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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I will put you in the advice section you might hopefully get a better response.
My advice would be, only you know your wife...if you are open about sex with each other try talking about any fantasies you have.
We each wrote our fantasies down with a no, maybe and yes next to them as to whether we would ever want to try them. We then swopped lists and found we matched most of them. We then decided to try the ones we fancied.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ahhh thanks for the advice I do talk to her about it when the mood is right but in the morning it's all forgot we could have amazing times in clubs and here , will keep trying cos she is bi and hot too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm newish here but need a little advice how I talk my Mrs into joining me with out her killing me  "
hey if she doesn't know your on here she isn't going to be best pleased especially in light of the fact you are up for meeting other women without her consent or approval fab is a recipe for disaster for your relationship anyway and for most others even the ones who consent to being on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" He is asking for advice on how to get her to play and not what will happen if she found out.
Can we keep to the question please or it will turn into a different thread altogether"
too many of these threads get diverted. You do need to talk to her tho. I met my FWB about 3 months back. He told me within an hour that he was a swinger and asked if I was curious... That really may be all it takes...but as already married needs to be more of an "I'm interested in swinging" type thing.
You could show her this site....? But probably not your profile....maybe hide or delete it first? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Good advice thank you , I'm not married to her but been with her 19 years lol , she is bi and I no she would love it but it's the thought of asking her and she says no way ?? |
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"Good advice thank you , I'm not married to her but been with her 19 years lol , she is bi and I no she would love it but it's the thought of asking her and she says no way ??"
If she says no then at least you know and can stop wondering....you can't force someone to try swinging and depending on her personality she may event resent you gently persuading ....personally, and it is one of my more endearing features...if I feel like I'm being pushed into doing something I will dig my heels in and do the opposite...but as I say that's just me, you know her better than anyone....good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeh , we've been out and she has come over to me saying how hot a certain girl is etc and told her to flirt but she to shy , I need a willing girl to meet us in a pub flirt show her interest and chat with her and out the idea into her head lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thanks all for advice , I just rather her be involved cos not good doing this on my own people don't want to chat or meet because it is really cheating and it's not fair on her |
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"Thanks all for advice , I just rather her be involved cos not good doing this on my own people don't want to chat or meet because it is really cheating and it's not fair on her "
That is not the best reason to involve her to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm newish here but need a little advice how I talk my Mrs into joining me with out her killing me "
. Let her read your verifications. She mite realise you really are a nice man |
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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago
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Some people are secure in themselves, some are not. Some people are swingers and some are not, irrespective of sexual persuasion.
If she isn't, she is not going to enjoy it even if she tried.
Good luck.
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"Yeh , we've been out and she has come over to me saying how hot a certain girl is etc and told her to flirt but she to shy , I need a willing girl to meet us in a pub flirt show her interest and chat with her and out the idea into her head lol x"
No you don't. She needs you to be honest with her about your thoughts and fantasies. Are you seriously suggesting that another woman should persuade your partner into fulfilling your fantasy without her being aware?
Talk to your partner. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some people are secure in themselves, some are not. Some people are swingers and some are not, irrespective of sexual persuasion.
If she isn't, she is not going to enjoy it even if she tried.
Good luck.
Jane x"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some people are secure in themselves, some are not. Some people are swingers and some are not, irrespective of sexual persuasion.
If she isn't, she is not going to enjoy it even if she tried.
Good luck.
Jane x"
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"I'm not new to the site I'm new to swinging never been to a club or done anything except meet a few on here "
Honesty is your friend here (and you seem to be backtracking a little here) and with your partner. If you go into the pub and ask somebody else to persuade the bar person to get you a drink you'll be in there all night and might end up with no drink at all. Same goes with setting your partner up, you'll be more likely to get what you want by asking directly or at least know where you stand.
You aren't the first man to be scared of asking his partner to fulfil a fantasy of his or the first to suggest roping someone else in to do it for him but trust me, it's much better to just get it over and done with by talking to her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The hardest part is to convince them that love, respect, caring, support, etc. are totally unrelated to fucking.
Making love is always better than pure sex but the latter can be great fun, exiting and build up good experiences.
People are so conditioned to believe adherence to monogamy is a valid measure of love that the concept of sex with others takes a lot if discussing and understanding.
Good luck and don't show her your profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm not new to the site I'm new to swinging never been to a club or done anything except meet a few on here
Honesty is your friend here (and you seem to be backtracking a little here) and with your partner. If you go into the pub and ask somebody else to persuade the bar person to get you a drink you'll be in there all night and might end up with no drink at all. Same goes with setting your partner up, you'll be more likely to get what you want by asking directly or at least know where you stand.
You aren't the first man to be scared of asking his partner to fulfil a fantasy of his or the first to suggest roping someone else in to do it for him but trust me, it's much better to just get it over and done with by talking to her."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The hardest part is to convince them that love, respect, caring, support, etc. are totally unrelated to fucking.
Making love is always better than pure sex but the latter can be great fun, exiting and build up good experiences.
People are so conditioned to believe adherence to monogamy is a valid measure of love that the concept of sex with others takes a lot if discussing and understanding.
Good luck and don't show her your profile. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Great advice o will keep trying and wouldn't show hert profile , of the answer is yes then I'dake a couples profile and delete mine for a fresh start |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The hardest part is to convince them that love, respect, caring, support, etc. are totally unrelated to fucking.
and if they truly believe that they are related? Who's to say they're wrong?"
If they truly believe that then NEVER start swinging. Q.e.d. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Great advice o will keep trying and wouldn't show hert profile , of the answer is yes then I'dake a couples profile and delete mine for a fresh start "
If you click on the quote button we can all see who you are answering
Welcome to the forum btw |
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