This may seem a slightly naive question to ask, but what can I do to help train myself to enjoy anal more? Past experiences have started out as pleasurable but quickly becomes rather painful last time resulting in a tear.
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over a year ago
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We both bought outselves a set of butt plugs and train ourselves with them.
You can totally just sit about in the evening watching tele with your butt plug in haha. Mrs now loves the feeling of something in both holes, and I've always liked the feeling anyways.
Plenty of lube for the win! Good luck |
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Relax, use plenty of water based lube & make sure the man is gentle. I like to straddle my guy and lower myself onto him so I control how deep the penetration is. The more turned on I am, the easier it seems to be but the lube is the key as if there's dryness its excruciating. I must admit I love it but I trust my partner 100% when we do it. Good luck xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The only advice you can give is don't rush things with anal, take your time use fingers and toys and lube!!! with an ex we had to wait about 3 months till she was ready to try me inside her but we did a little finger play most days and toys come in all sizes, you will know when your ready and anal can be nice if done right if not it will put you off for life. |
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By *eekayCouple
over a year ago
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All great advice above....(This is the male replying).
She has just started doing it to me so I know exactly how you feel. It turns her on and i'm wanting to explore this with her.
-loads and loads of lube
-Nice and steady
-Start with beads then move on to butt plug in the shower on your own.
-Relax (easier said than done)
-you control everything
-did I mention lube ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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It takes time. Plenty of lube, I prefer silicone but everyone is different. I started off training my own arse, fingers and then a small butt plug and then built up to bigger. It's not just about butt plugs you have to get use to the feeling of someone or something fucking your arse. Keep training every other day and then you'll feel my comfortable with someone else. After hating Anal , I had my first anal orgasm the other day and it was amazing. So stick at it ! X |
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"This may seem a slightly naive question to ask, but what can I do to help train myself to enjoy anal more? Past experiences have started out as pleasurable but quickly becomes rather painful last time resulting in a tear.
Thanks in advance. "
Don't take me wrong, But are you actually wanting anal sex or is it a partner asking for it? Just because it is done in porn doesn't mean we all must do it.
As it is, I actually enjoy a bit bum play. Guys it doesn't make you gay to enjoy it BTW!  
My advice like the others is plenty lube and start small. If you are going to let a guy enter you analy, Have him spend a bit time playing with your bum first to'open you up'. Also encourage him to let you play with his ass. That way he can guage what is needed. This also will shut him up if he is begging for something you don't want!  |
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"I was looking at butt plugs today, the training set, the smallest looked too big to me "
Female half here. The set I have, had three in - small, medium and large. The small looks slimmer than an average girth of a cock. Like others have said , plenty of lube and patience plus finger play. I've got up to the medium one now, but we aren't rushing it. I like the plugs as it gets you used to it without any pressure.
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"We both bought outselves a set of butt plugs and train ourselves with them.
You can totally just sit about in the evening watching tele with your butt plug in haha. Mrs now loves the feeling of something in both holes, and I've always liked the feeling anyways."
Love the idea that people sit around watching TV with butt plugs in!
Yep the training set are good. I soon got quite comfortable with the smallest one and am now on the medium one. Want to work up to being able to take a strap-on from a fem, but the size of some of them scares me |
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It's never going to feel comfortable. You have to get used to the strange sensation as well as stretching your anal sphincter. I can now take an average thickness cock with little preparation. Butt plugs feel horrible and hurt me more,I prefer fingers. |
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"I was looking at butt plugs today, the training set, the smallest looked too big to me
Female half here. The set I have, had three in - small, medium and large. The small looks slimmer than an average girth of a cock. Like others have said , plenty of lube and patience plus finger play. I've got up to the medium one now, but we aren't rushing it. I like the plugs as it gets you used to it without any pressure.
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Ive done it once when I first joined, not planned and he got lucky the 2nd attempt, havent done it since as the subject has never come up. Its in the back of my mind as something to try again sometime. These butt plugs were Ann Summers. Its been discussed recently but he isnt pressuring me to do so, I brought up the subject. Thank you for your advice |
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What works on me and my bf is firstly like everyone else has said plenty of lube. No such thing as to much.
Secondly it will stretch more than you think is possible but plenty of ass play just teasing. If your not relaxed you will clench your ass.
Take your time your in no hurry and just a little bit of cock at a time and if it hurts more lube xx |
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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago
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Regarding lube it is not just about using lube but selecting one suited to anal. Personally I find water based ones dry out too quickly during use so prefer silicone based lubes when not using silicone toys. If I need to use a water based lube I alway select one designed for anal as they tend to be a bit thicker and last longer.
Whichever lube I'm using I like to inject around 5ml internally to act as a reservoir. Small rounded tip syringes often called lube shooters can be found on most online sex toy sites for this. |
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Lube is the answer, but not on its own, my experience tells me that you need to be very horny, aroused and want to receive something in there! Take it slow, don't start with a huge practice toy, start small and slow, working up to bigger cock sized toys.
Always happy to assist if required ?
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You really need to be relaxed and the person doing it to you needs to know what they are doing! Get really aroused before attempting anything and dont be embarrassed to say slow down. Insertion goes thru two parts of your anus. Men need to realise -once penetration starts youll feel uncomfortable twice! Get bootylube to help. My man talks to me as he slides in to relax me. It works wonders. He is vwe and we manage but hes skilled. Good luck x |
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By *andy KTV/TS
over a year ago
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Never force it get yourself some butt plugs medium and large from love honey ..you can even try the inflatable butt plug ..plenty of lube too .. If you are wanting instructions for impromptu anal, then flush with pure water enemas until your lower colon is clean.
Rinse, repeat. Rinse, repeat. Rinse, repeat. etc...
If you know, in advance, that you are going to attempt this with your boyfriend, then you can prep by restricting your diet 12-18 hours in advance. Eat lightly, and don't eat fibrous leafy materials.
And just enjoy and take it slow ...trust me it's worth it x |
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"Regarding lube it is not just about using lube but selecting one suited to anal. Personally I find water based ones dry out too quickly during use so prefer silicone based lubes when not using silicone toys. If I need to use a water based lube I alway select one designed for anal as they tend to be a bit thicker and last longer.
Whichever lube I'm using I like to inject around 5ml internally to act as a reservoir. Small rounded tip syringes often called lube shooters can be found on most online sex toy sites for this."
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