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We've been to Cupids and partners quite a few times and really only go on couples night.
Now during that time we have had lots of fun and there has been some bi play between ladies going on.
We've never seen any bi play between guys though.
Is it somehow acceptable for the ladies to get it on but not the guys.
We're just curious....(not a cue for bi-curious gags) |
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Generally it is not acceptable, even in clubs where they say it is. This means bi nights in general. Some cock sucking is okay, but not male on male penetration. We don't tend to go to bi nights for this very reason. We went to one club last Friday and, as it was a male bi event, we presumed it was okay and got a little involved in some. The very fact that one club differentiates a bi night as a male bi night speak volumes. As a bi fem I get fed up with going to bi nights and all of the focus being on me. Mr is bi and needs some cock, just like I do .... |
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Flames here,
Been to those same clubs...
And I would say Bi guys are a definite no no.
It's a shame, as I would love to be able to bump in to a couple like _awandorder and play happily in all combinations.
But the whole swinging scene is generally geared toward straight / heteronormative / bi fem...
Nothing to stop bi guys getting it on in a private room...
But heck no to "in the public".
It speaks volumes of the number of messages we get from straight guys who are in hiding from being Bi.
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I think there is potential for the club we went to .... as it was more open there. We also frequent one in London where male on male penetration is the norm. You only have to look at another thread running at the moment where one poster calls man on man 'nasty'. Well, even if a straight woman did not like to indulge in bi fem play, I doubt she would call it nasty, but it seems acceptable to say such a thing about bi male play ... homophobia is alive and well in the swinging community. |
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over a year ago
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We're both bi and mainly visit Chams in Darleston on Mondays to satisfy the needs. We can confirm that we have played at all levels on those nights without prejudice. Some straight guys attend and have been known to complain but the clubs view is that girls can play any night so its only right to put a night aside for guys |
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"We're both bi and mainly visit Chams in Darleston on Mondays to satisfy the needs. We can confirm that we have played at all levels on those nights without prejudice. Some straight guys attend and have been known to complain but the clubs view is that girls can play any night so its only right to put a night aside for guys"
We need to get out more. the other issue for us is week days .... can't do the evenings as I work twelve hour days so travelling too far is out of the question in the week |
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"Generally it is not acceptable, even in clubs where they say it is. This means bi nights in general. Some cock sucking is okay, but not male on male penetration. We don't tend to go to bi nights for this very reason. We went to one club last Friday and, as it was a male bi event, we presumed it was okay and got a little involved in some. The very fact that one club differentiates a bi night as a male bi night speak volumes. As a bi fem I get fed up with going to bi nights and all of the focus being on me. Mr is bi and needs some cock, just like I do .... "
Bloody hell, I would of thought a bi night would of applied to either sex.  |
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"Generally it is not acceptable, even in clubs where they say it is. This means bi nights in general. Some cock sucking is okay, but not male on male penetration. We don't tend to go to bi nights for this very reason. We went to one club last Friday and, as it was a male bi event, we presumed it was okay and got a little involved in some. The very fact that one club differentiates a bi night as a male bi night speak volumes. As a bi fem I get fed up with going to bi nights and all of the focus being on me. Mr is bi and needs some cock, just like I do ....
Bloody hell, I would of thought a bi night would of applied to either sex. "
Pretty much most we have been to in what we see as mainstream vanilla swinger clubs do not. They are for bi women or women entertaining their partners by being bi. Two so far we have been to have catered more to bi men. One of these is specifically targeted to bi men, which is sad it has to be like this, but at least that is available. Mr feels he has nowhere to go where we can go together otherwise, and we love sharing a cock ... or sharing a tv |
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My wife and I were going to attend 'our place for fun' in London. We read their terms and were surprised to see they say no bi fun is a acceptable between men and no anal sex even between men and women.
We just decided not to attend. |
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"My wife and I were going to attend 'our place for fun' in London. We read their terms and were surprised to see they say no bi fun is a acceptable between men and no anal sex even between men and women.
We just decided not to attend. "
We were also very surprised to see that in their terms - we went anyway but wouldn't return....it just doesn't create a safe or open space in our view. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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Adam and I have been to a couple of club nights where there has been no prejudice or judgement, and thankfully there has been plenty of mm playtime on offer in the open.
Seems like the swinging community is pretty judgemental in what it sees as acceptable.
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I go to the Gatehouse to get my bi guy fix. I enjoy watching and partaking with 2 men, as I do with 2 women. Sadly not many people are as open minded and get really grossed out when 2 men are getting it on.
I've known it to happen behind closed doors in some clubs though. |
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over a year ago
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Was banging away happily one night in Libs and saw two men on the central big play bed playing together. Nobody gave them a second look apart from some very interested parties.
Cant say I gave it any further thought. |
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"Has anyone been to the bi nights at partners?"
We've not been for quite a few years but used to go fairly often. We found that as soon as a woman was involved it was much more a greedy girls night. There was very limited m/m play. I can't say what it's like now.
We've found the best bi night to be Chams on a Monday, but the Gatehouse is accepting of everyone and there is open m/m bi play every time we've been there. |
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"Generally it is not acceptable, even in clubs where they say it is. This means bi nights in general. Some cock sucking is okay, but not male on male penetration. We don't tend to go to bi nights for this very reason. We went to one club last Friday and, as it was a male bi event, we presumed it was okay and got a little involved in some. The very fact that one club differentiates a bi night as a male bi night speak volumes. As a bi fem I get fed up with going to bi nights and all of the focus being on me. Mr is bi and needs some cock, just like I do .... "
Hear hear!
I'm always completely mystified that it's considered perfectly ok for women together but not men!
Frankly I'd love to see some hot guys getting it on together in a club! As it is I have to stick to watching gay porn!  |
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"I go Chams and find bi night is mainly just fems so I don't go then.
However male bi stuff goes on at any other time which is good  "
That's not our experience. If anything, Mondays are more m/m than f/f? We've never seen guys play on any other day |
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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago
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We find Pennant hall is a really relaxed place for open bi male fun. Even in the hot tub for a nice stroke and feel. MMF is just lovely.
As male penetration can be a bit risky its best to do that on an easily cleaned surface. So doesn't lend it self to public places like lounges but OK for play rooms even public ones.
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"We find Pennant hall is a really relaxed place for open bi male fun. Even in the hot tub for a nice stroke and feel. MMF is just lovely.
As male penetration can be a bit risky its best to do that on an easily cleaned surface. So doesn't lend it self to public places like lounges but OK for play rooms even public ones.
L&T"
This is why I really wanna go to Pennant hall  |
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"I go Chams and find bi night is mainly just fems so I don't go then.
However male bi stuff goes on at any other time which is good
That's not our experience. If anything, Mondays are more m/m than f/f? We've never seen guys play on any other day"
Very strange
We see lots of m/m stuff when we go, we never go mondays now as i am straight and hence mondays were pointless for us as we only look for m/m fun |
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I can't say mm play does much for me but the gf loves it. I do find it strange how people complain that mm play is happening on a bi night, I've been to a bi night twice although I was only playing with the women the lady I played with's husband was happily sucking a cock right next to me. It didn't bother me at all.
Another thing I find amusing is a thread a while back where a lot of users agreed that anal sex is wrong at a club and as someone else said about op4f it's not allowed. How can you have a proper bi night if anal is off the menu. |
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"I can't say mm play does much for me but the gf loves it. I do find it strange how people complain that mm play is happening on a bi night, I've been to a bi night twice although I was only playing with the women the lady I played with's husband was happily sucking a cock right next to me. It didn't bother me at all.
Another thing I find amusing is a thread a while back where a lot of users agreed that anal sex is wrong at a club and as someone else said about op4f it's not allowed. How can you have a proper bi night if anal is off the menu. "
Is oral sex between guys not bi then ? |
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over a year ago
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Hello
This thread is VERY interesting
Im a bi guy,i live in Rome and i visit london quite often.and i Can never seem to be able to find a bisexual couple,or At least with HIM Being bi.ill be There from thursday again,And i know The problem will be The same.i dnt know anybody Who "Plays" over There so its quite difficult for me Finding a good time |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"I can't say mm play does much for me but the gf loves it. I do find it strange how people complain that mm play is happening on a bi night, I've been to a bi night twice although I was only playing with the women the lady I played with's husband was happily sucking a cock right next to me. It didn't bother me at all.
Another thing I find amusing is a thread a while back where a lot of users agreed that anal sex is wrong at a club and as someone else said about op4f it's not allowed. How can you have a proper bi night if anal is off the menu. "
Op4f does not have a bi night. (I wish it did!) I was told anal between anyone is not allowed as it can be messy and left for the staff to clean up. |
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Check your bible, Matthew 101:27-46
'...and so it came to pass that Satan did curseth some males with man-on-man desires, but God did restoreth balance by sending a heavenly choir of bi-sexual angels to earth, to play in front of males and distract them from icky temptations....'
Fact! |
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Isn't it strange how the terms "bi-fun", "bi-aware" and so on are NOT always used on a level playing field? Even at a "couples night" at a club that did not specifically mention any bisexual activity male partners will often encourage female partners to have sex with each other to add to the fore-play and titillation . . . but as some couples see men having sex with each other as horrid they'll clamp down on men providing titillation for the majority of women to watch.
Many, many more supposedly straight men are happy to engage in male on male sex than profiles on here seem to show, we know as an openly bisexual couple as do any other couples similar to us.
"Double penetration" is one excellent provider of proof, if the "straights" doing DP were honest they would say they thoroughly enjoy having their own cock wanked off by another guy using his cock with the woman simply being a receptacle. 
We wish more men were honest about their sexuality and more clubs who permit females to have sex with each other on a couples night to allow men to do the same. It isn't a level playing field. |
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Its totally acceptable at THI but do have to admit I've not really seen much, if any mm penetrative play in the public areas other than on all guy and tgirl events.
There are bi nights, and I've heard the some stories, but was to ill to get involved at the first one and missed the last two.
Its a shame that there is such a stigma about it, but really not surprised considering how closed minded so many people are in this scene. Quite surprised to read that about some clubs not allowing it at all or even anal though! |
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"It's why we stick to fetish nights mostly, as we have alot of friends who don't fit the gender binary, at fetish nights gender isn't ever an issue when playing :D"
This |
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"I go Chams and find bi night is mainly just fems so I don't go then.
However male bi stuff goes on at any other time which is good
That's not our experience. If anything, Mondays are more m/m than f/f? We've never seen guys play on any other day"
Nor mine. Monday's are all about the guys.
Mind you every nights a bi night when I'm there. |
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"I can't say mm play does much for me but the gf loves it. I do find it strange how people complain that mm play is happening on a bi night, I've been to a bi night twice although I was only playing with the women the lady I played with's husband was happily sucking a cock right next to me. It didn't bother me at all.
Another thing I find amusing is a thread a while back where a lot of users agreed that anal sex is wrong at a club and as someone else said about op4f it's not allowed. How can you have a proper bi night if anal is off the menu.
Is oral sex between guys not bi then ?"
Personally I would think its bi curious, as loads of guys who profess to not being bi do it. Its a bit like saying I am heterosexual but don't have penetrative sex ... actually, saying that, I don't have penetrative sex apart from with my partner, but he does have penetrative sex with men ... so he is bi |
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"I can't say mm play does much for me but the gf loves it. I do find it strange how people complain that mm play is happening on a bi night, I've been to a bi night twice although I was only playing with the women the lady I played with's husband was happily sucking a cock right next to me. It didn't bother me at all.
Another thing I find amusing is a thread a while back where a lot of users agreed that anal sex is wrong at a club and as someone else said about op4f it's not allowed. How can you have a proper bi night if anal is off the menu.
Is oral sex between guys not bi then ?"
The point I'm making is oral doesn't get frowned on, however if two men started having penetrative sex in front of others it'd be different. It's shouldn't be like that on a bi night otherwise it's to exactly a bi night. I.e. Don't go if your not into man on man.
I do understand however why anal could be frowned upon in clubs between anyone as it can be very messy and I'm sure the staff wouldn't be too happy clearing shitty condoms. |
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"I can't say mm play does much for me but the gf loves it. I do find it strange how people complain that mm play is happening on a bi night, I've been to a bi night twice although I was only playing with the women the lady I played with's husband was happily sucking a cock right next to me. It didn't bother me at all.
Another thing I find amusing is a thread a while back where a lot of users agreed that anal sex is wrong at a club and as someone else said about op4f it's not allowed. How can you have a proper bi night if anal is off the menu.
Is oral sex between guys not bi then ?
Personally I would think its bi curious, as loads of guys who profess to not being bi do it. Its a bit like saying I am heterosexual but don't have penetrative sex ... actually, saying that, I don't have penetrative sex apart from with my partner, but he does have penetrative sex with men ... so he is bi"
Ha I had better pass on to my hubby that after over ten years of having oral sex with other guys and thinking he was "bi" that he is really only "bi curious" lol. Although for me the term curious means you are interested in something but once you have done it a few times you are no longer curious |
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"We've been to Cupids and partners quite a few times and really only go on couples night.
Now during that time we have had lots of fun and there has been some bi play between ladies going on.
We've never seen any bi play between guys though.
Is it somehow acceptable for the ladies to get it on but not the guys.
We're just curious....(not a cue for bi-curious gags)"
It does seem to be quite straight male orientated in a lot of clubs. It was one of the reasons I started doing my bi nights which are aimed at bi male couples, bi single guys and tgirls. Most club nights in swingers clubs have lots of bi women and yes its totally acceptable for them but seems rather taboo for the guys. At one venue I hosted bi nights at I preferred to get the owners to go out on the night as they weren't bi male friendly or tgirl friendly and it could easily ruin the atmosphere of a potentially good night. Bi nights , (when I say that I mean bi male) have an amazing atmosphere and theres something for everyone.  |
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My theory is that clubs charge a lot for single guys to get in and they are worried they might put off thus cash flow of they allowed full on MM sex.
There are lots of places up and down the country for cruising so I don't imagine there would be a pile of gay or bi men happy to pay £40 or £50 to get in to a club when they can often get what they want in a lay-by or by going to a gay bar, for free.
Straight single guys however are happy to pay to get in to clubs and the clubs seem to be oversubscribed with them.
It's all economics.
In my opinion. |
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"Is oral sex between guys not bi then ?
Personally I would think its bi curious, as loads of guys who profess to not being bi do it. Its a bit like saying I am heterosexual but don't have penetrative sex ... actually, saying that, I don't have penetrative sex apart from with my partner, but he does have penetrative sex with men ... so he is bi"
Are all the gay guys we know who don't do anal sex only gay-curious then? Surely penetrative sex is not the definer of sexuality.
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"Is oral sex between guys not bi then ?
Personally I would think its bi curious, as loads of guys who profess to not being bi do it. Its a bit like saying I am heterosexual but don't have penetrative sex ... actually, saying that, I don't have penetrative sex apart from with my partner, but he does have penetrative sex with men ... so he is bi
Are all the gay guys we know who don't do anal sex only gay-curious then? Surely penetrative sex is not the definer of sexuality.
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"My theory is that clubs charge a lot for single guys to get in and they are worried they might put off thus cash flow of they allowed full on MM sex.
There are lots of places up and down the country for cruising so I don't imagine there would be a pile of gay or bi men happy to pay £40 or £50 to get in to a club when they can often get what they want in a lay-by or by going to a gay bar, for free.
Straight single guys however are happy to pay to get in to clubs and the clubs seem to be oversubscribed with them.
It's all economics.
In my opinion. "
Well my hubby is bi but he would never go cruising for sex, he's likes to play in a club |
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"My theory is that clubs charge a lot for single guys to get in and they are worried they might put off thus cash flow of they allowed full on MM sex.
There are lots of places up and down the country for cruising so I don't imagine there would be a pile of gay or bi men happy to pay £40 or £50 to get in to a club when they can often get what they want in a lay-by or by going to a gay bar, for free.
Straight single guys however are happy to pay to get in to clubs and the clubs seem to be oversubscribed with them.
It's all economics.
In my opinion.
Well my hubby is bi but he would never go cruising for sex, he's likes to play in a club "
That's nice but the thread was discussing why clubs generally disapprove of mm sex. What's your opinion?
It would definitely put me off going and I guess the significant revenue straight single guys bring to a club is a factor? |
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"My theory is that clubs charge a lot for single guys to get in and they are worried they might put off thus cash flow of they allowed full on MM sex.
There are lots of places up and down the country for cruising so I don't imagine there would be a pile of gay or bi men happy to pay £40 or £50 to get in to a club when they can often get what they want in a lay-by or by going to a gay bar, for free.
Straight single guys however are happy to pay to get in to clubs and the clubs seem to be oversubscribed with them.
It's all economics.
In my opinion. "
Pretty much twaddle, in my opinion.
I'm my experience going to clubs and saunas either as a girl or a guy, most gay or bi guys like the safety and comfort of these venues over a layby.
The higher cost for single guys to gain entry to clubs is more likely to be a supply and demand thing. They want girls there so discount to encourage them. There are always loads of guys trying to get in so they naturally get charged more.
Unfortunately there is still a lot of people who don't like to see guys playing with each other. We hope it's more socially acceptable but in reality, for many, it's not.
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"My theory is that clubs charge a lot for single guys to get in and they are worried they might put off thus cash flow of they allowed full on MM sex.
There are lots of places up and down the country for cruising so I don't imagine there would be a pile of gay or bi men happy to pay £40 or £50 to get in to a club when they can often get what they want in a lay-by or by going to a gay bar, for free.
Straight single guys however are happy to pay to get in to clubs and the clubs seem to be oversubscribed with them.
It's all economics.
In my opinion.
Well my hubby is bi but he would never go cruising for sex, he's likes to play in a club
That's nice but the thread was discussing why clubs generally disapprove of mm sex. What's your opinion?
It would definitely put me off going and I guess the significant revenue straight single guys bring to a club is a factor? "
I think mm sex of any kind is great.
I am put off in a big way by any kind of ff sex though hence i don't go Chams on bi night as that is mainly what i have seen there when i have been. |
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"My theory is that clubs charge a lot for single guys to get in and they are worried they might put off thus cash flow of they allowed full on MM sex.
There are lots of places up and down the country for cruising so I don't imagine there would be a pile of gay or bi men happy to pay £40 or £50 to get in to a club when they can often get what they want in a lay-by or by going to a gay bar, for free.
Straight single guys however are happy to pay to get in to clubs and the clubs seem to be oversubscribed with them.
It's all economics.
In my opinion.
Well my hubby is bi but he would never go cruising for sex, he's likes to play in a club
That's nice but the thread was discussing why clubs generally disapprove of mm sex. What's your opinion?
It would definitely put me off going and I guess the significant revenue straight single guys bring to a club is a factor?
I think mm sex of any kind is great.
I am put off in a big way by any kind of ff sex though hence i don't go Chams on bi night as that is mainly what i have seen there when i have been. "
Things must have changed since I last went then. There is always a certain amount of ff play in every club. Chams bi nights always seemed to be for the guys and tgirls.
The cinema was a mass of guys sucking guys and in either guy or girl mode I've been known to be getting down to it in all the open spaces.
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"My theory is that clubs charge a lot for single guys to get in and they are worried they might put off thus cash flow of they allowed full on MM sex.
There are lots of places up and down the country for cruising so I don't imagine there would be a pile of gay or bi men happy to pay £40 or £50 to get in to a club when they can often get what they want in a lay-by or by going to a gay bar, for free.
Straight single guys however are happy to pay to get in to clubs and the clubs seem to be oversubscribed with them.
It's all economics.
In my opinion.
Well my hubby is bi but he would never go cruising for sex, he's likes to play in a club
That's nice but the thread was discussing why clubs generally disapprove of mm sex. What's your opinion?
It would definitely put me off going and I guess the significant revenue straight single guys bring to a club is a factor?
I think mm sex of any kind is great.
I am put off in a big way by any kind of ff sex though hence i don't go Chams on bi night as that is mainly what i have seen there when i have been.
Things must have changed since I last went then. There is always a certain amount of ff play in every club. Chams bi nights always seemed to be for the guys and tgirls.
The cinema was a mass of guys sucking guys and in either guy or girl mode I've been known to be getting down to it in all the open spaces.
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I havn't been on monday night (or any night) for ages now as i don't like bi night. I have never seen mm fun there on monday bi night although have at other times.
I prefer daytime there now anyway. |
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"My theory is that clubs charge a lot for single guys to get in and they are worried they might put off thus cash flow of they allowed full on MM sex.
There are lots of places up and down the country for cruising so I don't imagine there would be a pile of gay or bi men happy to pay £40 or £50 to get in to a club when they can often get what they want in a lay-by or by going to a gay bar, for free.
Straight single guys however are happy to pay to get in to clubs and the clubs seem to be oversubscribed with them.
It's all economics.
In my opinion.
Well my hubby is bi but he would never go cruising for sex, he's likes to play in a club
That's nice but the thread was discussing why clubs generally disapprove of mm sex. What's your opinion?
It would definitely put me off going and I guess the significant revenue straight single guys bring to a club is a factor?
I think mm sex of any kind is great.
I am put off in a big way by any kind of ff sex though hence i don't go Chams on bi night as that is mainly what i have seen there when i have been.
Things must have changed since I last went then. There is always a certain amount of ff play in every club. Chams bi nights always seemed to be for the guys and tgirls.
The cinema was a mass of guys sucking guys and in either guy or girl mode I've been known to be getting down to it in all the open spaces.
I havn't been on monday night (or any night) for ages now as i don't like bi night. I have never seen mm fun there on monday bi night although have at other times.
I prefer daytime there now anyway."
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"We find Pennant hall is a really relaxed place for open bi male fun. Even in the hot tub for a nice stroke and feel. MMF is just lovely.
As male penetration can be a bit risky its best to do that on an easily cleaned surface. So doesn't lend it self to public places like lounges but OK for play rooms even public ones.
L&T"
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How so? |
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"Its totally acceptable at THI but do have to admit I've not really seen much, if any mm penetrative play in the public areas other than on all guy and tgirl events.
There are bi nights, and I've heard the some stories, but was to ill to get involved at the first one and missed the last two.
Its a shame that there is such a stigma about it, but really not surprised considering how closed minded so many people are in this scene. Quite surprised to read that about some clubs not allowing it at all or even anal though!"
I love Townhouse and met some lovely Tgirls there, but sadly haven't seen any MM bi play  |
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"My theory is that clubs charge a lot for single guys to get in and they are worried they might put off thus cash flow of they allowed full on MM sex.
There are lots of places up and down the country for cruising so I don't imagine there would be a pile of gay or bi men happy to pay £40 or £50 to get in to a club when they can often get what they want in a lay-by or by going to a gay bar, for free.
Straight single guys however are happy to pay to get in to clubs and the clubs seem to be oversubscribed with them.
It's all economics.
In my opinion. "
But you wouldn't go cruising or to a gay bar to pick up a bi couple would you. I imagine that bi COUPLES are the attraction for the singles. |
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"My theory is that clubs charge a lot for single guys to get in and they are worried they might put off thus cash flow of they allowed full on MM sex.
There are lots of places up and down the country for cruising so I don't imagine there would be a pile of gay or bi men happy to pay £40 or £50 to get in to a club when they can often get what they want in a lay-by or by going to a gay bar, for free.
Straight single guys however are happy to pay to get in to clubs and the clubs seem to be oversubscribed with them.
It's all economics.
In my opinion.
Well my hubby is bi but he would never go cruising for sex, he's likes to play in a club
That's nice but the thread was discussing why clubs generally disapprove of mm sex. What's your opinion?
It would definitely put me off going and I guess the significant revenue straight single guys bring to a club is a factor? "
But then why call it a bi night, when it patently isn't? |
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By *gcw2014Couple
over a year ago
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Partners have abi night on Tuesday, we went and had a male bi play but another couple came in and the male half didn't like what he saw despite it being bi night. We were with another couple, female played together and us males played together |
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"My theory is that clubs charge a lot for single guys to get in and they are worried they might put off thus cash flow of they allowed full on MM sex.
There are lots of places up and down the country for cruising so I don't imagine there would be a pile of gay or bi men happy to pay £40 or £50 to get in to a club when they can often get what they want in a lay-by or by going to a gay bar, for free.
Straight single guys however are happy to pay to get in to clubs and the clubs seem to be oversubscribed with them.
It's all economics.
In my opinion.
But you wouldn't go cruising or to a gay bar to pick up a bi couple would you. I imagine that bi COUPLES are the attraction for the singles."
You're right I wouldn't fontina bi night so have no idea what they are like it how many people go, especially single bi/gay men. I'm just offering a possible and. reasonable explanation. |
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Having been to a recent bi night I was quite shocked at not being allowed to play with guys in public areas, I didn't feel relaxed enough to play one on one so ended up going home |
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A recent bi night where exactly?
In the two recent visits to Chams on a Monday bi night, I have played as part of a mmm threesome with an audience on both occasions in non private rooms, mfm threesomes in the cinema and also played with numerous guys in the jacuzzi area. There really wasn't that much ff play going on much to Cheryl's disappointment but then she loves watching me with guys anyway |
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"I can't say mm play does much for me but the gf loves it. I do find it strange how people complain that mm play is happening on a bi night, I've been to a bi night twice although I was only playing with the women the lady I played with's husband was happily sucking a cock right next to me. It didn't bother me at all.
Another thing I find amusing is a thread a while back where a lot of users agreed that anal sex is wrong at a club and as someone else said about op4f it's not allowed. How can you have a proper bi night if anal is off the menu.
Is oral sex between guys not bi then ?
Personally I would think its bi curious, as loads of guys who profess to not being bi do it. Its a bit like saying I am heterosexual but don't have penetrative sex ... actually, saying that, I don't have penetrative sex apart from with my partner, but he does have penetrative sex with men ... so he is bi
Ha I had better pass on to my hubby that after over ten years of having oral sex with other guys and thinking he was "bi" that he is really only "bi curious" lol. Although for me the term curious means you are interested in something but once you have done it a few times you are no longer curious "
Soft bi swing only then? |
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"A recent bi night where exactly?
In the two recent visits to Chams on a Monday bi night, I have played as part of a mmm threesome with an audience on both occasions in non private rooms, mfm threesomes in the cinema and also played with numerous guys in the jacuzzi area. There really wasn't that much ff play going on much to Cheryl's disappointment but then she loves watching me with guys anyway"
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"Pity all of these bi nights are during the week ..."
I've always thought this. id love bi night in chams to be Friday or Saturday. I'm a realist though. |
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So how does a couple go about finding out if they would enjoy bi fun then?
If its something you don't know if you would enjoy or not, we assumed a club would be a good no pressure place to see what went on and see what happened.
A private meet didn't seem like the best way if we got there and, when confronted with the situation, decided it wasn't for us. Seems a bit unfair on the other couple involved. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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Swindon swingers has a bi night every 2nd Saturday of the month. We went to the first one and it was great. Very open, non judgemental. Possibly the most open I've been to bar bi-kink.
We are going to kestrels next week and have a meet up to find some bi guys to join us. We may have to close the door but we thought we might try it anyway.
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"So how does a couple go about finding out if they would enjoy bi fun then?
If its something you don't know if you would enjoy or not, we assumed a club would be a good no pressure place to see what went on and see what happened.
A private meet didn't seem like the best way if we got there and, when confronted with the situation, decided it wasn't for us. Seems a bit unfair on the other couple involved."
We just went to chams. Got talking with a couple with a guy I liked. Explained I was new and we went to a room.
His wife watched and mine started sucking him. She invited me closer and eventually held it as I tried my first taste.
The rest is history |
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"So how does a couple go about finding out if they would enjoy bi fun then?
A private meet didn't seem like the best way if we got there and, when confronted with the situation, decided it wasn't for us. Seems a bit unfair on the other couple involved."
No pressure social...
Then a couples night in a club and a closed door... Not just for anti Bi sentiment, but you probably don't really want to be watched if you are trying something you might not like for the first time. (Unless you were particularly exhibitionistic lol!)
Worst case then, you can have fun with each other if not others...
And the same with the other potential parties...
Assuming it's two couples...
But indeed, perhaps not a meeting at someone's home in case it gets awkward.
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"So how does a couple go about finding out if they would enjoy bi fun then?
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Club visit all the way. We can really recommend Chams on a Monday if you can manage a midweek afternoon/night. It's always very busy with plenty of choice. Otherwise one of the nw clubs on a bi night or the Gatehouse most of the time. |
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"So how does a couple go about finding out if they would enjoy bi fun then?
If its something you don't know if you would enjoy or not, we assumed a club would be a good no pressure place to see what went on and see what happened.
A private meet didn't seem like the best way if we got there and, when confronted with the situation, decided it wasn't for us. Seems a bit unfair on the other couple involved."
Absolutely go to a club for the exact reasons you state. We visited Chams back in 2011 with that same mindset and after watching a little, chatting to some couples, deciding we didn't feel out of place, a tentative touch became something else and that progressed over a few visits until we felt like it was the most natural thing in the world. |
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Ok yes we are but I take your point. 
