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to leave or not to leave?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm thinking of leaving the site due to the overwhelming number of fakes and how difficult it is for a single guy on here.
I get that it is predominantly a ladies market on here (and couples to a certain extent) but it does get a little downheartening being ignored all the time.
Id love to stay as i enjoy the site a lot and ideally id persevere, any advice/opinions would be very much appreciated  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did rose abandon ship and let go of jack?! No she didn't. She said she'd never let go. Hmm oh yeah she let him go lol just log on once in a blue moon instead! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Id love to stay as i enjoy the site a lot and ideally id persevere, any advice/opinions would be very much appreciated x"
No one is forcing you to leave. Do anything you want to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you should ask yourself if you are having fun on here. If you aren't, then it is probably time to go.
However, if you think you could have fun, then up your game, get used to how to work the site so the "fakes" don't affect you, and get on with it.
You aren't going to get a good response to this thread on the forums. People are generally tired of complaining and being asked to beg people to stay.
I hope you find what you are looking for.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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heres my opinion.
lacking profile.
cannot accom.
1 cam verification in quite a long while.
been her around a year.....surely you have looked at how many people are meeting in clubs/parties/socials.
most guys complaing are making it hard for themselves..and I dont mean cockwise.
many who are meeting dont appear to be fakes n timewasters...weird that eh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The usual bare profile that doesn't actually say anything about you, what you are looking for or why people should want to contact you!
I would say about 95% of men seem to think all they have to do is string a couple of words together and they will be knee deep in pussy!
Surprise Surprise you actually have to make an effort on here to make yourself stand out.
If you can't be arsed to do that? Then I will just join the others and say bye, don't let the door hit you on the arse on your way out!
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I think that's a bit too harsh (says mr cockshot photo  ) the advice could be delivered in a less passive aggressive fashion, as could ops statements about too many timewasters and how hard fab is
I agree, you get out what you put in effort wise and a bit of constructive criticism would help op (also going to a club on singles nights to mingle) also, a bit of lighthearted fun in the forums never hurt anyone, just get yer dancing fingers on and join in the pleasantries  |
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Stay and up your game. Your profile mainly says 'Im non pushy and looking forward to sampling the lifestyle, looking to meet single ladies and couples.'
This isn't the best that you could do, I'm sure.
I don't know your experience here, particularly of fakes, but this isn't something that I've come across. Otherwise, if it's just about how difficult it is, then don't just rely on a web site for swinging. Get to clubs, make friends and also to parties. I realise that Plymouth isn't the centre of the country, like where I am living, so it's a little isolated from some areas.
Overall, perhaps op you could tell us what changes you've made in your approach in the period since you've been on fab? This could help us see what adjustments, efforts etc that you've invested. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"The usual bare profile that doesn't actually say anything about you, what you are looking for or why people should want to contact you!
I would say about 95% of men seem to think all they have to do is string a couple of words together and they will be knee deep in pussy!
Surprise Surprise you actually have to make an effort on here to make yourself stand out.
If you can't be arsed to do that? Then I will just join the others and say bye, don't let the door hit you on the arse on your way out!
I think that's a bit too harsh (says mr cockshot photo ) the advice could be delivered in a less passive aggressive fashion, as could ops statements about too many timewasters and how hard fab is
I agree, you get out what you put in effort wise and a bit of constructive criticism would help op (also going to a club on singles nights to mingle) also, a bit of lighthearted fun in the forums never hurt anyone, just get yer dancing fingers on and join in the pleasantries "
How was my advise passive/aggressive? It's bloody true, A few meaningless words on a profile that doesn't actually say anything at the end of the day, just to fill a space, with 4 cock pics and we are all meant to be overwhelmed thinking, WOW I just have to meet this man, he has engaged my brain so much he must be worth meeting in person?
Yeah right!  |
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"I would say about 95% of men seem to think all they have to do is string a couple of words together and they will be knee deep in pussy!
Surprise Surprise you actually have to make an effort on here to make yourself stand out."
This sums it up very well. Boring profile, boring cock pics and 'woe is me' forum post. None of that is sexy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The usual bare profile that doesn't actually say anything about you, what you are looking for or why people should want to contact you!
I would say about 95% of men seem to think all they have to do is string a couple of words together and they will be knee deep in pussy!
Surprise Surprise you actually have to make an effort on here to make yourself stand out.
If you can't be arsed to do that? Then I will just join the others and say bye, don't let the door hit you on the arse on your way out!
I think that's a bit too harsh (says mr cockshot photo ) the advice could be delivered in a less passive aggressive fashion, as could ops statements about too many timewasters and how hard fab is
I agree, you get out what you put in effort wise and a bit of constructive criticism would help op (also going to a club on singles nights to mingle) also, a bit of lighthearted fun in the forums never hurt anyone, just get yer dancing fingers on and join in the pleasantries
How was my advise passive/aggressive? It's bloody true, A few meaningless words on a profile that doesn't actually say anything at the end of the day, just to fill a space, with 4 cock pics and we are all meant to be overwhelmed thinking, WOW I just have to meet this man, he has engaged my brain so much he must be worth meeting in person?
Yeah right! "
I'm not saying you have to meet him, just that jumping to get him off fab rather than attempting to turn him into meetable material is counterproductive
Although, it wasn't your advice I was meaning when I said passive aggressive, merely referring to your "don't let the door hit you on the arse on your way out!" Comment. Unjustified, unnecessary and very passive aggressive imo. Which is also an unattractive trait  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you've stopped having fun I'd perhaps take a break. I did a couple of months after I first joined for a few months but rather than delete my profile I just parked it.
Then came back refreshed and reinvigorated without having to start a profile from scratch.
Anyway good luck whatever you choose to do my friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The site is about the person, you have to improve your profile and pics ,women don't want to see cock pics well most don't ( greedy girls and cumsluts may do) you need to read the woman's profile and send messages based on it ,humour is good but above all patience ,women especially attractive women receive many messages I advise not to go for women possibly out of your reach because women who you regard as less than your equal have pulling power above theirs because of ratio of men to women ,you also need to send a face pic with every message ,humour is good if you make them laugh they will burn their knickers on the grill and pay for the hotel ,if you can't accommodate tell them your married |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"The usual bare profile that doesn't actually say anything about you, what you are looking for or why people should want to contact you!
I would say about 95% of men seem to think all they have to do is string a couple of words together and they will be knee deep in pussy!
Surprise Surprise you actually have to make an effort on here to make yourself stand out.
If you can't be arsed to do that? Then I will just join the others and say bye, don't let the door hit you on the arse on your way out!
I think that's a bit too harsh (says mr cockshot photo ) the advice could be delivered in a less passive aggressive fashion, as could ops statements about too many timewasters and how hard fab is
I agree, you get out what you put in effort wise and a bit of constructive criticism would help op (also going to a club on singles nights to mingle) also, a bit of lighthearted fun in the forums never hurt anyone, just get yer dancing fingers on and join in the pleasantries
How was my advise passive/aggressive? It's bloody true, A few meaningless words on a profile that doesn't actually say anything at the end of the day, just to fill a space, with 4 cock pics and we are all meant to be overwhelmed thinking, WOW I just have to meet this man, he has engaged my brain so much he must be worth meeting in person?
Yeah right!
I'm not saying you have to meet him, just that jumping to get him off fab rather than attempting to turn him into meetable material is counterproductive
Although, it wasn't your advice I was meaning when I said passive aggressive, merely referring to your "don't let the door hit you on the arse on your way out!" Comment. Unjustified, unnecessary and very passive aggressive imo. Which is also an unattractive trait "
Read my post again! I gave him advise, you chose to ignore that part and jump straight to the 'don't let the door knock you on your arse on the way out'
It seems that men don't only NOT read profiles, but they don't read forum posts either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The site is about the person, you have to improve your profile and pics ,women don't want to see cock pics well most don't ( greedy girls and cumsluts may do) you need to read the woman's profile and send messages based on it ,humour is good but above all patience ,women especially attractive women receive many messages I advise not to go for women possibly out of your reach because women who you regard as less than your equal have pulling power above theirs because of ratio of men to women ,you also need to send a face pic with every message ,humour is good if you make them laugh they will burn their knickers on the grill and pay for the hotel ,if you can't accommodate tell them your married "
It's true. I burn my knickers for trademark all the time. I've offered to pay for the hotel, but he won't meet me at a Holiday Inn 
-Courtney |
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"The site is about the person, you have to improve your profile and pics ,women don't want to see cock pics well most don't ( greedy girls and cumsluts may do) you need to read the woman's profile and send messages based on it ,humour is good but above all patience ,women especially attractive women receive many messages I advise not to go for women possibly out of your reach because women who you regard as less than your equal have pulling power above theirs because of ratio of men to women ,you also need to send a face pic with every message ,humour is good if you make them laugh they will burn their knickers on the grill and pay for the hotel ,if you can't accommodate tell them your married "
What does one class as out of reach? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The site is about the person, you have to improve your profile and pics ,women don't want to see cock pics well most don't ( greedy girls and cumsluts may do) you need to read the woman's profile and send messages based on it ,humour is good but above all patience ,women especially attractive women receive many messages I advise not to go for women possibly out of your reach because women who you regard as less than your equal have pulling power above theirs because of ratio of men to women ,you also need to send a face pic with every message ,humour is good if you make them laugh they will burn their knickers on the grill and pay for the hotel ,if you can't accommodate tell them your married
What does one class as out of reach?"
the pepper pot when it's on your side of table |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The site is about the person, you have to improve your profile and pics ,women don't want to see cock pics well most don't ( greedy girls and cumsluts may do) you need to read the woman's profile and send messages based on it ,humour is good but above all patience ,women especially attractive women receive many messages I advise not to go for women possibly out of your reach because women who you regard as less than your equal have pulling power above theirs because of ratio of men to women ,you also need to send a face pic with every message ,humour is good if you make them laugh they will burn their knickers on the grill and pay for the hotel ,if you can't accommodate tell them your married
It's true. I burn my knickers for trademark all the time. I've offered to pay for the hotel, but he won't meet me at a Holiday Inn
-Courtney"
courtney love you and marcs feet he has big uns |
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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago
Ayrshire |
I'm sure the men on here will be pleased, one less guy on the site to compete with.
If you like fab then stay. Use the forums if you enjoy them and forget about trying to get a meet. One might come to you one day.
If you don't like it then go |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"I'm thinking of leaving the site due to the overwhelming number of fakes and how difficult it is for a single guy on here.
I get that it is predominantly a ladies market on here (and couples to a certain extent) but it does get a little downheartening being ignored all the time.
Id love to stay as i enjoy the site a lot and ideally id persevere, any advice/opinions would be very much appreciated x"
you don't have to be ignored if you don't want to be... and you get as much out as you put in... so you can go around blaming everyone else, or you can ask yourself "what can i do to improve myself and make my chances of a meet increase?"
if you are expecting people to sugarcoat it all and bet and plead for you to stay.... sorry... wrong place!!!!
no one is holding a gun to your head making you stay... and to be honest if you are not having fun then why put yourself thru it....
so want so brutal tough love... here it comes....
the site gives you all the tools to make it work, you have to figure out that jigsaw.... if you can't... thats on no-one else but you, and no one else knows you better than you....
so sit down... pen, pad, piece of paper and work out how you can make it work for you...
or..... you can pity yourself... and walk away....
on you... your decision |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why not take a better picture? I mean who wants to talk to a stomach? Agree with Fabio you get out what you put in it's all about personality on here me thinks. Women love the gift of the gab....... |
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By *ridmusCouple
over a year ago
sheffield |
"I'm thinking of leaving the site due to the overwhelming number of fakes and how difficult it is for a single guy on here.
I get that it is predominantly a ladies market on here (and couples to a certain extent) but it does get a little downheartening being ignored all the time.
Id love to stay as i enjoy the site a lot and ideally id persevere, any advice/opinions would be very much appreciated x"
get a grip and buckle up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usual friendly stuff on the forums!
I have sympathy OP. I started swinging as a single man about ten years ago on a much smaller site and getting any joy was very difficult. I sometimes got very disheartened being ignored.
Best advice I can give you is leave your profile on but take a break - could be for a week or two, could be several months. Don't rule out coming back but don't rush to it either. When you're feeling better about things, come back and rewrite your profile, making it as full and interesting as you can. Then do the same with your messages to those you're looking to meet. The more positive you feel, the more positive you will sound in approaches and the greater your chances of success.
Hope that helps. J |
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By *onnyeasygoingMan
over a year ago
Somewhere on the M62 between 24 and 14 |
Why don't you take a fab break for a while?
Try your chances as a pirate for a week and see if that improves your chances?
If not you can always come back on fab knowing that you tried a different approach at attracting the ladies... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why is it that because your getting no replies then people must be fakes???...no..theyre just not interested...have an angry wank...you will feel so much better for it |
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Unfortunately online dating is ruled by girls, as well as all the other commercial and non-commercial things linked to Sex.
Apart from Swinger sites and Swingee clubs which are ruled by couples.
...Single guys are just in charge of the rest of the world   |
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"I'm thinking of leaving the site due to the overwhelming number of fakes and how difficult it is for a single guy on here.
I get that it is predominantly a ladies market on here (and couples to a certain extent) but it does get a little downheartening being ignored all the time.
Id love to stay as i enjoy the site a lot and ideally id persevere, any advice/opinions would be very much appreciated x"
. There is no need to worry either about fakes or the number of men on the site . You achieve results by having a detailed well written profile with good pictures..This gets you to the starting line and even then it is an uphill battle .
Effort in equates to the result which you achieve .. |
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"I'm thinking of leaving the site due to the overwhelming number of fakes and how difficult it is for a single guy on here.
I get that it is predominantly a ladies market on here (and couples to a certain extent) but it does get a little downheartening being ignored all the time.
Id love to stay as i enjoy the site a lot and ideally id persevere, any advice/opinions would be very much appreciated x"
. Are you able to list ten key selling points which we could make members consider meeting you in preference to other members ?. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not take a better picture? I mean who wants to talk to a stomach? Agree with Fabio you get out what you put in it's all about personality on here me thinks. Women love the gift of the gab......."
At least he has pics everyone can see  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sometimes embarrassed to be a regular on the forums, especially when we are encouraged to make new people welcome.
Sometimes frustration gets to us. I'm not sure I'd hack it here as a single man to be honest.
Good luck OP xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not take a better picture? I mean who wants to talk to a stomach? Agree with Fabio you get out what you put in it's all about personality on here me thinks. Women love the gift of the gab.......
At least he has pics everyone can see "
He has a picture everyone can see?
Where?
We have enough face pictures for friends we don't need to bare everything on profile pictures |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm sometimes embarrassed to be a regular on the forums, especially when we are encouraged to make new people welcome.
Sometimes frustration gets to us. I'm not sure I'd hack it here as a single man to be honest.
Good luck OP xxxxx"
he's not new he joined over a year ago  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not take a better picture? I mean who wants to talk to a stomach? Agree with Fabio you get out what you put in it's all about personality on here me thinks. Women love the gift of the gab.......
At least he has pics everyone can see
He has a picture everyone can see?
Where?
We have enough face pictures for friends we don't need to bare everything on profile pictures "
He has public pics that you slagged off.
You have NO public pics so it's a bit rich slagging off pics someone puts up for everyone to see when you don't show any.
Let's see how great your pics are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sometimes embarrassed to be a regular on the forums, especially when we are encouraged to make new people welcome.
Sometimes frustration gets to us. I'm not sure I'd hack it here as a single man to be honest.
Good luck OP xxxxxhe's not new he joined over a year ago "
Ok, that makes it fine to treat him like shit.
My mistake, carry on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not take a better picture? I mean who wants to talk to a stomach? Agree with Fabio you get out what you put in it's all about personality on here me thinks. Women love the gift of the gab.......
At least he has pics everyone can see
He has a picture everyone can see?
Where?
We have enough face pictures for friends we don't need to bare everything on profile pictures
He has public pics that you slagged off.
You have NO public pics so it's a bit rich slagging off pics someone puts up for everyone to see when you don't show any.
Let's see how great your pics are."
How have I slagged off this guys public pictures? By saying who wants to "speak to a stomach"? We are enjoying this site and have never had any issues regarding meets/messages so why would we feel the need to show our pictures in public? If the guys not having any luck obviously he needs to change something, and my opinion was to change his photo to make it more appealing, up to the lad if he wants to take it or not.... but I can't see where I slagged him off? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having taken the same quick glance at your profile I do when I revive a message before I read it I'd say the only person making it difficult for yourself here is you.
Based on the profile I wouldn't read the message.
Get some nice clear pictures up with decent clean backgrounds.
One or two coco shots is fine if there's a good mix of others but make it a decent one not just here's my Cock more full body, a public face pic really improves the success rate I find.
Write a bit more detail about who you are what you're looking good for and what you like todo/offer.
Bit of humour and some easy little icebreaker's for people to help them write messages to you helps.
One good test is read your profile and think how easy it would be to send a decent conversational first message to yourself. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm thinking of leaving the site due to the overwhelming number of fakes and how difficult it is for a single guy on here.
I get that it is predominantly a ladies market on here (and couples to a certain extent) but it does get a little downheartening being ignored all the time.
Id love to stay as i enjoy the site a lot and ideally id persevere, any advice/opinions would be very much appreciated x
you don't have to be ignored if you don't want to be... and you get as much out as you put in... so you can go around blaming everyone else, or you can ask yourself "what can i do to improve myself and make my chances of a meet increase?"
if you are expecting people to sugarcoat it all and bet and plead for you to stay.... sorry... wrong place!!!!
no one is holding a gun to your head making you stay... and to be honest if you are not having fun then why put yourself thru it....
so want so brutal tough love... here it comes....
the site gives you all the tools to make it work, you have to figure out that jigsaw.... if you can't... thats on no-one else but you, and no one else knows you better than you....
so sit down... pen, pad, piece of paper and work out how you can make it work for you...
or..... you can pity yourself... and walk away....
on you... your decision"
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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago
liverpool |
"I'm thinking of leaving the site due to the overwhelming number of fakes and how difficult it is for a single guy on here.
I get that it is predominantly a ladies market on here (and couples to a certain extent) but it does get a little downheartening being ignored all the time.
Id love to stay as i enjoy the site a lot and ideally id persevere, any advice/opinions would be very much appreciated x"
Don't forget to return your key |
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