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what does a man have to do

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. Messages just get deleted with out even reading them. I dont think it takes that long to reply really. Yes i know you women get hundreds of messages but its near impossible to chat to a female on here lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Look at the 100's of other threads asking the same question

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

Bro if you want you can send a message to one of my fake single bi fem profiles. They always answer back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have a bit more in your profile maybe ? Put more in get more out I've heard people say on these threads

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. "

Is this an actual question or a statement?

If it's a question, you could look a it closer to home for the answer.

If it's a statement I have no idea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i'm busy chatting to the guys i wanna meet.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. Messages just get deleted with out even reading them. I dont think it takes that long to reply really. Yes i know you women get hundreds of messages but its near impossible to chat to a female on here lol"

be on here longer than 9 weeks perhaps?

or maybe use all the tools to differentiate yourself from a lot of the other people....

you have a huge chance to say this is who i am... you have a shop window where you can give people a reason to say "wow!! this is why you show meet me!"

you decided that 14 words was enough to convince people.... yes... i counted them!!!!

if you can't really be bothered to help yourself... why should people take time out of their day to help you!!!!

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By *edangel_2013Woman over a year ago

southend

Most women i know on here delete messages from profiles that just have the site standard text in.

Might be that.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message.

I wouldn't open your message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being in Wales doesn't help mostly Country and a coastal part of uk ( not because your Welsh)

Depending on where you live change it to more central and you can travel like Birmingham or go to socials and club nights

I am going out tonight to a social from someone I met at a club who hasn't heard about fab yet practical lives in the club

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

Why would anyone reply when you've not written or shown anything to attract them?

Would you answer a message from you?

Thought not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message.

I wouldn't open your message."

So what would you say i could put in my profile

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message.

I wouldn't open your message.

So what would you say i could put in my profile"

Try to imagine you're talking directly to someone you'd like to meet. How would you describe yourself and what you have to offer, and what kind of person you are.

Only you can do that.

Nobody else can do it for you.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message.

I wouldn't open your message.

So what would you say i could put in my profile"

thats what YOU need to figure out for yourself....

after all who knows YOU better than YOU

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message.

I wouldn't open your message.

So what would you say i could put in my profile"

Something you've come up with yourself and not what others suggest...

Go look at the profiles of guys who meet and the countless other threads on this subject (forum search function)

And if you can't string a good profile together yourself after that then your knackered mate :/

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

stand out from the crowd

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You could have a decent profile? That would be a big help on a profile site.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

What does a man have to do?

Write a decent profile.

We've all had to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You are obviously aware we get lots, sometimes hundreds, of messages.

If we spent 1 minute per message, reading it and answering it,let alone all the "why not?" Messages, we wouldn't have time to actually get laid. You do the maths.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message.

I wouldn't open your message.

So what would you say i could put in my profile"

More than that you are straight and wanting women. That is really not much of a profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive been on here a year and had 1 meet.

Had plenty of chats and it leads from there even though us men are the majority it doesnt give us the god given right to pussy just becuase were here and have a dick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What does a man have to do?

Write a decent profile.

We've all had to."

I didn't and I know of a guy with almost 400 verifies and his profile is crapper than mine

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By *lighty1Woman over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

Try using the chat rooms. Work out who are the popular guys, what they say that appeals to women, etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What does a man have to do?

Write a decent profile.

We've all had to.

I didn't and I know of a guy with almost 400 verifies and his profile is crapper than mine "

703 meets he is 50 and

Profile and looks mean nothing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hello darkness my old friend ive come to talk with you again......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Improve your profile for a start, then often helps if you read people's profiles before messaging, a lot say "no single men". If it says that they have full right to delete your message.

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By *lighty1Woman over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

"Improve your profile for a start, then often helps if you read people's profiles before messaging, a lot say "no single men". If it says that they have full right to delete your message."

EVERYONE has the full right to delete messages, per the FAQs (it's not rude not to respond).

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"What does a man have to do?

Write a decent profile.

We've all had to.

I didn't and I know of a guy with almost 400 verifies and his profile is crapper than mine

703 meets he is 50 and

Profile and looks mean nothing "

Err....well I daresay his verifications have helped him get the odd few hundred....

I daresay he started, and continues to get many more at socials if it's the guy I'm thinking of.

Let's look at it this way then.

Those who've got halfway decently-written profiles are far more likely to do well on here.

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By *amesB66Man over a year ago

St Peter Port

Add more information to your profile as suggested previously and chat on the forums. You'll soon get some attention and then just take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What does a man have to do?

Write a decent profile.

We've all had to.

I didn't and I know of a guy with almost 400 verifies and his profile is crapper than mine

703 meets he is 50 and

Profile and looks mean nothing

Err....well I daresay his verifications have helped him get the odd few hundred....

I daresay he started, and continues to get many more at socials if it's the guy I'm thinking of.

Let's look at it this way then.

Those who've got halfway decently-written profiles are far more likely to do well on here."

Yes well written profiles being nice and chatty in the chat rooms and forums Is the way to get on here and it's bloody hard work to do

Don't upset the women with sexist comments in the forum

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By *olarfoxMan over a year ago

North Cambs

Some good pics, a good profile with some good blurb...patience and a polite, good humoured manner all have worked wonders for me - I chat to loads of women and couples and meet up with a huge number on a very regular basis..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's because genuine people have no idea if they're coming or going on this site. LOL you got the poor women more confused than TV/S, they dont know who's straight, bi, gay, metro...they're confused as hell like the rest of us.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"It's because genuine people have no idea if they're coming or going on this site. LOL you got the poor women more confused than TV/S, they dont know who's straight, bi, gay, metro...they're confused as hell like the rest of us."

Well if it's sexual orientation you're talking about a few probing questions usually sorts that out...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ive taken the advice onboard and updated my profile. Now i just have to wait to be judged upon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trust me probing questions hasn't worked for me so for women it must be a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ive taken the advice onboard and updated my profile. Now i just have to wait to be judged upon."

Better.

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By *olarfoxMan over a year ago

North Cambs

"Ive taken the advice onboard and updated my profile. Now i just have to wait to be judged upon."

I would recommend some more pics - even just some of you in normal clothes or a smart suit..

Also try to come up with some more stuff about yourself - if you can make it a bit humerous (although I don't particularly) even better...

Don't hassle people...short polite messages - again using humour and a light hearted approach if possible - try to come across as confident, experienced and whilst not arrogant never put yourself down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You need to get rid of the pants round the ankles pic. It is truly unattractive.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Trust me probing questions hasn't worked for me so for women it must be a nightmare."

I'm not at all sure what the problem is.

Perhaps you should start a fresh thread on this matter and gather the experts in such matters

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I am not d*unk

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You need to get rid of the pants round the ankles pic. It is truly unattractive."
okay ill consider it done

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"I am not d*unk "

Well that's reassuring

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message.

I wouldn't open your message."

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message.

I wouldn't open your message.

Same here. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Same

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By *reenleavesCouple over a year ago

North Wales

The fact you mention that you're looking to cheat on your partner may put many off. Though you're up front about it, so that may work in your favour.

No real constructive help, sorry, just an observation

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well sent my first message since updating my profile the message was deleted mo reply and my profile was viewed. Death before defeat and all that.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Well sent my first message since updating my profile the message was deleted mo reply and my profile was viewed. Death before defeat and all that."

Do you really think that you've now got the irresistible profile...

No, no, no, no.

You really need to adjust your expectations.....big time.

As SHag says..

You do need patience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well sent my first message since updating my profile the message was deleted mo reply and my profile was viewed. Death before defeat and all that."

You can have the best shiniest profile ever, it's not 'the answer' it just helps attract the folk who would like you...

Imagine your home town, how many women live there? And what percentage of those have you slept with?

Tiny right?

Same on here...people still need to find you attractive same as anywhere.

It's not a case of them going 'oh, he's got a bit of a profile, think I'll suck his dick'

Keep chatting, talk to people like people, go socials, use forums and chat rooms and go clubs and munches,

A good profile is no replacement for effort, just one small part of it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm...this is a tough one.

What you don't do is make it apparent every message you ever sent got deleted because that alone is an indication of what's going wrong

Here's what you'll need:

Valid Passport

UK Driving Licence

Donor Card

Harrods Store Card

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're profile says you're in a relationship but she doesn't know you swing, most women wouldn't want to shit on anothers doorstep!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Well sent my first message since updating my profile the message was deleted mo reply and my profile was viewed. Death before defeat and all that."

Why did you look to see if it had been read or not?

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

You have the basic equipment now to climb that mountain.

Before, you were wearing carpet slippers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And don't live anywhere near Penge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Look at the 100's of other threads asking the same question

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

I've only looked after you've made 'improvements'.

Although it is great that you are honest about cheating on your gf it will put a lot of people off too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've only looked after you've made 'improvements'.

Although it is great that you are honest about cheating on your gf it will put a lot of people off too."

Thats fair enough prehaps i shouldnt have been so forthcoming.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I've only looked after you've made 'improvements'.

Although it is great that you are honest about cheating on your gf it will put a lot of people off too.

Thats fair enough prehaps i shouldnt have been so forthcoming."

Yes you should because you'll only get found out in the end.

Some people don't mind though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've only looked after you've made 'improvements'.

Although it is great that you are honest about cheating on your gf it will put a lot of people off too.

Thats fair enough prehaps i shouldnt have been so forthcoming.

Yes you should because you'll only get found out in the end.

Some people don't mind though."

Ill see how i get on now thanks

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By *heeky202Man over a year ago

manchester

Commute or/and offer to.

Club and offer to meet there.

It's a bullet point CV.

Go on chat and forum.

My profile has been butchered back lately however.

'If you wouldn't have a drink with them, then don't try f%%k em.

Patience, positivity, politeness,perseverance, professional , patience ,patience and more patience.

A few more candid pics, no need for cock pics though.

Humour and positivity

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know everyone is being really critical OP, but I've came in to read this thread late and read through it all.

Now I've managed to see you did have the fact you are attached on your profile text, but now no longer do. Some people (us included) would rather not play with someone who is attached or cheating on their OH, although not all members mind or care. I would say though, it's better to be honest about that in your profile and letting others decide for themselves. Rather than hiding the fact and wasting people's time, or upsetting people who discover the truth further down the line. Best of luck and happy swinging.

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By *akflashMan over a year ago

birmingham

Tell me about it I know I'm mature but mesaages just get deleted when u ask them why some block u that button is so enoying to many trigger happy people lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And don't live anywhere near Penge.

"
lol that's right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've only looked after you've made 'improvements'.

Although it is great that you are honest about cheating on your gf it will put a lot of people off too.

Thats fair enough prehaps i shouldnt have been so forthcoming."

Whey and now the truth is gone and it's just another cheat lying about being single.

This is why if someone has that on their profile I will never mention it when giving advice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bro if you want you can send a message to one of my fake single bi fem profiles. They always answer back.

There's plenty of those too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, it must just be you...to paraphrase the inbetweeners the rest of us are knee deep in fit clunge...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now you've removed the fact your in a relationship makes you as bad as the men pretending to be bi women and couples !!

Is it so radical to be honest and let people decide for themselves?

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

Have you tried growing a vagina? That will work wonders for you.

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By *roggMan over a year ago

haverfordwest

Being in Wales doesn't help mostly Country and a coastal part of uk ( not because your Welsh)

Depending on where you live change it to more central and you can travel like Birmingham or go to socials and club nights

I am going out tonight to a social from someone I met at a club who hasn't heard about fab yet practical lives in the club

"
I live in West Wales and have travelled quite alot on here to clubs in West Midlands ,North West and to socials in south Wales without doing that I would have hardly met many people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile name. Wales man. Do you know how many guys in Wales choose that? If you're chatting to 10 or 15 guys at once and 9 of them are called walesguy/man something it gets complicated and becomes a headache.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I know that no one is under any obligation to reply to anyone on a thread but why ignore the guy? Why ignore my question and answer the ladies' question? It won't get you a meet with them and if you were able to answer mine it might make your fab experience a little more fun.

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By *iBeRtInE70Man over a year ago

around

Oooh popcorn time ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I've only looked after you've made 'improvements'.

Although it is great that you are honest about cheating on your gf it will put a lot of people off too.

Thats fair enough prehaps i shouldnt have been so forthcoming.

Whey and now the truth is gone and it's just another cheat lying about being single.

This is why if someone has that on their profile I will never mention it when giving advice"

He might as well be honest his profile screams that he's cheating anyway and in my experience of successful attached guys profiles on here it always the ones who are honest about it

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By *udistnorthantsMan over a year ago

Desborough

"OP, it must just be you...to paraphrase the inbetweeners the rest of us are knee deep in fit clunge...

I only manage to get balls deep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ive taken the advice onboard and updated my profile. Now i just have to wait to be judged upon."

Boring as.. One torso photo. Does not entice me. Your description says nothing about what you like or what you seek.

Oh yes be honest.. Married, gf.. Cheating. You will be found out damn quick. So best to come clean.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

I personally don't like the face pic line either, Whilst I understand your reasons OP since you're playing away from home discretely, I still think it's crass. I (like most) is like a face pic with a first message and even though mine are public I still send one in a first message, because it's an introduction and I believe it's only polite to show people who they are talking to, let's face it, if you were on the pull in a bar you wouldn't approach someone wearing a mask and take it off when it suit you, would you?

Then there's also the fact they can also make an informed decision on if there's an attraction, in that instance, rather than wasting time chatting, to then get a pic and not be interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh he is another welsh cheating dragon.

Seems you deleted you are in a relationship.

Dodgy profile...

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By *ivnwcplCouple over a year ago

liverpool

You need to do more than casting your line and put some bait on the end to attract, you have a very poor profile compared to many single males, probably why you are being overlooked, some people look at the profile before reading the message, if the profile is poor then no point in wasting there time reading the message, it just gets deleted

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By *aeriequeenWoman over a year ago

Manchester

I would need more than one pic as it shows effort. How can you possibly decide on one pic and a few lines. When you have guys messaging with lots of pics and an idea of what they're about you obviously chat to them!

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By *ivnwcplCouple over a year ago

liverpool

Well glad he took all that constructive advice well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey just be patient. And try not to sound sleepy. ..mim not saying you do but we've had some messages off single blokes and they just come across wrong. Be down to earth open minded and have plenty of pics to shareas aa lot of fake profiles have no pics so people are weary. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey just be patient. And try not to sound sleepy. ..mim not saying you do but we've had some messages off single blokes and they just come across wrong. Be down to earth open minded and have plenty of pics to shareas aa lot of fake profiles have no pics so people are weary. Good luck

You're a little late lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

User no longer on site..

Need to close thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess his patience ran out lol.

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By *aughtyHOTWifeCouple over a year ago

Near Bath

No longer on site, made me chuckle;..