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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies .

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

It probably has a lot more to do with your profile than your message

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By *tillup4funMan over a year ago

Wakefield

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies ."

So did you get all those friends?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've written this sentence about 100 times but I'll write it again.

You could send a Shakespearean sonnet or you could send a message saying you like turtles, the only thing that will determine a reply is your profile text and your pictures.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Polite messages preferred here, also the ability to see your face along with this (either on page or via the message). It won't guarantee a reply though, but will get read.

Fancy a fuck might work if i had a status up looking for a fuck right now.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies ."

your a single male that's just how it is unfortunately

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By *etzPlayCouple over a year ago

Southend

"I've written this sentence about 100 times but I'll write it again.

You could send a Shakespearean sonnet or you could send a message saying you like turtles, the only thing that will determine a reply is your profile text and your pictures. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've written this sentence about 100 times but I'll write it again.

You could send a Shakespearean sonnet or you could send a message saying you like turtles, the only thing that will determine a reply is your profile text and your pictures. "
YES..and if they fancy you from the pics...1st principals always

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive revamped my profile a few times now and this time seems to be getting better responce which is good as far as what you send in the msg will depend on the other theres been times where ive done a detailed msg and not even got a thanks but no thanks and other times ive just been cheeky and said your fit and had a reply in a few min ( usally telling me to piss off haha )

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Your profile (with plenty of friends, so you must be doing something right) is quite specific, asking for 'somebody or somebody's who are local to town centre' perhaps be a little more flexible?

Also as it's now December, your profile says 'would love to try outdoor meets now weather getting better' might be a good idea to check what you write and change it with the seasons

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies ."

I've tried long, short, polite, crude, straight up & vague...

Makes ZERO difference. They whine about not wanting 'One Liners' and then don't even have the decency to copy and paste a 'Thanks but no thanks.' in reply.

Thankfully, I have met a few nice people here who have at least responded and said Hi, and some have kept chatting to me on and off ever since.

Personally, I think FAB should penalize people who don't respond to mails, by not enabling them to send or receive any more until they have responded to what they've received, even if it's just 'no thanks'. But it would help if there was a simple 'no thanks' button that could be selected instead of allowing an unread mail to be deleted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies .

I've tried long, short, polite, crude, straight up & vague...

Makes ZERO difference. They whine about not wanting 'One Liners' and then don't even have the decency to copy and paste a 'Thanks but no thanks.' in reply.

Thankfully, I have met a few nice people here who have at least responded and said Hi, and some have kept chatting to me on and off ever since.

Deleting your message is a no thanks. No reply is a no interest.

Don't get why guys don't understand this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies .

I've tried long, short, polite, crude, straight up & vague...

Makes ZERO difference. They whine about not wanting 'One Liners' and then don't even have the decency to copy and paste a 'Thanks but no thanks.' in reply.

Thankfully, I have met a few nice people here who have at least responded and said Hi, and some have kept chatting to me on and off ever since.

So you seriously expect someone who receices 100 messages a day to respond to all of them just to be able to message someone there actually interested in. The FAQs specially state to take a no response as a no thank you, it is not impolite or rude of me to choose not to respond to an unsolicited message off a complete stranger!

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies .

I've tried long, short, polite, crude, straight up & vague...

Makes ZERO difference. They whine about not wanting 'One Liners' and then don't even have the decency to copy and paste a 'Thanks but no thanks.' in reply.

Thankfully, I have met a few nice people here who have at least responded and said Hi, and some have kept chatting to me on and off ever since.

I think fab should penalise people who continue to message someone when they haven't got a response, with the same copy and paste message.

Anyway fab automatically deletes unread messages after a while, so they would have to penalise themselves

sounds kinky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies .

I've tried long, short, polite, crude, straight up & vague...

Makes ZERO difference. They whine about not wanting 'One Liners' and then don't even have the decency to copy and paste a 'Thanks but no thanks.' in reply.

Thankfully, I have met a few nice people here who have at least responded and said Hi, and some have kept chatting to me on and off ever since.

I think fab should penalise people who continue to message someone when they haven't got a response, with the same copy and paste message.

Anyway fab automatically deletes unread messages after a while, so they would have to penalise themselves

sounds kinky"

Do you reckon they'd spank themselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies .

I've tried long, short, polite, crude, straight up & vague...

Makes ZERO difference. They whine about not wanting 'One Liners' and then don't even have the decency to copy and paste a 'Thanks but no thanks.' in reply.

Thankfully, I have met a few nice people here who have at least responded and said Hi, and some have kept chatting to me on and off ever since.

I think fab should penalise people who continue to message someone when they haven't got a response, with the same copy and paste message.

Anyway fab automatically deletes unread messages after a while, so they would have to penalise themselves

sounds kinky"

I think they should delete guys accounts when they try to control how we work on here.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Ive revamped my profile a few times now and this time seems to be getting better responce which is good as far as what you send in the msg will depend on the other theres been times where ive done a detailed msg and not even got a thanks but no thanks and other times ive just been cheeky and said your fit and had a reply in a few min ( usally telling me to piss off haha ) "

But you have nice pics not cock pics on yours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies .

I've tried long, short, polite, crude, straight up & vague...

Makes ZERO difference. They whine about not wanting 'One Liners' and then don't even have the decency to copy and paste a 'Thanks but no thanks.' in reply.

Thankfully, I have met a few nice people here who have at least responded and said Hi, and some have kept chatting to me on and off ever since.

I think fab should penalise people who continue to message someone when they haven't got a response, with the same copy and paste message.

Anyway fab automatically deletes unread messages after a while, so they would have to penalise themselves

sounds kinky

I think they should delete guys accounts when they try to control how we work on here."

Men should try being a woman on here for a week then their views on how we should reply even if its a no thanks might change

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies .

I've tried long, short, polite, crude, straight up & vague...

Makes ZERO difference. They whine about not wanting 'One Liners' and then don't even have the decency to copy and paste a 'Thanks but no thanks.' in reply.

Thankfully, I have met a few nice people here who have at least responded and said Hi, and some have kept chatting to me on and off ever since.

I think fab should penalise people who continue to message someone when they haven't got a response, with the same copy and paste message.

Anyway fab automatically deletes unread messages after a while, so they would have to penalise themselves

sounds kinky

I think they should delete guys accounts when they try to control how we work on here.

Men should try being a woman on here for a week then their views on how we should reply even if its a no thanks might change

Yeah. Then we should copy and paste ALL our daily messages to anyone who whinges about not getting replies.

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By *j48Man over a year ago

Wigan

People are people

Just because you think you're fantastic and desirable etc doesn't mean that the person /people you have messaged are.

More often than not it's a waste of time sending a message..

Keep that in mind, but if you get a positive reply it's a bonus!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just as I expected, instead of a rational response, I got attacked.

I perfectly understand that women get overwhelmed by messages, but if you're going to whine about not getting more than one line, then you should have the decency to respond when you actually GET what you ask for.

Deleted does not equal no thanks. Deleted equals "I'm too selfish and rude to consider the effort you put in".

And if you think it's ok to delete without response, then you have no right to complain about someone copying and pasting IMHO. Why should someone waste their time writing you an individual introduction when you'll just ignore it anyway?? Hypocrites.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just as I expected, instead of a rational response, I got attacked.

Deleted does not equal no thanks. Deleted equals "I'm too selfish and rude to consider the effort you put in".

Deleting messages really is saying no thanks. Why do you want people to say no thanks for when ignoring your message is exactly the same thing?

No-one attacked you, we took the piss coz that's how we deal with rude and entitled guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If rude is how you describe people who speak their mind, then so be it.

Entitled? Give me a break.

All I ask for is some basic MANNERS. Something in very short supply here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just as I expected, instead of a rational response, I got attacked.

Deleted does not equal no thanks. Deleted equals "I'm too selfish and rude to consider the effort you put in".

Deleting messages really is saying no thanks. Why do you want people to say no thanks for when ignoring your message is exactly the same thing?

No-one attacked you, we took the piss coz that's how we deal with rude and entitled guys on here."

I'd like to know how he thinks we 'attacked' him. I see no attacking, but I do see someone who obviously is unhappy with what is an acceptable and common practice. If you don't agree with the site rules and procedures in pkace such as this one, then you have 2 options really. 1. Don't message anyone and let them find you or 2. Leave the site.

You do it your way, oh and the rest of us will do it our own way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is more of a lottery, if they decide to reply or not lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If rude is how you describe people who speak their mind, then so be it.

Entitled? Give me a break.

All I ask for is some basic MANNERS. Something in very short supply here."

You think you're entitled to a response from people who are not interested in you, so yes you are acting entitled.

Sorry, but just because people have profiles on here where you have a chance to approach them, it does not mean they are interested in interacting with you in any way.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"If rude is how you describe people who speak their mind, then so be it.

Entitled? Give me a break.

All I ask for is some basic MANNERS. Something in very short supply here."

An inbox full of 'no' is better than no reply? Strange.

Anyway, its a moot point. Admin's FAQs state 'no reply is a no'. If you're not keen on the rules, let them know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just as I expected, instead of a rational response, I got attacked.

Deleted does not equal no thanks. Deleted equals "I'm too selfish and rude to consider the effort you put in".

Deleting messages really is saying no thanks. Why do you want people to say no thanks for when ignoring your message is exactly the same thing?

No-one attacked you, we took the piss coz that's how we deal with rude and entitled guys on here.

You do it your way, oh and the rest of us will do it our own way

I didn't see that either. Some of us use humour when people piss us off that's all.

It's people like him that made it so my filters are set for younger guys, they get that they aren't entitled to anything and we aren't here to pander to all men and what they want.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"You think you're entitled to a response from people who are not interested in you, so yes you are acting entitled.

Sorry, but just because people have profiles on here where you have a chance to approach them, it does not mean they are interested in interacting with you in any way."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyway, its a moot point. Admin's FAQs state 'no reply is a no'. If you're not keen on the rules, let them know."

If this is indeed the case then I unreservedly apologise.

This has never been brought to my attention before.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyway, its a moot point. Admin's FAQs state 'no reply is a no'. If you're not keen on the rules, let them know.

If this is indeed the case then I unreservedly apologise.

This has never been brought to my attention before.

But it was pointed out by myself and others earlier in this post. Yet we were attacking you for pointng this out!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Anyway, its a moot point. Admin's FAQs state 'no reply is a no'. If you're not keen on the rules, let them know.

If this is indeed the case then I unreservedly apologise.

This has never been brought to my attention before.

But it was pointed out by myself and others earlier in this post. Yet we were attacking you for pointng this out!!"

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By *ilmiss75Woman over a year ago

Thornton

Basic manners to me is just accepting a deleted message without any hassle

We say no... We get 20 questions why we said no. Why should I sit and waste my time replying to everyone that does not show basic MANNERS by reading my profile saving themselves a 'no' or delete.

Last week... A guy messaged me.. Wasn't happy that I wasn't interested so then abused me by telling me he goes to the gym and maybe I should try it coz I'm fat. The funny thing was, his profile was looking for BBW's.

So.... Who had the basic MANNERS That day?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyway, its a moot point. Admin's FAQs state 'no reply is a no'. If you're not keen on the rules, let them know.

If this is indeed the case then I unreservedly apologise.

This has never been brought to my attention before.

But it was pointed out by myself and others earlier in this post. Yet we were attacking you for pointng this out!!

You have a better way with words than me

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Why should I sit and waste my time replying to everyone that does not show basic MANNERS by reading my profile saving themselves a 'no' or delete... "

This is sooo true, it's like they think we write them just for a laugh and we don't know our own minds

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyway, its a moot point. Admin's FAQs state 'no reply is a no'. If you're not keen on the rules, let them know.

If this is indeed the case then I unreservedly apologise.

This has never been brought to my attention before.

But it was pointed out by myself and others earlier in this post. Yet we were attacking you for pointng this out!!

Disagree. Please point out where the FAQ'S were mentioned previously on the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies .

I've tried long, short, polite, crude, straight up & vague...

Makes ZERO difference. They whine about not wanting 'One Liners' and then don't even have the decency to copy and paste a 'Thanks but no thanks.' in reply.

Thankfully, I have met a few nice people here who have at least responded and said Hi, and some have kept chatting to me on and off ever since.

Here you go my First response on this thread. See FAQs specifically mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyway, its a moot point. Admin's FAQs state 'no reply is a no'. If you're not keen on the rules, let them know.

If this is indeed the case then I unreservedly apologise.

This has never been brought to my attention before.

But it was pointed out by myself and others earlier in this post. Yet we were attacking you for pointng this out!!

Disagree. Please point out where the FAQ'S were mentioned previously on the thread."

I have just done so for you

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Op...There's no magic pill. Make it individual and specific to that person(s), after that it's up to them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I didn't mention the FAQs and didn't feel any need to, really don't see why my opinion (as a female who ignores messages) was deemed invalid just because a man thought i should reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i wonder if someone can help

i just wonder what type of messages people like to get a polite message or how about a fuck type of message .

its just that i keep sending polite messages and i get no replies ."

Whatever!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I didn't mention the FAQs and didn't feel any need to, really don't see why my opinion (as a female who ignores messages) was deemed invalid just because a man thought i should reply."

And somehow that's not rude or aggressive?

I have never considered anyone's opinion as invalid, but you've certainly been rude about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I didn't mention the FAQs and didn't feel any need to, really don't see why my opinion (as a female who ignores messages) was deemed invalid just because a man thought i should reply.

And somehow that's not rude or aggressive?

I have never considered anyone's opinion as invalid, but you've certainly been rude about it."

It's not aggressive, but it's certainly not passive or submissive to you, my opinion as the type person being talked about is valid. Setting my own personal boundaries is also completely fine to do.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

For some reason, I'm reminded of a cartload of chimpanzees arguing over a banana.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyway, its a moot point. Admin's FAQs state 'no reply is a no'. If you're not keen on the rules, let them know.

If this is indeed the case then I unreservedly apologise.

This has never been brought to my attention before.

But it was pointed out by myself and others earlier in this post. Yet we were attacking you for pointng this out!!

Disagree. Please point out where the FAQ'S were mentioned previously on the thread.

I have just done so for you"

Thank you. I stand corrected.

Frankly, I feel like I'm wasting my time here as a single guy - If I don't have a pretty face, a fit body or a big dick then I have no chance.

When I first joined I was told my problem was that I needed to get some photos and get verified. Becoming a site supporter will help...

Well, now I've done all that and it's still a waste of effort.

I always read the profiles before mailing and I try never to waste anyone's time.

But yes, you're right, I shouldn't feel 'entitled' to a result, but my overall experience has been VERY negative.

Rudeness and insensitivity are the most common tools used here.

I'm beginning to think I'm simply too decent a person to fit in here.

But hey, I'm just another stupid guy, right? My opinion doesn't matter either...

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

Anyway, its a moot point. Admin's FAQs state 'no reply is a no'. If you're not keen on the rules, let them know.

If this is indeed the case then I unreservedly apologise.

This has never been brought to my attention before.

But it was pointed out by myself and others earlier in this post. Yet we were attacking you for pointng this out!!

Disagree. Please point out where the FAQ'S were mentioned previously on the thread.

I have just done so for you

Thank you. I stand corrected.

Frankly, I feel like I'm wasting my time here as a single guy - If I don't have a pretty face, a fit body or a big dick then I have no chance.

When I first joined I was told my problem was that I needed to get some photos and get verified. Becoming a site supporter will help...

Well, now I've done all that and it's still a waste of effort.

I always read the profiles before mailing and I try never to waste anyone's time.

But yes, you're right, I shouldn't feel 'entitled' to a result, but my overall experience has been VERY negative.

Rudeness and insensitivity are the most common tools used here.

I'm beginning to think I'm simply too decent a person to fit in here.

But hey, I'm just another stupid guy, right? My opinion doesn't matter either..."

Wow! There are toys ALL over the pavement here!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"But hey, I'm just another stupid guy, right? My opinion doesn't matter either..."

I'm not sure your attitude helps. It may come through in your messages.