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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
our experience is a large number of the people who contact us haven't read our profile. It's life and there isn't too much you can do about it. Accept it happens and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a lot, I get couples message me all the time who haven't read my profile. I just either send a message back saying read my profile or delete and block.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ignore people that aren't within your stated preferences
If they can't be bothered to read then why should you have to reply
I think lots of guys just send out masses of messages using the scatter gun approach and don't even realise who they're messaging at all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
just treat them the same as all the white guys you don't answer ,guys are used to their messages being unread unanswered and then deleted ,it's a fact of life on here xxx    hugs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore people that aren't within your stated preferences
If they can't be bothered to read then why should you have to reply
I think lots of guys just send out masses of messages using the scatter gun approach and don't even realise who they're messaging at all "
Guys can't message me, its all couples..any a lot of them the lady in the couple so not just men |
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'Coloured'? Is the OP Alf Garnet? 
As for people reading profiles, we obviously get plenty who don't bother reading ours but we always read other people's and we also get some complimentary comments from some people about our profile so I think, given the minimal effort in writing one, it's definitely worth having one.
We'd probably tend to avoid anyone who had virtually nothing on their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ignore people that aren't within your stated preferences
If they can't be bothered to read then why should you have to reply
I think lots of guys just send out masses of messages using the scatter gun approach and don't even realise who they're messaging at all
Guys can't message me, its all couples..any a lot of them the lady in the couple so not just men "
I use the term guys loosely as in meaning anyone not just men
I should have said people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore people that aren't within your stated preferences
If they can't be bothered to read then why should you have to reply
I think lots of guys just send out masses of messages using the scatter gun approach and don't even realise who they're messaging at all
Guys can't message me, its all couples..any a lot of them the lady in the couple so not just men
I use the term guys loosely as in meaning anyone not just men
I should have said people"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
This happens to me as do long distance people contact me even though my profile says local only. I just ignore them now |
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
I'm always getting messages from the same and from other guys about meets even though if they read my profile they'd know not to take pot luck I'd change my mind just for them. When I asked a guy if he'd read my profile he said he had and that my head was up my arse and blocked me!
I'm afraid nothing can be done except to delete message, block and move on xx |
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This complaint has probably been heard since Fab started.
Not a great deal you can do about it other than put on all your message filters so no-one can mail you and contact those that you are interested in..... after reading their profile 1st of course |
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"Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx"
It doesn't actually say no bi guys anywhere on your profile, that's why they're messaging! |
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Maybe they don't know what you mean by coloured?
Mind you it reminds me of the advert from years ago so I wonder why they waste their time contacting you. Lets be honest, a lot of people don't read profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We run the original newbie night at Tease II check out our verifications and club reviews to see what a great night it is, don't take our word for it x
We have a lot of single ladies that come so we can always put you in touch with another lady to pair up with x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We run the original newbie night at Tease II check out our verifications and club reviews to see what a great night it is, don't take our word for it x
We have a lot of single ladies that come so we can always put you in touch with another lady to pair up with x"
Wrong thread sorry x |
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"We run the original newbie night at Tease II check out our verifications and club reviews to see what a great night it is, don't take our word for it x
We have a lot of single ladies that come so we can always put you in touch with another lady to pair up with x
Wrong thread sorry x"
I was wondering what I missed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all the constructive messages, just wanted an idea of what to do!
Xx"
The best thing you can do is put your dislike list at the beginning of your profile. |
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"Ignore people that aren't within your stated preferences
If they can't be bothered to read then why should you have to reply
I think lots of guys just send out masses of messages using the scatter gun approach and don't even realise who they're messaging at all "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
I am white and I don't read profiles , if that helps you |
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It's a Fab phenomenon unfortunately.
Lots of men think us women have written our profiles for no reason and as long as a man messages we will drop all out preferences and standards.
"Coloured" is now considered very impolite though. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
Copy and paste this text: No black guys please.
Jobs a good'un! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a Fab phenomenon unfortunately.
Lots of men think us women have written our profiles for no reason and as long as a man messages we will drop all out preferences and standards.
"Coloured" is now considered very impolite though."
Coloured and black sounds impolite to me! Just didn't know what to put.... |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
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My profile doesn't get read either. Well, it seems that no matter what I do to it the bit at the beginning of my profile, that is highlighted as much as possible, just gets ignored.
I just use it as another filter personally.
Just use the filters to stop people from messaging you and just do the messaging yourself, or block those who message you who you aren't interested in and move on.
We can't force people to use a little intelligence so we have to work round it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my wife has a profile we use when i am at work so she can go on cam and i can watch
it say only using for cam on here,no skype
thick cunts keep messaging her asking to meet or cam on skype  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
I just delete their message; I don't even bother with writing a "no thanks" or blocking; their problem for being stupid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
Block button is your friend. If they cant be bothered reading, why should you bother replying? |
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we have the same problem, we have just spoken to a guy where he wants a picture of us, but i told him how rude he was as he hasn't even sent us a picture first it states quite clearly in our profile , no picture no reply, this is what he said,
i asked to see a pic an your calling me rude ....you seem very bossy n pushy people ..its your way or noway rubbish ..happy swinging  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a lot, I get couples message me all the time who haven't read my profile. I just either send a message back saying read my profile or delete and block.."
Totally agree...If they can't be arsed to read our profile then we assume they can't be arsed to be good players.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Black. Just say black.
'Coloured' has undertones of segregation. Not remotely PC any more."
Coloured, as much as it may be derogatory to some people, is.still an accepted phrase in some cultures..indeed when chatting to my family that is a term they use due to where I am from..I doubt the Op meant any offence by the term and I get her meaning |
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Why don't people just say their preference rather than what they don't like.
I am ONLY interested in....... rather than the no coloured, no Asians, I am not racist etc.
Not saying people will read it though. Just find the no coloured, no Asians offensive and I move on very quickly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shall i tell you what i do? Shhhhhsh no telling. I regularly go through all the new members local to me who I don't fancy and block them before they've looked at me!!! How scandalous  |
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"Black. Just say black.
'Coloured' has undertones of segregation. Not remotely PC any more.
Coloured, as much as it may be derogatory to some people, is.still an accepted phrase in some cultures..indeed when chatting to my family that is a term they use due to where I am from..I doubt the Op meant any offence by the term and I get her meaning"
I don't think the OP meant any offence or has anyone taken it as an offence. Coloured accepted in some cultures? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why don't people just say their preference rather than what they don't like.
I am ONLY interested in....... rather than the no coloured, no Asians, I am not racist etc.
Not saying people will read it though. Just find the no coloured, no Asians offensive and I move on very quickly "
Thanks that's a good idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Black. Just say black.
'Coloured' has undertones of segregation. Not remotely PC any more.
Coloured, as much as it may be derogatory to some people, is.still an accepted phrase in some cultures..indeed when chatting to my family that is a term they use due to where I am from..I doubt the Op meant any offence by the term and I get her meaning
I don't think the OP meant any offence or has anyone taken it as an offence. Coloured accepted in some cultures?"
A couple of people have mentioned the wording as not PC, all I was trying to do was clarify what in some parts of the world and with certain age groups itnis still a term used and accepted |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Black. Just say black.
'Coloured' has undertones of segregation. Not remotely PC any more.
Coloured, as much as it may be derogatory to some people, is.still an accepted phrase in some cultures..indeed when chatting to my family that is a term they use due to
where I am from..I doubt the Op meant any offence by the term and I get her meaning
I don't think the OP meant any offence or has anyone taken it as an offence. Coloured accepted in some cultures?
A couple of people have mentioned the wording as not PC, all I was trying to do was clarify what in some parts of the world and with certain age groups itnis still a term used and accepted"
I never meant any offence by saying coloured! |
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I think we get too hung up on terminology and the sensitivities of others.
Brown, black, coloured, non-white, mixed race. Not sure why we have to keep redefining it.
I demand to be referred to as pink, or maybe beige or mushroom .
I'm not allowed to be offended when people ask for BBC only. Even VVWE.
Just say the things that do it for you.
You can add the phrase "personal preference", just to be sure.
As single guys (muggles) were not allowed to have preferences. We might get even less responses, though negative numbers I don't think are possible, lol.
M x |
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PS, I always appreciate it if the deal breakers are listed at the start of the profile, preferably in bold. Saves wasting my time wading through a profile to see whether we have things in common.
"single males, don't message us, we'll find you" . really? REALLY?Well, you can stick that up your arse, 'cos I'm not going to. Lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
Funny that just reading another post from a guy who obviously thinks profiles are too long and doesn't read them. There lies your problem they don't read the profile! Mr W |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The fact they don't read the profile is no big deal though really is it ,just move onto next ,the people that don't read will eventually wise up when they get no reaction from their targets and no replies ,if they don't learn they burn |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X Funny that just reading another post from a guy who obviously thinks profiles are too long and doesn't read them. There lies your problem they don't read the profile! Mr W "
I guess he is into 'quickies' as normal sex too could be too long for him |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X Funny that just reading another post from a guy who obviously thinks profiles are too long and doesn't read them. There lies your problem they don't read the profile! Mr W
I guess he is into 'quickies' as normal sex too could be too long for him "
normal sex is boring though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Block em!
& coloured? Who's been coloured on here other than white people with fake orange tans! Black is the word. No ones coloured black skin other than the odd tatooist. You would be deeply offended if we put 'no tainted' skinned people please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"my wife has a profile we use when i am at work so she can go on cam and i can watch
it say only using for cam on here,no skype
thick cunts keep messaging her asking to meet or cam on skype "
If she sets the age range to 98-99 and uses the mail filters to block everyone not that age.... |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X Funny that just reading another post from a guy who obviously thinks profiles are too long and doesn't read them. There lies your problem they don't read the profile! Mr W
I guess he is into 'quickies' as normal sex too could be too long for him normal sex is boring though "
Have you ever tried it or did you just jump past SEX101 and went straight for your Doctorate? |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X Funny that just reading another post from a guy who obviously thinks profiles are too long and doesn't read them. There lies your problem they don't read the profile! Mr W
I guess he is into 'quickies' as normal sex too could be too long for him normal sex is boring though
Have you ever tried it or did you just jump past SEX101 and went straight for your Doctorate? hehe hey I love sex in all its forms as long as it has meaning if it's soulless it has no interest for me hugs "
Then try SEX101 as it has less emphasis on the physical and more on the intimacy
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X Funny that just reading another post from a guy who obviously thinks profiles are too long and doesn't read them. There lies your problem they don't read the profile! Mr W
I guess he is into 'quickies' as normal sex too could be too long for him normal sex is boring though
Have you ever tried it or did you just jump past SEX101 and went straight for your Doctorate? hehe hey I love sex in all its forms as long as it has meaning if it's soulless it has no interest for me hugs
Then try SEX101 as it has less emphasis on the physical and more on the intimacy
x"
 Awwww Thankyou I will |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"FFS
Just delete them!
( yawning icon thingy! )
Straightforward advice"
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"FFS
Just delete them!
( yawning icon thingy! )
Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
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Lots of liquids (non-alcoholic) and sleep
But you already knew that, didn't you
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"my wife has a profile we use when i am at work so she can go on cam and i can watch
it say only using for cam on here,no skype
thick cunts keep messaging her asking to meet or cam on skype "
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most people look at the pics without fully reading the profile then start messaging, even if/when they are specifically the people you have tried to filter out.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore people that aren't within your stated preferences
If they can't be bothered to read then why should you have to reply
I think lots of guys just send out masses of messages using the scatter gun approach and don't even realise who they're messaging at all "
The cut and paste gurus |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx"
Think you need to read it again with fresh eyes. You don't say no bi guys. One of you is bi but it doesn't say which, unless you assume the 1" difference in height makes it really clear?
Neither do you say you have an issue with guys who play bi so perhaps some bi guys contact you with only a straight interest in you?
That's ok. Anytime. Glad I could help |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
Suggestion, come out of the past and stop referring to black people as coloured. It is largely considered offensive.
In regards to your issue, simply ignore/block. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Black. Just say black.
'Coloured' has undertones of segregation. Not remotely PC any more.
Coloured, as much as it may be derogatory to some people, is.still an accepted phrase in some cultures..indeed when chatting to my family that is a term they use due to where I am from..I doubt the Op meant any offence by the term and I get her meaning"
I didn't mean to offend anyone!
Just wanted to hAve idea of what other people do in my situation as didn't want to offend anyone further!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"FFS
Just delete them!
( yawning icon thingy! )
Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
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For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X
Suggestion, come out of the past and stop referring to black people as coloured. It is largely considered offensive.
In regards to your issue, simply ignore/block. "
I am 15 years older than you, no racist bone in my body! Judge me if you wish, it was not meant to cause any offence as I keep saying!!! Do not see the word offensive like you do! Obviously a touchy subject for you!
But I will be hitting the block button now thanks for you constructive advise!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X
Suggestion, come out of the past and stop referring to black people as coloured. It is largely considered offensive.
In regards to your issue, simply ignore/block.
I am 15 years older than you, no racist bone in my body! Judge me if you wish, it was not meant to cause any offence as I keep saying!!! Do not see the word offensive like you do! Obviously a touchy subject for you!
But I will be hitting the block button now thanks for you constructive advise!
x"
hey you're always going to upset someone with threads like this don't worry about it ,if you put that on your profile you will upset the ones that read it so you can't win just don't answer all messages that don't appeal and just don't think about colour of skin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A post about race got closed yesterday because basically it became a bit racist. I don't understand why people object to seeing people who are of a different skin colour or culture. Surely this is part of the intrigue of swinging meeting folk you might not normally interact with. Being brought up in a predominantly white area which still has a minority of different ethnic groups I see this as an opportunity. Yes the majority of swingers in our area are white but I wouldn't rule out meeting anyone based on ethnic group only on having a spark with them. So get over yourself fabbers and you might just enjoy yourself. Mr W |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think the OP meant any offence or has anyone taken it as an offence. Coloured accepted in some cultures?
She didn't"
But generally used as a derogatory term in those cultures. Mr W |
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From peole who deal with the great British public on a daily basis you can be assured they either cannot or refuse to read. It is that simple.
Use the block tool, it is there for that very reason.
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"A post about race got closed yesterday because basically it became a bit racist. I don't understand why people object to seeing people who are of a different skin colour or culture. Surely this is part of the intrigue of swinging meeting folk you might not normally interact with. Being brought up in a predominantly white area which still has a minority of different ethnic groups I see this as an opportunity. Yes the majority of swingers in our area are white but I wouldn't rule out meeting anyone based on ethnic group only on having a spark with them. So get over yourself fabbers and you might just enjoy yourself. Mr W "
I think we are all entitled to meet who we want. |
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"A post about race got closed yesterday because basically it became a bit racist. I don't understand why people object to seeing people who are of a different skin colour or culture. Surely this is part of the intrigue of swinging meeting folk you might not normally interact with. Being brought up in a predominantly white area which still has a minority of different ethnic groups I see this as an opportunity. Yes the majority of swingers in our area are white but I wouldn't rule out meeting anyone based on ethnic group only on having a spark with them. So get over yourself fabbers and you might just enjoy yourself. Mr W
I think we are all entitled to meet who we want."
Pardon me but I didn't say that. Mr W |
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over a year ago
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"A post about race got closed yesterday because basically it became a bit racist. I don't understand why people object to seeing people who are of a different skin colour or culture. Surely this is part of the intrigue of swinging meeting folk you might not normally interact with. Being brought up in a predominantly white area which still has a minority of different ethnic groups I see this as an opportunity. Yes the majority of swingers in our area are white but I wouldn't rule out meeting anyone based on ethnic group only on having a spark with them. So get over yourself fabbers and you might just enjoy yourself. Mr W
I think we are all entitled to meet who we want. Pardon me but I didn't say that. Mr W "
You inferred it. "Get over yourself fabbers".
Suck some cock. You might just enjoy yourself. |
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over a year ago
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"A post about race got closed yesterday because basically it became a bit racist. I don't understand why people object to seeing people who are of a different skin colour or culture. Surely this is part of the intrigue of swinging meeting folk you might not normally interact with. Being brought up in a predominantly white area which still has a minority of different ethnic groups I see this as an opportunity. Yes the majority of swingers in our area are white but I wouldn't rule out meeting anyone based on ethnic group only on having a spark with them. So get over yourself fabbers and you might just enjoy yourself. Mr W
I think we are all entitled to meet who we want. Pardon me but I didn't say that. Mr W
You inferred it. "Get over yourself fabbers".
Suck some cock. You might just enjoy yourself. "
I can vouch for that. Mmm |
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"A post about race got closed yesterday because basically it became a bit racist. I don't understand why people object to seeing people who are of a different skin colour or culture. Surely this is part of the intrigue of swinging meeting folk you might not normally interact with. Being brought up in a predominantly white area which still has a minority of different ethnic groups I see this as an opportunity. Yes the majority of swingers in our area are white but I wouldn't rule out meeting anyone based on ethnic group only on having a spark with them. So get over yourself fabbers and you might just enjoy yourself. Mr W
I think we are all entitled to meet who we want. Pardon me but I didn't say that. Mr W
You inferred it. "Get over yourself fabbers".
Suck some cock. You might just enjoy yourself. "
is he gay then ? |
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
Make them write I'M NOT BLACK in subject ????
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You know how when you apply for a job, it's normal to give jobs you don't 100% match a shot, because you might get lucky (and jobs you 100% match aren't very common, so you want to hedge your bets)?
That's why this happens. |
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"Once again the Trolls win. Make a simple opinion you get slated. I inferred nothing you sad acts. Mr W "
So it's ok for you to post but if anyone disagrees they are a troll and a sad act?
Are you 6 years old? |
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"Once again the Trolls win. Make a simple opinion you get slated. I inferred nothing you sad acts. Mr W
So it's ok for you to post but if anyone disagrees they are a troll and a sad act?
Are you 6 years old? "
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"Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx"
Just do as we do, make it as clear as you can on your profile but if they do, block profile and delete message.
It won't stop everyone but it stops them persisting. Works for us.
Also I often use 'who's looked at you' to block undesirables x |
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over a year ago
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Also you have put in normal print that you're only interested in white men.
It is not very clear. We have our preferences several times over, entirely in caps and also starred top and bottom of page. ***XXXXXXXXXXX***
It's the only way to cut down and not be swamped. Try it, it may reduce the messages, and good luck x |
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over a year ago
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Personally if you ask me, if you don't want to swing with a guy because of your personal preference for race or skin colour nobody's right to slate you for it.
But just do me and that guy a favour, find some other legitimate reason about him that justifies you not getting into bed with him, and stick with that reason. You'd be surprised at how guys can be quite intuitive sometimes when it comes to getting signals that they're being passed up because of the unspeakable reason of race/skin colour! But if you don't openly state it as a reason it saves their dignity, and everyone a lot of bellyaching and bickering. |
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over a year ago
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"It's a Fab phenomenon unfortunately.
Lots of men think us women have written our profiles for no reason and as long as a man messages we will drop all out preferences and standards.
"Coloured" is now considered very impolite though.
Coloured and black sounds impolite to me! Just didn't know what to put...."
Why not try just not writing anything, rather than appearing to be a racist, but sure the coloured donkey has bolted now Always a stark reminder, that people like you still exist. .....educate yourself rather than appearing as a racist, on a swingers site. Not a good look anywhere IMHO
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"FFS
Just delete them!
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Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
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Your use of the word coloured, isn't nice. You're wanten need to segregate isn't nice. I'd go on but I think I've said enough. Would you stick the same notice up in your kitchen window? No, didn't think so! |
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"FFS
Just delete them!
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Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
Your use of the word coloured, isn't nice. You're wanten need to segregate isn't nice. I'd go on but I think I've said enough. Would you stick the same notice up in your kitchen window? No, didn't think so! "
Would you stick up a sign in your window saying No men from Wigan or No bald men?
You have stated who you don't want to meet, why can't she? |
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over a year ago
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"FFS
Just delete them!
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Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
Your use of the word coloured, isn't nice. You're wanten need to segregate isn't nice. I'd go on but I think I've said enough. Would you stick the same notice up in your kitchen window? No, didn't think so! "
Yawn
Bored now!!!!!! |
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"FFS
Just delete them!
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Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
Your use of the word coloured, isn't nice. You're wanten need to segregate isn't nice. I'd go on but I think I've said enough. Would you stick the same notice up in your kitchen window? No, didn't think so!
Would you stick up a sign in your window saying No men from Wigan or No bald men?
You have stated who you don't want to meet, why can't she?"
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"Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx
Just do as we do, make it as clear as you can on your profile but if they do, block profile and delete message.
It won't stop everyone but it stops them persisting. Works for us.
Also I often use 'who's looked at you' to block undesirables x"
Another who has never read their own profile; you don't say you don't meet bi guys. You only talk about race.
I see you only meet confident black men but, believe me, that doesn't necessarily mean they're straight! |
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"Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx
Just do as we do, make it as clear as you can on your profile but if they do, block profile and delete message.
It won't stop everyone but it stops them persisting. Works for us.
Also I often use 'who's looked at you' to block undesirables x
Another who has never read their own profile; you don't say you don't meet bi guys. You only talk about race.
I see you only meet confident black men but, believe me, that doesn't necessarily mean they're straight! "
lol,,no ones straight on here |
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"FFS
Just delete them!
( yawning icon thingy! )
Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
Your use of the word coloured, isn't nice. You're wanten need to segregate isn't nice. I'd go on but I think I've said enough. Would you stick the same notice up in your kitchen window? No, didn't think so! "
I think you have said enough, yawn.....
I don't think people advertise swinging on their kitchen window and people have the right to choose to meet people of whatever creed or colour they choose.
Don't see you calling black or Asian guys who only want white women rascist??
The woman only wants to meet white, that is not rascist, that is her sexual preference. We only want to meet black men, that is not rascist, just a sexual preference when swinging.
Rascism card, yawn. |
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"Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx
Just do as we do, make it as clear as you can on your profile but if they do, block profile and delete message.
It won't stop everyone but it stops them persisting. Works for us.
Also I often use 'who's looked at you' to block undesirables x
Another who has never read their own profile; you don't say you don't meet bi guys. You only talk about race.
I see you only meet confident black men but, believe me, that doesn't necessarily mean they're straight! "
Mr, if you had bothered to read the message we quoted you would have realised that the message you quoted was in fact two messages and at no point did we day that we didn't meet bi-guys, only that we quoted the above as it was relevant to the topic that had been posted by the OP.
Our profile neither states that we do or do not meet bi guys, only that we are looking to meet confident black guys.
Unlike you I am thoroughly conversant with the content of our profile and what we say we are looking for and feel that whatever peoples preferences then trying to help them prevent themselves from being swamped by muppets is a worthwhile choice! |
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
I'm sure there are worse problems in life Hun!
A lot of people don't read profiles. We all know this. Accept it. All you'll do is decide not to meet them and delete. They're the ones who've spent time messaging pointlessly!
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
When you find the solution to this please let me know, cause I just feel like battering my laptop most days (shame its not them)  |
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over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X
When you find the solution to this please let me know, cause I just feel like battering my laptop most days (shame its not them) "
Delete the message.
Problem solved. |
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over a year ago
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"Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx
Just do as we do, make it as clear as you can on your profile but if they do, block profile and delete message.
It won't stop everyone but it stops them persisting. Works for us.
Also I often use 'who's looked at you' to block undesirables x
Another who has never read their own profile; you don't say you don't meet bi guys. You only talk about race.
I see you only meet confident black men but, believe me, that doesn't necessarily mean they're straight!
Mr, if you had bothered to read the message we quoted you would have realised that the message you quoted was in fact two messages and at no point did we day that we didn't meet bi-guys, only that we quoted the above as it was relevant to the topic that had been posted by the OP.
Our profile neither states that we do or do not meet bi guys, only that we are looking to meet confident black guys.
Unlike you I am thoroughly conversant with the content of our profile and what we say we are looking for and feel that whatever peoples preferences then trying to help them prevent themselves from being swamped by muppets is a worthwhile choice!"
Apologies if I misunderstood.
Could you enlighten me to which part of the messages you were quoting you were referring to when you said 'just as we do'?
Oh, I would appreciate it if you didn't refer to me with a male reference as I clearly do not identify as such. |
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"Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx
Just do as we do, make it as clear as you can on your profile but if they do, block profile and delete message.
It won't stop everyone but it stops them persisting. Works for us.
Also I often use 'who's looked at you' to block undesirables x
Another who has never read their own profile; you don't say you don't meet bi guys. You only talk about race.
I see you only meet confident black men but, believe me, that doesn't necessarily mean they're straight!
Mr, if you had bothered to read the message we quoted you would have realised that the message you quoted was in fact two messages and at no point did we day that we didn't meet bi-guys, only that we quoted the above as it was relevant to the topic that had been posted by the OP.
Our profile neither states that we do or do not meet bi guys, only that we are looking to meet confident black guys.
Unlike you I am thoroughly conversant with the content of our profile and what we say we are looking for and feel that whatever peoples preferences then trying to help them prevent themselves from being swamped by muppets is a worthwhile choice!
Apologies if I misunderstood.
Could you enlighten me to which part of the messages you were quoting you were referring to when you said 'just as we do'?
Oh, I would appreciate it if you didn't refer to me with a male reference as I clearly do not identify as such. "
Sorry if I am not sympathetic but regardless of what you identify as you are a man in a dress who failed to read a quote correctly and now feels we should explain ourselves to you. Sorry, are you now showing mock offence because you do not approve of the truth?
We identify as what we are and who we are. And we neither suffer fools or feel the need to explain ourselves to a guy who has attempted to hijack a message meant for a lady and now tries to make it about himself.
If you had bothered to read our profile a fraction of how you tried to make out 'someone else who doesn't read their profile' then you would understand exactly what was meant by that comment. And just to add, I frequently check out our profile as sometimes it is very evident it has not been read so we check just to see if it is still clear as to who we are looking for as it would appear that the skill of reading the written word is a skill bereft to many folk on Fab x |
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X
When you find the solution to this please let me know, cause I just feel like battering my laptop most days (shame its not them)
Delete the message.
Problem solved. "
Gosh never thought of being ruder!!!! |
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"FFS
Just delete them!
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Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
Your use of the word coloured, isn't nice. You're wanten need to segregate isn't nice. I'd go on but I think I've said enough. Would you stick the same notice up in your kitchen window? No, didn't think so! "
No it's out back nobody would see it! |
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"FFS
Just delete them!
( yawning icon thingy! )
Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
Your use of the word coloured, isn't nice. You're wanten need to segregate isn't nice. I'd go on but I think I've said enough. Would you stick the same notice up in your kitchen window? No, didn't think so!
I think you have said enough, yawn.....
I don't think people advertise swinging on their kitchen window and people have the right to choose to meet people of whatever creed or colour they choose.
Don't see you calling black or Asian guys who only want white women rascist??
The woman only wants to meet white, that is not rascist, that is her sexual preference. We only want to meet black men, that is not rascist, just a sexual preference when swinging.
Rascism card, yawn."
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over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X
When you find the solution to this please let me know, cause I just feel like battering my laptop most days (shame its not them)
Delete the message.
Problem solved.
Gosh never thought of being ruder!!!!"
Someone sends you a message and you aren't interested in them.
Delete the message.
Block them too.
Problem solved.
Life is very easy. |
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"FFS
Just delete them!
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Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
Your use of the word coloured, isn't nice. You're wanten need to segregate isn't nice. I'd go on but I think I've said enough. Would you stick the same notice up in your kitchen window? No, didn't think so!
Would you stick up a sign in your window saying No men from Wigan or No bald men?
You have stated who you don't want to meet, why can't she?"
Yes, I would and I wouldn't ask others opinions in a public forum either. To then become offended by responses. |
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"FFS
Just delete them!
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Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
Your use of the word coloured, isn't nice. You're wanten need to segregate isn't nice. I'd go on but I think I've said enough. Would you stick the same notice up in your kitchen window? No, didn't think so!
I think you have said enough, yawn.....
I don't think people advertise swinging on their kitchen window and people have the right to choose to meet people of whatever creed or colour they choose.
Don't see you calling black or Asian guys who only want white women rascist??
The woman only wants to meet white, that is not rascist, that is her sexual preference. We only want to meet black men, that is not rascist, just a sexual preference when swinging.
Rascism card, yawn."
Nothing to do with her preferences. They are exactly that 'hers' what I actually referred to was the term 'coloured' this isn't the 40s and wool is now, just brown!...I'm not playing any race card, which you seem quick to point out (hhmmm?) I am just not a fan of derogatory, old fashioned, ill mannered and ignorant comments. This is all. |
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
. Because some of the guys are thinking with their dicks and can't read, some are illiterate and can't read and the others are just complete morons that can't read.
I've got to the point where I write in capital read my fxxxxing profile. Then block them. Or just ignore anyway,
Unfortunately it will never change as this is the world of fab. But have fun with those that you do want and good luck xx |
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"Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx
Just do as we do, make it as clear as you can on your profile but if they do, block profile and delete message.
It won't stop everyone but it stops them persisting. Works for us.
Also I often use 'who's looked at you' to block undesirables x
Another who has never read their own profile; you don't say you don't meet bi guys. You only talk about race.
I see you only meet confident black men but, believe me, that doesn't necessarily mean they're straight!
Mr, if you had bothered to read the message we quoted you would have realised that the message you quoted was in fact two messages and at no point did we day that we didn't meet bi-guys, only that we quoted the above as it was relevant to the topic that had been posted by the OP.
Our profile neither states that we do or do not meet bi guys, only that we are looking to meet confident black guys.
Unlike you I am thoroughly conversant with the content of our profile and what we say we are looking for and feel that whatever peoples preferences then trying to help them prevent themselves from being swamped by muppets is a worthwhile choice!
Apologies if I misunderstood.
Could you enlighten me to which part of the messages you were quoting you were referring to when you said 'just as we do'?
Oh, I would appreciate it if you didn't refer to me with a male reference as I clearly do not identify as such.
Sorry if I am not sympathetic but regardless of what you identify as you are a man in a dress who failed to read a quote correctly and now feels we should explain ourselves to you. Sorry, are you now showing mock offence because you do not approve of the truth?
We identify as what we are and who we are. And we neither suffer fools or feel the need to explain ourselves to a guy who has attempted to hijack a message meant for a lady and now tries to make it about himself.
If you had bothered to read our profile a fraction of how you tried to make out 'someone else who doesn't read their profile' then you would understand exactly what was meant by that comment. And just to add, I frequently check out our profile as sometimes it is very evident it has not been read so we check just to see if it is still clear as to who we are looking for as it would appear that the skill of reading the written word is a skill bereft to many folk on Fab x"
Such unnecessary poison. I merely, politely, requested you to not refer to me by a gender I do not identify with. I am transgendered. I am not just a man in a dress and I did not try to make this about myself.
The ignorance demonstrated on this site astounds me. |
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"Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx
Just do as we do, make it as clear as you can on your profile but if they do, block profile and delete message.
It won't stop everyone but it stops them persisting. Works for us.
Also I often use 'who's looked at you' to block undesirables x
Another who has never read their own profile; you don't say you don't meet bi guys. You only talk about race.
I see you only meet confident black men but, believe me, that doesn't necessarily mean they're straight!
Mr, if you had bothered to read the message we quoted you would have realised that the message you quoted was in fact two messages and at no point did we day that we didn't meet bi-guys, only that we quoted the above as it was relevant to the topic that had been posted by the OP.
Our profile neither states that we do or do not meet bi guys, only that we are looking to meet confident black guys.
Unlike you I am thoroughly conversant with the content of our profile and what we say we are looking for and feel that whatever peoples preferences then trying to help them prevent themselves from being swamped by muppets is a worthwhile choice!
Apologies if I misunderstood.
Could you enlighten me to which part of the messages you were quoting you were referring to when you said 'just as we do'?
Oh, I would appreciate it if you didn't refer to me with a male reference as I clearly do not identify as such.
Sorry if I am not sympathetic but regardless of what you identify as you are a man in a dress who failed to read a quote correctly and now feels we should explain ourselves to you. Sorry, are you now showing mock offence because you do not approve of the truth?
We identify as what we are and who we are. And we neither suffer fools or feel the need to explain ourselves to a guy who has attempted to hijack a message meant for a lady and now tries to make it about himself.
If you had bothered to read our profile a fraction of how you tried to make out 'someone else who doesn't read their profile' then you would understand exactly what was meant by that comment. And just to add, I frequently check out our profile as sometimes it is very evident it has not been read so we check just to see if it is still clear as to who we are looking for as it would appear that the skill of reading the written word is a skill bereft to many folk on Fab x
Such unnecessary poison. I merely, politely, requested you to not refer to me by a gender I do not identify with. I am transgendered. I am not just a man in a dress and I did not try to make this about myself.
The ignorance demonstrated on this site astounds me. "
Agreed Rachael!
Some really ugly personalities have come out on this thread!
Very sad! Xx |
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X
When you find the solution to this please let me know, cause I just feel like battering my laptop most days (shame its not them)
Delete the message.
Problem solved.
Gosh never thought of being ruder!!!!
Someone sends you a message and you aren't interested in them.
Delete the message.
Block them too.
Problem solved.
Life is very easy. "
Der I didn't think of that |
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By *huramMan
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X
When you find the solution to this please let me know, cause I just feel like battering my laptop most days (shame its not them)
Delete the message.
Problem solved.
Gosh never thought of being ruder!!!!
Someone sends you a message and you aren't interested in them.
Delete the message.
Block them too.
Problem solved.
Life is very easy.
Der I didn't think of that "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"FFS
Just delete them!
( yawning icon thingy! )
Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
Your use of the word coloured, isn't nice. You're wanten need to segregate isn't nice. I'd go on but I think I've said enough. Would you stick the same notice up in your kitchen window? No, didn't think so!
Would you stick up a sign in your window saying No men from Wigan or No bald men?
You have stated who you don't want to meet, why can't she?
Yes, I would and I wouldn't ask others opinions in a public forum either. To then become offended by responses."
I thought the forums was for asking for advise, I obviously got that very wrong from the majority of people on here!
And the people who have offered KIND advise Thank you so much ! X |
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"FFS
Just delete them!
( yawning icon thingy! )
Straightforward advice
I shouldn't be on Fab today I'm so hungover... and I'm getting annoyed about people whingeing about being fat, gay or racial preferences!
Surely these grown adults know the answers to these questions already!
For me I felt this was a tender subject and did not wish to make situation worse!
A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!!
Your use of the word coloured, isn't nice. You're wanten need to segregate isn't nice. I'd go on but I think I've said enough. Would you stick the same notice up in your kitchen window? No, didn't think so!
Would you stick up a sign in your window saying No men from Wigan or No bald men?
You have stated who you don't want to meet, why can't she?
Yes, I would and I wouldn't ask others opinions in a public forum either. To then become offended by responses.
I thought the forums was for asking for advise, I obviously got that very wrong from the majority of people on here!
And the people who have offered KIND advise Thank you so much ! X "
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Hi
Not a great deal you can do other than delete and block button lol
We have on ours no bi-guys guess who messages us lol
Most only look at pics and go straight to message good luck xx
Just do as we do, make it as clear as you can on your profile but if they do, block profile and delete message.
It won't stop everyone but it stops them persisting. Works for us.
Also I often use 'who's looked at you' to block undesirables x
Another who has never read their own profile; you don't say you don't meet bi guys. You only talk about race.
I see you only meet confident black men but, believe me, that doesn't necessarily mean they're straight!
Mr, if you had bothered to read the message we quoted you would have realised that the message you quoted was in fact two messages and at no point did we day that we didn't meet bi-guys, only that we quoted the above as it was relevant to the topic that had been posted by the OP.
Our profile neither states that we do or do not meet bi guys, only that we are looking to meet confident black guys.
Unlike you I am thoroughly conversant with the content of our profile and what we say we are looking for and feel that whatever peoples preferences then trying to help them prevent themselves from being swamped by muppets is a worthwhile choice!
Apologies if I misunderstood.
Could you enlighten me to which part of the messages you were quoting you were referring to when you said 'just as we do'?
Oh, I would appreciate it if you didn't refer to me with a male reference as I clearly do not identify as such.
Sorry if I am not sympathetic but regardless of what you identify as you are a man in a dress who failed to read a quote correctly and now feels we should explain ourselves to you. Sorry, are you now showing mock offence because you do not approve of the truth?
We identify as what we are and who we are. And we neither suffer fools or feel the need to explain ourselves to a guy who has attempted to hijack a message meant for a lady and now tries to make it about himself.
If you had bothered to read our profile a fraction of how you tried to make out 'someone else who doesn't read their profile' then you would understand exactly what was meant by that comment. And just to add, I frequently check out our profile as sometimes it is very evident it has not been read so we check just to see if it is still clear as to who we are looking for as it would appear that the skill of reading the written word is a skill bereft to many folk on Fab x
Such unnecessary poison. I merely, politely, requested you to not refer to me by a gender I do not identify with. I am transgendered. I am not just a man in a dress and I did not try to make this about myself.
The ignorance demonstrated on this site astounds me. "
Hi Rachael
So true
Its sad that when people cannot say anything logical, they then start resorting to personal attacks
There are so many who see you as true identify, so please don't fret about the minority
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
Pleasuretown |
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Such unnecessary poison. I merely, politely, requested you to not refer to me by a gender I do not identify with. I am transgendered. I am not just a man in a dress and I did not try to make this about myself.
The ignorance demonstrated on this site astounds me.
Hi Rachael
So true
Its sad that when people cannot say anything logical, they then start resorting to personal attacks
There are so many who see you as true identify, so please don't fret about the minority
xxx"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't reply to the messages then OP simple as.."
Thanks for that, that's what majority of people of said. Why did you feel the need to comment?? When 100 have people have said :-0
I'm just gonna be ruder to people that
I normally am! I'm gonna become s rude bitch!
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"A simple question as turned into a can of worms, I should know by now nobody on forums as anything nice and helpful to say!!! "
Oh ok, shan't bother in future, and definitely won't stick up for you again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'Coloured'? Is the OP Alf Garnet?
As for people reading profiles, we obviously get plenty who don't bother reading ours but we always read other people's and we also get some complimentary comments from some people about our profile so I think, given the minimal effort in writing one, it's definitely worth having one.
We'd probably tend to avoid anyone who had virtually nothing on their profile. "
Spot on. Too many people are backwater hillbillies....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
Block all sexes but if you do that then that means you will have to message those you like first or you wont get any incoming mail?
It works like that for me as I prefer to choose who messages me. |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
You X "
People don't read profiles, just block them, we block the ones that aren't what we might be looking for |
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"Hi
Just some advise please I have put on my profile that I am not attracted to coloured people.
But I'm still getting contacted. I really don't know what to say, as its on my profile. Please somebody advise.... Thank
Quite simply delete the message. My philosophy can't be arsed to read my profile I can't be arsed to read or answer your message
You X "
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