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I don't like married men.
We've been talking to a profile who organises gangbangs and while they can cater to certain preferences like age/ethnicity (which isn't an issue) they can't cater to the preference of no married men. If I go with them, it's a high likely hood/almost a guarantee. Not a hotel or club meet btw.
When it comes to a gangbang, do preferences go out the window, or do I just bend over and let whatever fuck me? What are the unspoken rules?
Experienced ladies, please share you anecdotes and experience.
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over a year ago
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"If you don't meet married men, don't accept them if a gang bang is being organised. No need to alter your preferences. "
 totally agree,you may not get the numbers you hope for,but at least your principles won't be compromised. |
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over a year ago
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I have been to a few gangbangs now and I would not feel happy about having sex with someone if they was not atracted to me and wanted to have sex with me. So if your preference is no maryied men the stick to it. |
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One of our friends on here held a gangbang and the one thing that tainted the whole experience was not sticking to their preferences. It kinda soured any future plans for them.
Logistics around preference are a nightmare when in comes to gangbangs. We have been approached by a few groups which we have had to decline because we did not want to compromise on what we wanted from the experience. |
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"One of our friends on here held a gangbang and the one thing that tainted the whole experience was not sticking to their preferences. It kinda soured any future plans for them.
Logistics around preference are a nightmare when in comes to gangbangs. We have been approached by a few groups which we have had to decline because we did not want to compromise on what we wanted from the experience. "
We've been trying to organise something for ages, it's surprisingly hard considering the number of single men on here. This was our first real contact, and the organiser is great, knowledgable, friendly, very experienced - hard to find, basically.
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"Can you not organise your own?  "
Tried, for ages. Organising loads of individual strangers is near impossible, so many people drop out, can't make a date, don't reply after expressing interest - the usual you get for an ordinary meet x a gangbang.
It's easier to go through an experienced organiser who has lots of vetted people up for the job. We would literally just have to turn up and show them our appreciation. |
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"How would you know? Do married men have different cocks or something?
The wedding ring is a bit of a give away  "
So if he took it off how would you know. Would part of the pre gangbang banter be a hand and ring finger check? We all know people lie but I'm just wondering what's wrong with a married guy at a gangbang? I understand at a one on one which could lead to a regular thing, as he wife could find out and things get messy.
It's not me defending married men doing things behind their back but some married men do this with the wife's permission. |
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"How would you know? Do married men have different cocks or something?
The wedding ring is a bit of a give away
So if he took it off how would you know. Would part of the pre gangbang banter be a hand and ring finger check? We all know people lie but I'm just wondering what's wrong with a married guy at a gangbang? I understand at a one on one which could lead to a regular thing, as he wife could find out and things get messy.
It's not me defending married men doing things behind their back but some married men do this with the wife's permission. "
I will tell you what's wrong with a married man at a gangbang,some women choose not to play with married or attatched guys. |
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"How would you know? Do married men have different cocks or something?
The wedding ring is a bit of a give away
So if he took it off how would you know. Would part of the pre gangbang banter be a hand and ring finger check? We all know people lie but I'm just wondering what's wrong with a married guy at a gangbang? I understand at a one on one which could lead to a regular thing, as he wife could find out and things get messy.
It's not me defending married men doing things behind their back but some married men do this with the wife's permission.
I will tell you what's wrong with a married man at a gangbang,some women choose not to play with married or attatched guys."
Sometimes in life we come across something known as a "compromise" - how are you going to know all those single guys you speak to haven't got a secret wife at home? Equally how do you know those married men haven't got permission to be on here? In order to get what you want you have to give a little.
FYI no I'm not married. |
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I would say stick to your preferences.
However, I doubt there are any organiser's who can give you this assurance.
They can ask and get a reply, but they are not going to be able to run a full background check.
You may have played with some great people so far. But they all could have lied and all be married.
Also is it the married or the cheating that bothers you as some cpls are happy to play alone.
So for me you should certainly vet as far as you can but no one can be sure.
I'm sure we have played in clubs with married cpls who are cheating. we would prefer not to and if we found out we'd stop. But odds are not all cpls are attached. |
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"How would you know? Do married men have different cocks or something?
The wedding ring is a bit of a give away
So if he took it off how would you know. Would part of the pre gangbang banter be a hand and ring finger check? We all know people lie but I'm just wondering what's wrong with a married guy at a gangbang? I understand at a one on one which could lead to a regular thing, as he wife could find out and things get messy.
It's not me defending married men doing things behind their back but some married men do this with the wife's permission.
I will tell you what's wrong with a married man at a gangbang,some women choose not to play with married or attatched guys."
Some people just don't understand the reasoning  |
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"How would you know? Do married men have different cocks or something?
The wedding ring is a bit of a give away
So if he took it off how would you know. Would part of the pre gangbang banter be a hand and ring finger check? We all know people lie but I'm just wondering what's wrong with a married guy at a gangbang? I understand at a one on one which could lead to a regular thing, as he wife could find out and things get messy.
It's not me defending married men doing things behind their back but some married men do this with the wife's permission.
I will tell you what's wrong with a married man at a gangbang,some women choose not to play with married or attatched guys.
Some people just don't understand the reasoning "
I suppose a bit like people who instantly assume a married guy is a cheater! But my original point was how would you know in a gang bang who is married/had a girlfriend or not? I could say I'm a multi millionaire but I'm not. A wedding ring can be removed. How do you get it? I know plenty of single women who play with partners who are not who they are married to. As previously stated I ain't defending cheaters. |
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Surely you have the final say even if its being organised for you?
If you have principles, stick to them. Would you be able to relax and enjoy as much if you were left wondering? |
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"How would you know? Do married men have different cocks or something?
The wedding ring is a bit of a give away
So if he took it off how would you know. Would part of the pre gangbang banter be a hand and ring finger check? We all know people lie but I'm just wondering what's wrong with a married guy at a gangbang? I understand at a one on one which could lead to a regular thing, as he wife could find out and things get messy.
It's not me defending married men doing things behind their back but some married men do this with the wife's permission.
I will tell you what's wrong with a married man at a gangbang,some women choose not to play with married or attatched guys.
Sometimes in life we come across something known as a "compromise" - how are you going to know all those single guys you speak to haven't got a secret wife at home? Equally how do you know those married men haven't got permission to be on here? In order to get what you want you have to give a little.
FYI no I'm not married."
Compromise ?
Are you for real? Never heard such nonsense.to hell with the ladies wishes,as long as she compromises,and goes against her own wishes so the poor old married man doesn't feel discriminated.
Where's the respect for the lady in that?swinging is built on respect,and if you can't respect the ladies wishes then perhaps you shouldn't be swinging.
And yes,you say you aren't married,but your argument shows no respect for the wishes of others. |
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"Surely you have the final say even if its being organised for you?
If you have principles, stick to them. Would you be able to relax and enjoy as much if you were left wondering?"
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Stick to your preferences; there is no need to compromise.
We know of at least one group of guys who offer themselves out on the basis that they are all single.
They could, of course, be lying but we have met them and they seemed genuine. At the very least, we were satisfied that we had done everything we could to ensure that we were not enabling any cheating. With a clear conscience, Claire was able to fully enjoy the experience. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't like married men.
We've been talking to a profile who organises gangbangs and while they can cater to certain preferences like age/ethnicity (which isn't an issue) they can't cater to the preference of no married men. If I go with them, it's a high likely hood/almost a guarantee. Not a hotel or club meet btw.
When it comes to a gangbang, do preferences go out the window, or do I just bend over and let whatever fuck me? What are the unspoken rules?
Experienced ladies, please share you anecdotes and experience.
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In a gang bang you should be able to choose what guys you want. What we do is send out a questionare out and advertise the gang bang by what the person wants. Here is what we ask before advetising it hope it might help you in arranging one.
GANG BANG QUESTIONARE.
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IMPORTANT WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW AND BEAR IN MIND WHEN WE HOST A GANG BANG FOR YOU.
In setting up a gang bang it is Difficult to get the numbers spot on even hosting since 2007 but we try hard. This is how it works if for example if you book in 6 guys you might get 6 but very rare you might get one show up or two cos of the time wasters on here. other week we did one 34 guys booked in and 30 showed up. Last night 17 booked in and all 17 showed up few weeks ago we had 20 booked in and 8 showed up so as you can see there is no consistency to the bookings more luck than any thing. The easy ones for us to host is where they give up a free hand and the numbers are unlimited so how ever many we get is what we get.
The hardest ones is like yours where you want 6 or where people have asked for say 10 it is impossible to know how many to book in to how many will show up. And only once since 2007 we was asked for 5 guys and no one showed up so was a waste of time.So these days what we offer and this is tried and tested and works very well is say some one wants 6 guys you need to book in 12 to guarantee the 6 you then are in catch 22 situation 6 might show or 8 might show or very rare all 12 might show so you can see the situation we are in to get the numbers spot on.So what we offer to safe guard the numbers is say you want 6 for example we would book in 12 if just 6 show up then all well in good but if 8 or 10 show what we do is make sure that no more than 6 guys are in the gang bang room at any one time. As soon as one guy leaves the room for a break we let one of the others in maintaining the 6 in the room at any one time this is tried and tested and works well. The other thing to bear in mind we might have just 6 guys and if they happen to cum quick you could loose 3 with in the first 30 min. So here is an in site what we are up against with gang bangs.
Also because we have to have staff here on the gang bang nights which all costs it is not worth opening our door if only one person shows up we need min of Ten to make it viable to open.
Let me know what you think this will give you more of a clue what we are always up against when hosting a gang bang.
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"How would you know? Do married men have different cocks or something?
The wedding ring is a bit of a give away
So if he took it off how would you know. Would part of the pre gangbang banter be a hand and ring finger check? We all know people lie but I'm just wondering what's wrong with a married guy at a gangbang? I understand at a one on one which could lead to a regular thing, as he wife could find out and things get messy.
It's not me defending married men doing things behind their back but some married men do this with the wife's permission. "
Oh, I'm so sorry that it wasn't made clearer for you.
I object to playing with married people who are CHEATING. No objection to people who play with permission, but knowing that someone is married and being a cunt to his wife, knowing he's going to scuttle home to his missus who is trapped in a broken relationship at the cost of their happiness doesn't make my fanny drip.
How would I know? Because the organiser told me specifically, and then told me the behaviour to expect.
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I would be the 1st to say don't relax 'your rules' but with all NSA sex you simply don't know if what you have been told is true.
So you have to decide what it more important the GB regardless or your rules.
Of course you could arrange this yourself with people you know to be true but that takes a level of effort & time...:: |
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Really appreciated around 50% of the advice, lol.
I wanted people to tell me that as I only have one preference, and it isn't an aesthetic preference that it shouldn't be a compromise.
To the people who told me I still get to have a preference, even with multiple men, thank you. |
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"I would be the 1st to say don't relax 'your rules' but with all NSA sex you simply don't know if what you have been told is true.
So you have to decide what it more important the GB regardless or your rules.
Of course you could arrange this yourself with people you know to be true but that takes a level of effort & time...::"
I know people lie.
That isn't the issue, exactly. The issue is more of a statement of fact - there will be married men, their wives do not know, they will leave early to go home. Not 'maybe'.
So I would knowingly be enabling them to cheat on their wives.  |
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"I would be the 1st to say don't relax 'your rules' but with all NSA sex you simply don't know if what you have been told is true.
So you have to decide what it more important the GB regardless or your rules.
Of course you could arrange this yourself with people you know to be true but that takes a level of effort & time...::
I know people lie.
That isn't the issue, exactly. The issue is more of a statement of fact - there will be married men, their wives do not know, they will leave early to go home. Not 'maybe'.
So I would knowingly be enabling them to cheat on their wives. "
Then I would assume from your response that you already know the answer to your question.
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"How would you know? Do married men have different cocks or something?
The wedding ring is a bit of a give away
So if he took it off how would you know. Would part of the pre gangbang banter be a hand and ring finger check? We all know people lie but I'm just wondering what's wrong with a married guy at a gangbang? I understand at a one on one which could lead to a regular thing, as he wife could find out and things get messy.
It's not me defending married men doing things behind their back but some married men do this with the wife's permission.
I will tell you what's wrong with a married man at a gangbang,some women choose not to play with married or attatched guys."
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"I would be the 1st to say don't relax 'your rules' but with all NSA sex you simply don't know if what you have been told is true.
So you have to decide what it more important the GB regardless or your rules.
Of course you could arrange this yourself with people you know to be true but that takes a level of effort & time...::
I know people lie.
That isn't the issue, exactly. The issue is more of a statement of fact - there will be married men, their wives do not know, they will leave early to go home. Not 'maybe'.
So I would knowingly be enabling them to cheat on their wives.
Then I would assume from your response that you already know the answer to your question.
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Maybe? I don't know. I've already 'gone with the flow' with people I wouldn't ordinarily choose, and had a great time, but that was aesthetics. They weren't my type, I switched off that part, sexy fun, job done. Could I / should I over this?
That's why I'm asking really, because I've never had a gangbang, don't know if there is a norm, and want to hear from others if it is normal to put reservations to the back of your mind and just have fun, or if it isn't worth it because it's something that can ruin it, and if that is the case, how they organise gangbangs.
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"How would you know? Do married men have different cocks or something?
The wedding ring is a bit of a give away
So if he took it off how would you know. Would part of the pre gangbang banter be a hand and ring finger check? We all know people lie but I'm just wondering what's wrong with a married guy at a gangbang? I understand at a one on one which could lead to a regular thing, as he wife could find out and things get messy.
It's not me defending married men doing things behind their back but some married men do this with the wife's permission.
Oh, I'm so sorry that it wasn't made clearer for you.
I object to playing with married people who are CHEATING. No objection to people who play with permission, but knowing that someone is married and being a cunt to his wife, knowing he's going to scuttle home to his missus who is trapped in a broken relationship at the cost of their happiness doesn't make my fanny drip.
How would I know? Because the organiser told me specifically, and then told me the behaviour to expect.
Ok?"
Wow, your organiser knows for a fact the circumstances of every single bloke who's there, down to their wives being "trapped in broken relationships"? That's impressive.
Stick to your guns and organise it yourself with men who you know are single. They could have friends they know are single too, etc. It sounds like you feel strongly about it, and you wouldn't want to taint the experience. |
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"I would be the 1st to say don't relax 'your rules' but with all NSA sex you simply don't know if what you have been told is true.
So you have to decide what it more important the GB regardless or your rules.
Of course you could arrange this yourself with people you know to be true but that takes a level of effort & time...::
I know people lie.
That isn't the issue, exactly. The issue is more of a statement of fact - there will be married men, their wives do not know, they will leave early to go home. Not 'maybe'.
So I would knowingly be enabling them to cheat on their wives.
Then I would assume from your response that you already know the answer to your question.
Maybe? I don't know. I've already 'gone with the flow' with people I wouldn't ordinarily choose, and had a great time, but that was aesthetics. They weren't my type, I switched off that part, sexy fun, job done. Could I / should I over this?
That's why I'm asking really, because I've never had a gangbang, don't know if there is a norm, and want to hear from others if it is normal to put reservations to the back of your mind and just have fun, or if it isn't worth it because it's something that can ruin it, and if that is the case, how they organise gangbangs.
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answer your question for a variety of reasons but all I would say is i wouldn't compromise on my 'moral codes' for a sexual thrill. |
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"If you don't meet married men, don't accept them if a gang bang is being organised. No need to alter your preferences. "
This
I've never had a gangbang but the way I see it, the woman involved is the boss and should make the rules surely?
You should never change your preferences for ANY kind of meet.
If they cant cater to what you want, then maybe find someone else who will.
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"How would you know? Do married men have different cocks or something?
The wedding ring is a bit of a give away
So if he took it off how would you know. Would part of the pre gangbang banter be a hand and ring finger check? We all know people lie but I'm just wondering what's wrong with a married guy at a gangbang? I understand at a one on one which could lead to a regular thing, as he wife could find out and things get messy.
It's not me defending married men doing things behind their back but some married men do this with the wife's permission.
Oh, I'm so sorry that it wasn't made clearer for you.
I object to playing with married people who are CHEATING. No objection to people who play with permission, but knowing that someone is married and being a cunt to his wife, knowing he's going to scuttle home to his missus who is trapped in a broken relationship at the cost of their happiness doesn't make my fanny drip.
How would I know? Because the organiser told me specifically, and then told me the behaviour to expect.
Ok?"
So if the organiser told you that some guys are going to lie why go through with it.
Also how would you know which guys are telling the truth? I have no issues with your preference as we too don't like the idea of married men cheating. |
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I am not sure if all men who cheat when married have a spouse 'trapped in a broken relationship' ... my ex husband cheated on me, but the relationship was far from being broken (at that time, and it was not a fab type thing) - relationships go through ebbs and flows and couples can and do reconnect even after one or the other has an affair, a marriage is made of more than sex and if it is a strong one, and the nsa sex one might be having is just that, and fleeting, why should it damage a strong and on going relationship. For me, I notice many swingers draw a very definite line between couples who know (and then obviously don't mind because they know, their partner playing) and couples where one spouse does not know. I really think the line is not so definite as this. I think, based on experience, many swinging couples are not both on the same page with how much they are really into it. I have stated before, with my previous marriage (which ended a good few years ago for other reasons) I would have much preferred my ex to have indulged in nsa sex rather than an affair, and just because a spouse is having a deceitful affair, it does not mean the unknowing spouse is a victim. I certainly was not! I think there are just as many of these so called 'victims' in couples who swing as they are doing so just to please their partner.... something they don't feel entirely comfortable with. I have to ask myself which is worse? |
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"I don't like married men.
We've been talking to a profile who organises gangbangs and while they can cater to certain preferences like age/ethnicity (which isn't an issue) they can't cater to the preference of no married men. If I go with them, it's a high likely hood/almost a guarantee. Not a hotel or club meet btw.
When it comes to a gangbang, do preferences go out the window, or do I just bend over and let whatever fuck me? What are the unspoken rules?
Experienced ladies, please share you anecdotes and experience.
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Chances are that in the guy organises them ,he will deliver he probably has a whole list of guys who he can trust
Let's face it we all know the single guys we can message that will turn up after a while or not mess around
Thing with guys everyone remembers the single guys That turn up |
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"If you don't meet married men, don't accept them if a gang bang is being organised. No need to alter your preferences. "
are you married........erm no....hop on then.....mug....  |
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When I organise my group or a close friend does, standards don't change just because I want multiple men. I want to be attracted to them all and then attracted to me and not just the fantasy of a gang bang. If you, like I, don't meet attached guys then don't compromise on that. Have fun! |
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"Basically, it cant be policed. Logic would dictate only invite guys you know, or don't do it at all."
Exactly this, ultimately it's up to the OP how they go about their business. |
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It's still on.
Contacted the organiser, they were happy to accommodate, they are getting round to expanding their group too so more people to choose from.
But it's the only preference, so I don't think we'll be that hard to please 
Thanking you for the support and advice x |
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