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Could you please explain to me the actual difference in the life style?
I did not find ANY difference for Singles:
Both go to clubs to have sex
Both date strangers to have sex or simply know new people
Both have group sex...however Swingers more maybe
Couples instead are different, simply because Swinger Couples are in a very opened relationship
For me the two "lifestyles" overlap a lot  |
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ok swinging means you also enjoy the idea of your partner getting with others.
therfore you can still be single and have that mind set. If you are single and dont have that mind set you just like sleeping around.
Its like saying you gay but not dating, you dont need to date a guy to be gay still.
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I have no idea why people use the phrase 'vanilla' for non-swingers. As far as I know, its used for non-BDSM people.
May as well call non-swingers 'muggles'. It has the same sort of 'us and them' mentality.  |
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Vanilla like the ice creme i guess would refer to standard/ordinary/plain therefore it could be used in many situations to differentiate between those who practice some type of alternative relationship/fetishes etc.
Theres so many lables out there so if we can use one lable in multiple situations like this id say thats a good thing lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could you please explain to me the actual difference in the life style?
I did not find ANY difference for Singles:
Both go to clubs to have sex
Both date strangers to have sex or simply know new people
Both have group sex...however Swingers more maybe
Couples instead are different, simply because Swinger Couples are in a very opened relationship
For me the two "lifestyles" overlap a lot "
Do they?
I'm going to go to work tomorrow and ask how many people I work with engage in group sex  |
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"Could you please explain to me the actual difference in the life style?
I did not find ANY difference for Singles:
Both go to clubs to have sex
Both date strangers to have sex or simply know new people
Both have group sex...however Swingers more maybe
Couples instead are different, simply because Swinger Couples are in a very opened relationship
For me the two "lifestyles" overlap a lot
Do they?
I'm going to go to work tomorrow and ask how many people I work with engage in group sex "
It could be a funny situation |
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"Could you please explain to me the actual difference in the life style?
I did not find ANY difference for Singles:
Both go to clubs to have sex
Both date strangers to have sex or simply know new people
Both have group sex...however Swingers more maybe
Couples instead are different, simply because Swinger Couples are in a very opened relationship
For me the two "lifestyles" overlap a lot "
The difference is us swingers are honest about shagging. Vanilla friends aren't as it's often gift wrapped in societal norms of ' relationships & dates ' 
My vanilla friends who know about my lifestyle think I'm weird as see sex as a monogamous emotional and frankly boring activity  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people use vanilla for any sex they have not from Fab or clubs. My non-Fab sex has been far more adventurous than Fab sex. Vanilla sex would be the crap sex I had with my husband. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.
In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!
So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen!  |
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"For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.
In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!
So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen! "
I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3 |
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"For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.
In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!
So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen! "
There is a third category |
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"I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3 "
Wel I suppose these are the ones which a lot of couples search.
Fuck 'n' Go
A sort of fast food |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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Vanilla for me refers to people that don't practise bdsm/kink/fetish. Or doing none fetish activities. But I see and understand people refers to vanillas as those outside both swinging and fetish scene.
So I may go on a vanilla (normal) date or do a vanilla activity with my kink mates. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.
In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!
So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen!
I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3 "
Someone said on here last week that guys cum quickly to get it over with if the woman is a minger. |
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"Vanilla for me refers to people that don't practise bdsm/kink/fetish. Or doing none fetish activities. But I see and understand people refers to vanillas as those outside both swinging and fetish scene.
So I may go on a vanilla (normal) date or do a vanilla activity with my kink mates. "
You are confusing me in thia way 
I will eat something and then re-read your post |
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"Vanilla for me refers to people that don't practise bdsm/kink/fetish. Or doing none fetish activities. But I see and understand people refers to vanillas as those outside both swinging and fetish scene.
So I may go on a vanilla (normal) date or do a vanilla activity with my kink mates. "
Some of the meets I have had on here as a single fem have been very vanilla and I think there is a vanilla extreme to the swinger experience - boring and mundane sex ... normal, whatever that may be. We prefer some fetish or other, whatever we are into at the moment. From my early experiences swinging, its the younger guys who get it over quickly and its because they can't help themselves ... and don't care about the woman and her needs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ok swinging means you also enjoy the idea of your partner getting with others.
Ah right I knew I was missing something!? I am NOT a swinger then but I like opened relationships (a lot)  "
We're a coupke but have never had an open relationship? |
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"For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.
In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!
So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen!
I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3
Someone said on here last week that guys cum quickly to get it over with if the woman is a minger."
Hidden profile Hun,,, surprise !!!!! ooooo handbags out at dawn |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So are you not swingers...??? "
Yes, we are, but we never do full swap and only ever go as a couple.
An open relationship is when one can go off and go their own thing?
We don't do that.
Bit tame for some I know but there are lots on here same as us lol |
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"An open relationship is when one can go off and go their own thing?"
True. So having an open relationship is the most extreme swinging condition apparently...given that both partners enjoy the idea of the other going with someone else.
But we did not. So we were not swingers. THIS IS A PARADOX!?!? |
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"We consider vanilla to be people in monogamous relationships.
We consider ourselves as swingers because we have sex with other couples and singles. "
Ok I will keep this simple definition otherwise I will become crazy.
So an open relationship is swinging  ...I started swinging a lot of time ago then |
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"We consider vanilla to be people in monogamous relationships.
We consider ourselves as swingers because we have sex with other couples and singles.
Ok I will keep this simple definition otherwise I will become crazy.
So an open relationship is swinging ...I started swinging a lot of time ago then "
and still don't have a clue  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We consider vanilla to be people in monogamous relationships.
We consider ourselves as swingers because we have sex with other couples and singles.
Ok I will keep this simple definition otherwise I will become crazy.
So an open relationship is swinging ...I started swinging a lot of time ago then "
I've always thought of an open relationship as a relationship where either party can go off and fuck someone else if they want to.
We're swingers because we meet other couples and do everything but full penetration.
But, never alone.
Swingers? Yes
Open relationship? No
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"We're swingers because we meet other couples and do everything but full penetration.
But, never alone.
Swingers? Yes
Open relationship? No
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Yes I understood! You are a Soft Swap Swinger Couple
But an open relationship is still a sort of swinging, because you swing partners...even if not in the same place and time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We're swingers because we meet other couples and do everything but full penetration.
But, never alone.
Swingers? Yes
Open relationship? No
Yes I understood! You are a Soft Swap Swinger Couple
But an open relationship is still a sort of swinging, because you swing partners...even if not in the same place and time "
Same place, time, and same room lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.
In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!
So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen!
I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3
Someone said on here last week that guys cum quickly to get it over with if the woman is a minger.
Hidden profile Hun,,, surprise !!!!! ooooo handbags out at dawn "
No handbags, I've had the same experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ok swinging means you also enjoy the idea of your partner getting with others.
Ah right I knew I was missing something!? I am NOT a swinger then but I like opened relationships (a lot)
We're a coupke but have never had an open relationship?"
Same |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3
Someone said on here last week that guys cum quickly to get it over with if the woman is a minger."
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