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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok guys and girls advise needed I have just found a very good friend I have known for 30 years has a profile on here, it's not verified at all but does have very recent photos of her, she doesn't know I'm on here do I ask her ? Or just assume it's fake
There are no rude pics just her face
Dilemma
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I would look the other way, get on with what your doing and leave her to it.. Be awful to be put on the spot by you saying something.. Just my humble little opinion
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Leave well alone!
If it's fake, or a revenge thing then surely it would have a certain something to the profile? Maybe derogatory comments about that person or explicit pics rather than a normal profile with face pics.
Block and pretend you hadn't seen it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the strength of your friendship. If you are very good friends then maybe you could broach the subject of being on here yourself. Then gauge the reaction. If shes being set up by an ex for some kind of revenge, well id want to know if I were her! Other than that its up to her. If shes got a facepic up then shes not too worried about recognition. |
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"Ok guys and girls advise needed I have just found a very good friend I have known for 30 years has a profile on here, it's not verified at all but does have very recent photos of her, she doesn't know I'm on here do I ask her ? Or just assume it's fake
There are no rude pics just her face
Dilemma
Thanks"
If she's a good friend of 30 years you will know her well enough to know if you can speak to her about this. Is your dilemma that you would rather she didn't know you are here, how old is the profile, does the text sound odd?
If you genuinely feel it's fake you owe it to a very good friend to alert her to get it removed or at least report it to admin.
Otherwise block and forget. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Leave well alone!
If it's fake, or a revenge thing then surely it would have a certain something to the profile? Maybe derogatory comments about that person or explicit pics rather than a normal profile with face pics.
Block and pretend you hadn't seen it.
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No nasty comments and I don't think revenge or anything like that, and I have no problem at all her knowing I'm on here
No rude photos just two public ally available photos, strangely from her Facebook profile
She has been on the site for 11 months and only added photos today |
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"Leave well alone!
If it's fake, or a revenge thing then surely it would have a certain something to the profile? Maybe derogatory comments about that person or explicit pics rather than a normal profile with face pics.
Block and pretend you hadn't seen it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Go for it. Of she can good friend I can see no reason bit to be honest and chat to her about it!
Is she married though?
Please let me know how it goes.
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She is married yes
Sure I will let you know |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"Go for it. Of she can good friend I can see no reason bit to be honest and chat to her about it!
Is she married though?
Please let me know how it goes.
She is married yes
Sure I will let you know"
Does she use the forums? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Go for it. Of she can good friend I can see no reason bit to be honest and chat to her about it!
Is she married though?
Please let me know how it goes.
She is married yes
Sure I will let you know
Does she use the forums?"
I had a search for her name in forums and nothing found no |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else |
"Go for it. Of she can good friend I can see no reason bit to be honest and chat to her about it!
Is she married though?
Please let me know how it goes.
She is married yes
Sure I will let you know
Does she use the forums?
I had a search for her name in forums and nothing found no"
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"Go for it. Of she can good friend I can see no reason bit to be honest and chat to her about it!
Is she married though?
Please let me know how it goes.
She is married yes
Sure I will let you know
Does she use the forums?
I had a search for her name in forums and nothing found no"
Doesn't mean she doesn't read them....... |
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By *annooWoman
over a year ago
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If u have viewed her profile then ur profile unless u have turned it off will appear in her viewed list. Do there maybe a chance if ur pics are recognisable thay she now knows ur on here too and have seen it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If u have viewed her profile then ur profile unless u have turned it off will appear in her viewed list. Do there maybe a chance if ur pics are recognisable thay she now knows ur on here too and have seen it"
I have no problem with her seeing it, my concern was that due to her work"police" someone may have created a fake profile |
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"Ok guys and girls advise needed I have just found a very good friend I have known for 30 years has a profile on here, it's not verified at all but does have very recent photos of her, she doesn't know I'm on here do I ask her ? Or just assume it's fake
There are no rude pics just her face
Dilemma
Thanks"
. Most members would not want their real life friends to know that they are on here , so you should ignore the profile .. Discretion should be your number one priority. |
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"If you are such a good friend help her get meets here by meeting her and verifying the meet
Why would I verify a fake profile ?"
So you know it's fake? I'm getting really confused now.
If you know it's fake do her a big favour and report it to admin she's a very good friend of thirty years why hesitate? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you are such a good friend help her get meets here by meeting her and verifying the meet
Why would I verify a fake profile ?
So you know it's fake? I'm getting really confused now.
If you know it's fake do her a big favour and report it to admin she's a very good friend of thirty years why hesitate?"
No I don't know it's fake |
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"If you are such a good friend help her get meets here by meeting her and verifying the meet
Why would I verify a fake profile ?
So you know it's fake? I'm getting really confused now.
If you know it's fake do her a big favour and report it to admin she's a very good friend of thirty years why hesitate?
No I don't know it's fake"
But when someone suggested that you meet her and verify her you replied "why would I verify a fake profile". Now I hate to be picky but you're starting to contradict yourself.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you are such a good friend help her get meets here by meeting her and verifying the meet
Why would I verify a fake profile ?
So you know it's fake? I'm getting really confused now.
If you know it's fake do her a big favour and report it to admin she's a very good friend of thirty years why hesitate?
No I don't know it's fake
But when someone suggested that you meet her and verify her you replied "why would I verify a fake profile". Now I hate to be picky but you're starting to contradict yourself. "
For that I apologise |
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"If you are such a good friend help her get meets here by meeting her and verifying the meet
Why would I verify a fake profile ?
So you know it's fake? I'm getting really confused now.
If you know it's fake do her a big favour and report it to admin she's a very good friend of thirty years why hesitate?
No I don't know it's fake
But when someone suggested that you meet her and verify her you replied "why would I verify a fake profile". Now I hate to be picky but you're starting to contradict yourself.
For that I apologise"
That's ok. So what have you decided to do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok guys and girls advise needed I have just found a very good friend I have known for 30 years has a profile on here, it's not verified at all but does have very recent photos of her, she doesn't know I'm on here do I ask her ? Or just assume it's fake
There are no rude pics just her face
Dilemma
Thanks"
Stop worrying about it she may just like sex like the 1000's of others on here.
Block and move on . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you are such a good friend help her get meets here by meeting her and verifying the meet
Why would I verify a fake profile ?
So you know it's fake? I'm getting really confused now.
If you know it's fake do her a big favour and report it to admin she's a very good friend of thirty years why hesitate?
No I don't know it's fake
But when someone suggested that you meet her and verify her you replied "why would I verify a fake profile". Now I hate to be picky but you're starting to contradict yourself.
For that I apologise
That's ok. So what have you decided to do?"
no idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wheres the dilemma?
whats the odds of someone using your friends details to set up a fake account...astronomical I'd say.
You say youve been friends for 30 years and shes never mentioned a swinging part of her life. I'd guess thats a sure fire sign she doesn't/didn't want you or anyone else to know about her private life.
It's nothing to do with you. Leave it alone or you may find your friendship doesn't last 31 years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are really friends then does she not know of your lifestyle....? If not then how much of a friend?
Either way what's wrong with saying hi? If it is fake it will bring the perpetrator out of the wood work. If it is real the. Go for it...! |
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Block and move on. We have seen friends on here and that's what we did. We also had an incident in a club where a former colleague walked up whilst we were playing on the swing and loudly greeted me and offered a handshake! |
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"Wheres the dilemma?
whats the odds of someone using your friends details to set up a fake account...astronomical I'd say.
You say youve been friends for 30 years and shes never mentioned a swinging part of her life. I'd guess thats a sure fire sign she doesn't/didn't want you or anyone else to know about her private life.
It's nothing to do with you. Leave it alone or you may find your friendship doesn't last 31 years. "
 . A good and well thought out post |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"op why do you think it could be a fake in the first place!! "
She works in the public sector and you would not ordinarily see face pics in public photos, plus there copied and pasted from Facebook
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"Ok guys and girls advise needed I have just found a very good friend I have known for 30 years has a profile on here, it's not verified at all but does have very recent photos of her, she doesn't know I'm on here do I ask her ? Or just assume it's fake
There are no rude pics just her face
Dilemma
Thanks"
This is a tough one, because "block and ignore" would be my usual advice, except for the possible fake account. But you equally risk coming across as trying to be a knight in armour if you warn her.
She had been on here a year, with no verifications, so it is likely she is just using the site for a bit of harmless flirting. You suddenly appearing is likely to ruin everything - she certainly won't be grateful for it.
However, if someone else is using her pics maliciously, should you warn her? I never understand people who use the same pics on here as elsewhere, but people do.
(Facebook-style pics only is one of our flags)
So why don't you turn it around. If you are so close, next time you're having a drink, why don't you tell her about your secret life on here? Use one of the many tv shows/newspaper stories as an opener. Make the conversation about your experiences and gauge her reaction. I'd have thought once she knew you were on Fab, she would either come clean or delete the profile, and you need never admit to seeing it.
Meanwhile block, so she doesn't know you have.
Just so long as you accept she will never want you to be a part of that life. Ever.
Mr ddc |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"If you are such a good friend help her get meets here by meeting her and verifying the meet
Why would I verify a fake profile ?"
You claim you don't know it's fake.
Arrange a meet and meet her if it's not fake verify her if it is fake report the profile.
That's how the system works on Fab that is exactly what verifications are for.
Sounds like this is another look at me thread |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you are such a good friend help her get meets here by meeting her and verifying the meet
Why would I verify a fake profile ?
You claim you don't know it's fake.
Arrange a meet and meet her if it's not fake verify her if it is fake report the profile.
That's how the system works on Fab that is exactly what verifications are for.
Sounds like this is another look at me thread"
I couldn't care less if you looked at me or not |
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Why don't you tell her your on here and see if she mentions it? If she doesn't say anything then just leave well alone, if she does admit it then you can work out what to do next between you.
She may want to keep her life private in which case leave her to it. If the profile really looks false then contact admin and ask them to check it out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok guys and girls advise needed I have just found a very good friend I have known for 30 years has a profile on here, it's not verified at all but does have very recent photos of her, she doesn't know I'm on here do I ask her ? Or just assume it's fake
There are no rude pics just her face
Dilemma
Thanks
This is a tough one, because "block and ignore" would be my usual advice, except for the possible fake account. But you equally risk coming across as trying to be a knight in armour if you warn her.
She had been on here a year, with no verifications, so it is likely she is just using the site for a bit of harmless flirting. You suddenly appearing is likely to ruin everything - she certainly won't be grateful for it.
However, if someone else is using her pics maliciously, should you warn her? I never understand people who use the same pics on here as elsewhere, but people do.
(Facebook-style pics only is one of our flags)
So why don't you turn it around. If you are so close, next time you're having a drink, why don't you tell her about your secret life on here? Use one of the many tv shows/newspaper stories as an opener. Make the conversation about your experiences and gauge her reaction. I'd have thought once she knew you were on Fab, she would either come clean or delete the profile, and you need never admit to seeing it.
Meanwhile block, so she doesn't know you have.
Just so long as you accept she will never want you to be a part of that life. Ever.
Mr ddc"
Good advice Mr DDC. |
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"Ok guys and girls advise needed I have just found a very good friend I have known for 30 years has a profile on here, it's not verified at all but does have very recent photos of her, she doesn't know I'm on here do I ask her ? Or just assume it's fake
There are no rude pics just her face
Dilemma
Thanks"
Its her business lol
One of my mate is on here and he even messaged me! |
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