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"I wouldn't expect him to tell me every time he watched or read porn and I doubt if he expects me to tell him but neither of us keep it a secret."
I don't see why it would be an issue.
A desire to know everything your partner does suggests a lack of trust.
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To clarify...
I watch porn when I'm alone occasionally, but don't think to tell Cal that I have. I'm pretty sure he does the same.
I don't see it as keeping a secret... If he asked I would tell him but I doubt he's bothered one way or the other. I know Im not 
I suppose the issue is if one partner disapproves of porn and the other enjoys it so feels the need to hide it. I think it's probably unlikely for swinging couples though ..
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over a year ago
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I'd wonder why he felt he had to keep it a secret if he was honest about most sexual stuff.
My ex was into ladies with cocks and never told me, he must have felt i wouldn't approve for some reason.
Wanking is kind of a personal thing, so it didn't bother me that much. |
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over a year ago
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If I asked do you watch porn? and he said no and I found him cracking one off to porn then I'd wonder why he felt he had to keep it secret
At the same time I wouldn't need him to tell me he's just had a wank over porn either
He's touching his body,it's his private time,we all need that |
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over a year ago
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"Would you be bothered if you found out your OH watched porn secretly and never told you?? "
I think if I felt he needed to keep it a secret I would be doing something wrong in the first place .
As it is , we both enjoy watching it , together and separately , but it's never done in secret |
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"Wouldn't it be the default assumption that men watch porn?
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Men know this, most women know this, some genuinely find it a surprise to find out!
If it wasn't for porn, the internet would just be a military project that nobody really cared about. |
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He watches porn, I watch porn, neither of us drop it into conversation, oh hunny today I watched some nice gangbang porn while I had a wank earlier.
As long as it's legal I don't care if he watches it or not so he has no need to hide it from me..... or me from him. |
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over a year ago
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"Wouldn't it be the default assumption that men watch porn?
If he's not watching it with you, then he's watching it secretly (or is one of the 0.1% that really don't)"
Definitely agree with this! |
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over a year ago
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My husband & I both watch porn - sometimes together, sometimes separately ... Sometimes we talk about what we've seen and re-enact it in play... Porn is natural -- I think! No need for getting upset |
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over a year ago
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We play the porn game. This is where you have to enact what is happening in the porn you are watching as it is happening.... You need to be careful what you choose to watch lol xxx |
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"We play the porn game. This is where you have to enact what is happening in the porn you are watching as it is happening.... You need to be careful what you choose to watch lol xxx"
Stay away from the Brazilian stuff then... |
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"Would you be bothered if you found out your OH watched porn secretly and never told you?? "
Yes.
I'd want to share in the fun.
I love the fact we share everything, even the stuff that scares us or we think the other won't like.
If she happens to get off on some weird porn or visa versa, then at least we have the opportunity to share it and turn it down.
As it is there is little we find erotic that the other does not like. She likes a bit of bi male fun and I like more gangbang porn than her. But we both know what the other likes and does not like so its all good. |
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"Would you be bothered if you found out your OH watched porn secretly and never told you?? "
Nothing wrong with it and it's no slight against you either. I would say it might be a good thing for you to join him in for fun. And please do have fun xx |
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If it got to the point where we were spending that much time together I would expect him to know me well enough to know it wouldn't bother me if he watched porn. If it was the kind of porn that might raise an eyebrow, I would hope I was astute enough to pick up on his perversions, and get rid of him. |
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Hi, my partner and I are lucky enough to be able to watch porn together. We also know that this is not the same for everyone and never judge others for not being able to share this part of their sex lives. I wouldn't mind if my lady watched porn and pleasured herself when I was not around. I even get a kick out of it. BUT I can totally understand your concerns. Its the keeping secret from you, that's the point. Its so hard and unfair to offer advice as we don't know all the circumstances. Is porn something you have shared in the past?..try not to assume the worst i.e. He's looking for something different etc. It could just as well be that HE is worried that YOU may watch a film and then lust for the stud like sex you have seen. Sorry to sound like a cliché, but its communication. Believe me, when you love someone and get past insecurities, sex is mind-blowing. Take care and feel free to ask anything if you want. Really hope this doesn't come across as in any way condescending. Xx |
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"My husband & I both watch porn - sometimes together, sometimes separately ... Sometimes we talk about what we've seen and re-enact it in play... Porn is natural -- I think! No need for getting upset "
we are exactly the same sometimes we talk about it, sometimes we don't .... |
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"Would you be bothered if you found out your OH watched porn secretly and never told you?? "
No.. same as I wouldn't be bothered if he watched anything on the tv and didn't tell me x |
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Nope.
I'm aware that Paul watches porn on his own, he didn't tell me but I just assumed it. I tend to watch porn once he's asleep as my sex drive is higher than his and he's satisfied after 1 session where as I need lots more. I don't tell him that I'm frisking my self silly after our sessions, although he occasionally wakes up watches me sometimes helps out but just because i don't tell him doesn't mean it's a secret  |
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