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If I meet a couple am I expected to go down on the fem

By *ew indulgence OP Couple over a year ago

COSTA BLANCA, SOUTHERN SPAIN!

We are a married couple and I (fem) Have been approached by couples and I've wanted to play. I would be happy for both to play with me and lick my pussy but I don't think I would like to go down on another woman.

I think a couple or fem would expect me to and even though my husband says they wouldn't if I set out my boundaries beforehand, but I'm not sure

Met a couple some time ago who Wanted to play, even though I wanted to I declined to their disappointment because I was worried they would expect me to go down on her!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately that is the law and if you don't comply the swinger police will be called.

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

They probably will unless you make it clear beforehand that you don't want to. Your husband is right, simply tell them what you do and don't want to do.

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Speak to the couple in advance, and see what they say. For some it will be a no go, and others won't mind.

Its not for me though, I prefer a more even, all involved style of play, and would be worried about any woman who wasn't sure getting freaked at doing anything at all with another female.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just be open and honest. Some will expect it, especially if they are going down on you, but not all. If you talk beforehand and make everything clear, then you can all decide how far you would like to take things.

-Courtney

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By *hortieWoman over a year ago

Northampton

There are a few women who are upfront about being Bi-selfish - i.e, they like oral from a woman, but will not reciprocate. (As an example - I'd actually prefer to meet someone like you because IMO men do a better job at oral anyway)

Make that clear from the off, and you will be fine, people will know one of your boundaries right from the start, so there will be no excuses or misunderstandings at a later date if you say no

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

I was like you before I actually did it ( many years ago). It was lovely and I thought mmm I can see why men enjoy this so much!

However, don't feel obligated to do something you don't want to do, there's lots of other fun things to do!

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

You say you're straight, so I don't see why it should be an issue. Either look for other straight couples or mention it beforehand.

I'm straight, and when we play it never crosses my mind that t'other chap'll try slipping one up the back passage.

(So to speak)

Communication is key.

Have fun.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are a married couple and I (fem) Have been approached by couples and I've wanted to play. I would be happy for both to play with me and lick my pussy but I don't think I would like to go down on another woman.

I think a couple or fem would expect me to and even though my husband says they wouldn't if I set out my boundaries beforehand, but I'm not sure

Met a couple some time ago who Wanted to play, even though I wanted to I declined to their disappointment because I was worried they would expect me to go down on her!!!

"
oh if she's bi am sure she will be expecting something from you yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My wife has pulled back from swinging because of the bi pressure. She just likes men. So fed up with swinging women who think if they force themselves on her they can convert her. Ffs. She simply doesn't like oral from anyone let alone a woman.

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By *nceinawhileCouple over a year ago

Ipswich

I'm a bi curious female and I wouldn't expect the fem of another couple to go down on me unless she wanted to or the man for that matter as not everyone is into that mind you I do prefer to give than receive.

Hope that helps

C x

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

No one can make you do anything you don't want to do. Be honest about what you want and what your boundaries are. They will understand and respect that, if not move on to the next xx

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

I never expect any woman to play with me. It's great to chat before hand. I don't mind if ladies want me to play with them/give oral and don't give back, as I get more pleasure from giving. Most of my meets with couples are like this and it's what I enjoy, but it's not for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have your a straight fem. So for one I wouldnt even think of doing anything with you and I certainly wouldn't be expecting to receive oral from you. If you made a move on me as in kissing then I would respond but that would be it. But like people have said this should be discussed before hand. Like some couples don't do kissing x

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By *ovely CummingsWoman over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

I think there is a difference between being situationally bi, where you're happy to kiss and fondle another woman during play with others

And being bi, where you're happy to have one to one play with a woman

Communication with others before is the key, fun the motivation

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By *p4funCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

Why should you...when you state your straight ...just make it clear before your meets your likes and dislikes and have fun you dont let others pressure you to play if not comfortable with something safe word is ; NO

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

just looked at your profile and from it we wouldnt message you - if there was a sentence in there saying you were bi playful maybe but would only receive not give then we would be interested and also know where we all stood - we have played with a straight couple (just how it happened at a club one night) and it turned out later when chatting at the bar - that the lady was probably ok with me playing with her -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"just looked at your profile and from it we wouldnt message you - if there was a sentence in there saying you were bi playful maybe but would only receive not give then we would be interested and also know where we all stood - we have played with a straight couple (just how it happened at a club one night) and it turned out later when chatting at the bar - that the lady was probably ok with me playing with her - "

but no never should you be expected to do anything you dont want - nobody ever should

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As others have said,,dont feel obliged to do something your not comfortable with. Just explain before hand. You never know, in the heat of passion you may just be tempted anyway..sometimes thats how it happens..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As others have said,,dont feel obliged to do something your not comfortable with. Just explain before hand. You never know, in the heat of passion you may just be tempted anyway..sometimes thats how it happens.."
yes this and send me the vid

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

Communication is always key.

We have played with a bi lady were she did not want hubby to join in with her. Because they told us we could respect that and everyone was happy.

If you tell others what you want and they agree then I don't see an issue.

If it was a case were you were at a club and had not communicated before joining with a couple then you can see were missing understandings may happen.

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By *rtemisiaWoman over a year ago

Norwich

I think a couple or fem would expect me to and even though my husband says they wouldn't if I set out my boundaries beforehand, but I'm not sure

Met a couple some time ago who Wanted to play, even though I wanted to I declined to their disappointment because I was worried they would expect me to go down on her!!!

I played with a female friend of mine once, and we did everything except go down on one another. I guess it's a pheromone thing. You either dig the taste of pussy or you don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a couple or fem would expect me to and even though my husband says they wouldn't if I set out my boundaries beforehand, but I'm not sure

Met a couple some time ago who Wanted to play, even though I wanted to I declined to their disappointment because I was worried they would expect me to go down on her!!!

I played with a female friend of mine once, and we did everything except go down on one another. I guess it's a pheromone thing. You either dig the taste of pussy or you don't."
hey on a lighter note " I do " available for barmitzvas ,wedding receptions and hen night's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't do anything you aren't happy to do but make it clear before hand rather than not communicating it.

Personally if I was playing with another woman or a couple I would want her to go down on me and would opt out of play if she didn't want to so it's best to be clear.

Do as much or as little as you are happy with and only meet those who are happy with it too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't do anything you aren't happy to do but make it clear before hand rather than not communicating it.

Personally if I was playing with another woman or a couple I would want her to go down on me and would opt out of play if she didn't want to so it's best to be clear.

Do as much or as little as you are happy with and only meet those who are happy with it too

"
it actually wasn't a serious question I mean was it ????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If this is a voting thread I vote yes and sweet home Alabama if you're reading this I was robbed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe try an inexperienced bi curious female couple. Explain your not sure how far you will want till go until you are in the moment and as she hasn't much experience will probably feel same. I'm very curious, have had a little experience and would love to see how far id be happy to go but like you, I'm not 100% sure if I want to till in the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe try an inexperienced bi curious female couple. Explain your not sure how far you will want till go until you are in the moment and as she hasn't much experience will probably feel same. I'm very curious, have had a little experience and would love to see how far id be happy to go but like you, I'm not 100% sure if I want to till in the moment.

"
that bum should have won best bum 2015

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you're 100% sure you won't want to go down on her, then tell the couple that, very early on in messages so they can decide you you guys suit them.

It can be very annoying when lots of messages have gone back and forth, and only right at the end it gets mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok here's the thing - your husband is a watcher and may join in at some stage . This being the case , it would be an awkward meet for a couple wouldn't it ?

You play with the male half , and maybe his partner plays with him too , as your man sits watching . She has to be careful that she doesn't do anything with you , in case you are freaked out so she is constantly worrying and not enjoying herself . Unless you say beforehand that you are ok kissing and touching her and vice versa , but no going down . Or can she go down on you ?

Anyway , you get the drift ....

So , would you like to meet a couple for straight swap ?

Something for your hubby to savour ?

Or are you wanting soft play with a woman to see how it pans out ?

So many questions I know , but possibly by asking them yourselves , you will come up with the answer and scenario that may work for all parties .

Good luck , and we hope it all works out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My wife has pulled back from swinging because of the bi pressure. She just likes men. So fed up with swinging women who think if they force themselves on her they can convert her. Ffs. She simply doesn't like oral from anyone let alone a woman. "

People bitch so much about bi men yet some bi women are predatory to say the least!

OP if you are straight just say so. If ANYONE tries to make you do something you don't want to, that is just downright rude.

If it was a man trying to make you suck his cock when you didn't want to I'm sure you wouldn't put up with it. If you get the feeling someone won't be respectful, don't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People bitch so much about bi men yet some bi women are predatory to say the least!

OP if you are straight just say so. If ANYONE tries to make you do something you don't want to, that is just downright rude.

If it was a man trying to make you suck his cock when you didn't want to I'm sure you wouldn't put up with it. If you get the feeling someone won't be respectful, don't meet them. "

I'm with you on this.... I have always found the women to be way more predatory than the guys.... Women rarely ask before touching guys... Or girls x

As to the original question..... No... And that's why you ask first x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let's vote I vote taste how can you tell till you've tried x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

when i read things like this i get a mixture of sad and angry feelings - i would never force myself onto anybody male or female - and it doesnt always have to include oral - we play with one lady regularly and a huge part for us is afterwards when we all loll on the bed and we just lay - cuddle and caress as we chat and come down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a couple or fem would expect me to and even though my husband says they wouldn't if I set out my boundaries beforehand, but I'm not sure

Met a couple some time ago who Wanted to play, even though I wanted to I declined to their disappointment because I was worried they would expect me to go down on her!!!

Others can expect what they like, it's up to you to make any boundaries clear before playing.

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By *epper123Woman over a year ago

London

People bitch so much about bi men yet some bi women are predatory to say the least!

OP if you are straight just say so. If ANYONE tries to make you do something you don't want to, that is just downright rude.

If it was a man trying to make you suck his cock when you didn't want to I'm sure you wouldn't put up with it. If you get the feeling someone won't be respectful, don't meet them. "

Just want to add my comment about predatory bi women. I am a bi woman and rarely play with women because I play in private, not in public and don't always fancy the women, nor feel I should be obliged to. I do not go to private parties because I was really pressured by a hostess at one because I was bi, it was obvious I was going to play with her - really horrible and very physical to the extent that I felt so threatened I was physically sick as we were leaving (never had a man pressure me like that). I would never pressure a woman (or a man for that matter) be they straight or bi, to do anything. But I would also want to be sure that anything was reciprocal - in the moment, anything can and should be able to happen, if you are 'into' the moment. During play I have very few limits, but getting to that point and knowing the person is the right person for the time, with the same outlook is the difficult bit for me. Often times I would prefer to leave it because of the an of worms it can open - but I think its more about the type of person someone is than the fact that they are straight or bi.

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By *eonardoLoveMan over a year ago

London

"Unfortunately that is the law and if you don't comply the swinger police will be called."

Probably the best joke I have seen on the Forum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think you should be expected to do anything but you should also not expect anything to be done to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Look theirs a first time for everything what's the worst that can happen ,she cums in your mouth !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just make it clear before what your boundaries are

Have you tried it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's all about fun if your up front before you meet them then there will be no expectations of you actually having to do anything your not comfy with ?

My partner is happy to play with a lady in all ways but is still nervous about playing down there until she gets to know her ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is nothing expected in a meet other than you turn up . What happens then is in your own hands . If like us things like kissing are important we ensure that before we meet the other person is the same . Just say when you mail them that you may be uncomfortable with it. Would not bother us

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love pussy and would always go down

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