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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So I'm sure we've all been there, chatted to someone on line, seen a few pics, decided to meet. But in person either you just don't find them attractive or they don't fancy you. So you either have the awkward "no thanks" conversation or go through with it anyway.

So how do you know from a few photos if you fancy someone? I don't have any specific type, so find it hard!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

I can pretty much tell from a photo if the physical attraction is there once I've seen a face. In person it can be different and we have no qualms in taking things no further.

Don't ever just go through with it, it's bad for the soul.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pics can be so different...actually hate my own face pics. Luckily all our meets are better in the flesh but we always Skype before we meet so no chance of being surprised. Saying that would never carry on if they were not what we expected in the flesh...a polite sorry but no thanks would always be used.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't do social meets and I've never turned up to a meet and not found that person as attractive as i thought i would. I think that's largely down to time invested chatting etc before agreeing to meet. So by the time it gets to the meet i already feel like i know that person and attraction has gone beyond the physical, although that would be the initial pull and the driving force.

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

I often find someone much more attractive in the flesh as they are animated instead of a still image and I can tell a lot about a person by how they move. This is why I prefer meeting people at clubs and organised parties .... you can get to know them much more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So I'm sure we've all been there, chatted to someone on line, seen a few pics, decided to meet. But in person either you just don't find them attractive or they don't fancy you. So you either have the awkward "no thanks" conversation or go through with it anyway.

So how do you know from a few photos if you fancy someone? I don't have any specific type, so find it hard!"

It's not pics that make someone attractive (although I do have certain standards lol), it's their personality, intelligence and ability to handle themselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As to having sex rather than have to politely decline someone I am not attracted to....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So how do you know from a few photos if you fancy someone? I don't have any specific type, so find it hard!"

I guess it depends what you are after from a meet .

If you are seeking something more than NSA sex , you will look for more , personality , sense of humour , intelligence , compatibility etc....

If it's just liberating sexual fun , pics and a quick chat will do it , and we haven't had any problems enjoying this .

We don't do social meets , so we have become pretty adept at gauging meets online .

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't, it takes more than a picture for me to be attracted to someone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive met guys offline from here and been let down a few times. Photos dont match up.

Or I met but did not find them attractive.

It works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't, it takes more than a picture for me to be attracted to someone

Attraction should be their mind first body 2nd..soul last.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So how do you know from a few photos if you fancy someone? I don't have any specific type, so find it hard!

I guess it depends what you are after from a meet .

If you are seeking something more than NSA sex , you will look for more , personality , sense of humour , intelligence , compatibility etc....

If it's just liberating sexual fun , pics and a quick chat will do it , and we haven't had any problems enjoying this .

We don't do social meets , so we have become pretty adept at gauging meets online ."

No way.. Nsa is not about a quick retardless fuck.

I dont fuck anyone who says hey lady want my cock.. No. You need way more intellect to get me into bed..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So how do you know from a few photos if you fancy someone? I don't have any specific type, so find it hard!

It's not pics that make someone attractive (although I do have certain standards lol), it's their personality, intelligence and ability to handle themselves"

So true yes. If we are in the unfortunate position of meeting up with someone and it doesn't feel right for some reason I say it is not quite working - I explain it could just be me, could be chemistry, mood, circumstance's .....hopefully if we are meeting in a swingers club then there will be alternative arrangements and we can all gain some pleasure anyway. I have always parted on good terms. Treating people with kindness and respect is important but that doesn't mean you have to play on every meet. M x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So how do you know from a few photos if you fancy someone? I don't have any specific type, so find it hard!

I guess it depends what you are after from a meet .

If you are seeking something more than NSA sex , you will look for more , personality , sense of humour , intelligence , compatibility etc....

If it's just liberating sexual fun , pics and a quick chat will do it , and we haven't had any problems enjoying this .

We don't do social meets , so we have become pretty adept at gauging meets online .

No way.. Nsa is not about a quick retardless fuck.

I dont fuck anyone who says hey lady want my cock.. No. You need way more intellect to get me into bed..

Well that makes 3 of us then , who don't see nsa as a quick retardless fuck !

While we don't particularly care about intellect , looks and an agreeable personality are important .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So how do you know from a few photos if you fancy someone? I don't have any specific type, so find it hard!

I guess it depends what you are after from a meet .

If you are seeking something more than NSA sex , you will look for more , personality , sense of humour , intelligence , compatibility etc....

If it's just liberating sexual fun , pics and a quick chat will do it , and we haven't had any problems enjoying this .

We don't do social meets , so we have become pretty adept at gauging meets online .

No way.. Nsa is not about a quick retardless fuck.

I dont fuck anyone who says hey lady want my cock.. No. You need way more intellect to get me into bed..

Well that makes 3 of us then , who don't see nsa as a quick retardless fuck !

While we don't particularly care about intellect , looks and an agreeable personality are important .

...and my husband too - he has many many experiences of not feeling the mfmf 4way click - in which case he watches me have fun and plays with me when he knows I am on the edge of that special pleasurable moment! Then we all go home happy. M x

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By *estmidscoupleCouple over a year ago

West Midlands

We meet socially first as photo attraction hard to gauge, and funnily enough had to say "no" to a guy for the first time recently - lovely guy, right age etc etc but absolutely zero spark. Felt awful telling him we weren't proceeding but was the right decision for us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm attracted to personality more than look but I like that a woman in the chatting stage thinks about me when here and says hi ,that shows a connection and makes me feel its worth taking forward

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't tell if I want to sleep with the women on here after reading through their rants...oops, I mean profiles!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't tell if I want to sleep with the women on here after reading through their rants...oops, I mean profiles! "
hehe are you struggling with the women rule fab reality ??

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I take my time getting to know someone first, however I always do a social first as well and emphasise that it is a social

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't tell if I want to sleep with the women on here after reading through their rants...oops, I mean profiles! hehe are you struggling with the women rule fab reality ??

Not in the slightest, I don't subscribe to that opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I take my time getting to know someone first, however I always do a social first as well and emphasise that it is a social

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't tell if I want to sleep with the women on here after reading through their rants...oops, I mean profiles! hehe are you struggling with the women rule fab reality ??

Not in the slightest, I don't subscribe to that opinion."
you may not subscribe to it but they do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't tell who i definitely do fancy from a pic but i can tell who i definitely don't fancy from looking.

I think some people look better and some worse but never that different that it would make much difference with attractiveness.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We always have a social. Easier to stress its just that, no pressure. Can decide after the meet if things will progress .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can see it in your eye I can see it in your smile every time my jaw hits the ground

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had that happen once and just finished our drinks, said I had to go and cut it short when he tried to kiss me. Messaged him and said he was lovely (which he was) but the chemistry hadn't been there for me. The pictures didn't quite add up and I hadn't put enough effort into chatting before hand so the connection just wasn't there...I'm not as good as some on here to tell if I'd like someone in person...x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There will be something about a man that will make me want to be naked with him. Something about his face and how he talks to me. There is no magic formula,but sometimes there's an instant attraction and we both feel it. The sex is always memorable with those men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't tell if I want to sleep with the women on here after reading through their rants...oops, I mean profiles! hehe are you struggling with the women rule fab reality ??

Not in the slightest, I don't subscribe to that opinion.you may not subscribe to it but they do

Yes, I've noticed...I'm sure one of us charming fellas will bring them back down to earth one day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had quite a few social metres but only been attracted to a couple of them once we met. A lot of pics seem to be.. Unrepresentative, shall we say

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By *unCoupleTXCouple over a year ago

Longview

It's always kind of a risk... I'm always told my pictures "don't do you justice"... I've met people I felt the same; they were even more attractive in person. However, the opposite has been true as well. When I was single, I met a man who I thought was pretty cute in his photos, but in person.... Ummm, awkward! Sadly, his personality didn't help much more.

But life is short... Just gotta take some chances!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't need to fancy them for sex, after all it is just nsa.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So how do you know from a few photos if you fancy someone? I don't have any specific type, so find it hard!"

The way I have found to deal with that is to exchange messages pics and if you can cam before you agree to meet.

Sometimes the slower you move forward the better in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't need to fancy them for sex, after all it is just nsa."

Surely your mind and body are not totally disconnected??????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't need to fancy them for sex, after all it is just nsa.

Surely your mind and body are not totally disconnected??????"
Yes they are, my cock got its own brain so to speak lol x.

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By *ethnmelvCouple over a year ago

Cardiff

"I can't tell who i definitely do fancy from a pic but i can tell who i definitely don't fancy from looking.

I think some people look better and some worse but never that different that it would make much difference with attractiveness."

Agreed - we tend to use foto's to decide if we might want to meet at clubs and then go from there...

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

I always do a social first meet, and my reason for doing so is pics and cam chats are nothing compared to face to face.

And the lack of expectation and pressure makes things a lot more relaxed I think.

Plus it is hard to say no to someone, though I do do it. It seems men find it even harder so a social gives them an easy get out. After a social if you never hear from them you get the message

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"but i can tell who i definitely don't fancy from looking."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some really good stuff in here. You've made me think! Thank you.

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

You don't know, the pictures will tell you if there will be a basic physical attraction but only in the flesh will you know if there is a meeting of minds.

We always have a social first and have no problems with saying no thanks once we have met. You should never feel obliged to play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No one ever made me feel obliged to play. I guess it was my failing when I played with someone I didn't feel attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No one ever made me feel obliged to play. I guess it was my failing when I played with someone I didn't feel attracted to."

Only one person I was attracted to. Last summer, looks, funny and body. I just knew. We met and it was instantanious. X

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I can easily know from pics if it would not work. There are some who are the opposite - it'll almost certainly be great.

But never shag if it's wrong. Be honest and respectful - facing rejection is part of the process, as we each filter out those who we are not matched with.

Have less sex but better sex is always the right thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't tell if I want to sleep with the women on here after reading through their rants...oops, I mean profiles! hehe are you struggling with the women rule fab reality ??

Not in the slightest, I don't subscribe to that opinion.you may not subscribe to it but they do

Yes, I've noticed...I'm sure one of us charming fellas will bring them back down to earth one day.

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no chance its a numbers game and egos are boosted by interest wether justified or not ,humour is way forward make a woman laugh and you'll capture her interest so don't show your cock first in case she laughs at that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't need to fancy them for sex, after all it is just nsa."
NSA means not sexy at-all am I right ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't need to fancy them for sex, after all it is just nsa.NSA means not sexy at-all am I right ?

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lol no, it means sex there

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

"I don't do social meets and I've never turned up to a meet and not found that person as attractive as i thought i would. I think that's largely down to time invested chatting etc before agreeing to meet. So by the time it gets to the meet i already feel like i know that person and attraction has gone beyond the physical, although that would be the initial pull and the driving force."

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