnt actually asked him if he is to continue meeting others, people are making assumptions he will. but she knows he did meet at least one other. I dont see the need to go into all of her life to get to what she originally asked. This is a new level of taking a thread and ripping it to shreds. As did she, my point i was making, she states she communicates yet she doesn't, its all one sided, she hasn't actually asked him if he intends to stop meeting others should she take up his suggestion, so people shouldn't automatically condemn the man as some sort of control freak" I didn't have the opinion of him as a control freak, I suggested she was to ask him if that's what he too intended on doing. But to me the main thing was she wanted to continue seeing him, as she liked him as a person and for the sex, but he had said he won't meet her unless she stops seeing others, but that's not something she intends to do. So she was baffled as it was only one meet and met on this site and didn't expect this behaviour from him. | |||
"Morning X I'm really unsure whether this site is for me?. I've been on and off for over 2 years. Anyway I met a bloke a few weeks back and we hit it off and talked about seeing each other often. He's now gone in a man huff and told me he doesn't want to see me anymore because I meet other men
Shit...I really fancied him
too "just another male idiot just ignore him hes not worth wasting energy over
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"Yes I think it's best I cut all contact. The only downfall is not being able to meet anyone as sexually satisfying as he was. " then try going for one of the tag teams twice the fun LOL | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession Which would appear to be exactly the case according to the OPs answer to my first question... Yet the OP hasnt actually asked him if he is to continue meeting others, people are making assumptions he will. but she knows he did meet at least one other. I dont see the need to go into all of her life to get to what she originally asked. This is a new level of taking a thread and ripping it to shreds. As did she, my point i was making, she states she communicates yet she doesn't, its all one sided, she hasn't actually asked him if he intends to stop meeting others should she take up his suggestion, so people shouldn't automatically condemn the man as some sort of control freak Because I don't want to ask him that. It would give him some false hope that I was planning on doing the same. You know... Some things best left unsaid and all that. What I've said it true. There's no other (real) different story. Assume whatever makes you feel better. " I'd be interested how you'd feel about meeting now after all that's been shared in this post. It is a 'Swingers' site after all. | |||
"Yes I think it's best I cut all contact. The only downfall is not being able to meet anyone as sexually satisfying as he was. " How do you actually know that? I'm very sure you'll find some you can teach and cultivate to a new level. After all that is often what happens in the end. | |||
"Ah one of those types, it's note the site that isn't for you, it's him. Onwards and upwards! Yes. Isn't a pity that guys who use this site can then get all possessive? How is asking her for relationship being possessive? From what i understand from the brief post in the OP and further comments, they met, got on great, he has realised he really likes her (prob realised this after meeting someone else, often way you realise someones important to you), she likes him, just not in a 1 on 1 relationship way. I wouldn't say that was possessive. Now if the OP post said met this guy, he wants exclusive but he still meeting others, then yes I would say that shows signs of possession Which would appear to be exactly the case according to the OPs answer to my first question... Yet the OP hasnt actually asked him if he is to continue meeting others, people are making assumptions he will. but she knows he did meet at least one other. I dont see the need to go into all of her life to get to what she originally asked. This is a new level of taking a thread and ripping it to shreds. As did she, my point i was making, she states she communicates yet she doesn't, its all one sided, she hasn't actually asked him if he intends to stop meeting others should she take up his suggestion, so people shouldn't automatically condemn the man as some sort of control freak Because I don't want to ask him that. It would give him some false hope that I was planning on doing the same. You know... Some things best left unsaid and all that. What I've said it true. There's no other (real) different story. Assume whatever makes you feel better. I'd be interested how you'd feel about meeting now after all that's been shared in this post. It is a 'Swingers' site after all." Sorry, I don't understand that question. | |||
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"Yes I think it's best I cut all contact. The only downfall is not being able to meet anyone as sexually satisfying as he was. How do you actually know that? I'm very sure you'll find some you can teach and cultivate to a new level. After all that is often what happens in the end." It's not as deep as that! I just need good sex with men who do the talk and walk. | |||
"I've had this happen a few times with women.....normally the younger ones so I tend to avoid those under 25 now!" It's the older guys for me | |||
