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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trying to get a couple to come here and share E is almost impossible. They either dont want me there watching, dont like that I film our meets, dont like that I wont join in yet say no cause Im too fat if I say I will, or just make out they are interested then go silent when we try to arrange a meet.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have met a few fems - some more than once and a couple a few times - make your messages all about them and reassure them its a 3 sum not a fem on fem performance for your fella - we play all together - ask them if they have fanstasies you can maybe help out with - we have fulfilled a few of these and helps cement the friendship - we often massage a fem together and we find this very arousing for all 3 of us - |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Trying to get a couple to come here and share E is almost impossible. They either dont want me there watching, dont like that I film our meets, dont like that I wont join in yet say no cause Im too fat if I say I will, or just make out they are interested then go silent when we try to arrange a meet. "
we met a c ouple where the fella just wanted to watch - i played with his mrs and then W joined in - he just watched - it wasnt filmed or photographed though - |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we have met a few fems - some more than once and a couple a few times - make your messages all about them and reassure them its a 3 sum not a fem on fem performance for your fella - we play all together - ask them if they have fanstasies you can maybe help out with - we have fulfilled a few of these and helps cement the friendship - we often massage a fem together and we find this very arousing for all 3 of us - "
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
As a bi fem who does meet couples, perhaps take a look at your profile and see if it really shows you in your best light to any prospective ladies.
Are you clear what you are searching for, and what is in it for them?
Or do you just throw out your number and expect miracles? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Trying to get a couple to come here and share E is almost impossible. They either dont want me there watching, dont like that I film our meets, dont like that I wont join in yet say no cause Im too fat if I say I will, or just make out they are interested then go silent when we try to arrange a meet.
we met a c ouple where the fella just wanted to watch - i played with his mrs and then W joined in - he just watched - it wasnt filmed or photographed though - "
Thats exactly what we want but for us an equally large part of the fun is E and I playing while we watch the films together. We dont upload or share them they are our private collection but I can understand people being wary. What bugs me is the amount of people who list making videos as an interest then say oh no you cant film us, or say no yet will happily go on cam. Do people not realise its very easy to save cam footage!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop trying so hard .
We don't look for females to meet us , yet we have had a fair rew .
Funny old world huh ?
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I don't even meet women yet I get usually a couple a week mail me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Trying to get a couple to come here and share E is almost impossible. They either dont want me there watching, dont like that I film our meets, dont like that I wont join in yet say no cause Im too fat if I say I will, or just make out they are interested then go silent when we try to arrange a meet. "
To be fair most couples who are after single woman are looking to meet a single woman not have a guy there watching and filming to me that's still meeting a couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop trying so hard .
We don't look for females to meet us , yet we have had a fair rew .
Funny old world huh ?
I don't even meet women yet I get usually a couple a week mail me "
You should see my looked at list then as for some reason it's full of single women and couples and has been for a week now  |
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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Trying to get a couple to come here and share E is almost impossible. They either dont want me there watching, dont like that I film our meets, dont like that I wont join in yet say no cause Im too fat if I say I will, or just make out they are interested then go silent when we try to arrange a meet. "
We have a similar problem, my Partner is a voyeur, but we have never been able to find a couple just willing to play with me while he watches  |
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"we have met a few fems - some more than once and a couple a few times - make your messages all about them and reassure them its a 3 sum not a fem on fem performance for your fella - we play all together - ask them if they have fanstasies you can maybe help out with - we have fulfilled a few of these and helps cement the friendship - we often massage a fem together and we find this very arousing for all 3 of us - "
As a single bi- fem this advice is spot on..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have found it hard to find a bi female, just even for a chat. I'm going to take this advice and hopefully we can at least chat to a nice female/bi fem
Lucy x |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
i meet , but i want a equal three way dynamic, your profile doesnt state what you offer..i would totally pass it by..
no im not into being watched, filmed photographed or taking anything while meeting...each to their own though..i like a good match and connection..
those that do this and dont treat me like an accessory to their fantasy world, get the meets...
dont forget that its also possible to get two single people to join in with us, and have that three way dynamic.. most of the time that seems easier, if we want that kind of fun..you have to rival that..
clubs maybe the place for you though, show yourself, be known, rather than just be a profile..make connections..wishing you the best of luck, s x |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
We find that the people who complain that they cannot meet couples are often their own worst enemies.
They often have lists of requirements or hoops to jump through.
We do not look for single men or single women but are constantly messaged to meet and play, which we are happy to do.
Swinging for us is about everyone enjoying themselves rather than people trying to comply with strict requirements of others.
Relax and enjoy what's on offer and the offers will come to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we have met a few fems - some more than once and a couple a few times - make your messages all about them and reassure them its a 3 sum not a fem on fem performance for your fella - we play all together - ask them if they have fanstasies you can maybe help out with - we have fulfilled a few of these and helps cement the friendship - we often massage a fem together and we find this very arousing for all 3 of us - "
This is very good advice!
And addresses the reasons why I don't meet couples.
For me it makes a crap meet when the husband is fecking useless getting over excited and just watching and bloody talking non stop! And the wife just lying there expecting me to do all the work!
If you were contacting me, I would definitely need you to reassure me I'm going to get some stimulation out of the meet. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a good few bi female friends who we see and almost without exception have met them through socials, clubs and parties. I think it's because they can get to know us in a no pressure way, see what our dynamic is, see that it's probably more Jane leading the meet and not doing it for anyone else's entertainment, that we're not looking for a performing seal and take it from there... |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"We find that the people who complain that they cannot meet couples are often their own worst enemies.
They often have lists of requirements or hoops to jump through.
We do not look for single men or single women but are constantly messaged to meet and play, which we are happy to do.
Swinging for us is about everyone enjoying themselves rather than people trying to comply with strict requirements of others.
Relax and enjoy what's on offer and the offers will come to you."
That's not really helpful advice though, is it? Most people considering having sex with strangers will have expectations and boundaries that need to be considered and respected.
If a woman is going to meet with a couple it takes a lot of trust and confidence on her part (and theirs too, of course!). What you see as 'strict requirements' or 'hoops' are just as likely to be the things that someone wants clearly understood if the experience is going to be mutually safe and satisfying for all involved.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I play with couples but - so far - only at clubs and parties!
This is partly because I've seen and heard so many couples fall out at clubs/parties that I feel the need to get to know them for longer than I would a single male - to make sure they're rock solid as a couple!
Also as many couples pictures focus entirely on the fem it puts me off! I like playing with women but I'm a huge penetration fan - so the guy is vital to me - and I have to fancy both of them and they both have to like and fancy me!
So as you can imagine I don't play with couples often - but when I do we have a great time!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all any tips to help us out ? We can find a ton of blokes for mmf but try finding a female for ffm its so hard "
Get yourself into a nice club such as chams or xtasia and look for a single female |
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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago
Northamptonshire |
We have played with several single ladies at clubs, all I can say is be yourself and actually talk to them rather than ogle from across the room. You'll be amazed by the amount of men / couples who won't even talk to Nick.
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We have found it incredibly difficult to meet single ladies wether bisexual or straight, understand they must be harassed on here by the abundance of single guys and have tried the usual winks and/or nice polite messages, some of which are totally ignored 
Any advice from people more experienced than us on how they've gone about meeting singles fems as a couple greatly appreciated |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"We have found it incredibly difficult to meet single ladies wether bisexual or straight, understand they must be harassed on here by the abundance of single guys and have tried the usual winks and/or nice polite messages, some of which are totally ignored
Any advice from people more experienced than us on how they've gone about meeting singles fems as a couple greatly appreciated "
im above your age range and you wont meet smokers..shame that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had a few single fem meets and non started with messages on fab. We met at a club, chatted, got to know each other first and then moved on to play at a later date.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would suggest a forum post. Say something like we are looking for a single female. If they are interested. They will reply on the forums or private message you.
I think that's a good start  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would suggest a forum post. Say something like we are looking for a single female. If they are interested. They will reply on the forums or private message you.
I think that's a good start "
Genius  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have two ladies we see regularly not found on here (total waste of time) both met at a club and developed a relationship from there, one has since joined fab, one won't join fab
We have little time to chat on here to single ladies and it's always been hard work, meets arranged, then cancelled, they've gone quiet etc etc never bother now just block those that have messed us around, just go to the club to meet people wether single females or couples and see 2 ladies regularly x |
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By *andkCouple
over a year ago
Wisbech |
We've tried for years to find a girl to join us but alas no joy, K has had plenty of girl on girl so I assume it's me that put s them off. We've meet couple and single guys though. Maybe our profile is lacking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I meet couples here. Plenty of women do here. I don't know why we're "Unicorns" coz i've seen loads of veris. However it's twice as hard to find 2 people i'm attracted to as it is a single male. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ummm single bi female here.
quite a way away from us and you dont accom or travel - struggling to meet locals atm - shame"
I am regularly in Manchester BTW! I travel just not for single guys lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ummm single bi female here.
quite a way away from us and you dont accom or travel - struggling to meet locals atm - shame
I am regularly in Manchester BTW! I travel just not for single guys lol"
will bear that in mind
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This again?
Some comments about "we tried for years" etc.
Unicorns, hens teeth... jeez.
I don't know if its just that Welsh girls are hornier, and meet more, but we find bi girls easy to play with, we have met loads.
However, we don't play with "single bi fems".
I know, I said we played with loads.... but we played with friends, it just so happens that they are single, bi, and female lol.
Stop chasing labels, it never ends well.
Get out their, make friends, and see what happens. |
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By *tevelizCouple
over a year ago
northampton |
"I would suggest a forum post. Say something like we are looking for a single female. If they are interested. They will reply on the forums or private message you.
I think that's a good start "
tried that and it did not get any replies
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Be patient. It took a while until we started meeting people on here. The most difficult bit is three people with their own individual tastes all finding each other mutually attractive. It's sometimes difficult for two people to find each other, let alone three!
Most important is to be rock solid as a couple.
When meeting you mustn't treat the lady as an accessory to your sex lives. She is there to receive pleasure as well as provide it. If you're not prepared to share and enjoy each other equally and respectfully you will be wasting her time. |
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"We have found it incredibly difficult to meet single ladies wether bisexual or straight, understand they must be harassed on here by the abundance of single guys and have tried the usual winks and/or nice polite messages, some of which are totally ignored
Any advice from people more experienced than us on how they've gone about meeting singles fems as a couple greatly appreciated "
Wow. See now I do not list I will meet couples for a few reasons.
I've seen and had more nonsense from couples than single men.
I'm so fed up of being called a unicorn and the old argument singles are not real swingers.
If a few men misbehaving ruins it for all, then the same can be said of single women and as a couple is usually a man and a woman. ..
I only interact with couples in clubs. Online it is not possible to see how secure they are, the profile is usually 'selling the female' & often its guess work as to which half is messaging.
I'm a person, not just their fantasy |
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"We have found it incredibly difficult to meet single ladies wether bisexual or straight, understand they must be harassed on here by the abundance of single guys and have tried the usual winks and/or nice polite messages, some of which are totally ignored
Any advice from people more experienced than us on how they've gone about meeting singles fems as a couple greatly appreciated
Wow. See now I do not list I will meet couples for a few reasons.
I've seen and had more nonsense from couples than single men.
I'm so fed up of being called a unicorn and the old argument singles are not real swingers.
If a few men misbehaving ruins it for all, then the same can be said of single women and as a couple is usually a man and a woman. ..
I only interact with couples in clubs. Online it is not possible to see how secure they are, the profile is usually 'selling the female' & often its guess work as to which half is messaging.
I'm a person, not just their fantasy "
Erm........ Not entirely sure why this reply is aimed at us but thanks very much for your input, we were meerly commenting on our experiences as a very secure happy couple but we'll certainly take a deep hard look inside ourselves  |
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Try going to gay bars instead of just looking online. I have never met anyone off here but my second mff was with a girl I met in a gay bar. I've only been once so I don't know if that was just right place right time or not. Xx |
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"Try going to gay bars instead of just looking online. I have never met anyone off here but my second mff was with a girl I met in a gay bar. I've only been once so I don't know if that was just right place right time or not. Xx"
Not a bad idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We enjoy mfm and fmf - best of all is threesome where the fourth person is made to feel part of the scenario with some eye contact and kisses from own partner then we call swap round and do threesome again with different combination.
Good fun allrou d m x |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"Also looking for a single bi female for us both to enjoy x"
have been watching this thread with interest
iknow its fussy and pedentc but if i say this in my head it changes the phrase
'us to enjoy' to 'us to use'
if i started a thread on 'i want to meet a couple for me to enjoy', would it sound the same?
im just trying to be helpful, with the experiences ive had with couples that i get on so very well with.. they do not say this kind of thing..xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also looking for a single bi female for us both to enjoy x
have been watching this thread with interest
iknow its fussy and pedentc but if i say this in my head it changes the phrase
'us to enjoy' to 'us to use'
if i started a thread on 'i want to meet a couple for me to enjoy', would it sound the same?
im just trying to be helpful, with the experiences ive had with couples that i get on so very well with.. they do not say this kind of thing..xxx"
its never a us and them whether we are playing with a couple or single fem - all play together - and for those that say it cant work it can and does |
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I'm bi sexual and love a mmf and ffm. Had much luck on fab fuck no! So many fake couples profiles where the bloke wants to meet me to try me out first (honestly I hope no one falls for that line). x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also looking for a single bi female for us both to enjoy x
have been watching this thread with interest
iknow its fussy and pedentc but if i say this in my head it changes the phrase
'us to enjoy' to 'us to use'
if i started a thread on 'i want to meet a couple for me to enjoy', would it sound the same?
im just trying to be helpful, with the experiences ive had with couples that i get on so very well with.. they do not say this kind of thing..xxx
its never a us and them whether we are playing with a couple or single fem - all play together - and for those that say it cant work it can and does "
Spot on!! Want all 3 of us to enjoy!! |
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I didn't say there was anything wrong with it, I just have zero desire to watch myself having sex. 
