Had a quick look at your peofile and you joined 2 weeks ago. If you think in terms of months before a meet rather than weeks that is more realistic. Use forums ( as you have ) and chat rooms to get yourself known.. Patience is the key. Good luck pal and enjoy. |
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over a year ago
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It varies from man to man, but most wait about 6 month I think. It took us more than two weeks to have our first meet, and we are a couple 
I think it might do you some good to visit a club, if it is something you may be interested in.
I like your profile, though, so that's a good start! 
Good luck and have fun.
-Courtney |
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"It varies from man to man, but most wait about 6 month I think. It took us more than two weeks to have our first meet, and we are a couple
I think it might do you some good to visit a club, if it is something you may be interested in.
I like your profile, though, so that's a good start!
Good luck and have fun.
-Courtney"
I agree, it's a good profile with some good pics, (i know you didnt ask for a profile critique but us ladies like to see whos messaging us) join in the forums, I think you'll make some new friends  |
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over a year ago
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Perfect thank you. Cant beat a compliment too.
Good stuff - I'll try get more involved on forums/chat then. Sometimes I find myself just watching chat as everyone seems to know each other on there! haha
Cheers,
Ben |
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Took me well over a year before i met anyone haha
A lot of it's about having the right attitude really. You need patience, a certain amount of notgiveafuckery and a genuine desire to make friends not just get your end away! |
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Going to socials and clubs etc
It's the only way to go
Think about it
Clubs make money by people meeting
Socials are not socials if people don't attend
Websites make money by membership
We always remember the people we meet in person
Don't have a clue who the others are |
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"I would remove the "I'm not confident" bit of your profile...may put off people...
I would rather have a not confident guy to some cocky git lol
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You have your guy already |
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Took me 4 weeks for my first meet. Good luck fella. I'm sure you'll be having fun in no time. Just remember don't put too much pressure on yourself to get a meet ASAP, don't pester people for a meet within minutes of messaging someone and mostly be a gentleman. Women appreciate that not just on here but in general.
Good luck mate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the replies everyone.
Some really nice comments so appreciate that a lot.
I will probably come a site member soon so I can see who's viewed my profile
Ben |
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"I think women do the stealth mode more tho lol.
I always use stealth.
Saves the 'I see you looked at my profile, did you like what you saw' messages. If I had liked I would have mailed  "
Yes that's right, I always thought that lol, if you view a mans profile, do you always think they will email you back? And do couples do the same?. |
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"I was just wondering how long roughly was it from registering to getting any interest/a meet
Cheers!"
It's a good profile for a newbie! You're not bad looking at all and you're articulate and amusing - good as most women are looking for more than a penis!
Not sure where in the north west you are - but there are LOADS of great clubs in the north west - take the plunge and go to a club/social!
I went alone the first time - I was scared shitless but I lived to tell the tale!
When at a club/social don't leer at people, don't follow people around, and don't just sit in a corner alone and expect people to come to you - it won't happen!
Be friendly, open and engaging.
Smile a lot
Don't make crude remarks
Talk for some time before playing is even mentioned
Don't get d*unk
Always have condoms handy - but not obviously on show
Just chat to singles/couples the same way as you would in a bar
Go with the intention of having a great time - if you have great sex too that's a bonus!
Remember to drop your fab name in conversation so people can verify you if they wish.
Chatting to the bar staff if they have time is a good idea! They're generally very friendly and good at calming nerves - and if you're friendly and polite and create a good impression - they're likely to verify you if you ask nicely!
Best of luck op
Enjoy fab! Xx |
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over a year ago
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"I was just wondering how long roughly was it from registering to getting any interest/a meet
Cheers!"
I can't see you having much of a problem unless you send really crap messages.
Ensure you don't send crap messages and get the interested but not too pushy balance right and you'll be fine.
I don't suppose you happen to feel like relocating nearer to Norfolk, do you?   |
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"I was just wondering how long roughly was it from registering to getting any interest/a meet
Cheers!"
You might just break all the 'single guy first meet' records... |
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"I would remove the "I'm not confident" bit of your profile...may put off people..."
OP: If it's true, and you feel that other people should know you're not that confident before meeting, then leave it on there. Better to have fewer meets than to end up in a situation where you're not comfortable.
Maybe word it a bit differently though – e.g. 'I sometimes need a bit of encouraging to come out of my shell...'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Could be a long wait. Down to luck more than anything. If you target certain ladies or Couples your message may not even be seen let alone read. Getting yourself known in the forums and chat rooms is a good idea, but remember they are a very small part of the site. You have a good profile so that's a positive. Good luck. |
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It didn't take me long to meet people, but that's due to me going out to a club and getting myself known to people.
The forum is a good way to start conversations, interesting topics get good replies.
Not looked at your profile, but you seem chatty enough on here, keep up like that and i'm sure people will get to know you over time.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have met some nice, sexy men on here who said they waited up to 12 months for first meet! I put my profile up, 160 messages within I afternoon! Met one of them next day! M x |
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over a year ago
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"Oh and who is the guy in the picture with you 3rd one down? Can only see his eye and bit of his hair but it looks like a very handsome eye.
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Well spotted seawitch! I'm impressed!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Oh he is happily (I think) married Was at Leeds festival!
Thanks for the replies. Much appreciated!
I think I will leave my profile as it is saying I am not very confident.
I want to be open and honest from the start and if its a turn off then its a turn off .
Ive never been to a club - to be honest it's all quite new to me so just getting the vibe at t'minute :D  |
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