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Do many people actually meet off here ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello all,
We are interested to know how many couples actually make contact, chat and arrange meets and then meet up off here.
We have quite a few people message us, say they want to meet. Then after chatting for a night one of two things happen. Either we never hear from them again, or we go on to arrange a meeting usually the next weekend or one after. We chat right up to the date night, then often last min they cancel.
Is this normal ? As it is starting to knock our confidence a bit.
We have only met people whilst at clubs and then become friends on here. |
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over a year ago
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Welcome to the world of fab... it could be that it was a single guy pretending to be a couple and then when the time came to meeting couldn't do because Mrs didn't exist. It could be that there were genuine reasons. I think the club scene and parties and socials are the best way towet people x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Welcome to the world of fab... it could be that it was a single guy pretending to be a couple and then when the time came to meeting couldn't do because Mrs didn't exist. It could be that there were genuine reasons. I think the club scene and parties and socials are the best way towet people x"
I think you maybe right, but surely there are genuine people in our area.
I do wonder if I put people off (I'm the male) H is lovely and I think they see her and when we send out our couple picture they think she's hot he's not maybe. |
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"Hello all,
We are interested to know how many couples actually make contact, chat and arrange meets and then meet up off here.
We have quite a few people message us, say they want to meet. Then after chatting for a night one of two things happen. Either we never hear from them again, or we go on to arrange a meeting usually the next weekend or one after. We chat right up to the date night, then often last min they cancel.
Is this normal ? As it is starting to knock our confidence a bit.
We have only met people whilst at clubs and then become friends on here."
Pretty much our expereance. We have stopped trying. Instead we do clubs and socials and meet real people not fakes and time wasters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you chat about?
We normally ask about them, what they are looking for, if we like their pictures etc."
Nothing to get anyone off then. That's often why people chat and why I stopped looking for couples. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello all,
We are interested to know how many couples actually make contact, chat and arrange meets and then meet up off here.
We have quite a few people message us, say they want to meet. Then after chatting for a night one of two things happen. Either we never hear from them again, or we go on to arrange a meeting usually the next weekend or one after. We chat right up to the date night, then often last min they cancel.
Is this normal ? As it is starting to knock our confidence a bit.
We have only met people whilst at clubs and then become friends on here.
Pretty much our expereance. We have stopped trying. Instead we do clubs and socials and meet real people not fakes and time wasters. "
Think you are right. Just thought I would see if everyone gets the same? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Welcome to the world of fab... it could be that it was a single guy pretending to be a couple and then when the time came to meeting couldn't do because Mrs didn't exist. It could be that there were genuine reasons. I think the club scene and parties and socials are the best way towet people x
I think you maybe right, but surely there are genuine people in our area.
I do wonder if I put people off (I'm the male) H is lovely and I think they see her and when we send out our couple picture they think she's hot he's not maybe."
Sadly that is also the norm on here people are too quick to judge you on your appearance. I think in a club scene or social it actually gives you a chance to make a decision about that person not just based on their looks x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Welcome to the world of fab... it could be that it was a single guy pretending to be a couple and then when the time came to meeting couldn't do because Mrs didn't exist. It could be that there were genuine reasons. I think the club scene and parties and socials are the best way towet people x
I think you maybe right, but surely there are genuine people in our area.
I do wonder if I put people off (I'm the male) H is lovely and I think they see her and when we send out our couple picture they think she's hot he's not maybe.
Sadly that is also the norm on here people are too quick to judge you on your appearance. I think in a club scene or social it actually gives you a chance to make a decision about that person not just based on their looks x"
Why do genuine people stay on here?
I'm a positive person and think there must be some genuine people here, where as H is losing heart with it. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Hello all,
We are interested to know how many couples actually make contact, chat and arrange meets and then meet up off here.
We have quite a few people message us, say they want to meet. Then after chatting for a night one of two things happen. Either we never hear from them again, or we go on to arrange a meeting usually the next weekend or one after. We chat right up to the date night, then often last min they cancel.
Is this normal ? As it is starting to knock our confidence a bit.
We have only met people whilst at clubs and then become friends on here.
Pretty much our expereance. We have stopped trying. Instead we do clubs and socials and meet real people not fakes and time wasters. "
What are the fakes and timewasters like when you meet them? Or are the real ones better?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Welcome to the world of fab... it could be that it was a single guy pretending to be a couple and then when the time came to meeting couldn't do because Mrs didn't exist. It could be that there were genuine reasons. I think the club scene and parties and socials are the best way towet people x
I think you maybe right, but surely there are genuine people in our area.
I do wonder if I put people off (I'm the male) H is lovely and I think they see her and when we send out our couple picture they think she's hot he's not maybe."
Why not put some pics of you on your profile? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Welcome to the world of fab... it could be that it was a single guy pretending to be a couple and then when the time came to meeting couldn't do because Mrs didn't exist. It could be that there were genuine reasons. I think the club scene and parties and socials are the best way towet people x
I think you maybe right, but surely there are genuine people in our area.
I do wonder if I put people off (I'm the male) H is lovely and I think they see her and when we send out our couple picture they think she's hot he's not maybe.
Why not put some pics of you on your profile?"
We have some pics of me in the friends pics, I'll move one to the anyone list. |
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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Welcome to the world of fab... it could be that it was a single guy pretending to be a couple and then when the time came to meeting couldn't do because Mrs didn't exist. It could be that there were genuine reasons. I think the club scene and parties and socials are the best way towet people x
I think you maybe right, but surely there are genuine people in our area.
I do wonder if I put people off (I'm the male) H is lovely and I think they see her and when we send out our couple picture they think she's hot he's not maybe.
Sadly that is also the norm on here people are too quick to judge you on your appearance. I think in a club scene or social it actually gives you a chance to make a decision about that person not just based on their looks x
Why do genuine people stay on here?
I'm a positive person and think there must be some genuine people here, where as H is losing heart with it. "
There are lots of Genuine people on this site, you just have to the nutters/fakes out sometimes to get to them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Welcome to the world of fab... it could be that it was a single guy pretending to be a couple and then when the time came to meeting couldn't do because Mrs didn't exist. It could be that there were genuine reasons. I think the club scene and parties and socials are the best way towet people x
I think you maybe right, but surely there are genuine people in our area.
I do wonder if I put people off (I'm the male) H is lovely and I think they see her and when we send out our couple picture they think she's hot he's not maybe.
Why not put some pics of you on your profile?
We have some pics of me in the friends pics, I'll move one to the anyone list."
Don't get disheartened...there are lots of genuine people on here. For every person that dismisses you, there will be someone that is attracted to you. You might want to add more pictures of yourself (male) as without as many as your lovely wife it might imply that you are either just going to watch, or you're not really engaged in the whole process, and if you're hoping to meet a couple, that might put them off?....just a thought, so hope it doesn't offend. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Welcome to the world of fab..
Why not put some pics of you on your profile?
We have some pics of me in the friends pics, I'll move one to the anyone list.
Don't get disheartened...there are lots of genuine people on here. For every person that dismisses you, there will be someone that is attracted to you. You might want to add more pictures of yourself (male) as without as many as your lovely wife it might imply that you are either just going to watch, or you're not really engaged in the whole process, and if you're hoping to meet a couple, that might put them off?....just a thought, so hope it doesn't offend."
Will try that, will put a few more of us both on thank you |
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"Hello all,
We are interested to know how many couples actually make contact, chat and arrange meets and then meet up off here.
We have quite a few people message us, say they want to meet. Then after chatting for a night one of two things happen. Either we never hear from them again, or we go on to arrange a meeting usually the next weekend or one after. We chat right up to the date night, then often last min they cancel.
Is this normal ? As it is starting to knock our confidence a bit.
We have only met people whilst at clubs and then become friends on here.
Pretty much our expereance. We have stopped trying. Instead we do clubs and socials and meet real people not fakes and time wasters. "
We were going to the club long before we had heard of Fab and it was some people there that suggested that we sign up but we prefer to meet real people in a social environment. Maybe it's an age thing but when we were younger the Internet didn't exist so its more natural for us to talk in the real world. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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We were going to the club long before we had heard of Fab and it was some people there that suggested that we sign up but we prefer to meet real people in a social environment. Maybe it's an age thing but when we were younger the Internet didn't exist so its more natural for us to talk in the real world."
I think you are right, we like seeing people at clubs. It's great to chat to like minded people even if they are not your type for swinging.
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It has got worse on here the last couple of years, more chat less meets, so we have pretty much given up using fab to arrange anything. We just use it to keep in touch with those we have met and to say we will be up Chams on Saturday if anyone fancies meeting up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It has got worse on here the last couple of years, more chat less meets, so we have pretty much given up using fab to arrange anything. We just use it to keep in touch with those we have met and to say we will be up Chams on Saturday if anyone fancies meeting up."
Such a shame, it is a really good idea, we are sort of just keeping in touch with people we've met |
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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago
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As a single man, I always like to chat mostly in the forums. If there is a spark then we can arrange a meet. Obviously sometimes there are cancellations but on the whole I would say that I've had a few wonderful meets.
Very much looking forward to another next week too.
Didn't realise that couples had such problems. |
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By *opkingMan
over a year ago
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Had a meet arranged today, turned up at the given address 60miles away to find out its fake, this is from someone who i have talked to on the phone, been a member for a few years and a gold site supporter, this site has gone downhill a lot since the start of the year, too many fakes, escorts and wannabes!! |
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We don't really have a problem in our area. We always meet for a social first to see how we all get on then arrange a play date for another time.
I tend to go to lunches and host drinks nights as well to meet people, and we regularly go to the club in Aberdeen and have met people there |
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"Welcome to the world of fab... it could be that it was a single guy pretending to be a couple and then when the time came to meeting couldn't do because Mrs didn't exist. It could be that there were genuine reasons. I think the club scene and parties and socials are the best way towet people x
I think you maybe right, but surely there are genuine people in our area.
I do wonder if I put people off (I'm the male) H is lovely and I think they see her and when we send out our couple picture they think she's hot he's not maybe.
Sadly that is also the norm on here people are too quick to judge you on your appearance. I think in a club scene or social it actually gives you a chance to make a decision about that person not just based on their looks x
Why do genuine people stay on here?
I'm a positive person and think there must be some genuine people here, where as H is losing heart with it. "
As advised, socials and clubs are the best way to meet genuine people.
When you network in those situations, you are dealing with someone face to face, you know that what you see is what you get.
Once you start to build a network of friends and acquaintances, party invites etc should also roll in, and before you know it you will be having as much fun as you can handle.  |
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We have met people from the site and had some great fun too.
Fab needs to be treated as a tool, a large filter through which is pumped a large amount of information. Most of which is unread sadly hence the OP asking do people actually meet which is answered on a lot of profiles by the minor matter of their verifications.
Exercise patience don't take it too seriously and use your profile to let others know what you want, what you do NOT want and put up at least some body pics but no penis ones eh?
Good luck,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello all,
We are interested to know how many couples actually make contact, chat and arrange meets and then meet up off here.
We have quite a few people message us, say they want to meet. Then after chatting for a night one of two things happen. Either we never hear from them again, or we go on to arrange a meeting usually the next weekend or one after. We chat right up to the date night, then often last min they cancel.
Is this normal ? As it is starting to knock our confidence a bit.
We have only met people whilst at clubs and then become friends on here."
This is exactly what happens to us so we've stopped arranging to meet people off here now unless it's in a club then if they don't turn up we can still have fun and not have a wasted night. We love clubs so it suits us anyway. |
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I think it depends on how the couples view swinging. Some seem to be unable to function without it and are constantly hunting for meets via their profiles. Other's (us included) see it as something to try every now and then with the right couple.
We've had an ongoing chat running for almost a year with a couple who we've never met but may do in the future. We've also played with a couple who we met at a club the same night. We're in no hurry to hook up with strangers if the connection isn't there. Similarly we really just enjoy chatting and making friends.
Anyone who pushes us to commit to a meet will usually be left by the wayside. If this makes us 'time wasters' then so be it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello all,
We are interested to know how many couples actually make contact, chat and arrange meets and then meet up off here.
We have quite a few people message us, say they want to meet. Then after chatting for a night one of two things happen. Either we never hear from them again, or we go on to arrange a meeting usually the next weekend or one after. We chat right up to the date night, then often last min they cancel.
Is this normal ? As it is starting to knock our confidence a bit.
We have only met people whilst at clubs and then become friends on here."
We have met loads, but tend to arrange to meet at clubs as that seems to put off the time wasters |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Welcome to the world of fab... it could be that it was a single guy pretending to be a couple and then when the time came to meeting couldn't do because Mrs didn't exist. It could be that there were genuine reasons. I think the club scene and parties and socials are the best way towet people x
I think you maybe right, but surely there are genuine people in our area.
I do wonder if I put people off (I'm the male) H is lovely and I think they see her and when we send out our couple picture they think she's hot he's not maybe.
Sadly that is also the norm on here people are too quick to judge you on your appearance. I think in a club scene or social it actually gives you a chance to make a decision about that person not just based on their looks x
Why do genuine people stay on here?
I'm a positive person and think there must be some genuine people here, where as H is losing heart with it.
As advised, socials and clubs are the best way to meet genuine people.
When you network in those situations, you are dealing with someone face to face, you know that what you see is what you get.
Once you start to build a network of friends and acquaintances, party invites etc should also roll in, and before you know it you will be having as much fun as you can handle. "
Think you are spot on |
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A few genuine but quite a lot of sour eggs, thats not putting you genuine people down just the idiots that do ruin it for everyone. Its club meets only for us too as from a few months ago because of this so we will post when we are going and see if we meet up there if they no show theres still play to be had x |
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When we decide to go to clubs, we usually get in touch with people through using 'meets' so they know we are interested or messaging people we know have been to the club and have left a review. It isn't scientific, but so far we have met couples and single guys who were all really nice. |
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"Had a meet arranged today, turned up at the given address 60miles away to find out its fake, this is from someone who i have talked to on the phone, been a member for a few years and a gold site supporter, this site has gone downhill a lot since the start of the year, too many fakes, escorts and wannabes!! "
Next time use google maps to check the address before you leave your house. Good luck  |
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"Had a meet arranged today, turned up at the given address 60miles away to find out its fake, this is from someone who i have talked to on the phone, been a member for a few years and a gold site supporter, this site has gone downhill a lot since the start of the year, too many fakes, escorts and wannabes!!
Next time use google maps to check the address before you leave your house. Good luck "
He may have meant the address was a real one just not anything to do with the profile. People have been known to send others to the wrong house just for a laugh  |
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"Welcome to the world of fab... it could be that it was a single guy pretending to be a couple and then when the time came to meeting couldn't do because Mrs didn't exist. It could be that there were genuine reasons. I think the club scene and parties and socials are the best way towet people x
I think you maybe right, but surely there are genuine people in our area.
I do wonder if I put people off (I'm the male) H is lovely and I think they see her and when we send out our couple picture they think she's hot he's not maybe.
Sadly that is also the norm on here people are too quick to judge you on your appearance. I think in a club scene or social it actually gives you a chance to make a decision about that person not just based on their looks x
Why do genuine people stay on here?
I'm a positive person and think there must be some genuine people here, where as H is losing heart with it.
As advised, socials and clubs are the best way to meet genuine people.
When you network in those situations, you are dealing with someone face to face, you know that what you see is what you get.
Once you start to build a network of friends and acquaintances, party invites etc should also roll in, and before you know it you will be having as much fun as you can handle.
Think you are spot on "
Well, we've been doing it for 7 years, had zero no-shows, and had loads of awesome fun, so I guess we must be doing something right lol! |
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We mainly use the site to keep in contact with people we have met at clubs...
We tell people which club and when we are going. That way if they want to meet us they can and if not we haven't lost anything... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are lots of social events in the Hull area, Funktions, Vauxhall Tavern and private parties at few places: Tattoo Bears, Blue Diamond to mention a few, we have looked at your profile and love the pics we have seen, but soft swap is not our thing. 101 club in Doncaster isn't too far away or La Chambre, patients usually pays off, just a case of finding the right ones and not getting too hung up on time wasters and dreamers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We too wander sometimes if people meet. We have met some wonderful people but find it goes in swings and roundabouts- or like buses- nothing for months or loads of offers.
We are in a drought ourselves and can't seem to attract any interest. Probably the time of year x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello all,
We are interested to know how many couples actually make contact, chat and arrange meets and then meet up off here.
We have quite a few people message us, say they want to meet. Then after chatting for a night one of two things happen. Either we never hear from them again, or we go on to arrange a meeting usually the next weekend or one after. We chat right up to the date night, then often last min they cancel.
Is this normal ? As it is starting to knock our confidence a bit.
We have only met people whilst at clubs and then become friends on here."
We haven't met anyone new from here for ages probably since we discovered Cubs and parties |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello all,
We are interested to know how many couples actually make contact, chat and arrange meets and then meet up off here.
We have quite a few people message us, say they want to meet. Then after chatting for a night one of two things happen. Either we never hear from them again, or we go on to arrange a meeting usually the next weekend or one after. We chat right up to the date night, then often last min they cancel.
Is this normal ? As it is starting to knock our confidence a bit.
We have only met people whilst at clubs and then become friends on here."
If it helps you feel less unlucky then that is pretty much our experience too.
We have met a few people at clubs that we'd had some chat on here with first. And, as you say, we've kept in touch with others we have met at clubs first, on here.
We have also had some great party invites from here.
As for actually taking chat on here all the way to an actual meet then no, not a one. It just seems so much harder to get the web stars to align. I think there's also something about the fact that people will definitely treat people that they've only ever spoken with online in much more discourteous ways than they ever would to a real acquaintence.
People definitely meet on here. It's just that the proportion who don't seem to but suggest they will is quite high and can undoubtedly put you off. |
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"Hello all,
We are interested to know how many couples actually make contact, chat and arrange meets and then meet up off here.
We have quite a few people message us, say they want to meet. Then after chatting for a night one of two things happen. Either we never hear from them again, or we go on to arrange a meeting usually the next weekend or one after. We chat right up to the date night, then often last min they cancel.
Is this normal ? As it is starting to knock our confidence a bit.
We have only met people whilst at clubs and then become friends on here."
. How much effort had these members put into their profiles . ? Were they two liners or had they made an effort to describe themselves in detail ?. |
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We haven't had any time wasters and have met lots of lovely couples. We will only arrange to meet if phone numbers are swapped and the ladies speak to each other on the day of meet. Seems to work for us ( f) |
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