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As a woman, how do you cope with all your messages?
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"Filters are a girls best friend " you beat me to it, was gonna say the same 
I took all my filters off once, for a day. Never again! | |||
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"I have wondered this for a time, when a woman signs up to these kinds of sites, do they know before hand they will be inundated?." Yes i knew. I assumed i would get the same amount of interest as i do in real life which is why my filters are set pretty tight. | |||
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"I find filters and being a minger and being disagreeable on the forum helps "I think you're lovely Scarlet so there!  | |||
"I can deal with messages pretty easily. I get maybe 3 a week. " Thats 3 more than me | |||
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"I find filters and being a minger and being disagreeable on the forum helps
I think you're lovely Scarlet so there! "And i was trying so hard as well 
Thanks lovely. ...You're not so bad yourself | |||
"I don't like ignoring people but sometimes its impossible to answer everyone. I tend to just leave them unread so it looks like im not ignoring anyone lol." Amazing pics by the way mel...just saying | |||
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"I don't like ignoring people but sometimes its impossible to answer everyone. I tend to just leave them unread so it looks like im not ignoring anyone lol. Amazing pics by the way mel...just saying" cheers. | |||
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"I have wondered this for a time, when a woman signs up to these kinds of sites, do they know before hand they will be inundated?. Yes i knew. I assumed i would get the same amount of interest as i do in real life which is why my filters are set pretty tight." Nice one and yes, the filters will help out straight away. | |||
"It's a hard life being a woman "it is actually lol. | |||
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Every week, if I get an abusive message for not reading or deleting, I block them..
Usually the insulting messages come from the guys with big ego  | |||
"If the first line doesnt catch my eye before I even open it, I dont read it... I dont delete or block straight away then do a message clean sweep
Every week, if I get an abusive message for not reading or deleting, I block them..
Usually the insulting messages come from the guys with big ego "ive been lucky to never receive a nasty message.... watch me get them now lol. | |||
"Block anyone you're not interested in immediately. Any response in the negative to single males on here will be met with abuse or questions as to why not or comments like "You dont have to find me attractive to fuck me." Best advice i can give." Not all guys are abusive or ask questions. Some of us actually just move on. Not fair to put us all the same category. | |||
"Block anyone you're not interested in immediately. Any response in the negative to single males on here will be met with abuse or questions as to why not or comments like "You dont have to find me attractive to fuck me." Best advice i can give. Not all guys are abusive or ask questions. Some of us actually just move on. Not fair to put us all the same category." I'm simply giving advice based on my 4 years on here. She may take it or leave it. | |||
"Block anyone you're not interested in immediately. Any response in the negative to single males on here will be met with abuse or questions as to why not or comments like "You dont have to find me attractive to fuck me." Best advice i can give. Not all guys are abusive or ask questions. Some of us actually just move on. Not fair to put us all the same category." No they're not but why take the chance? Easier to just not respond. | |||
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"Block anyone you're not interested in immediately. Any response in the negative to single males on here will be met with abuse or questions as to why not or comments like "You dont have to find me attractive to fuck me." Best advice i can give. Not all guys are abusive or ask questions. Some of us actually just move on. Not fair to put us all the same category. No they're not but why take the chance? Easier to just not respond. " True and I understand why you do it. | |||
"Just got to say.. Us single males ain't all muppets and not all of us try and pressure women to sleep with us. In my case you either like me or don't. No hard feelings either way. We just move on." Exactly! My only pet hate is when my message has been read and then not deleted afterwards if the person isn't interested. As you said though, we move on and no hard feelings. The idiots who can't take rejection and get abusive spoil it for everyone! | |||
"Block anyone you're not interested in immediately. Any response in the negative to single males on here will be met with abuse or questions as to why not or comments like "You dont have to find me attractive to fuck me." Best advice i can give. Not all guys are abusive or ask questions. Some of us actually just move on. Not fair to put us all the same category. No they're not but why take the chance? Easier to just not respond. True and I understand why you do it. " Oh so now you understand? Glad to hear it. | |||
"I've got 1346 unread messages . If I get spare time il delete ones with ugly prof pics or one liners maybe peruse pics but most just drop off the bottom " Why don't you use filters? 
Most messages get automatically deleted after a month. | |||
"I have wondered this for a time, when a woman signs up to these kinds of sites, do they know before hand they will be inundated?." I didn't I honestly though I wouldn't get any interest at all, when men started mailing and and some really good looking ones at that I was honestly shocked | |||
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"I cope by replying in the most ridiculous manner. If they think their cock will get wet men shall message back regardless of what you type. My profile emphasises point too. Nothing on it, feet pics, yet bombarded with messages. One user messaged and I kept replying about lawnmower and DIY yet he still persisted. Amuses me "well you are the life and "sole" of the party | |||
"Filters are a girls best friend " Oh so that's where I've been going wrong. I thought it was dimonds that were a girls best friend so I've been buying loads of them Where do I buy filters from? Can I swap them for dimonds | |||
"Filters are a girls best friend Oh so that's where I've been going wrong. I thought it was dimonds that were a girls best friend so I've been buying loads of them Where do I buy filters from? Can I swap them for dimonds " Starbucks sell filters | |||
"Just got to say.. Us single males ain't all muppets and not all of us try and pressure women to sleep with us. In my case you either like me or don't. No hard feelings either way. We just move on. Exactly! My only pet hate is when my message has been read and then not deleted afterwards if the person isn't interested. As you said though, we move on and no hard feelings. The idiots who can't take rejection and get abusive spoil it for everyone! " Couldn't agree more. Plenty of fish in the sea. | |||
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"I have wondered this for a time, when a woman signs up to these kinds of sites, do they know before hand they will be inundated?." i had no bloody idea if i had i might not have been celibate for over four years...lol i was totally shocked.. i thought i might get one or two looks..it was completely overwhelming, and some days i still feel that way..im not used to the attention at all | |||
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"Most just press delete button or block ,popularity isn't always justified its supply and demand "what exactly are you trying to say here? | |||
"Not had one single message In two weeks . I can't be doing it right . Obviously a grumpy old git . "Someones telling Porky pies . Bad girl you reap what you sow hope you've got plenty of time on your hands | |||
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"I've got 1346 unread messages . If I get spare time il delete ones with ugly prof pics or one liners maybe peruse pics but most just drop off the bottom Why don't you use filters?
Most messages get automatically deleted after a month. "I do have filters that's the problem I do delete loads then keep loads but never get round to reading them | |||
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"Messages? What are they? "Yeah I'm not so sure myself. And filters?? Wow that's sommat else! | |||
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"Most just press delete button or block ,popularity isn't always justified its supply and demand " Shhhh. Some think the attention is real. | |||
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"Not had one single message In two weeks . I can't be doing it right . Obviously a grumpy old git . "Now you have ysed filters very well x | |||
"Look at me "Can't miss you.....you nearly had my eye out with those boobies | |||
"Block anyone you're not interested in immediately. Any response in the negative to single males on here will be met with abuse or questions as to why not or comments like "You dont have to find me attractive to fuck me." Best advice i can give." Correct...with our previous profile we always sent a nice thank you but not interested reply...but certain ones kept messaging ...so we would block them and they would just re-join with a different name...You really have to be ruthless on this site and just block anybody who does not meet your criteria | |||
"Look at me
Can't miss you.....you nearly had my eye out with those boobies"Haha!! Sorry | |||
"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx" The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some. | |||
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"Not had one single message In two weeks . I can't be doing it right . Obviously a grumpy old git .
Now you have ysed filters very well x"Yes I guess that is it oh we'll never mind | |||
"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some. "i couldnt care less about anyone else or, their supposed ego's.. 'ego' is a word bandied about by people who cant actually formulate why they dont like someone, so they just call it 'ego' an unspecified term thet projects someone elses sunjective, self important, disapproval onto another person.. this would also mean that the person accusing another of having an ego, would have to have one themselves, in order to recognize it.. makes me giggle at the whole illusion actually
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"I refuse to meet anywhere other than a club. It's so damn expensive in most clubs that it puts most guys off. If they agree to meet me there then they're pretty keen. " Indeed, but also there are a number of people who only meet in clubs because they have a business relationship with the club owner | |||
"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some.
i couldnt care less about anyone else or, their supposed ego's..
'ego' is a word bandied about by people who cant actually formulate why they dont like someone, so they just call it 'ego' an unspecified term thet projects someone elses sunjective, self important, disapproval onto another person..
this would also mean that the person accusing another of having an ego, would have to have one themselves, in order to recognize it..
makes me giggle at the whole illusion actually
"You do amuse me. You are assuming I mean the term 'ego' in a negative way, which I'm not. It's not an accusation it's a fact. | |||
"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some.
i couldnt care less about anyone else or, their supposed ego's..
'ego' is a word bandied about by people who cant actually formulate why they dont like someone, so they just call it 'ego' an unspecified term thet projects someone elses sunjective, self important, disapproval onto another person..
this would also mean that the person accusing another of having an ego, would have to have one themselves, in order to recognize it..
makes me giggle at the whole illusion actually
You do amuse me. You are assuming I mean the term 'ego' in a negative way, which I'm not. It's not an accusation it's a fact.
"fact that some psychologist made up the word and attached something to it, to fix the human condition...people make up words and associations based on their subjective view of reality all the time..no its a truth, not the truth..you'd function quite well, if you'd never heard of it. | |||
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"I refuse to meet anywhere other than a club. It's so damn expensive in most clubs that it puts most guys off. If they agree to meet me there then they're pretty keen. Indeed, but also there are a number of people who only meet in clubs because they have a business relationship with the club owner "You know; I never thought of that ..... Could be a nice little earner | |||
"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some.
i couldnt care less about anyone else or, their supposed ego's..
'ego' is a word bandied about by people who cant actually formulate why they dont like someone, so they just call it 'ego' an unspecified term thet projects someone elses sunjective, self important, disapproval onto another person..
this would also mean that the person accusing another of having an ego, would have to have one themselves, in order to recognize it..
makes me giggle at the whole illusion actually
": an ego for those who are affected by it is created by interest ,by flattery and compliments by being desired but on here " fab" it can be created solely because you're a woman and potentially available for sex ,sometimes with no pics showing but still getting hundreds of messages per day ,I've seen it and talked to women about it ,many women who come here lack confidence in themselves because of failed relationships that's why perhaps they enjoy NSA no commitment no judgement just a fleeting meet and an orgasm but theirs no getting away from the fact that even lovely people who are unattractive and who probably don't get a lot of attention from men in the real world have success here ,their egos are fed their inboxes are full and what happens when you have too many messages to read and answer ,yes the delete button hehe hey I don't have a problem with it ,just saying what most know  | |||
"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some.
i couldnt care less about anyone else or, their supposed ego's..
'ego' is a word bandied about by people who cant actually formulate why they dont like someone, so they just call it 'ego' an unspecified term thet projects someone elses sunjective, self important, disapproval onto another person..
this would also mean that the person accusing another of having an ego, would have to have one themselves, in order to recognize it..
makes me giggle at the whole illusion actually
: an ego for those who are affected by it is created by interest ,by flattery and compliments by being desired but on here " fab" it can be created solely because you're a woman and potentially available for sex ,sometimes with no pics showing but still getting hundreds of messages per day ,I've seen it and talked to women about it ,many women who come here lack confidence in themselves because of failed relationships that's why perhaps they enjoy NSA no commitment no judgement just a fleeting meet and an orgasm but theirs no getting away from the fact that even lovely people who are unattractive and who probably don't get a lot of attention from men in the real world have success here ,their egos are fed their inboxes are full and what happens when you have too many messages to read and answer ,yes the delete button hehe hey I don't have a problem with it ,just saying what most know "you missed the point.. i dont buy into the concept of an 'ego'..you do, it fixes your reality and perception of people because it suits you....thats fine..i just prefer to live outside that projection type 'mind' box that's all, each to their own.. | |||
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"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some.
i couldnt care less about anyone else or, their supposed ego's..
'ego' is a word bandied about by people who cant actually formulate why they dont like someone, so they just call it 'ego' an unspecified term thet projects someone elses sunjective, self important, disapproval onto another person..
this would also mean that the person accusing another of having an ego, would have to have one themselves, in order to recognize it..
makes me giggle at the whole illusion actually
: an ego for those who are affected by it is created by interest ,by flattery and compliments by being desired but on here " fab" it can be created solely because you're a woman and potentially available for sex ,sometimes with no pics showing but still getting hundreds of messages per day ,I've seen it and talked to women about it ,many women who come here lack confidence in themselves because of failed relationships that's why perhaps they enjoy NSA no commitment no judgement just a fleeting meet and an orgasm but theirs no getting away from the fact that even lovely people who are unattractive and who probably don't get a lot of attention from men in the real world have success here ,their egos are fed their inboxes are full and what happens when you have too many messages to read and answer ,yes the delete button hehe hey I don't have a problem with it ,just saying what most know
you missed the point.. i dont buy into the concept of an 'ego'..you do, it fixes your reality and perception of people because it suits you....thats fine..i just prefer to live outside that projection type 'mind' box that's all, each to their own.."Suzy you have an ego to, why else would you keep putting different very sexy gorgeous pics of yourself up looking for confirmation from others that you are sexy and beautiful,which you are ,your ego requires that you are liked ,read ,believed and admired which I'm sure you are by many | |||
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"I find filters and being a minger and being disagreeable on the forum helps
I think you're lovely Scarlet so there! "So do I!! Your pics are stunning x | |||
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"Ladies I'm going to be a right sod now and offer you some advice so you never and I mean never going to have to complain about. to many messages , rude messages ,nasty messages the wrong type of guy messaging ,the lot. This piece of advice will stop all of it in one move. Take your profile off line and then start looking through mens profiles and only message guys you like the look of. There you go problem solved in one bold move .... You can thank me later ..... "What????? And have to do the leg-work for a change????? Not happening | |||
"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some.
i couldnt care less about anyone else or, their supposed ego's..
'ego' is a word bandied about by people who cant actually formulate why they dont like someone, so they just call it 'ego' an unspecified term thet projects someone elses sunjective, self important, disapproval onto another person..
this would also mean that the person accusing another of having an ego, would have to have one themselves, in order to recognize it..
makes me giggle at the whole illusion actually
: an ego for those who are affected by it is created by interest ,by flattery and compliments by being desired but on here " fab" it can be created solely because you're a woman and potentially available for sex ,sometimes with no pics showing but still getting hundreds of messages per day ,I've seen it and talked to women about it ,many women who come here lack confidence in themselves because of failed relationships that's why perhaps they enjoy NSA no commitment no judgement just a fleeting meet and an orgasm but theirs no getting away from the fact that even lovely people who are unattractive and who probably don't get a lot of attention from men in the real world have success here ,their egos are fed their inboxes are full and what happens when you have too many messages to read and answer ,yes the delete button hehe hey I don't have a problem with it ,just saying what most know
you missed the point.. i dont buy into the concept of an 'ego'..you do, it fixes your reality and perception of people because it suits you....thats fine..i just prefer to live outside that projection type 'mind' box that's all, each to their own.."definition of ego:self worth,self importance,self image ,self confidence and when referring to the mind it mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and personal identity it applies to us all obviously in different degrees but it can be boosted by popularity and attention you have it in abundance Suzy x | |||
"Ladies I'm going to be a right sod now and offer you some advice so you never and I mean never going to have to complain about. to many messages , rude messages ,nasty messages the wrong type of guy messaging ,the lot. This piece of advice will stop all of it in one move. Take your profile off line and then start looking through mens profiles and only message guys you like the look of. There you go problem solved in one bold move .... You can thank me later .....
What????? And have to do the leg-work for a change?????
Not happening"Thought so but after reading this post from start to finish I just had to say it as I was laughing my arse off | |||
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"I get so many begging to fuck me now! Not tommoro and they get over excited, like I'm going to meet them after a few messages with no effort to really get to know me "begging god are men reduced to begging now I appologise on behalf of those men | |||
"I get so many begging to fuck me now! Not tommoro and they get over excited, like I'm going to meet them after a few messages with no effort to really get to know me begging god are men reduced to begging now I appologise on behalf of those men "you mocking me? | |||
"Just got to say.. Us single males ain't all muppets and not all of us try and pressure women to sleep with us. In my case you either like me or don't. No hard feelings either way. We just move on." I agree | |||
"Block anyone you're not interested in immediately. Any response in the negative to single males on here will be met with abuse or questions as to why not or comments like "You dont have to find me attractive to fuck me." Best advice i can give." Not all men on here are like that! However, a lot of men are dick-heads, no sensitivity and spoil it for others... | |||
"I get so many begging to fuck me now! Not tommoro and they get over excited, like I'm going to meet them after a few messages with no effort to really get to know me begging god are men reduced to begging now I appologise on behalf of those men you mocking me?"no I actually think it's sad that guys are begging you for sex ,you are gorgeous love that pic with banana its actually made me desire a banana but no not mocking I would beg you myself but have been doing flooring all week my knees are sore x | |||
"Just got to say.. Us single males ain't all muppets and not all of us try and pressure women to sleep with us. In my case you either like me or don't. No hard feelings either way. We just move on." That's the best way as there are too many muppets that can't accept no. I do feel sorry for you ladies and the decent lads that just want a bit of mutual fun...key word being mutual | |||
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"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some.
i couldnt care less about anyone else or, their supposed ego's..
'ego' is a word bandied about by people who cant actually formulate why they dont like someone, so they just call it 'ego' an unspecified term thet projects someone elses sunjective, self important, disapproval onto another person..
this would also mean that the person accusing another of having an ego, would have to have one themselves, in order to recognize it..
makes me giggle at the whole illusion actually
: an ego for those who are affected by it is created by interest ,by flattery and compliments by being desired but on here " fab" it can be created solely because you're a woman and potentially available for sex ,sometimes with no pics showing but still getting hundreds of messages per day ,I've seen it and talked to women about it ,many women who come here lack confidence in themselves because of failed relationships that's why perhaps they enjoy NSA no commitment no judgement just a fleeting meet and an orgasm but theirs no getting away from the fact that even lovely people who are unattractive and who probably don't get a lot of attention from men in the real world have success here ,their egos are fed their inboxes are full and what happens when you have too many messages to read and answer ,yes the delete button hehe hey I don't have a problem with it ,just saying what most know
you missed the point.. i dont buy into the concept of an 'ego'..you do, it fixes your reality and perception of people because it suits you....thats fine..i just prefer to live outside that projection type 'mind' box that's all, each to their own.. definition of ego:self worth,self importance,self image ,self confidence and when referring to the mind it mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and personal identity it applies to us all obviously in different degrees but it can be boosted by popularity and attention you have it in abundance Suzy x "is that so? have a wonderful dayx | |||
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"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some.
i couldnt care less about anyone else or, their supposed ego's..
'ego' is a word bandied about by people who cant actually formulate why they dont like someone, so they just call it 'ego' an unspecified term thet projects someone elses sunjective, self important, disapproval onto another person..
this would also mean that the person accusing another of having an ego, would have to have one themselves, in order to recognize it..
makes me giggle at the whole illusion actually
: an ego for those who are affected by it is created by interest ,by flattery and compliments by being desired but on here " fab" it can be created solely because you're a woman and potentially available for sex ,sometimes with no pics showing but still getting hundreds of messages per day ,I've seen it and talked to women about it ,many women who come here lack confidence in themselves because of failed relationships that's why perhaps they enjoy NSA no commitment no judgement just a fleeting meet and an orgasm but theirs no getting away from the fact that even lovely people who are unattractive and who probably don't get a lot of attention from men in the real world have success here ,their egos are fed their inboxes are full and what happens when you have too many messages to read and answer ,yes the delete button hehe hey I don't have a problem with it ,just saying what most know
you missed the point.. i dont buy into the concept of an 'ego'..you do, it fixes your reality and perception of people because it suits you....thats fine..i just prefer to live outside that projection type 'mind' box that's all, each to their own.. definition of ego:self worth,self importance,self image ,self confidence and when referring to the mind it mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and personal identity it applies to us all obviously in different degrees but it can be boosted by popularity and attention you have it in abundance Suzy x
is that so? have a wonderful dayx"a woman gracious in defeat that's what I like to see | |||
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"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some.
i couldnt care less about anyone else or, their supposed ego's..
'ego' is a word bandied about by people who cant actually formulate why they dont like someone, so they just call it 'ego' an unspecified term thet projects someone elses sunjective, self important, disapproval onto another person..
this would also mean that the person accusing another of having an ego, would have to have one themselves, in order to recognize it..
makes me giggle at the whole illusion actually
: an ego for those who are affected by it is created by interest ,by flattery and compliments by being desired but on here " fab" it can be created solely because you're a woman and potentially available for sex ,sometimes with no pics showing but still getting hundreds of messages per day ,I've seen it and talked to women about it ,many women who come here lack confidence in themselves because of failed relationships that's why perhaps they enjoy NSA no commitment no judgement just a fleeting meet and an orgasm but theirs no getting away from the fact that even lovely people who are unattractive and who probably don't get a lot of attention from men in the real world have success here ,their egos are fed their inboxes are full and what happens when you have too many messages to read and answer ,yes the delete button hehe hey I don't have a problem with it ,just saying what most know
you missed the point.. i dont buy into the concept of an 'ego'..you do, it fixes your reality and perception of people because it suits you....thats fine..i just prefer to live outside that projection type 'mind' box that's all, each to their own.. definition of ego:self worth,self importance,self image ,self confidence and when referring to the mind it mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and personal identity it applies to us all obviously in different degrees but it can be boosted by popularity and attention you have it in abundance Suzy x
is that so? have a wonderful dayx a woman gracious in defeat that's what I like to see "just very, very happy i blocked you when i did xxx | |||
"had no filters on when i got here for four days,100's of messages, so i shut up shop, and started with them. i found it had at first to use block button. so i went through that batch..putting on profile to contact me later stupidly i didnt block those i wasnt interested in, so the 'why did you delete' messages started to come through I ive had my filters open twice since then.. for 24 hours each and it doesnt get any better. so now.. all my message filters are on.. on my profile it states, find me on the forums, or a club ( my status's show when i attend, if i want peeps to know.) i wait, watch, interact and observe, and if they find me, make and effort to chat and they interest me, and the timing is right, i message them...suits me very well. im much happier here now..hope you find the right balance for you sweet xx The tools are there and work great. There's no need to get ridiculous amounts of messages. It's just an ego trip for some.
i couldnt care less about anyone else or, their supposed ego's..
'ego' is a word bandied about by people who cant actually formulate why they dont like someone, so they just call it 'ego' an unspecified term thet projects someone elses sunjective, self important, disapproval onto another person..
this would also mean that the person accusing another of having an ego, would have to have one themselves, in order to recognize it..
makes me giggle at the whole illusion actually
: an ego for those who are affected by it is created by interest ,by flattery and compliments by being desired but on here " fab" it can be created solely because you're a woman and potentially available for sex ,sometimes with no pics showing but still getting hundreds of messages per day ,I've seen it and talked to women about it ,many women who come here lack confidence in themselves because of failed relationships that's why perhaps they enjoy NSA no commitment no judgement just a fleeting meet and an orgasm but theirs no getting away from the fact that even lovely people who are unattractive and who probably don't get a lot of attention from men in the real world have success here ,their egos are fed their inboxes are full and what happens when you have too many messages to read and answer ,yes the delete button hehe hey I don't have a problem with it ,just saying what most know
you missed the point.. i dont buy into the concept of an 'ego'..you do, it fixes your reality and perception of people because it suits you....thats fine..i just prefer to live outside that projection type 'mind' box that's all, each to their own.. definition of ego:self worth,self importance,self image ,self confidence and when referring to the mind it mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and personal identity it applies to us all obviously in different ydegrees but it can be boosted by popularity and attention you have it in abundance Suzy x
is that so? have a wonderful dayx a woman gracious in defeat that's what I like to see
just very, very happy i blocked you when i did xxx"awww Suzy that's not nice I actually like you x | |||
"I find filters and being a minger and being disagreeable on the forum helps "No it doesn't lol | |||
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"Ladies I'm going to be a right sod now and offer you some advice so you never and I mean never going to have to complain about. to many messages , rude messages ,nasty messages the wrong type of guy messaging ,the lot. This piece of advice will stop all of it in one move. Take your profile off line and then start looking through mens profiles and only message guys you like the look of. There you go problem solved in one bold move .... You can thank me later ..... " | |||
The next time the same person sends a message I know what they said first time round and I reply accordingly.
My block list is empty. I'm always polite.
However, these days I don't get nearly as many messages as I used to. I think since I moved my pics to friends only, the volume of mail has dropped considerably. Works for me.
I like to pick and choose the people I find. I don't want to be found. | |||
"I copy and paste the message into the private notes with the date before I reply. Then I respond appropriately and delete.
The next time the same person sends a message I know what they said first time round and I reply accordingly.
My block list is empty. I'm always polite.
However, these days I don't get nearly as many messages as I used to. I think since I moved my pics to friends only, the volume of mail has dropped considerably. Works for me.
I like to pick and choose the people I find. I don't want to be found. "Changing you profile pic to to a random body part wearing a top hat and moustache probably helps.... :P | |||
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"I copy and paste the message into the private notes with the date before I reply. Then I respond appropriately and delete.
The next time the same person sends a message I know what they said first time round and I reply accordingly.
My block list is empty. I'm always polite.
However, these days I don't get nearly as many messages as I used to. I think since I moved my pics to friends only, the volume of mail has dropped considerably. Works for me.
I like to pick and choose the people I find. I don't want to be found.
Changing you profile pic to to a random body part wearing a top hat and moustache probably helps.... :P"Exactly! | |||
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"Ladies I'm going to be a right sod now and offer you some advice so you never and I mean never going to have to complain about. to many messages , rude messages ,nasty messages the wrong type of guy messaging ,the lot. This piece of advice will stop all of it in one move. Take your profile off line and then start looking through mens profiles and only message guys you like the look of. There you go problem solved in one bold move .... You can thank me later ..... "I've done just that... well almost. Profile still up, but blocked all new messages from people. Messaging the people I like the look of is like a box of chocolates | |||
