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By *emel9Man
over a year ago
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All good advice..in my experience...may people don't pay any attention to winks, and most don't like friends request without chatting first.
My suggestion would be, message, reply and then ask if you can add someone as a friend if you get on.
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
We are all new to the scene so looking at profiles wondering do we don't we. I think we need to be more assertive as if we just keep going back and looking in your oppinion would you feel we were not genuine? |
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"I hate friends requests from people I don't know or haven't chatted to. I also ignore winks so messages are good  "
This, to me if i see a profile and i like i message.
I don't check my winks, stopped doing that on first day due to all winks being from people that hadn't read and didn't match any of my profile.
Friend requests, to me a friend is someone you chat a lot to or have met, so again it actually boils my piss when people that haven't ever spoken send requests |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are all new to the scene so looking at profiles wondering do we don't we. I think we need to be more assertive as if we just keep going back and looking in your oppinion would you feel we were not genuine?"
You can hide yourselfs from the looked at me pages so you can do that without anyone seeing |
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Well I love winks and messages never friend request till spoken to and feel I would want them as a friend.
My advice is
Read the profile first, then read it a second time as most will say the best way to contact them.
Some people like the winks some not so.
Some people want a face photo with their mail some don't |
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"We are all new to the scene so looking at profiles wondering do we don't we. I think we need to be more assertive as if we just keep going back and looking in your oppinion would you feel we were not genuine?"
No we wouldn't. I would say you are right though when you say you feel you need to be more assertive, take the bull by the horns and send a message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes it still says new on our profile and only joined just before santa came. was actually another question I was going to ask in an other post"
Ask away |
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We like winks, but we aren't inundated with them like some are lol. So we can still manage then. Messages are fine providing they aren't just "u horny bbz" or the similar. Friend requests we have to have spoken
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"that's exactly what we discussed last night as we are a very assertive couple normally."
If you click.reply+quote on the bottom right of a post we will know who you're replying to .
It can be daunting when you're new but as long as you're polite and don't get upset by refusals you'll be fine |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"that's exactly what we discussed last night as we are a very assertive couple normally.
If you click.reply+quote on the bottom right of a post we will know who you're replying to .
It can be daunting when you're new but as long as you're polite and don't get upset by refusals you'll be fine "
Learning all the time Cheers |
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"How long is acceptable to leave 'new to this' on your profile, maybe taking into consideration we may or may not have took the plunge due to whatever cercumstances present??"
Our opinion is that you should do what you're comfortable with. As far as we're concerned as long as you respect other people you can't go far wrong. Don't concern yourself overly much with what other people do or think because everyone is different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How long is acceptable to leave 'new to this' on your profile, maybe taking into consideration we may or may not have took the plunge due to whatever cercumstances present??
Our opinion is that you should do what you're comfortable with. As far as we're concerned as long as you respect other people you can't go far wrong. Don't concern yourself overly much with what other people do or think because everyone is different."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer a message as I rarely check my winks. I also find it rather intrusive being sent a friends request when the person sending it has not even sent you a hello before. Welcome to the world of Fab and happy swinging. Xx |
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"An interesting message always catches my eye
I dont want a friend request from someone I have never spoken to ... thats just rude"
thats us as well, winks just get binned..messages we reply too..connie x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't even look at my winks or friend requests. Read messages and if I like send a friend request. I guess there is no real protocol as everyone uses their account differently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I read a profile and am interested and I match their criteria, then I message.
If I see a profile I like but unsure that I match their requirements, then I would wink.
Having said that I get more response from a message, even if its a 'no thankyou'.
Do what works for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How long is acceptable to leave 'new to this' on your profile, maybe taking into consideration we may or may not have took the plunge due to whatever cercumstances present??"
I'd say your new to fab for a few weeks before you should have the site figured out.
It's a separate thing if you've yet to swing. The only downside to admitting that, as far as I can see, is it will put some off as they might think you'll back out or end up in a domestic if you're not comfortable.
On a plus; you'll be fresh meat to play with  |
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
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"How long is acceptable to leave 'new to this' on your profile, maybe taking into consideration we may or may not have took the plunge due to whatever cercumstances present??"
It's entirely up to you. Your bodies, your lives, your choice as to how soon you feel ready to meet. Don't feel that you have to rush into anything. Take your time, and make sure you are fully comfortable, and have found the right person/people to swing with.
Meanwhile, maybe think about going along to a local social, where you can meet swingers face-to-face in a non-play environment. I find other people (at socials and swingers clubs) are usually very happy to help newcomers, by talking about their own experiences, etc. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are all new to the scene so looking at profiles wondering do we don't we. I think we need to be more assertive as if we just keep going back and looking in your oppinion would you feel we were not genuine?
No we wouldn't. I would say you are right though when you say you feel you need to be more assertive, take the bull by the horns and send a message "
I do just this and still nothing  |
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"We are all new to the scene so looking at profiles wondering do we don't we. I think we need to be more assertive as if we just keep going back and looking in your oppinion would you feel we were not genuine?
No we wouldn't. I would say you are right though when you say you feel you need to be more assertive, take the bull by the horns and send a message
I do just this and still nothing "
You suffer from the numbers of single men on here I suspect. Couples probably have it easier. |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"We are all new to the scene so looking at profiles wondering do we don't we. I think we need to be more assertive as if we just keep going back and looking in your oppinion would you feel we were not genuine?
You can hide yourselfs from the looked at me pages so you can do that without anyone seeing "
Good advice we'll look at that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are all new to the scene so looking at profiles wondering do we don't we. I think we need to be more assertive as if we just keep going back and looking in your oppinion would you feel we were not genuine?
No we wouldn't. I would say you are right though when you say you feel you need to be more assertive, take the bull by the horns and send a message
I do just this and still nothing
You suffer from the numbers of single men on here I suspect. Couples probably have it easier."
Im aware and fully accept that. Party and club invites i now seek.  |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"How long is acceptable to leave 'new to this' on your profile, maybe taking into consideration we may or may not have took the plunge due to whatever cercumstances present??
Our opinion is that you should do what you're comfortable with. As far as we're concerned as long as you respect other people you can't go far wrong. Don't concern yourself overly much with what other people do or think because everyone is different."
That's the exact line we take and respect is always the key word in every thing we do |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"An interesting message always catches my eye
I dont want a friend request from someone I have never spoken to ... thats just rude"
Our thoughts tend to think this way too and very interesting reading through this thread |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"I prefer a message as I rarely check my winks. I also find it rather intrusive being sent a friends request when the person sending it has not even sent you a hello before. Welcome to the world of Fab and happy swinging. Xx"
Thank you very much |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"How long is acceptable to leave 'new to this' on your profile, maybe taking into consideration we may or may not have took the plunge due to whatever cercumstances present??
I'd say your new to fab for a few weeks before you should have the site figured out.
It's a separate thing if you've yet to swing. The only downside to admitting that, as far as I can see, is it will put some off as they might think you'll back out or end up in a domestic if you're not comfortable.
On a plus; you'll be fresh meat to play with "
The only domestics we have is washing up and fighting over who's not doing the vacuuming... |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"How long is acceptable to leave 'new to this' on your profile, maybe taking into consideration we may or may not have took the plunge due to whatever cercumstances present??
It's entirely up to you. Your bodies, your lives, your choice as to how soon you feel ready to meet. Don't feel that you have to rush into anything. Take your time, and make sure you are fully comfortable, and have found the right person/people to swing with.
Meanwhile, maybe think about going along to a local social, where you can meet swingers face-to-face in a non-play environment. I find other people (at socials and swingers clubs) are usually very happy to help newcomers, by talking about their own experiences, etc. Good luck!"
We went to a club NYE for the first time and loved it even though we didn't play as no one caught our eye, its was a bit quiet and like you the people we talked to were happy to answer our questions. We will be clubbing again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a man i'm happy to get either a wink, or a message. Would find it weird getting a friend request without any communication, but i'm always open-minded to exploring possibilities once someone shows an interest. |
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Many women and couples ignore winks and friend requests, so a brief message is probably best.
Your profile shows how long you've been here so no need to mention in your profile.
Enjoy the site and have lots of fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many women and couples ignore winks and friend requests, so a brief message is probably best.
Your profile shows how long you've been here so no need to mention in your profile.
Enjoy the site and have lots of fun. "
I certainly do. I clear them now and then but, as I never look at them, they run into the hundreds. |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"Many women and couples ignore winks and friend requests, so a brief message is probably best.
Your profile shows how long you've been here so no need to mention in your profile.
Enjoy the site and have lots of fun. "
Thank you and I'm sure we will |
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