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Seeking advice from anyone involved in Teaching
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondering if anyone, who is involved in any profession where discretion may be an obstacle to making easy initial contact, has any advice on how to overcome the catch 22 of being unable to find oneself in contact with others due to being unverified and/or wary of posting face pics at first?
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In our opinion the best thing for anyone for whom discretion is high priority is to keep face pictures in private, never have face showing in nude photos or action shots and only send to people you are going to meet. Also don't advertise the profession to which you belong. |
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By *ina75Woman
over a year ago
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Best advice is to get verified by going to a club. If you are concerned about bumping into someone who might recognize you. Then go to a club in one of the cities.
Once someone verifies that you are a real person. Then you can remain discrete. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't post any pics of your face in public . best way I would say is get on cam in chat rooms to get verified here. otherwise try attending local fab socials or clubs. |
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"Nicecouple. Thank you. I shall upload some face pics to keep in private file."
There is a site function that allows you to delete the face pit tire once the message as been read to help aid your privacy |
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"Nicecouple. Thank you. I shall upload some face pics to keep in private file."
You're welcome. Also when you send them to people tick the box that deletes them some hours after the message has been read, it's by no means a foolproof method but every little helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering if anyone, who is involved in any profession where discretion may be an obstacle to making easy initial contact, has any advice on how to overcome the catch 22 of being unable to find oneself in contact with others due to being unverified and/or wary of posting face pics at first?
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If your job is that important to you why risk it over a fuck with some stranger who may be bat shit crazy and try to destroy your life .
If you insist on trying to lose your job just meet in clubs socials etc outside your area no need to swap pictures addresses or anything . Then you can decide what to do
As to clubs and parties and people you know arrive 5 mins before they let last person in : have a look round of you know anyone walk out and if your seen just say in a strange town I didn't realise it was that type of party
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"Nicecouple. Thank you. I shall upload some face pics to keep in private file.
There is a site function that allows you to delete the face pit tire once the message as been read to help aid your privacy "
Picture not put tire sorry I was a victim of autocorrect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of us is in a profession where moral fortitude and discretion are highly valued - at first this made us slightly nervous of fabs - but we have gained more confidence now by 1) meeting in clubs, 2) engaging potential meets in proper sensible conversations to gauge their attitudes and eliminate idiots, 3) reminding ourselves that swinging between consensual adult partners is not illegal 4) developing the philosophy that swinging between consensual adults is not immoral providing each person is being honest.
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There are also other ways of obscuring your identity. Don't use your actual name, have your home location as somewhere different (like near by town or city), try to get face pics of others first (you may recognise them).
Also remember that you are not doing anything illegal and although being found out could be embarrassing, it isn't an acceptable reason for to be dismissed.
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I'd also say as a precaution to Avoid profile with people that are at the younger age of the age parameters or people that appear young for their age to eliminate the risk of unintentionally having contact with a minor as some people do lie about their age when setting up profiles. You wouldnt want to accidentally be accused of of grooming or statutory rape if in the teaching profession especially |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd also say as a precaution to Avoid profile with people that are at the younger age of the age parameters or people that appear young for their age to eliminate the risk of unintentionally having contact with a minor as some people do lie about their age when setting up profiles. You wouldnt want to accidentally be accused of of grooming or statutory rape if in the teaching profession especially "
That is most definitely something I hadn't considered. Thank you. |
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"There are also other ways of obscuring your identity. Don't use your actual name, have your home location as somewhere different (like near by town or city), try to get face pics of others first (you may recognise them).
Also remember that you are not doing anything illegal and although being found out could be embarrassing, it isn't an acceptable reason for to be dismissed.
Cal"
No but ones position can become or be made untenable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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oops pressed post prematurely before I got to the most important point
5) we fab message, speak on phone, only upload erotic rather than explicit photos and only send face pic after ticking the option for face pic to be removed after message has been opened.
m x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A Lot of women do this and I do it as well
Use a different name when meeting new people
If someone comes up to you with real name they know you in real life
False name from swinging .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Also maintain plausible deniability at all times.
That's my default position for more than just prospective meetings via this site. Thank you
Are you an "international man of mystery"?  "
More mystified than mysterious! |
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"Also maintain plausible deniability at all times.
That's my default position for more than just prospective meetings via this site. Thank you
Are you an "international man of mystery"?
More mystified than mysterious!"
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We have the same issue, n works with kids too. We made sure to get pic verified, which at least was a verification. Then awkward as it seems, if someone is close to us, we ask them to send face pics first and check if N knows them or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Travel further afield to clubs and meet outside your area.
We have also changed our location which helps with searching.
Another thing we do is hotlist people we know from our vanilla lives that way if they have something planned say a visit to a club? We will know about it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd also say as a precaution to Avoid profile with people that are at the younger age of the age parameters or people that appear young for their age to eliminate the risk of unintentionally having contact with a minor as some people do lie about their age when setting up profiles. You wouldnt want to accidentally be accused of of grooming or statutory rape if in the teaching profession especially "
Good point about younger age group - we stick to 30-60 age range, m x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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oh - hubby has just informed me that he let me give bj to a young man in club who was 25 - but I have told hubby that doesn't count against me as I was blindfolded at time! m x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"oh - hubby has just informed me that he let me give bj to a young man in club who was 25 - but I have told hubby that doesn't count against me as I was blindfolded at time! m x"
lol - lucky 25 year-old, x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont worry too much. Nothing is called privacy.. no more. Once u upload any pic of u online.. that's it. No privacy! Anyone can use your pic to do anything. There are many fake websites. I was on pof and someone stole all my pics and pretend to be me to chat and mess with girls. So Dont over think.. its a swinging site and whoever sees you on here will be part of it and won't tell happy swinging new year. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only thing I would add to this is be aware of what you put in forums, messages and profiles. A determined person may add it all together and with a bit of thought/educated guesswork/luck may be able to put more about you together than you think.
And it may be the very innocuous stuf, like mentioning siblings, kids, your likes and dislikes. All goes to building a picture if someone is determined enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We try not to meet people who live in our area due to the same reason as you. The issue isn't necessarily a pupil finding you more a colleague/governor or worse a parent, after all we know it's not illegal to swing but let's face it some people even swingers will judge someone and can only imagine merry hell breaking out if mr smith the pe teacher was a swinger. |
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"Make sure your privacy settings have your profile unavailable to search engines. Then your pics cannot be reverse searched.
I've worked in a school over 15 years and been swinging 13 years. "
Your pics on fab can be reverse searched. Making your profile unavailable to search engines like google means if I google your fab profile name it won't show in the search is all. I can still google image search/tineye your fab pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have the same issue and in Norfolk everyone knows everyone else. The additional issue of being a man, and us men out numbering the women on here, makes it very hard to meet. |
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This is a priority for us, we got photo verified on the site, this photo you can choose to keep private.
We have verifications from people we have met, most of which have been met further away from home or in city clubs.
We do have a face pic that we send using the auto remove function if we are going to meet. The most effective way is to exchange kik Id or phone numbers and do it over that. If you were to bump into anyone at a club just remember that they are there for the same reasons so not likely to ever mention it for their own sake too.
It's very difficult because this life has nothing to do with our professional lives but it only takes one person to see it in the wrong way.
Hope some of this helps, have fun x |
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"I've tried reverse searching my pics and they don't show. So I had thought that hiding a profile from search engines would prevent that."
If reverse searching your pics doesn't work it means they aren't already elsewhere on the net it's nothing to do with external search engines |
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Well, hiding your profile is one way. 
There are plenty of people here who value their privacy and others discretion. Myself included. There's nothing in my public pictures which would easily identify me. Simple as that. |
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