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By *elsim OP Couple
over a year ago
colchester |
The two of us have trouble finding time, energy and both being in the mood for wild and uninhibited sex with each other, let alone with (at least) two other people!
Does anyone have any tips, experience or encouragement they can kindly share with us please?
We would hate to end up as ex-swingers without ever having swung.  |
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over a year ago
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Know what you mean, life really does get in the way of living at times.
Come Friday night we usually want a nice cuppa and early night.
But we just make that extra effort
...sometimes! |
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By *elsim OP Couple
over a year ago
colchester |
"Know what you mean, life really does get in the way of living at times.
Come Friday night we usually want a nice cuppa and early night.
But we just make that extra effort
...sometimes! "
Not just us then! |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
Nr Manchester |
We had a "second honeymoon " 2 years ago having been together for 31 years and having realised we needed 10 days or so of sex once or twice a day plus a lot of quality time. It was after that when we started to discuss swinging. 3 months ago we just had 2 (expensive) nights at a spa hotel with our own private outdoor hot tub, it was great.
In previous years we expected to have mainly spontaneous sex, which is one of the reasons we didn't have much.
As swingers you need to decide on going to clubs and/or arranging meets. Not so spontaneous but great to look forward too.
Last Friday I took a day off work, we had lunch at a country pub and an afternoon at Cupids.
We Are lucky that our kids are adults - so no problem needing babysitters etc. But they still live at home which is why we go out.
Short answer - plan to spend time together. Him |
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By *elsim OP Couple
over a year ago
colchester |
"We had a "second honeymoon " 2 years ago having been together for 31 years and having realised we needed 10 days or so of sex once or twice a day plus a lot of quality time. It was after that when we started to discuss swinging. 3 months ago we just had 2 (expensive) nights at a spa hotel with our own private outdoor hot tub, it was great.
In previous years we expected to have mainly spontaneous sex, which is one of the reasons we didn't have much.
As swingers you need to decide on going to clubs and/or arranging meets. Not so spontaneous but great to look forward too.
Last Friday I took a day off work, we had lunch at a country pub and an afternoon at Cupids.
We Are lucky that our kids are adults - so no problem needing babysitters etc. But they still live at home which is why we go out.
Short answer - plan to spend time together. Him"
We will. Thanks for the advice |
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We like to set a date a few weeks in the future, plan what or where we are going and wearing and then enjoy the build up to it. A few sexy texts and conversations along the way help as well. Also a couple of early nights the days leading up we find helpful so we can enjoy the evening to the max  |
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"We had a "second honeymoon " 2 years ago having been together for 31 years and having realised we needed 10 days or so of sex once or twice a day plus a lot of quality time. It was after that when we started to discuss swinging. 3 months ago we just had 2 (expensive) nights at a spa hotel with our own private outdoor hot tub, it was great.
In previous years we expected to have mainly spontaneous sex, which is one of the reasons we didn't have much.
As swingers you need to decide on going to clubs and/or arranging meets. Not so spontaneous but great to look forward too.
Last Friday I took a day off work, we had lunch at a country pub and an afternoon at Cupids.
We Are lucky that our kids are adults - so no problem needing babysitters etc. But they still live at home which is why we go out.
Short answer - plan to spend time together. Him"
Sounds perfect day off and a trip to cupids in the afternoon we will have to do this. Understand OP what you mean , mrs has been down with the whole sex thing recently and i have just said she needs some rest and needs sleep.Although i probably do her head in though tbh. Our little ones are still young so have to arrange date night soon for a bit of us time. |
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