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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have been on fab for a few years now and used to get load's of interest from couples and had some good meets. Of late, despite winking at couples, messaging couples and replying to odd winks we may get, we have had no interest in our profile at all. It's leading us to wander what's the matter with us...is it profile related or pic related or just fab? We don't have any restrictions as such so at a loss. Any advice would be very greatly appreciated as we don't want to leave- we just want some genuine fun xx |
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Your profile is good and descriptive. Sometimes 'less is more' in photos, and black and white pics look good for skin tones. It might be the time of year with people being busy, any and all reasons really....don't sweat it.  |
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"We have been on fab for a few years now and used to get load's of interest from couples and had some good meets. Of late, despite winking at couples, messaging couples and replying to odd winks we may get, we have had no interest in our profile at all. It's leading us to wander what's the matter with us...is it profile related or pic related or just fab? We don't have any restrictions as such so at a loss. Any advice would be very greatly appreciated as we don't want to leave- we just want some genuine fun xx"
It might just be one of those things I can't see anything wrong with your pictures or profile.
We get fewer messages now than we used to but that's because we're out of many people's age range and we're not meeting at the moment. Neither of those things apply to you.
Hopefully this thread will bring you to people's attention.
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over a year ago
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I think its natural for interest to die down a bit when you've been on here longer. In the beginning you get all the people who are messaging you because you are new. You have either hooked up with them or rejected them.
I assume you have built up a circle of some friends that you meet up with? So new interest shouldn't be that important at this stage. But if it is, then going to clubs might be a good idea? Or maybe think about the messages you are sending out to people to make sure you are targeting the people who may be interested in you and that you are contacting them in the right way?
Anyway, as I said, waning interest is normal I would think.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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take away all the fem pics and u have a standard cock profile shot of a man..
try working on both ur merits..as it's all a bit one sided to me..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting forum quote.. i thought generally it was men who had this concern..."
No, if you're a couple that meet solo guys as well as other couples then you often find some couples will ignore you.
Same old problem . . . too many variables so if you often fine tune your profile it's simply moving the goal posts.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Try more pictures of the male half? Or is it just the female half wanting to attract people?"
I was just about to type this too. A picture of the male half that isn't a cock pic does wonders
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"Interesting forum quote.. i thought generally it was men who had this concern...
No, if you're a couple that meet solo guys as well as other couples then you often find some couples will ignore you.
Same old problem . . . too many variables so if you often fine tune your profile it's simply moving the goal posts. "
Thankyou... learn something new everyday |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the advice, particularly on the pictures- they are a bit top heavy lol.
We have not really got a circle of friends established as all have either left or not interested any more. Time of year is probably a key factor.
We dont do clubs so cant make new fiends that way. We shall keep trying xx |
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"Thanks for the advice, particularly on the pictures- they are a bit top heavy lol.
We have not really got a circle of friends established as all have either left or not interested any more. Time of year is probably a key factor.
We dont do clubs so cant make new fiends that way. We shall keep trying xx"
I'll be your fiend. 
Join in on the forums in the lounge and swingers as they are busiest and get yourselves known more. There will be socials too that can generate sex meets at a later date. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What tends to happen when you are looking for a specific meet is exactly what's happening for you ar the moment .
Especially when you have been on the site for a while .
Have a think about whether you may enjoy a different type of meet perhaps ? A single guy or two ? This may get you both back in the feeling desired mode .
When you feel positive it comes across and makes you more attractive to others .
Just a thought , it works for us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah we are having the same problem, we're verified and willing to meet people, we're even club members but tend to find that some couples tend to be a bit "cliquey" help would be appreciated. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the advice.
We have done meets with single males and never had a problem with that.
Its getting the couples that want to meet us is the issue lol. It was only today we took the 'looking for single guys' off the profile so see if that may generate more interest.
We dont have an issue with feeling desired, its just the lack of interest that leads to genuine meets.
However, thank you and will definitely bear what you have said in mind x |
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OP we have the same problem!
We know that being a bi couple where the male often dresses will put some couples off....but it's much quieter than it used to be. We struggle with single guys too lol
Clubs are the main way we meet people now
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been on fab for a few years now and used to get load's of interest from couples and had some good meets. Of late, despite winking at couples, messaging couples and replying to odd winks we may get, we have had no interest in our profile at all. It's leading us to wander what's the matter with us...is it profile related or pic related or just fab? We don't have any restrictions as such so at a loss. Any advice would be very greatly appreciated as we don't want to leave- we just want some genuine fun xx"
Hi - fully understand your post - we have had a similar experience. In our opinion, the site has become far less effective for meets. Seems to have evolved into more of a chat site and an advertising forum for clubs (and if you don't like clubs that's no good) - we have been v heavily criticised for saying this before so await the slaughter! Fab HAS changed in our humble opinion  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"id say having a gripe about it here will do more harm than good - your pics are recent - you have recent veris - dont see your problem???"
That maybe so but it has generated more positives than negatives so far. We dont see the problem either hence why we posted, but despite recent pics etc we were still not getting any interest--so just looking for advice rather than having a gripe x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We have been on fab for a few years now and used to get load's of interest from couples and had some good meets. Of late, despite winking at couples, messaging couples and replying to odd winks we may get, we have had no interest in our profile at all. It's leading us to wander what's the matter with us...is it profile related or pic related or just fab? We don't have any restrictions as such so at a loss. Any advice would be very greatly appreciated as we don't want to leave- we just want some genuine fun xx
Hi - fully understand your post - we have had a similar experience. In our opinion, the site has become far less effective for meets. Seems to have evolved into more of a chat site and an advertising forum for clubs (and if you don't like clubs that's no good) - we have been v heavily criticised for saying this before so await the slaughter! Fab HAS changed in our humble opinion "
Yes we would agree. Previously there was much more people about that wanted to meet but I think it has ups and downs (no pun intended). We are probably experiencing a drought but we do feel that at time sit has changed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting forum quote.. i thought generally it was men who had this concern..."
God no...I've been on here on a couples profile, what a pain in the arse...it's way better as a single guy on here by a country mile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting forum quote.. i thought generally it was men who had this concern...
God no...I've been on here on a couples profile, what a pain in the arse...it's way better as a single guy on here by a country mile "
agree - we had a meet advertised tonight and opened it up to single males - had the usual 100 plus messages - we whittled them down to ones the wife fancied - then the excuses start - can't drive tonight - can you do tomorrow? - I`m not into cuckold (why f_ckin contact then when it was a cuckold meet? lol). Another couple here that will soon be gone probably - way too much effort for little return - unless of course - you wanna chat all f_ckin night !! |
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"Interesting forum quote.. i thought generally it was men who had this concern...
God no...I've been on here on a couples profile, what a pain in the arse...it's way better as a single guy on here by a country mile
agree - we had a meet advertised tonight and opened it up to single males - had the usual 100 plus messages - we whittled them down to ones the wife fancied - then the excuses start - can't drive tonight - can you do tomorrow? - I`m not into cuckold (why f_ckin contact then when it was a cuckold meet? lol). Another couple here that will soon be gone probably - way too much effort for little return - unless of course - you wanna chat all f_ckin night !! "
It is possible that maybe those that said they could not make it genuinely could not make it. Looking at your profile pics i can't imagine for one moment that any genuine guy would not want to spend time with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting forum quote.. i thought generally it was men who had this concern...
God no...I've been on here on a couples profile, what a pain in the arse...it's way better as a single guy on here by a country mile
agree - we had a meet advertised tonight and opened it up to single males - had the usual 100 plus messages - we whittled them down to ones the wife fancied - then the excuses start - can't drive tonight - can you do tomorrow? - I`m not into cuckold (why f_ckin contact then when it was a cuckold meet? lol). Another couple here that will soon be gone probably - way too much effort for little return - unless of course - you wanna chat all f_ckin night !!
It is possible that maybe those that said they could not make it genuinely could not make it. Looking at your profile pics i can't imagine for one moment that any genuine guy would not want to spend time with you."
That may well be the case but it still begs the question as to why did they message in response to a meet request ?
The amount of times we advertise a meet to be met with dozens of messages , and then we reply back with details , and all the excuses come out , is just unbelievable .
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"We have been on fab for a few years now and used to get load's of interest from couples and had some good meets. Of late, despite winking at couples, messaging couples and replying to odd winks we may get, we have had no interest in our profile at all. It's leading us to wander what's the matter with us...is it profile related or pic related or just fab? We don't have any restrictions as such so at a loss. Any advice would be very greatly appreciated as we don't want to leave- we just want some genuine fun xx
Hi - fully understand your post - we have had a similar experience. In our opinion, the site has become far less effective for meets. Seems to have evolved into more of a chat site and an advertising forum for clubs (and if you don't like clubs that's no good) - we have been v heavily criticised for saying this before so await the slaughter! Fab HAS changed in our humble opinion "
We agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been on fab for a few years now and used to get load's of interest from couples and had some good meets. Of late, despite winking at couples, messaging couples and replying to odd winks we may get, we have had no interest in our profile at all. It's leading us to wander what's the matter with us...is it profile related or pic related or just fab? We don't have any restrictions as such so at a loss. Any advice would be very greatly appreciated as we don't want to leave- we just want some genuine fun xx
Hi - fully understand your post - we have had a similar experience. In our opinion, the site has become far less effective for meets. Seems to have evolved into more of a chat site and an advertising forum for clubs (and if you don't like clubs that's no good) - we have been v heavily criticised for saying this before so await the slaughter! Fab HAS changed in our humble opinion
We agree with this "
So do we |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Try more pictures of the male half? Or is it just the female half wanting to attract people?"
same here no pics of the guy as this is a common thing with cples profiles |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been on fab for a few years now and used to get load's of interest from couples and had some good meets. Of late, despite winking at couples, messaging couples and replying to odd winks we may get, we have had no interest in our profile at all. It's leading us to wander what's the matter with us...is it profile related or pic related or just fab? We don't have any restrictions as such so at a loss. Any advice would be very greatly appreciated as we don't want to leave- we just want some genuine fun xx
Hi - fully understand your post - we have had a similar experience. In our opinion, the site has become far less effective for meets. Seems to have evolved into more of a chat site and an advertising forum for clubs (and if you don't like clubs that's no good) - we have been v heavily criticised for saying this before so await the slaughter! Fab HAS changed in our humble opinion
We agree with this
So do we "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Full length pics look better with heels on rather than just stockings...
Might be worth a try... "
Thanks for the advice.....tried heels and cant stand in them let alone walk lol...yes they do make a pic more sexier and the leg longer but it may end in tears lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting forum quote.. i thought generally it was men who had this concern...
God no...I've been on here on a couples profile, what a pain in the arse...it's way better as a single guy on here by a country mile
agree - we had a meet advertised tonight and opened it up to single males - had the usual 100 plus messages - we whittled them down to ones the wife fancied - then the excuses start - can't drive tonight - can you do tomorrow? - I`m not into cuckold (why f_ckin contact then when it was a cuckold meet? lol). Another couple here that will soon be gone probably - way too much effort for little return - unless of course - you wanna chat all f_ckin night !!
It is possible that maybe those that said they could not make it genuinely could not make it. Looking at your profile pics i can't imagine for one moment that any genuine guy would not want to spend time with you."
When they reply to a meet that day then suddenly can't make it.
We posted a meet looking for guy at weekend.it was lots of men who hadn't read what we were looking for or asking for another night.I ended up going the pub with my mates.
Op
maybe you not what a lot of couple s are looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We are a couple new on the scene and having the same problem.. Or people reply once and then don't bother.. Do people start off in clubs to network?.. Changed profile few times and still no joy.. Thinking of leaving site.. Disappointed . K.. |
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"We are a couple new on the scene and having the same problem.. Or people reply once and then don't bother.. Do people start off in clubs to network?.. Changed profile few times and still no joy.. Thinking of leaving site.. Disappointed . K.. "
Dont give up so soon.. patience is key.. but unfortunatley can come at a price with a lot of let downs.. good luck xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not you nor the site. It's that swinging has changed in the last 8 years. It's become too mainstream.
When I began, people wanted to meet and play. If all went well, we would meet a few more times and develop a sexual friendship. Now people want to meet for coffee and chat for months then decide to play.
Also people decided to start making money from swinging. So now you have many clubs and parties to choose from.
The Swinging scene isn't exclusive anymore. Anyone with money to pay for a club/party can call themselves swingers.
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"We are a couple new on the scene and having the same problem.. Or people reply once and then don't bother.. Do people start off in clubs to network?.. Changed profile few times and still no joy.. Thinking of leaving site.. Disappointed . K..
Dont give up so soon.. patience is key.. but unfortunatley can come at a price with a lot of let downs.. good luck xx"
Clubs are definately worthwhile to find ffm
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Ok a serious heads up here
They or Individuals are part of the General Public.
The GP either cant or wont READ. Simple
to expect otherwise is daft. Sorry all but after 8 years of dealing with issues that involve comprehending text it is simple... they are incapable of achieving primary 5.
LOfuckingL
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"We have been on fab for a few years now and used to get load's of interest from couples and had some good meets. Of late, despite winking at couples, messaging couples and replying to odd winks we may get, we have had no interest in our profile at all. It's leading us to wander what's the matter with us...is it profile related or pic related or just fab? We don't have any restrictions as such so at a loss. Any advice would be very greatly appreciated as we don't want to leave- we just want some genuine fun xx"
would love to show interest  |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
I'm never surprised when couples have issues finding others.. there are now four parties involved, four folks personalities four to find each other attractive. put into the mix that folk have busy lives both work and family..no great surprise to me,..
There's countless threads offering advice they're primarily aimed at single guys but the advice is good for all demographics...
I've read psychologists have found if you're searching for something if you say it over and over you find it easier..
I tried
Boob pictures in my inbox..boob pictures in my inbox
You might try a different saying |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok a serious heads up here
They or Individuals are part of the General Public.
The GP either cant or wont READ. Simple
to expect otherwise is daft. Sorry all but after 8 years of dealing with issues that involve comprehending text it is simple... they are incapable of achieving primary 5.
LOfuckingL
L2"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are a couple new on the scene and having the same problem.. Or people reply once and then don't bother.. Do people start off in clubs to network?.. Changed profile few times and still no joy.. Thinking of leaving site.. Disappointed . K..
Dont give up so soon.. patience is key.. but unfortunatley can come at a price with a lot of let downs.. good luck xx
Clubs are definately worthwhile to find ffm
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"We have been on fab for a few years now and used to get load's of interest from couples and had some good meets. Of late, despite winking at couples, messaging couples and replying to odd winks we may get, we have had no interest in our profile at all. It's leading us to wander what's the matter with us...is it profile related or pic related or just fab? We don't have any restrictions as such so at a loss. Any advice would be very greatly appreciated as we don't want to leave- we just want some genuine fun xx"
I'm in the same boat guys good informative profile a few pics including a face picture. Not a sign of a meet, might just call it a day and leave, even though I don't really want to I sometimes wonder if I'm wasting my time. I'm just after fun and see what else happens |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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This thread has brought us some postie advice and some good chats. However the mind still boggles on why some people say one thing and do another....why can't people just be honest? It costs nothing - sorry - rant over. |
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"We have been on fab for a few years now and used to get load's of interest from couples and had some good meets. Of late, despite winking at couples, messaging couples and replying to odd winks we may get, we have had no interest in our profile at all. It's leading us to wander what's the matter with us...is it profile related or pic related or just fab? We don't have any restrictions as such so at a loss. Any advice would be very greatly appreciated as we don't want to leave- we just want some genuine fun xx"
You blocked single guys so that's 99.7 % of the site
You can only meet Friday and Saturday and can't accomAdate owing to son but you travel and pay hotel
Just go to a club . It's actually cheaper than a hotel and you don't need to spend weeks getting a meet
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"We would!
I defiantly would  "
I would too, if you weren't blocking single males. Would love to meet honest and fun couples.
I used to live in Stourbridge and know the area well. |
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"I think its natural for interest to die down a bit when you've been on here longer. In the beginning you get all the people who are messaging you because you are new. You have either hooked up with them or rejected them.
I assume you have built up a circle of some friends that you meet up with? So new interest shouldn't be that important at this stage. But if it is, then going to clubs might be a good idea? Or maybe think about the messages you are sending out to people to make sure you are targeting the people who may be interested in you and that you are contacting them in the right way?
Anyway, as I said, waning interest is normal I would think.
-Courtney"
as that happened to you chipperoo ??     |
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"We would!
I defiantly would
I would too, if you weren't blocking single males. Would love to meet honest and fun couples.
I used to live in Stourbridge and know the area well."
I think, from reading the OP that they would like to meet other couples. |
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"We would!
I defiantly would
I would too, if you weren't blocking single males. Would love to meet honest and fun couples.
I used to live in Stourbridge and know the area well.
I think, from reading the OP that they would like to meet other couples."
are you trying to suggest single guys can read oh my gord  |
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"We would!
I defiantly would
I would too, if you weren't blocking single males. Would love to meet honest and fun couples.
I used to live in Stourbridge and know the area well.
I think, from reading the OP that they would like to meet other couples. are you trying to suggest single guys can read oh my gord "
I would never suggest such a thing! The eternal optimism of the single man should be applauded! It's certainly one of nature's wonders. |
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