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A tip for single guys
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"My tip would be to get to clubs and parties .... much better and more natural than here to find a meet. Fabs is good to make connections and chat, but the social aspect is out there ..." Absolutely. Too many guys seem to think that being swingers means people will fuck anyone at the drop of a hat | |||
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"My tip would be to get to clubs and parties .... much better and more natural than here to find a meet. Fabs is good to make connections and chat, but the social aspect is out there ... Absolutely. Too many guys seem to think that being swingers means people will fuck anyone at the drop of a hat " many will  | |||
"The forums are full of posts from guys who complain/seek advice because they aren't getting any so here is some in advance advice for them all. Try the region chat rooms. Seriously, go in and chat normally. So many head of, tell someone they look good then ask to add as friends or meet. Build up some friendships by being normal, meets will follow. Alternatively use tinder. Much easier to get laid as a single guy on tinder. " its harder on fab to find single attractive women, ironically a sex site is the hardest place to get laid! fab is id say 60% men, 20% couples 20$ singe women profiles | |||
"The forums are full of posts from guys who complain/seek advice because they aren't getting any so here is some in advance advice for them all. Try the region chat rooms. Seriously, go in and chat normally. So many head of, tell someone they look good then ask to add as friends or meet. Build up some friendships by being normal, meets will follow. Alternatively use tinder. Much easier to get laid as a single guy on tinder. " hey the chatrooms are a nightmare they scroll so quickly you can't keep up and they are another example of 50 guys all messaging One woman at the same time saying " can I wank for you on cam"  | |||
"we are all bastards, well known fact. Clueless, selfish, unintelligent, disrespectful, hateful bastards that cannot handle rejection and send out hundreds of inane messages on a daily basis just to give people something to write about on the forums... Tip for couples... Hoop jumping is for dogs and dolphins Merry Christmas x" Succinctly put lol!  | |||
"hey the chatrooms are a nightmare they scroll so quickly you can't keep up and they are another example of 50 guys all messaging One woman at the same time saying " can I wank for you on cam" "To a point but there are some genuine conversations that go on in there. | |||
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"Socials are great starting point. Plenty large socials, up and down the country." Very true, I host socials on my other account. And welcome newbies | |||
"we are all bastards, well known fact. Clueless, selfish, unintelligent, disrespectful, hateful bastards that cannot handle rejection and send out hundreds of inane messages on a daily basis just to give people something to write about on the forums... Tip for couples... Hoop jumping is for dogs and dolphins Merry Christmas x" Well said that man! | |||
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"Women and couples dont really know how hard it is for single men here, the only reason they are popular is cos the site is saturated with men. The only time they would truly know is seeing it from a mans _iew, the best advice is having patience lol." No, I live with someone who is a single man on Fabs. He seems just fine to be honest. Doesn't seem to have all the problems that so many in the forums seem to suggest. He's no Adonis either. | |||
"we are all bastards, well known fact. Clueless, selfish, unintelligent, disrespectful, hateful bastards that cannot handle rejection and send out hundreds of inane messages on a daily basis just to give people something to write about on the forums... Tip for couples... Hoop jumping is for dogs and dolphins Merry Christmas x" You sound bitter. It isn't about jumping through hoops it is about getting to know people. | |||
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"My tip for single guys is to actually meet someone. So many say they can't but when offered they bottle. I've happily met guys just for a coffee, chat and a veri if they turn up. But so many cba to even do that "So your solution for single men who aren't successful in getting people to meet them is for them to meet someone?  | |||
"Women and couples dont really know how hard it is for single men here, the only reason they are popular is cos the site is saturated with men. The only time they would truly know is seeing it from a mans _iew, the best advice is having patience lol. No, I live with someone who is a single man on Fabs. He seems just fine to be honest. Doesn't seem to have all the problems that so many in the forums seem to suggest. He's no Adonis either." I take it he would travel long distances and hardly no local? I could have loads of meets to if I am willing to travel 70miles plus. | |||
"Women and couples dont really know how hard it is for single men here, the only reason they are popular is cos the site is saturated with men. The only time they would truly know is seeing it from a mans _iew, the best advice is having patience lol." I think a lot of single guys AND single women would get a real shock if they could manage each others' messages for a month or so, to be honest! I do sometimes feel the ladies don't appreciate what guys are up against, but by the same token I've been shocked by conversations with gals on here. The bizarre content and sheer volume of mails and the rudeness and abuse dished out by some guys is staggering. I'm not sure who gets the worst deal to be honest! | |||
"we are all bastards, well known fact. Clueless, selfish, unintelligent, disrespectful, hateful bastards that cannot handle rejection and send out hundreds of inane messages on a daily basis just to give people something to write about on the forums... Tip for couples... Hoop jumping is for dogs and dolphins Merry Christmas x Well said that man!" I think you both need your Snickers! | |||
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"Chat rooms are good for occasional interesting and quick fire chat. Met some nice folk from there (not the directing rooms though). " For a woman, maybe. For a man its like trying to get served in a crowded bar - it takes half an hour for anyone to notice you exist, and friends of the staff always get served first. | |||
"Chat rooms are good for occasional interesting and quick fire chat. Met some nice folk from there (not the directing rooms though). My only request from randy solo flyers would be, be nice. Sending an unsolicited picture of your wang and the naughty things you want to try in your first message isn't going to get me moist " Exactly this | |||
"Women and couples dont really know how hard it is for single men here, the only reason they are popular is cos the site is saturated with men. The only time they would truly know is seeing it from a mans _iew, the best advice is having patience lol. No, I live with someone who is a single man on Fabs. He seems just fine to be honest. Doesn't seem to have all the problems that so many in the forums seem to suggest. He's no Adonis either.I take it he would travel long distances and hardly no local? I could have loads of meets to if I am willing to travel 70miles plus."  | |||
"we are all bastards, well known fact. Clueless, selfish, unintelligent, disrespectful, hateful bastards that cannot handle rejection and send out hundreds of inane messages on a daily basis just to give people something to write about on the forums... Tip for couples... Hoop jumping is for dogs and dolphins Merry Christmas x You sound bitter. It isn't about jumping through hoops it is about getting to know people. " Far from bitter, but meh... I do okay, but the posts to single guys "helping them out" does nothing. why? The guys that bitch about not getting meets are obviously doing something wrong, whether its their approach, profile, location etc... Its a little bit patronising to say to those guys "go on a webcam or go to a club", i think they probably know those things exist.... when the main cause of their inability to get a meet is actually beyond their control to a greater or lesser degree. Good advice for a single guy would be the following 1) be selective, taking 10 minutes or more composing a message for someone is nothing to moan about if it gets deleted, if you read their profile, and composed your message with that in mind, and you still get bounced, hard lines... move on 2) take rejection with grace, there is no need to start a feud 3) present yourself in a way that IS attractive to the profile you wish to engage with 4) be patient, don't harass, all good things.. etc 5) have a look at more successful male profiles, what are they doing differently from you? 6) be patient (again), try to think of fab as another string to your bow, not all your bow 7) have a face pic on your profile, it cuts out a lot of the unnecessary messages that lead to expectation and unfortunate disappointment. If you can't put one on your profile, send one straight away, get the attraction aspect out of the way first. 8) take rejection calmly (again), Going to clubs? No thank you. I went to one down here, quite a famous one, too much bareback for my taste...sorry. Webcam/chat, really, some of the rooms on this site are more clique than the forum As for hoop jumping, it was tongue in cheek, so glad you could see that... | |||
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"we are all bastards, well known fact. Clueless, selfish, unintelligent, disrespectful, hateful bastards that cannot handle rejection and send out hundreds of inane messages on a daily basis just to give people something to write about on the forums... Tip for couples... Hoop jumping is for dogs and dolphins Merry Christmas x You sound bitter. It isn't about jumping through hoops it is about getting to know people. Far from bitter, but meh... I do okay, but the posts to single guys "helping them out" does nothing. why? The guys that bitch about not getting meets are obviously doing something wrong, whether its their approach, profile, location etc... Its a little bit patronising to say to those guys "go on a webcam or go to a club", i think they probably know those things exist.... when the main cause of their inability to get a meet is actually beyond their control to a greater or lesser degree. Good advice for a single guy would be the following 1) be selective, taking 10 minutes or more composing a message for someone is nothing to moan about if it gets deleted, if you read their profile, and composed your message with that in mind, and you still get bounced, hard lines... move on 2) take rejection with grace, there is no need to start a feud 3) present yourself in a way that IS attractive to the profile you wish to engage with 4) be patient, don't harass, all good things.. etc 5) have a look at more successful male profiles, what are they doing differently from you? 6) be patient (again), try to think of fab as another string to your bow, not all your bow 7) have a face pic on your profile, it cuts out a lot of the unnecessary messages that lead to expectation and unfortunate disappointment. If you can't put one on your profile, send one straight away, get the attraction aspect out of the way first. 8) take rejection calmly (again), Going to clubs? No thank you. I went to one down here, quite a famous one, too much bareback for my taste...sorry. Webcam/chat, really, some of the rooms on this site are more clique than the forum As for hoop jumping, it was tongue in cheek, so glad you could see that... " | |||
"we are all bastards, well known fact. Clueless, selfish, unintelligent, disrespectful, hateful bastards that cannot handle rejection and send out hundreds of inane messages on a daily basis just to give people something to write about on the forums... Tip for couples... Hoop jumping is for dogs and dolphins Merry Christmas x You sound bitter. It isn't about jumping through hoops it is about getting to know people. Far from bitter, but meh... I do okay, but the posts to single guys "helping them out" does nothing. why? The guys that bitch about not getting meets are obviously doing something wrong, whether its their approach, profile, location etc... Its a little bit patronising to say to those guys "go on a webcam or go to a club", i think they probably know those things exist.... when the main cause of their inability to get a meet is actually beyond their control to a greater or lesser degree. Good advice for a single guy would be the following 1) be selective, taking 10 minutes or more composing a message for someone is nothing to moan about if it gets deleted, if you read their profile, and composed your message with that in mind, and you still get bounced, hard lines... move on 2) take rejection with grace, there is no need to start a feud 3) present yourself in a way that IS attractive to the profile you wish to engage with 4) be patient, don't harass, all good things.. etc 5) have a look at more successful male profiles, what are they doing differently from you? 6) be patient (again), try to think of fab as another string to your bow, not all your bow 7) have a face pic on your profile, it cuts out a lot of the unnecessary messages that lead to expectation and unfortunate disappointment. If you can't put one on your profile, send one straight away, get the attraction aspect out of the way first. 8) take rejection calmly (again), Going to clubs? No thank you. I went to one down here, quite a famous one, too much bareback for my taste...sorry. Webcam/chat, really, some of the rooms on this site are more clique than the forum As for hoop jumping, it was tongue in cheek, so glad you could see that...
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"Socials are great starting point. Plenty large socials, up and down the country." Except if you live in Cumbria  | |||
"Socials are great starting point. Plenty large socials, up and down the country." Except if you live in Cumbria | |||
"we are all bastards, well known fact. Clueless, selfish, unintelligent, disrespectful, hateful bastards that cannot handle rejection and send out hundreds of inane messages on a daily basis just to give people something to write about on the forums... Tip for couples... Hoop jumping is for dogs and dolphins Merry Christmas x" | |||
"Socials are great starting point. Plenty large socials, up and down the country. Except if you live in Cumbria "Then organise your own. It's not difficult | |||
"we are all bastards, well known fact. Clueless, selfish, unintelligent, disrespectful, hateful bastards that cannot handle rejection and send out hundreds of inane messages on a daily basis just to give people something to write about on the forums... Tip for couples... Hoop jumping is for dogs and dolphins Merry Christmas x "Every time I see your screen name... I always wonder how you remember it  | |||
"we are all bastards, well known fact. Clueless, selfish, unintelligent, disrespectful, hateful bastards that cannot handle rejection and send out hundreds of inane messages on a daily basis just to give people something to write about on the forums... Tip for couples... Hoop jumping is for dogs and dolphins Merry Christmas x" Yes, but dogs and dolphins demonstrate respect…not limited intelligence! | |||
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"Women and couples dont really know how hard it is for single men here, the only reason they are popular is cos the site is saturated with men. The only time they would truly know is seeing it from a mans _iew, the best advice is having patience lol." I have several male friends on here and because they have a good profile and some manners, they do very well. It's not hard for single males. It's hard for single males that have qualities women don't want. | |||
"Women and couples dont really know how hard it is for single men here, the only reason they are popular is cos the site is saturated with men. The only time they would truly know is seeing it from a mans _iew, the best advice is having patience lol. I have several male friends on here and because they have a good profile and some manners, they do very well. It's not hard for single males. It's hard for single males that have qualities women don't want." Hmmm so being desperate is not good? | |||
" Sending an unsolicited picture of your wang and the naughty things you want to try in your first message isn't going to get me moist " Well said. Can't understand why many guys think it will, but they do! | |||
"Women and couples dont really know how hard it is for single men here, the only reason they are popular is cos the site is saturated with men. The only time they would truly know is seeing it from a mans _iew, the best advice is having patience lol. I have several male friends on here and because they have a good profile and some manners, they do very well. It's not hard for single males. It's hard for single males that have qualities women don't want." | |||
"we are all bastards, well known fact. Clueless, selfish, unintelligent, disrespectful, hateful bastards that cannot handle rejection and send out hundreds of inane messages on a daily basis just to give people something to write about on the forums... Tip for couples... Hoop jumping is for dogs and dolphins Merry Christmas x You sound bitter. It isn't about jumping through hoops it is about getting to know people. Far from bitter, but meh... I do okay, but the posts to single guys "helping them out" does nothing. why? The guys that bitch about not getting meets are obviously doing something wrong, whether its their approach, profile, location etc... Its a little bit patronising to say to those guys "go on a webcam or go to a club", i think they probably know those things exist.... when the main cause of their inability to get a meet is actually beyond their control to a greater or lesser degree. Good advice for a single guy would be the following 1) be selective, taking 10 minutes or more composing a message for someone is nothing to moan about if it gets deleted, if you read their profile, and composed your message with that in mind, and you still get bounced, hard lines... move on 2) take rejection with grace, there is no need to start a feud 3) present yourself in a way that IS attractive to the profile you wish to engage with 4) be patient, don't harass, all good things.. etc 5) have a look at more successful male profiles, what are they doing differently from you? 6) be patient (again), try to think of fab as another string to your bow, not all your bow 7) have a face pic on your profile, it cuts out a lot of the unnecessary messages that lead to expectation and unfortunate disappointment. If you can't put one on your profile, send one straight away, get the attraction aspect out of the way first. 8) take rejection calmly (again), Going to clubs? No thank you. I went to one down here, quite a famous one, too much bareback for my taste...sorry. Webcam/chat, really, some of the rooms on this site are more clique than the forum As for hoop jumping, it was tongue in cheek, so glad you could see that... "We have been going to Clubs for years and yes people have bareback sex a lot of the time. Husbands with their wives.... It is perfectly normal, just as it is perfectly normal to use condoms when other people are involved. We and most people we know would not even bother making the effort anymore to arrange a cold meet off here. At least when you go to Clubs and socials at Clubs you know that you are mixing with the real deal. There are things that a site like this could do to make life easier for people to meet off the site but I doubt that they are that bothered tbh. | |||
"Women and couples dont really know how hard it is for single men here, the only reason they are popular is cos the site is saturated with men. The only time they would truly know is seeing it from a mans _iew, the best advice is having patience lol. I have several male friends on here and because they have a good profile and some manners, they do very well. It's not hard for single males. It's hard for single males that have qualities women don't want." As I said it is not hard, unless you are willing to travel. I bet most of them travel 20 miles+ too. | |||
"I have several male friends on here and because they have a good profile and some manners, they do very well. It's not hard for single males. It's hard for single males that have qualities women don't want." Exactly | |||
" Sending an unsolicited picture of your wang and the naughty things you want to try in your first message isn't going to get me moist Well said. Can't understand why many guys think it will, but they do! " I'm not condoning it, but perhaps because the previous three messages the guy sent triggered blunt replies bemoaning him NOT sending a picture of his 'wang', or NOT being sexually explicit enough (see my post above), and he's over-compensating? I'm beginning to think this is not a difference between the sexes at all, but more a difference in attitudes, expectations and behaviours which crosses the genders. | |||
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"Women and couples dont really know how hard it is for single men here, the only reason they are popular is cos the site is saturated with men. The only time they would truly know is seeing it from a mans _iew, the best advice is having patience lol. I have several male friends on here and because they have a good profile and some manners, they do very well. It's not hard for single males. It's hard for single males that have qualities women don't want.As I said it is not hard, unless you are willing to travel. I bet most of them travel 20 miles+ too." We live in Glasgow so 20 miles away is still pretty much Glasgow anyway. But mostly they arrange first social meets in the city centre. No real travelling required. | |||
