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How come I don't get a reply
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When someone sends me a message that simply says 'hi' I delete it without opening it.
I like messages that put in some effort. It's not difficult. Hi on its own leaves nothing to go back to. I say hi back and the next one comes saying 'how r u?'
I'd be there all day long.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Communication works on several levels.
There's the words you've written that say one thing.
But also there's the fact that you've not written much and there's little on your profile. That tells people something too and to many it's not a good thing.
Then there's the way you say it. Lots of text speak or poor spelling gives an impression of what you might be like in person.
If that's not the message you're trying to convey and you care about what a broad selection of people think then you'll have to do something about it. If not, stick with plan A.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fair enuf seems allot of men have been letting a lot of girls down x"
Text speak , too Many xxx
Then the age group your going for , 45 , we didn't grow up with text speak , we find it annoying , it's like something one our children wrote in a text that we can never understand . And the embarrassment of asking the girl in the shop what it means . As we have no idea .
As your after such a wide range of ages , you need to change how you write to the chosen audience .
Also anyone over 45 would be put off by the age, and their are some pretty fit men and women over 45 , would you really turn them down because of two years out your age range .
Then the lower edge , it's highly unlikely you will find a genuine 18 year old her , so raise the lowere age to 20 or 21 or older .
I know this profile is rubbish but only do club meets |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
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"I no a lot of single men are on here but I'm polite a don't keep re sending and I dnt just put hi so how come I dnt get replies lol x"
I would be totally put off by the text speak, it is like communicating with a teenager 
Surely it's not difficult to type 'don't' instead of 'dnt'? It just seems lazy to me, sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have great pictures (no cocks). For me I don't like text talk /spelling so be articulate. In your profile put a little about who you are. I'd make sure the people you are messaging fit who you are and try to be funny and explain this in your mail. And try to add a photo that's not on your profile. Good luck xx |
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"It is like a roulette, mostly by luck if a reply is given lol."
its got nothing to do with luck or roulette, the text speak will be putting most of, its all about the effort you put in and how you put yourself across. |
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"I no a lot of single men are on here but I'm polite a don't keep re sending and I dnt just put hi so how come I dnt get replies lol x"
. You have good photos and are young so time is on your side .
However you need a lot more than that to generate interest . You profile says little about you and some members will be put off by spelling mistakes .
Profiles have to be really worked on as they are your only marketing tool . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I no a lot of single men are on here but I'm polite a don't keep re sending and I dnt just put hi so how come I dnt get replies lol x. You have good photos and are young so time is on your side .
However you need a lot more than that to generate interest . You profile says little about you and some members will be put off by spelling mistakes .
Profiles have to be really worked on as they are your only marketing tool ."
Try attending clubs that have a select few blokes as a means of getting a foot hold. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"and when you do go to clubs. Don't creep around people or follow them around."
on the other hand, I remember getting into a jacuzzi in a spa with a few people in it (none playing) and greeting everyone with a cheery "alright?".....nobody spoke....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people are rude and don't reply. Better to find out they are rude before wasting time on chatting. "
It's not rude. It's in site FAQS that no response is a no thankyou.
My profile says not meeting. I still get mail. Is it rude to not reply? No. It was rude of them to try to waste my time as well as their own.
Even when I was meeting I didn't reply to all. Most just got deleted as I could read the whole message without opening. Or I'd read the profile 1st and any number of things could have put me off. Not wasting my own time if not interested.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people are rude and don't reply. Better to find out they are rude before wasting time on chatting.
It's not rude. It's in site FAQS that no response is a no thankyou.
My profile says not meeting. I still get mail. Is it rude to not reply? No. It was rude of them to try to waste my time as well as their own.
Even when I was meeting I didn't reply to all. Most just got deleted as I could read the whole message without opening. Or I'd read the profile 1st and any number of things could have put me off. Not wasting my own time if not interested. "
If the site FAQs said it's ok to shave your head, the site would be full of bald people.  |
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"Some people are rude and don't reply. Better to find out they are rude before wasting time on chatting.
It's not rude. It's in site FAQS that no response is a no thankyou.
My profile says not meeting. I still get mail. Is it rude to not reply? No. It was rude of them to try to waste my time as well as their own.
Even when I was meeting I didn't reply to all. Most just got deleted as I could read the whole message without opening. Or I'd read the profile 1st and any number of things could have put me off. Not wasting my own time if not interested.
If the site FAQs said it's ok to shave your head, the site would be full of bald people. "
Errr....not a fair or accurate analogy at all.
Those that wanted to shave their head would, and those that didn't, wouldn't .
The site would not be full of bald people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people are rude and don't reply. Better to find out they are rude before wasting time on chatting.
It's not rude. It's in site FAQS that no response is a no thankyou.
My profile says not meeting. I still get mail. Is it rude to not reply? No. It was rude of them to try to waste my time as well as their own.
Even when I was meeting I didn't reply to all. Most just got deleted as I could read the whole message without opening. Or I'd read the profile 1st and any number of things could have put me off. Not wasting my own time if not interested.
If the site FAQs said it's ok to shave your head, the site would be full of bald people.
Errr....not a fair or accurate analogy at all.
Those that wanted to shave their head would, and those that didn't, wouldn't .
The site would not be full of bald people.
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Fair point. x |
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"Some people are rude and don't reply. Better to find out they are rude before wasting time on chatting.
It's not rude. It's in site FAQS that no response is a no thankyou.
My profile says not meeting. I still get mail. Is it rude to not reply? No. It was rude of them to try to waste my time as well as their own.
Even when I was meeting I didn't reply to all. Most just got deleted as I could read the whole message without opening. Or I'd read the profile 1st and any number of things could have put me off. Not wasting my own time if not interested.
If the site FAQs said it's ok to shave your head, the site would be full of bald people.
Errr....not a fair or accurate analogy at all.
Those that wanted to shave their head would, and those that didn't, wouldn't .
The site would not be full of bald people.
Fair point. x"
Otherwise it'd be "Kojakswingers"
Showing my age now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I no a lot of single men are on here but I'm polite a don't keep re sending and I dnt just put hi so how come I dnt get replies lol x"
it takes a while ,your profile needs filling out, a lot of women are funny about grammar and punctuation and text speak also pics a little boring ,when you message read their profile and base your message on it oh and send a face pic hugs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The spelling.
Oh dear.
And the guys that claim it's dyslexia - there's a huge difference between dyslexia and laziness. For instance, on this occasion, one example, instead of using 'I' you use 'a'
I agree with all of the comments about text speak. It comes across as childlike and lazy.
That's not what we're looking for in the bedroom.
First impressions are everything on this site.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Text speak is dead, killed by smart phones. People still using it come over as illiterate especially when using it on a site like this.
Some people won't mind, but you are not going to get a reply from those that do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just because a woman is on a sex site and looking for sexual encounters doesn't mean she is looking for one with you.
If you wrote some interesting bits about yourself in your profile box (favourite film, sexual interests, And avoid 'i like to whatsapp' - that places unnecessary pressure on a woman - that's what you subconsciously expect of her)
Patience! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I no a lot of single men are on here but I'm polite a don't keep re sending and I dnt just put hi so how come I dnt get replies lol x"
Things happen when you least expect them to, I got a message from an attractive, really nice woman out of the blue the other day and we're meeting next week. You need to have a lot of patience on this site. |
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By *otsMan
over a year ago
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Yeh you need patience.
Remember there's loads of couples and single females but there's probably a 100 blokes for each one of them.
We used to play as a cpl but life's event has prevented her playing here. Even I came off for a while then she encourage me to come back with strict rules which are fair enough.
However as a single I have found it harder too however having a partner I'm not so desperate so I guess I don't work as hard at it.
If it happens it happens.
I still have scene friends out there who I meet up with now and again and that's good for me.
Mind you sometimes it's nice to meet a fresh face  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I no a lot of single men are on here but I'm polite a don't keep re sending and I dnt just put hi so how come I dnt get replies lol x
I would be totally put off by the text speak, it is like communicating with a teenager
Surely it's not difficult to type 'don't' instead of 'dnt'? It just seems lazy to me, sorry "
It is evem easier to KNOW when to say NO. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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...And never think you're entitled to what's in front of you. It's almost like a dating game.
It's just a question of finding a woman/couple( or bloke ) that find you attractive in every sense, that they can get on with.
Most couples are pretty wary of single blokes because of their "I'll shag anything because I'm desperate" mentality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh, and when you post a thread asking for advice and make no effort to react with it even though you've been on after half the comments were made, that says great things too.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh, and when you post a thread asking for advice and make no effort to react with it even though you've been on after half the comments were made, that says great things too. "
I know!!! I begrudge giving advice to people who seem like they don't deserve a meet anyway!!! Grrr |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"Oh, and when you post a thread asking for advice and make no effort to react with it even though you've been on after half the comments were made, that says great things too. "
It's a regular thing. As soon as they get a response that doesn't match their predefined idea of what they SHOULD be getting, they pretend the thread doesn't exist.
3 weeks later, the virtually identical thread appears. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single men are everywhere on this site and others. A lot of single girls and cpls are single men tbh. So you may be sending msgs to other men??? So no reply.
Sometimes it's timing, some people just check in for a look see and dnt reply until they have the time to chat (might add to hot list to look again when they have time).
Clps usually have a type of male they will agree on or you have to get them when they are steaming and gagging for a third person.
As for txt spk, I wouldn't use it on your profile as most people what to know you can hold a full conversation and your profile says a lot/ little about you. But in msgs most people will be fine with it.
Public photos/profile photos are important!! The saying; people eat with their eyes!  . Good luck |
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