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Be guiding in the bedroom, telling them what to do and how you like it. f they like taking orders then progress to:
Pin down (the one who wants to be submissive) on the bed, using hands or thighs.
See if they like that.
After that you can buy toys for restraint. |
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Talk to each other LOTS about what it means to both of you to be dom and sub.
It means differebt things to different people. If the light weight 50 shades 'brand' of dom is her expectation and you go in with a gimp mask and giant buttplugs it could get awkward!
Best thing to remember is there is no set rules other than the ones you make for yourselves. Make sure you both understand the others likes and more importantly dislikes (nothing kills the mood quicker than a finger in her ass if she cant stand anal for example)
Enjoy communicate and have fun. |
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"What would be a good way to start some Dom play in the bedroom? Any advise on getting started would be very welcome. "
Assuming you are the Dom - you need to understand the needs of your sub. You need to be able to know what s/he wants before they do.
You need to demonstrate that you understand and stick to the boundaries set by your sub.
Whenever you do something - read the reactions of their body and adapt what you do to give them the 'best' experience you can.
Remember - trust is paramount. |
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Trust and communication are the key in Syb/Dom play. Clear discussions on what you are both looking for in terms of play, hard limits, soft limits, are there any specific boundaries the sub wishes to push.
In a sub/dom relationship a dom should get their fulfilment and enjoyment from seeing the sub's desires and needs are met.
After play care is just as important, making sure the sub is taken care of, this could be talking through play, cuddles etc as all sorts of emotions can arise from it, especially harder play. |
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After play care is just as important, making sure the sub is taken care of, this could be talking through play, cuddles etc as all sorts of emotions can arise from it, especially harder play."
I agree this is a key point too. We do talk about very normal things after and cuddle - to help with the come down.
Like others have said - communication is the key. Trust is fundamental in my eyes and if you can get that, you can continually push your boundaries in a environment where you feel safe. |
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Both of you make three lists of activities that are yes, nos and maybes separately. Compare the lists and thats your starting point.
Would also advise you both switch during activities, then you both learn what works and doesn't work for you. Also best way to learn how hard/soft during impact play you both like it.
Have many informal play sessions.
Then look at what protocols/roleplay you like ie. daddy dom, master etc |
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