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Hi all 
I'm a new mum with a full time job , family, friends etc so life gets busy.
Just asking what you all class as time wasters as I talk to a few people a week but can't meet on the spot nor do I have time to meet that weekend.
How long will you speak to someone before moving on?
I am completely genuine and do want to meet the people I talk to...trying to find a balance !! |
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over a year ago
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You're not wasting someone's time, if you're chatting to them and not arranging to meet ASAP. Let them know your situation and be honest.
This way you can't be accused of leading them on, if they make the choice to continue chatting. They will hopefully want to fit around your schedule if not, you've not lead them astray.
Don't be disheartened by it. You'll soon realise that on here left is up and down is right.  . Have fun along the way. x |
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"You're not wasting someone's time, if you're chatting to them and not arranging to meet ASAP. Let them know your situation and be honest.
This way you can't be accused of leading them on, if they make the choice to continue chatting. They will hopefully want to fit around your schedule if not, you've not lead them astray.
Don't be disheartened by it. You'll soon realise that on here left is up and down is right. . Have fun along the way. x"
This!
The right person will understand and wait. The wrong person won't. Either way it isn't time wasting unless you're arranging meets and don't show or cancel repeatedly. Have fun OP. |
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As stated in our profile the social side of swinging is as big of a draw to us as the sex.
We enjoy getting to know people and socials are a massive draw to us.
We are super picky about who we meet for sex but have found most people we talk to aren't our cup of tea but those who have taken the time to get to know us and enjoy our company quite often walk away with a smile (or two!)
Depending on the click it can be anything from a week before we would arrange a social and from there if we got along asap for a second meet!
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If the person is really interested in meeting you they will wait till you can arrange something. My work/home life is hectic and it does say on my profile I can't meet at the drop of a hat and I'd say about 99.9% of guys have been okay with it xx |
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Do whatever makes you happy, don't bend your rules to please others. There must be 100's of people you would avoid talking to in "real" life and 100's more you'd be happy to talk to, but no further, it's the same on here. Your choice, ignore the people who get abusive if you choose not to take it any further, report and block. |
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Thanks all
I appreciate your input X
This is all still kind of new to me and just don't want to be upsetting people I'd be happy to f*ck if I got the chance ! Lol X
Would be easy without commitments but that's not life unfortunately !! |
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"Thanks all
I appreciate your input X
This is all still kind of new to me and just don't want to be upsetting people I'd be happy to f*ck if I got the chance ! Lol X
Would be easy without commitments but that's not life unfortunately !!"
Same boat as you, kids are a pain in the bum!
No point rushing into anything, take your time and enjoy finding someone worth your time when you have it free.
If you ever feel like attempting to work out a baby sitting schedule maybe a trip down to plymouth could be fun 
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"Hi all
I'm a new mum with a full time job , family, friends etc so life gets busy.
Just asking what you all class as time wasters as I talk to a few people a week but can't meet on the spot nor do I have time to meet that weekend.
How long will you speak to someone before moving on?
I am completely genuine and do want to meet the people I talk to...trying to find a balance !!"
If a guy is worth your time, then he will wait. |
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Most people can't meet n all meet have to b arranged n most people take their time to meet but I've often met people after a day r so n still enjoyed them . I met this lady d next day cos she knew her ex would b staying in d spare room lol I think she wanted to tease him which she did he flipped it next day lol |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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i don't let anyone push me into meeting them a moment before I am ready..... be that 2 hrs, 2 days, 2 weeks or 2 months
I go at a pace I am happy with.... if people aren't happy with that.... they can move on!!!!  |
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I will talk to someone for as long as i'm happy to. If the conversation is good i'm happy to chat.
But, i'm getting fucked off other people as well so not as desperate to be fucked by anyone i talk to.
Some people i know i will never meet them, i might carry on talking to them unless it becomes frustrating to talk to them by knowing we'll never meet. |
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"Thanks all
I appreciate your input X
This is all still kind of new to me and just don't want to be upsetting people I'd be happy to f*ck if I got the chance ! Lol X
Would be easy without commitments but that's not life unfortunately !!
Same boat as you, kids are a pain in the bum!
No point rushing into anything, take your time and enjoy finding someone worth your time when you have it free.
If you ever feel like attempting to work out a baby sitting schedule maybe a trip down to plymouth could be fun
X"
They are a pain but they are priority and it's nice to find people who understand X
That sounds fun...never been there before, heard it's nice  xx |
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"I will talk to someone for as long as i'm happy to. If the conversation is good i'm happy to chat.
But, i'm getting fucked off other people as well so not as desperate to be fucked by anyone i talk to.
Some people i know i will never meet them, i might carry on talking to them unless it becomes frustrating to talk to them by knowing we'll never meet."
I find it intimidating when people are pushy and it's an immediate block !
I talk to a couple of people that I wouldn't meet, not only because of distance but because they aren't what I'm after from here.
It's Important I feel to be able to chat comfortably with people before you meet so you kind of know them x |
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"Hi all
I'm a new mum with a full time job , family, friends etc so life gets busy.
Just asking what you all class as time wasters as I talk to a few people a week but can't meet on the spot nor do I have time to meet that weekend.
How long will you speak to someone before moving on?
I am completely genuine and do want to meet the people I talk to...trying to find a balance !!"
If we know we want to meet someone , we would say to them message us when you are free to meet .
We only pm on here to ascertain that there is enough of a connection to make it to the point of meet suitability - usually a coupke of messages and that's it |
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"I will talk to someone for as long as i'm happy to. If the conversation is good i'm happy to chat.
But, i'm getting fucked off other people as well so not as desperate to be fucked by anyone i talk to.
Some people i know i will never meet them, i might carry on talking to them unless it becomes frustrating to talk to them by knowing we'll never meet.
I find it intimidating when people are pushy and it's an immediate block !
I talk to a couple of people that I wouldn't meet, not only because of distance but because they aren't what I'm after from here.
It's Important I feel to be able to chat comfortably with people before you meet so you kind of know them x"
Yeah, being pushy is one of the things that puts most people off. It shows disrespect for the other persons wants, limits, and boundaries...or at least no ability to recognise that the other person has these things in place.
If i really want to meet someone i am happy to wait for them to be ready, i think most people would be. I expect them to wait for me to be ready also.
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"Hi all
I'm a new mum with a full time job , family, friends etc so life gets busy.
Just asking what you all class as time wasters as I talk to a few people a week but can't meet on the spot nor do I have time to meet that weekend.
How long will you speak to someone before moving on?
I am completely genuine and do want to meet the people I talk to...trying to find a balance !!"
Cannot speak for everyone, but we speak to loads of people and like chatting. I would only class some one a time waster if the make arrangements to meet and then let you down at the last min, or just don't turn up. |
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A lot of people on here who are single or do not have the ties of kids at home etc, can forget that some of us do. We do not get masses of kids free time and when we do we also need time for just us.We do like to play but that is not going to be every time we are free.
We make it quite clear in our profile that meets need to be planned and if people are not happy to wait then they are not the sort of people we want to meet. If we get an unexpected child free night and want some naughty fun then we generally put something on here, and even then we would only meet people we have been chatting to..Oh and if you ever fancy a trip to eastbourne give us a shout |
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"Hi all
I'm a new mum with a full time job , family, friends etc so life gets busy.
Just asking what you all class as time wasters as I talk to a few people a week but can't meet on the spot nor do I have time to meet that weekend.
How long will you speak to someone before moving on?
I am completely genuine and do want to meet the people I talk to...trying to find a balance !!"
I've been been speaking to people for a while on here and not met up yet. Like you I have a life besides fab, I also have a little one so meeting someone at the drop of a hat just isn't going to happen (and I like people who appreciate that)
Don't stress babes if someone's genuine there going to respect that you have a life besides here and if not then there's always the block button which could be used lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some just do it deleberatly because they feel they have a sense of power and control over you and drop you when it suits them are these fakes or what how do you these people out of fab |
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"Hi all
I'm a new mum with a full time job , family, friends etc so life gets busy.
Just asking what you all class as time wasters as I talk to a few people a week but can't meet on the spot nor do I have time to meet that weekend.
How long will you speak to someone before moving on?
I am completely genuine and do want to meet the people I talk to...trying to find a balance !!"
for me fab can be a very frustrating place and we both have a choice ,I'm a patient man and love to chat but if we agree we would like to meet you can't string it out forever ,unfortunately some do and at some point I will say nicely I'm going to leave you to it and walk away ,so it depends how much you are interested in the other person yourself really because they won't wait forever and don't want to be one of 50 veris   |
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"Hi all
I'm a new mum with a full time job , family, friends etc so life gets busy.
Just asking what you all class as time wasters as I talk to a few people a week but can't meet on the spot nor do I have time to meet that weekend.
How long will you speak to someone before moving on?
I am completely genuine and do want to meet the people I talk to...trying to find a balance !!"
As my veris show it's some times taken a year or so to finally get timing right to meet some people.
Many I've spoken to for months before meeting because we get on so it's good to chat even if we can't sort something out.
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Depends, there are folk I've chatted to for a couple of years and still we've not got to meeting...we still chat, no mad rush...
Don't think I've ever really rushed meeting on here.
Take your own time and if they don't like it it's just one more filter I guess  |
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