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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Probably been spoken about before but......
I can't let myself go, I can cum using my clit easily but when it comes to penetration I have a blockage it would seem that mentally I can't let go enough to be able to orgasm!
Anyone got any tips or experienced the same problem they have now managed to solve.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Don't think my other half needs to be any bigger tbh already can't do many many positions cos of his size! But I'm even struggling to cum using toys! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel like I get so close but just can't leg go! Maybe it's practise, relaxing and just not trying to hard. "
I think you are putting way too much pressure on yourself. I would say focus on enjoying sex and having a good time. And hey, maybe it will happen, maybe it won't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try attempting a blended orgasm for a while, stimulating your clitoris whilst being penetrated, it may train your body into penetrative orgasms and then it may happen for you... XxX |
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"Most women can only cum by clit stimulation so you're not on your own. Ive never come by penetrative sex. "
............so relieved its not only me that has never orgasmed by penetrative sex ... I can if I ride ... but not in the missionary position ...
I love clit stimulation by a guy or vibrating toys .... ive never gushed or squirted either ... is this abnormal too ??? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think it comes as a package doesn't it gushing and cuming! It just frustrates me if I'm honest! I've done it before but that was with two men both going at my like rabbits lol! I'd love simply to be able to teal into it and let myself go! I feel I let myself down! I have never been able to relax thou I'm so conscience about the "mess" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably been spoken about before but......
I can't let myself go, I can cum using my clit easily but when it comes to penetration I have a blockage it would seem that mentally I can't let go enough to be able to orgasm!
Anyone got any tips or experienced the same problem they have now managed to solve.
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Funnily enough every girl that i've come across has had that problem with me. Always baffles me that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most women can only cum by clit stimulation so you're not on your own. Ive never come by penetrative sex.
............so relieved its not only me that has never orgasmed by penetrative sex ... I can if I ride ... but not in the missionary position ...
I love clit stimulation by a guy or vibrating toys .... ive never gushed or squirted either ... is this abnormal too ???"
Neither have I. I was close once but it just didn't happen.
But it's not something I worry about. I love sex regardlesd |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Try attempting a blended orgasm for a while, stimulating your clitoris whilst being penetrated, it may train your body into penetrative orgasms and then it may happen for you... XxX "
Love love love blended orgasms,never felt anything as good as cumming from clit and penetration together. Sweetest orgasms ever!!!!!
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
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It amazes me how some feel sometimes pressured into performing on what's portrayed in the media, and how sometimes their partners think there's either something wrong with them, or are preventing it themselves. Everyone is different and not a pornstar!!
I have women friends that have never cum through penetration and some who have. Orgasms are not the be and end all. When it happens, it's great and when it doesn't, it doesn't matter, as long as you had a great time overall.
I have never cum just through penetration alone (although I have been close a couple of times - I think!), but I usual self stimulate too whilst penetration, which is very nice.
Try that and don't be too hard on yourself if it doesn't happen. |
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You're not alone with this, I'm the same.
I rarely orgasm through penetration alone. I need g-spot and clit stimulation to get there, but then more often than not I end up getting the feeling I want to squirt which just isn't the same thing. (Still good though..lol!)
Thinking about it and putting pressure on myself is completely to blame. Its all in the head for me too.
The more relaxed and carefree i am, the more likely it will happen. But regardless of an end result, sex still feels amazing and its not a big issue.
I also find that because I don't easily orgasm, that when I do its extremely intense and powerful. I'm happy to have that. 
Something I blame is the regular use of a rampant rabbit, over the years. I think I search for the same feelings that gives me. I need to ban myself from it and throw it away. Lol!  xx |
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I've never cum through penetration, pretty sure it's not possible for me, I need lots of all over body stimulation to relax and then fingers, tongue or toys. We're all different, don't feel bad about it, just enjoy and ask for what you want! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it's a mental block maybe watch some porn or something you find hot so that you're less 'in your own head' or over thinking it. I go through phases of over thinking and then can't cum cos I mentally try too hard!  |
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"You're not alone with this, I'm the same.
I rarely orgasm through penetration alone. I need g-spot and clit stimulation to get there, but then more often than not I end up getting the feeling I want to squirt which just isn't the same thing. (Still good though..lol!)
Thinking about it and putting pressure on myself is completely to blame. Its all in the head for me too.
The more relaxed and carefree i am, the more likely it will happen. But regardless of an end result, sex still feels amazing and its not a big issue.
I also find that because I don't easily orgasm, that when I do its extremely intense and powerful. I'm happy to have that.
Something I blame is the regular use of a rampant rabbit, over the years. I think I search for the same feelings that gives me. I need to ban myself from it and throw it away. Lol! xx"
I notice this and can tell if partners have been 'Using' a lot. Sensitivity goes down both penetratively and clitorally.
I understand the temptation but it is a bit counterproductive.
Particularly the wand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You're not alone with this, I'm the same.
I rarely orgasm through penetration alone. I need g-spot and clit stimulation to get there, but then more often than not I end up getting the feeling I want to squirt which just isn't the same thing. (Still good though..lol!)
Thinking about it and putting pressure on myself is completely to blame. Its all in the head for me too.
The more relaxed and carefree i am, the more likely it will happen. But regardless of an end result, sex still feels amazing and its not a big issue.
I also find that because I don't easily orgasm, that when I do its extremely intense and powerful. I'm happy to have that.
Something I blame is the regular use of a rampant rabbit, over the years. I think I search for the same feelings that gives me. I need to ban myself from it and throw it away. Lol! xx
I notice this and can tell if partners have been 'Using' a lot. Sensitivity goes down both penetratively and clitorally.
I understand the temptation but it is a bit counterproductive.
Particularly the wand. "
Yeah I stopped using the wand as sensitivity really goes away! I first came with mr - he knows how to make me cum and he can do it in seconds bit if anyone else was to try they'd need to really try. I say the fact we spend time getting to know each others buttons helped - ALOT |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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You can buy cock rings that vibrate for clit stimulating during penetration .been told there very good but I've never used one myself.
This is not only a female problem I struggle to climax with a new partner always have .
From the day I lost my virginity to this day I've had this problem its a mental thing a trust intimacy issue that can be resolved over time with the same partner . by that I mean the more at ease relaxed in their company I am the quicker my own orgasm will happen can take anything from 5 to 10 sexual encounters .
God I'm so glad this is anonymous had some nasty experiences as a young man when a jilted ex told everyone about my problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ive never cum through penetration only. Need some sort of clit stimulation. The only time I can cum during sex is if I ride him and position my clit so that it's being stimulated. More of a moving back and fro, rather than up and down lol.
I can also gush/squirt which is amazing but totally different to a clit orgasm. I like to do both lol
There's a blog on how different women come. Anyone seen it?
Off to find the link...
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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago
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"'How to make me come ' blog. It's caused a storm lol.
Can I post links?
http://howtomakemecome.tumblr.com"
Thanks for the link..interesting reading and can relate to a lot in the link..
For me its feeling comfortable with the person and how much they turn me on..but i to up until recently have struggles to cum through penetration.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said, it is elusive.
I've only experienced it a couple of times. And I'm convinced it's also about mental stimulation as well as physical.
You may find lots of clit play and using a wand to really get you going helps you get closer to it.
Maybe watching porn if you like that stuff for the visual excitement.
Otherwise as others have said trying different positions.
I have found if I'm very turned on, positions I couldn't normally cope with because of the cock size actually feel really good.
Good luck, but most of all don't get hung up about it xxx
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"'How to make me come ' blog. It's caused a storm lol.
Can I post links?
http://howtomakemecome.tumblr.com
Thanks for the link..interesting reading and can relate to a lot in the link..
For me its feeling comfortable with the person and how much they turn me on..but i to up until recently have struggles to cum through penetration.."
So do you struggle now ? |
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"You're not alone with this, I'm the same.
I rarely orgasm through penetration alone. I need g-spot and clit stimulation to get there, but then more often than not I end up getting the feeling I want to squirt which just isn't the same thing. (Still good though..lol!)
Thinking about it and putting pressure on myself is completely to blame. Its all in the head for me too.
The more relaxed and carefree i am, the more likely it will happen. But regardless of an end result, sex still feels amazing and its not a big issue.
I also find that because I don't easily orgasm, that when I do its extremely intense and powerful. I'm happy to have that.
Something I blame is the regular use of a rampant rabbit, over the years. I think I search for the same feelings that gives me. I need to ban myself from it and throw it away. Lol! xx
I notice this and can tell if partners have been 'Using' a lot. Sensitivity goes down both penetratively and clitorally.
I understand the temptation but it is a bit counterproductive.
Particularly the wand. "
I used to only be able to cum using my rabbit. I had to wean myself off it! I now barely use it as I know the next time will be so much more difficult without it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love the action, feel and closeness of penetrative sex, but very rarley orgasm. Just enjoy it for what it is and climax with whatever works for you. "
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Magic wand whilst being penetrated!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love the action, feel and closeness of penetrative sex, but very rarley orgasm. Just enjoy it for what it is and climax with whatever works for you.
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Magic wand whilst being penetrated! "
Works a treat. Just make sure that you don't get the inside of the wand wet though. That's what I did because the wire broke, the Sparks were flying! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably been spoken about before but......
I can't let myself go, I can cum using my clit easily but when it comes to penetration I have a blockage it would seem that mentally I can't let go enough to be able to orgasm!
Anyone got any tips or experienced the same problem they have now managed to solve.
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I come most when I get on top and move in a forwards/backwards rocking/riding motion rather than rising and falling!
The guy always seems to love this too!
May be worth trying op? |
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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago
coventry/Leicestershire border |
"'How to make me come ' blog. It's caused a storm lol.
Can I post links?
http://howtomakemecome.tumblr.com
Thanks for the link..interesting reading and can relate to a lot in the link..
For me its feeling comfortable with the person and how much they turn me on..but i to up until recently have struggles to cum through penetration..
So do you struggle now ? "
I dont struggle at all with certain people no  |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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tantric breathing can help, becaue its your mind that wont switch off..so it gives you something to enter into, if you like, something to focus on... so the stimulation can take over...just a suggestion xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm one of the women who comes during penetration. I'm almost certain its to do with my cervix. Since my hysterectomy my cervix seems lower and I come easily and frequently. If I clench I get a feeling inside me like I get right before I orgasm. My orgasms are different and I prefer the ones brought about by gentle coaxing; they engulf my whole body slowly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hey OP glad everyone is being nice to you...
Last time I posted this post all I got was slagged off for not being able to cum
I really enjoy sex an usually have an amazing time but some men get miffed that I dont cum...
I dont put pressure on myself about it |
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"Hey OP glad everyone is being nice to you...
Last time I posted this post all I got was slagged off for not being able to cum
I really enjoy sex an usually have an amazing time but some men get miffed that I dont cum...
I dont put pressure on myself about it "
Have you heard of (psas) Persistent sexual arousal syndrome, I,m sure even a nympho would tire eventually if she had that..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Far be it from me to understand the mystery that is the female wiring, but one former FB of mine had never come with any of her partners through vaginal penetration but could through oral or finger play.
Another one had a specific penetration technique, probably best described as cowgirl position but without any riding, more a frotting on the bone immediately above my cock. That did it for her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My partner says that because she feels so comfy with me that she can just relax and have fun !
As I've only ever been with one other woman who I could only ever get to orgasm through oral ? It was a shock too find that I can get my partner too orgasm through touch as well as penetration?
Her reason for the penetration orgasm is that it seems to hit the spot ?
I guess what I'm trying to say is that maybe you need to find your spot ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Increase the amount of foreplay and have your partner continue working your nipples and sensually kissing you once he enters. Traditional positions may work best to create a synergy of both clitoral and vaginal wall stimulation. If you're on top, have your partner apply some pressure to your anus with his fingers as this may introduce additional internal stimulation.
Never count out the positive effects of some gentle hair tugging or a little "rough" play to awaken new or deeper sensitivities as well.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have never cum through penetration, and mostly a long time with clit stimulation, but recently cum easier with very slow licking and teasing on my clit and around that area. I suffer from anxiety and sometimes struggle to switch off, I use fantasies to help |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This has been a most interesting post. I have long wondered about the effects of using rabbit/vibrators and have felt the reduction in sensitivity others have mentioned. I had assumed it was a loss of libido due to ageing or hormone reduction. Time to retire the rabbit I think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This has been a most interesting post. I have long wondered about the effects of using rabbit/vibrators and have felt the reduction in sensitivity others have mentioned. I had assumed it was a loss of libido due to ageing or hormone reduction. Time to retire the rabbit I think."
hehe oh well  |
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