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Introducing girl to swinging first time

By *entle Touch OP Man over a year ago

Staffordshire

Am taking my new girl to swinging for the first time. Glad she wanted to try it out with me. Not sure if she is emotionally ready etc.

Just looking for ideas on the best approach to this. Go full on sex straight away or just slightly involve touching on the first trip ?

My thoughts to first a introducing her to a massage from another man or girl and see how she reacts.

Any help is appreciated and thanks in advance. Xx

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Slowly I'd imagine. Nothing to heavy. Leave the surprise gangbang for another time.

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By *ivnwcplCouple over a year ago

liverpool

"Am taking my new girl to swinging for the first time. Glad she wanted to try it out with me. Not sure if she is emotionally ready etc.

Just looking for ideas on the best approach to this. Go full on sex straight away or just slightly involve touching on the first trip ?

My thoughts to first a introducing her to a massage from another man or girl and see how she reacts.

Any help is appreciated and thanks in advance. Xx"

If you are "Not sure if she is emotionally ready" then skip introducing her to anything until she is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go to a naturist club , that has rooms for sex,

And watch maybe have sex with each other , whilst others watch you .

Maybe ask them to tell you what position etc .

Perhaps try dogging , bend her over bonnet and fuck her hard whilst the guys wank in front of her .

And remember just because your dogging or club or anywhere, you can tell people they can watch and not to touch . If they do touch again , say we will shut door (in club) or go home

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

Let her set the pace. Its a journey, not a race!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ask her one question.

"are you doing this for me or for yourself?"

If the former then maybe she is not ready, if the latter then take it slow. maybe look at some soft swing to start with, then see where things lead.

Never pressure and always reassure.

have fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am taking my new girl to swinging for the first time. Glad she wanted to try it out with me. Not sure if she is emotionally ready etc.

Just looking for ideas on the best approach to this. Go full on sex straight away or just slightly involve touching on the first trip ?

My thoughts to first a introducing her to a massage from another man or girl and see how she reacts.

Any help is appreciated and thanks in advance. Xx"

Get a guy off here who offers massages, let him take her as far as she wants to go with the massage.

Or take her for a Sat night at your local swinger club. Tell her she can just watch the first time, but I bet she might just have a play because it's a horny environment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wasn't sure when I met Chris. He made sure he asked me, no pressure at any time.

It depends on her and not in you. Don't push it/her.

In my case I just said "sod it" just find a few people, invite them back and go for it.....so we did.

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By *TFSeventyMan over a year ago

Weybridge

I'd personally take her to a club with the intention of watching and maybe being watched if she feel comfortable. Small steps at a time and you may be pleasantly surprised. Main thing is take it at a pace she is happy with.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

luton

Take her to a club where there is no pressure to undress or play , or get her chatting to couples ,that's what I done with wife .and to my surprise she dived straight in and enjoyed it , the only problem we have is finding time to play , main thing let her go at her own pace

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By *iggerooooCouple over a year ago

Conwy

I don't think you should even be considering how involved she will be that night.

Go to the club, chill and have a drink ... After a while ask her if she wants to explore the rooms and see what's happening, I'm sure she will tell you if she wants something or not.

Seriously though, go there with the intention of just playing with each other in a private room, enjoy the sexual atmosphere ... Anything else is just a bonus.

Give her a few days and then talk about the night, see how she felt and feels about it after.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She's gonna be nervous as hell so you'll defo need to relax her and reassure her.

Just go at her pace and see how it goes.

Good luck.

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS over a year ago

Epsom

A bit like anal..... Slow and let her make the moves......Oh and some lube...... JD worked for me.

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By *eakcoupleCouple over a year ago

peak district

Slowly worked for Rose - we went to a swinger club and on our first visit just got used to fucking together in a crowded room. Next visit we swapped for soft-swinging and this went on for a few visits until Rose was ready to swap and fuck. She got more relaxed with each visit and watching others swapping and having fun helped. I would have been happy to do a full swap on our first visit but that would probably have put Rose off. She was worried I'd be jealous or she would be jealous of me but that just didn't happen. Good luck with your girl.

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By *olfcartweaselCouple over a year ago

Melrose

"Slowly worked for Rose - we went to a swinger club and on our first visit just got used to fucking together in a crowded room. Next visit we swapped for soft-swinging and this went on for a few visits until Rose was ready to swap and fuck. She got more relaxed with each visit and watching others swapping and having fun helped. I would have been happy to do a full swap on our first visit but that would probably have put Rose off. She was worried I'd be jealous or she would be jealous of me but that just didn't happen. Good luck with your girl."

I'd agree, clubs are a better intro than meets. You can just step things up gradually - being dressed sexily near other people, then sex in a private room, then sex in a shared room, then soft swap, then full swap, then full-on gang bang. At a pace everyone is happy with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Talk to her would be my advise.

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

I see you are in the Stoke area. Atlantis Evolution in Burslem has a freshers night this evening. It is not a huge club and tomorrow they are having a big party, so this evening may be a little quieter. You can stay downstairs and chat to people by the bar. Then go for a wander upstairs to see the action. My first time I just played with a partner in a private room. But I recommend Atlantis as a friendly no pressure club to visit. All the best. X

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By *untimetonks69Couple over a year ago

IRVING

Go to bghs and introduce her to the rest rooms she will feel a bit more in charge of the situation. It worked for me

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