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verification snobs

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

how are you supposed to get verified if no onw will give new comers a chance,i understand peeps have had there time wasted before ,but not everyone is the same ,if I said id meet I will meet fact,just a little frustrating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had some of my best meets with people who've not been verified.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had some of my best meets with people who've not been verified."

So have we

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if I said id meet I will meet fact,just a little frustrating "

We have had no shows say that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Someone took a chance on me, and now we meet every week, loving it too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if I said id meet I will meet fact,just a little frustrating

We have had no shows say that."
cue the white knights screaming I'd never let someone like you down...its men like that that give us a bad name !

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"how are you supposed to get verified if no onw will give new comers a chance,i understand peeps have had there time wasted before ,but not everyone is the same ,if I said id meet I will meet fact,just a little frustrating "

It's not nice to call people snobs because they wish to meet verified people. Doing so will harm your chances of a meet rather than help it. Lashing out and insulting people because they won't do what you want is not an attractive trait.

Nobody owes you a first meet just because you think you deserve a chance.

Plenty of people will meet those without verifications anyway. How many have actually told you that's why they won't meet you? Or are you assuming that's the reason in a lot of cases?

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By *o30Woman over a year ago

Lincoln

If you were closer I'd meet you for a drink. I've had both good & bad experiences with unverified guy's

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

fair play you,may be its just the ones I seem to encounter ,or they just don't like me could be a possibility lol ,but it definatly makes it hard to exsplore the things your here for x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go to a social or a club....simple x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get some cam veris to start with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

maybe im grouping every one in the same bracket(wrongly),just what ive been experiencing locally x

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"fair play you,may be its just the ones I seem to encounter ,or they just don't like me could be a possibility lol ,but it definatly makes it hard to exsplore the things your here for x"

Ah, so it could be that you're unverified but it could be because they don't fancy you or because something else about you puts them off. That sounds a bit more realistic.

Why do you assume it's that you aren't verified?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I hardly think its lashing out ,its purely a heading I thought would get attention to a problem for me ,isn't ment to offend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"maybe im grouping every one in the same bracket(wrongly),just what ive been experiencing locally x"

No worries it happens mate we have all had some frustration here. Just remain chilled and it will happen for sure and social events are a good way to get to know people too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone starts with no verifications.

stop moaning.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

cheers, id definatly be up for that ,wicked pics,if your ever in sunny Weston you never no x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

if you read it im not moaning about not being verified ,I cudnt give two hoots about it, my moan is that everyone else seems to be obsessed with it in order to meet you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

because most have on profiles only meet verified people or have told me so in messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Our first 2 verifications were social through posting meets on here saying which clubs we were attending.

Then our next ones through more than social meets.

Never expected anyone to meet us without putting ourselves out into the community first

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I hardly think its lashing out ,its purely a heading I thought would get attention to a problem for me ,isn't ment to offend "

It's calling people who won't do what you want snobs. That seems reasonable to you?

What if I called you something unpleasant because you think you're entitled to a meet "to give you a chance"? I'm fairly sure you'd find that offensive.

You're calling people snobs for their preferences, which they are entitled to have. In fact, you're calling them snobs based on an assumption you're making because you don't know why most aren't interested.

You could have posted asking how to improve your chances of a meet, or with at least a nod towards it possibly being down to you, but you've decided to blame everyone else and call them names.

That's a very attractive trait, blaming others for your failure, I don't think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

whoooo there voluptuous think you need to chill out ,serious chip on your shoulder it was a simple heading to which if im being honest you have blown completely out the water ,and if you think im going to sit here and take that shit your wrong,im a descent bloke,honest and tell it how it is,you are acting like you have just caught me in bed with your sister wowwwwwwww cheers every one else for not going cukoo on me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

yeah exactly how I see it ,but relising now its not everyone ,just what ive exsperinced so far x

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

1st off click the reply plus quote button on the bottom right then people will know who your replying to. Then get yourself to some socials. The meet forum is full of them. You will pick up plenty of veris get yourself known and have a damn good time to boot. Good advice ment in the best possible way. Good luck fella

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"whoooo there voluptuous think you need to chill out ,serious chip on your shoulder it was a simple heading to which if im being honest you have blown completely out the water ,and if you think im going to sit here and take that shit your wrong,im a descent bloke,honest and tell it how it is,you are acting like you have just caught me in bed with your sister wowwwwwwww cheers every one else for not going cukoo on me

Yes, you're absolutely right. It can't possibly be anything you are doing wrong. It's all down to everyone else and they deserve to be called names. My mistake.

Good luck getting that first meet. I have a feeling you're going to need a lot of luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"1st off click the reply plus quote button on the bottom right then people will know who your replying to. Then get yourself to some socials. The meet forum is full of them. You will pick up plenty of veris get yourself known and have a damn good time to boot. Good advice ment in the best possible way. Good luck fella "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We attach the word 'snob' to lots of things like Wine, Music, Food ~ I don't think anything else was meant by it than simply that.

And yes OP it is hard to get the ball rolling without a veri but if you stick with it, get yourself out there & known it will happen.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

You write you reply underneath mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

cheers mate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We attach the word 'snob' to lots of things like Wine, Music, Food ~ I don't think anything else was meant by it than simply that.

And yes OP it is hard to get the ball rolling without a veri but if you stick with it, get yourself out there & known it will happen."

Some take offence at the smallest thing on the forums. Don't let it get to you OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pack it in both of you, or god help me you'll both be going over my knee.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Your a nice looking guy but youve only been here seven bloody days, it might be seven months before you get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your a nice looking guy but youve only been here seven bloody days, it might be seven months before you get a meet.

I've had a few in 7 Years

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Pack it in both of you, or god help me you'll both be going over my knee.

I was thinking the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile is a little bit sounding like pretty fantasist(ie clutched cock while writing), have a look at the many events that are going on, socials,clubs etc..

and to be honest..seven days?-You really need more patience as a single guy.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

up to a pint i think she has a point.. in that if you start a thread negatively you will get a lot of people's back up... so i think that your reply is highly out of order...

on the subject of verification... as people have said, they take verification with a pinch of salt.. and as others have said, they put themselves out there and went to clubs and socials... so if it means that much to you, there are always avenues out there...

obsession here very much looks like a two way street here... the mythical green tick doesn't open up a secret club of non-stop debauchery....

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"We attach the word 'snob' to lots of things like Wine, Music, Food ~ I don't think anything else was meant by it than simply that.

And yes OP it is hard to get the ball rolling without a veri but if you stick with it, get yourself out there & known it will happen."

It looks to me like a criticism of anyone who won't give to OP the chance he thinks he deserves.

Anyone has the right not to meet him because he's unverified, or for any other reason. It's not on to have a go at people because they won't do what he wants.

Yes, it's frustrating but every single person was in the same boat when they started here. It's easier for women but every man faced the same challenge.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

Op feel free to mail me I'll help if i can. We was all new 1s

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pack it in both of you, or god help me you'll both be going over my knee.

I was thinking the same

I thought of it first, you wait 'till playtime, lol

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

I do feel for single blokes who are newbies! It's gotta to be hard to get your foot on the first step of the ladder.

After all we were all new and unverified at some point!

Keep at it OP I'm sure that you'll get there in the end

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

i wouldnt worry about them tbh. get chatting to appealing likemindeds here and from there you will know and they will know who's real and from there meetings easy if all interested in arranging.

Contact, chat, prove all, arrange, meet.

Simple in theory

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Pack it in both of you, or god help me you'll both be going over my knee.

I was thinking the same

I thought of it first, you wait 'till playtime, lol

Sorry sir. What times play time

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I do feel for single blokes who are newbies! It's gotta to be hard to get your foot on the first step of the ladder.

After all we were all new and unverified at some point!

Keep at it OP I'm sure that you'll get there in the end

Awwww we are just a pair of big softies

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

snob is just a word ,im common as fuck do I take offence, the answers no far two much going on in the world .....but each to there own I learn from everything in life good and bad enjoy ya day all

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I have a problem with anyone who moans about other people's preferences, particularly when it comes with names like "snob".

We all have preferences. Some will meet unverified people, some won't. Those that won't are not being unreasonable or unfair to anyone, they're just managing their meets as they want to.

If the OP is free to criticise people for not meet unverified people, I am free to criticise him for complaining about people with perfectly reasonable preferences.

Respect for the preferences of others is a pretty fundamental part of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I do feel for single blokes who are newbies! It's gotta to be hard to get your foot on the first step of the ladder.

After all we were all new and unverified at some point!

Keep at it OP I'm sure that you'll get there in the end

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I do suppose it has only been a week ha ha ill get there x

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Lose the sense of entitlement: no one is compelled to give you anything, let alone a chance!

I find attitudes like yours off putting!

I'm not alone in meeting unverified people. Even with the "coveted" verification there's no guarantee you'll be balls deep in pum pum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pack it in both of you, or god help me you'll both be going over my knee.

And if I start? I do love being put over a knee

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We don't meet people based on verifications. We used this site for ages having fun before we even bothered getting verified.

We are not hung up on verifications and they are not something at the forefront of our mind when planning who we meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your a nice looking guy but youve only been here seven bloody days, it might be seven months before you get a meet.

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lol cheers patience is the key then x

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

"I do feel for single blokes who are newbies! It's gotta to be hard to get your foot on the first step of the ladder.

After all we were all new and unverified at some point!

Keep at it OP I'm sure that you'll get there in the end

Awwww we are just a pair of big softies

Speak for yourself bladey!

Hey we both know how hard this site can be... And we also know how the forums can work! Some will offer help, others will just look to try and belittle and seek arguments

I'm always happy to offer help

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Lose the sense of entitlement: no one is compelled to give you anything, let alone a chance!

I find attitudes like yours off putting!

I'm not alone in meeting unverified people. Even with the "coveted" verification there's no guarantee you'll be balls deep in pum pum.

"Pum pum" is officially my new favourite phrase

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

get to a club/ social..i did before i joined fab..that's how i entered the scene..pretend you haven't got a profile on here..what would you do..you'd make the effort to be met...because of me taking a leap, when i joined i was verified within minutes, so can you be x

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Nobody owes you a first meet just because you think you deserve a chance.

Plenty of people will meet those without verifications anyway. How many have actually told you that's why they won't meet you? Or are you assuming that's the reason in a lot of cases?"

If I'd read this first I would have saved myself some typing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We don't meet people based on verifications. We used this site for ages having fun before we even bothered getting verified.

We are not hung up on verifications and they are not something at the forefront of our mind when planning who we meet. "
I think that's how it should be ,but I do understand people doing it,but everyone starts somewhere right x

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"snob is just a word ,im common as fuck do I take offence, the answers no far two much going on in the world .....but each to there own I learn from everything in life good and bad enjoy ya day all

Yes snob is just a word but it could be hurtful depending on the context in which its used, so I think the point being made around the word is just because you don't see it as offensive doesn't mean others won't so think before you speak or in this example before you type

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

I've personally met unverified members afterall everyone was new at some point but I will only meet them I'm they match what I'm looking for and I find them sexually attractive and that's not too much to ask

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Lose the sense of entitlement: no one is compelled to give you anything, let alone a chance!

I find attitudes like yours off putting!

I'm not alone in meeting unverified people. Even with the "coveted" verification there's no guarantee you'll be balls deep in pum pum.

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I deo think every one is taking the word snob completely wrong it did what iot was supposed too get people attention ,I no im not everyones cup of tea ,my argument is don't tar me as a timewaster because I cant get the chance to prove otherwise ,that's all x

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I do feel for single blokes who are newbies! It's gotta to be hard to get your foot on the first step of the ladder.

After all we were all new and unverified at some point!

Keep at it OP I'm sure that you'll get there in the end

Awwww we are just a pair of big softies

Speak for yourself bladey!

Hey we both know how hard this site can be... And we also know how the forums can work! Some will offer help, others will just look to try and belittle and seek arguments

I'm always happy to offer help

I'll offer help when it's asked for.

I feel for newbie men too but it vanishes pretty quickly when they start bitching about other people not giving them a chance and acting entitled.

The OP wasn't asking for help. He was just moaning about all the people with preferences that don't suit him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seven days and complaining already?

As Shag would normally say.....you need patience....then he would add a lol!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We attach the word 'snob' to lots of things like Wine, Music, Food ~ I don't think anything else was meant by it than simply that.

And yes OP it is hard to get the ball rolling without a veri but if you stick with it, get yourself out there & known it will happen.here here x

Some take offence at the smallest thing on the forums. Don't let it get to you OP."

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I've personally met unverified members afterall everyone was new at some point but I will only meet them I'm they match what I'm looking for and I find them sexually attractive and that's not too much to ask "

^ Same here.

I'll meet unverified men too but only if I'm attracted to them, just the same as for verified men.

I have found unverified men much more likely to vanish days, or even hours, before our agreed meet, with no word but I don't assume everyone will.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We don't meet people based on verifications. We used this site for ages having fun before we even bothered getting verified.

We are not hung up on verifications and they are not something at the forefront of our mind when planning who we meet. I think that's how it should be ,but I do understand people doing it,but everyone starts somewhere right x"

As the lovely Suzy says get yourself to a club or social. Networking like that will open a lot of doors on the scene for you.

It's only a few who see offence in everything so don't take too much heed.

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

Same here, on our old profile we met quite a few unverified single guys that met what we was looking at the time.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Lose the sense of entitlement: no one is compelled to give you anything, let alone a chance!

I find attitudes like yours off putting!

I'm not alone in meeting unverified people. Even with the "coveted" verification there's no guarantee you'll be balls deep in pum pum.

I deo think every one is taking the word snob completely wrong it did what iot was supposed too get people attention ,I no im not everyones cup of tea ,my argument is don't tar me as a timewaster because I cant get the chance to prove otherwise ,that's all x"

Yes OP you got attention but you unfortunately have got negative attention that's actually the opposite of what you desire if you want to meet successfully

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

give things a chance, you've only been a member 7 days. I have met guys who haven't been verified and been the first to veri them...and then they don't even bother to show it..

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

" I think that's how it should be ,but I do understand people doing it,but everyone starts somewhere right x"

that is right... but then, you can also help yourself to "help yourself"

so what are you doing to help yourself if it means that much to you?

what are you doing that is proactive???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just a thought OP, but given that you appear to be appealing to verified users to give you 'a chance' and meet with you, perhaps you could have given the thread a better title.

Essentially you are insulting the very people you are attempting to appeal to.

What I would say though is perhaps you should concentrate your efforts on those who do not insist on you being verified.

This is just the same as complaining about those who are looking for people taller than you, or younger than you, or older than you, or of a different ethnicity to you etc etc.

You are NEVER going to meet their requirements, so don't get so worked up about it.

Consider also that you have been here a grand total of 7 days. One week!

What did you think fab is, Instashag.com?

Most single guys wait around six months to get their first meet, so you really need to be more patient.

Concentrate on making your profile the best that it can possibly be and familiarise yourself with the site and get to know people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are going to a club Saturday come along and say hello and we will verify you

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By *kin BohnerMan over a year ago

derby

Thing is that just about every one overlooks is that a verification is meaningless. It's one persons opinion on another and has no bearing on what anyone else may think of them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get some cam veris to start with."

I wouldn't bother , they are a waste of time in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thing is that just about every one overlooks is that a verification is meaningless. It's one persons opinion on another and has no bearing on what anyone else may think of them. "

I don't think everyone overlooks your interpretation .

Many would disagree .

Others would see them as a guide to the type of fun they like .

And of course they show the person is genuine .

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Thing is that just about every one overlooks is that a verification is meaningless. It's one persons opinion on another and has no bearing on what anyone else may think of them. "

I don't care the wording of the verification I'm quite able of forming my own opinion of the person if/when I meet them, all it says to me is he meets up as arranged (well in theory it still isn't a guarantee he will show for our meet)

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Seven days and complaining already?

As Shag would normally say.....you need patience....then he would add a lol!"

i didn't even notice the OP had only been here 7 days and is already complaining... for all the shouts of "give me a chance".... it doesn't really scream time or patience... and an overinflated sense of expectation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get some cam veris to start with.

I wouldn't bother , they are a waste of time in my opinion "

Yes should be rid of ...just as they did with phone veris

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lose the sense of entitlement: no one is compelled to give you anything, let alone a chance!

I find attitudes like yours off putting!

I'm not alone in meeting unverified people. Even with the "coveted" verification there's no guarantee you'll be balls deep in pum pum.

Yes OP you got attention but you unfortunately have got negative attention that's actually the opposite of what you desire if you want to meet successfully "

Only from 2

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I admit, mens expectations when first joining the site does make me laugh.

It's like the women are meant to be so easy they will shag everyone that asks.

Welcome to the real world OP

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Lose the sense of entitlement: no one is compelled to give you anything, let alone a chance!

I find attitudes like yours off putting!

I'm not alone in meeting unverified people. Even with the "coveted" verification there's no guarantee you'll be balls deep in pum pum.

Yes OP you got attention but you unfortunately have got negative attention that's actually the opposite of what you desire if you want to meet successfully

Only from 2"

Read more than two people that find his "sense of entitlement" less than endearing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've met unverified men,after talking and deciding I want to meet them. I wouldn't meet someone who just wanted a verification to open doors to meet others.

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By *ilf61Man over a year ago

Taunton

Get yourself along to a local club and meet people there first, verifications will follow if you stick to the rules.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I do feel for single blokes who are newbies! It's gotta to be hard to get your foot on the first step of the ladder.

After all we were all new and unverified at some point!

Keep at it OP I'm sure that you'll get there in the end

Awwww we are just a pair of big softies

Speak for yourself bladey!

Hey we both know how hard this site can be... And we also know how the forums can work! Some will offer help, others will just look to try and belittle and seek arguments

I'm always happy to offer help

"
nice one ill take you up on that help im sure x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"get to a club/ social..i did before i joined fab..that's how i entered the scene..pretend you haven't got a profile on here..what would you do..you'd make the effort to be met...because of me taking a leap, when i joined i was verified within minutes, so can you be x

"
yeah cheers its something ill look into x

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By *estinysswingersCouple over a year ago

Worsley

Most of our verifications come from club meets which is a great place to start. Most of the people we know we met initially met at a club. Although you say you would meet people and not waste peoples time some people are not prepared to take that risk. Although verifications do not mean people are 100% genuine it helps people mitigate that risk of time wasting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would meet someone who hadn't been verified but this would be dependant on other factors, such as time on site, message, profile details etc.

And yeah, a weeks not very long, give it time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Someone gave me a chance when I first joined. As said above, get cam verified

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Lose the sense of entitlement: no one is compelled to give you anything, let alone a chance!

I find attitudes like yours off putting!

I'm not alone in meeting unverified people. Even with the "coveted" verification there's no guarantee you'll be balls deep in pum pum.

Yes OP you got attention but you unfortunately have got negative attention that's actually the opposite of what you desire if you want to meet successfully

Only from 2"
ha ha yes thanks for pointing that out only two have tried to jump all over me ,im man enough to take what ever ,just dust my shoulders off no drama x

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

Two separate profiles in two years, a verification within a week on both. It ain't so hard

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You've been here a mere 7 days, did you think it was instashag? You need to be patient I'm afraid, join in on the forums and in chat. Get along to a social near you and network. I would also suggest you tidy up your profile text, it's a difficult read.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

in all honesty cheers all some useful information ,some I agree with some I don't but that life ,but I will deffo take some hints going forward x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Two separate profiles in two years, a verification within a week on both. It ain't so hard

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piss off lol

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would meet someone who hadn't been verified but this would be dependant on other factors, such as time on site, message, profile details etc.

And yeah, a weeks not very long, give it time. "
im getting the feeling ya right x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I admit, mens expectations when first joining the site does make me laugh.

It's like the women are meant to be so easy they will shag everyone that asks.

Welcome to the real world OP

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

"Two separate profiles in two years, a verification within a week on both. It ain't so hard

piss off lol"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've met unverified men,after talking and deciding I want to meet them. I wouldn't meet someone who just wanted a verification to open doors to meet others."
I agree with you ,I don't want to be verified, my whole point was you shouldn't have to be, to be given a chance x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thing is that just about every one overlooks is that a verification is meaningless. It's one persons opinion on another and has no bearing on what anyone else may think of them. "

The purpose of verifications is to confirm that a person is genuine, and turns up for meets. It is not a rating and review system.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've met unverified men,after talking and deciding I want to meet them. I wouldn't meet someone who just wanted a verification to open doors to meet others.I agree with you ,I don't want to be verified, my whole point was you shouldn't have to be, to be given a chance x"

yes you do lol..

whether or not its liked or not liked..eventually getting a few verifies at least makes others think you will be likely to meet.

It's a system I really liked since I came from another site almost 10 years ago...

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Thing is that just about every one overlooks is that a verification is meaningless. It's one persons opinion on another and has no bearing on what anyone else may think of them.

The purpose of verifications is to confirm that a person is genuine, and turns up for meets. It is not a rating and review system."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes you do lol..

whether or not its liked or not liked..eventually getting a few verifies at least makes others think you will be likely to meet.

It's a system I really liked since I came from another site almost 10 years ago..."

It seems a lot of people won't meet unverified people. His question was valid and I didn't read it as him having a sense of entitlement.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thing is that just about every one overlooks is that a verification is meaningless. It's one persons opinion on another and has no bearing on what anyone else may think of them. "

I'll tell one of my latest friends that..she liked my verifications, they gave her an idea about what I'd be like..and it was about personality.

I hate the argument that verifications are meaningless..unfortunately its often spouted by people who do better on facebook

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of us will give unverified people a chance. Some may not be willing to take the risk. There are people here who don't want to meet and just want the talk,who will arrange a meet and not turn up. There are also people who are nothing like they say or show on their profile. Try a group social if all else fails

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes you do lol..

whether or not its liked or not liked..eventually getting a few verifies at least makes others think you will be likely to meet.

It's a system I really liked since I came from another site almost 10 years ago...

It seems a lot of people won't meet unverified people. His question was valid and I didn't read it as him having a sense of entitlement. "

I never said he felt a sense of entitlement..but he does want a veri lol..thats why I gave some ideas in ways people will meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

yes you do lol..

whether or not its liked or not liked..eventually getting a few verifies at least makes others think you will be likely to meet.

It's a system I really liked since I came from another site almost 10 years ago...

It seems a lot of people won't meet unverified people. His question was valid and I didn't read it as him having a sense of entitlement. "
thanks as that wasn't my argument at all x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go to some socials ( planned nights out with others on here,) you will get to meet have a good night maybe some fun and get lots of verifications x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

yes you do lol..

whether or not its liked or not liked..eventually getting a few verifies at least makes others think you will be likely to meet.

It's a system I really liked since I came from another site almost 10 years ago...

It seems a lot of people won't meet unverified people. His question was valid and I didn't read it as him having a sense of entitlement.

I never said he felt a sense of entitlement..but he does want a veri lol..thats why I gave some ideas in ways people will meet."
the whole argument was I don't want a very,but it seems like everyone I chatted to wanted me to have them ,but I no otherwise now from a few people on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes you do lol..

whether or not its liked or not liked..eventually getting a few verifies at least makes others think you will be likely to meet.

It's a system I really liked since I came from another site almost 10 years ago...

It seems a lot of people won't meet unverified people. His question was valid and I didn't read it as him having a sense of entitlement.

I never said he felt a sense of entitlement..but he does want a veri lol..thats why I gave some ideas in ways people will meet."

I know you didn't,others did. Without a verification some people won't even look at his message. I verified a few men who had no response for months,not long after they displayed more. It may have helped them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we meet a fem who we saw unverified - all in that situation at some point

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't just think that you can get verified by having meets, arrange to have a social with someone first. fabs not all about sex sex sex there is the other side of building up a social network but then I suppose it depends on what you are looking for. I've had some socials with people just to help them get verified and we are now just friends and not even played.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had no meets or a verifications for over a year. I've had two meets and 3 veris (1 cam) from the same person. No other interest at all. My veris have therefore made no difference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't just think that you can get verified by having meets, arrange to have a social with someone first. fabs not all about sex sex sex there is the other side of building up a social network but then I suppose it depends on what you are looking for. I've had some socials with people just to help them get verified and we are now just friends and not even played. "

That works for you. But I say the same back at you. Just because you like the social side doesn't mean everyone else does. As evidenced by the many posts I've seen saying so. We are all individuals on here. I went to a social at the end of July. Not a single veri. Do I care? Yes and no. I had a good night. But would have been nice to have some veris.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wasn't actually talking of a public social gathering but even just a drink in a pub or coffee shop. and no it doesn't work for everyone but op is saying about verification and I was giving my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Did you ask anyone to verify you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be fair OP, I can understand exactly why some people won't meet unverified users.

From my own experience, every single unverified user that I have arranged to meet has been a no-show.

I agree, that everyone starts off unverified. I was in a similar position myself when I first joined.

Something else that is currently working against you is how long you have been here.

This is why I said you need patience.

I have seen many people join the site and leave fairly quickly.

When others have become familiar with your username and your avatar over time, you will be regarded in a more positive light.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It seems to be the larger people on here that try and rule the roost when it comes to the forums!!

OP, we have all been where you are at one point! Even the people with loads of verifications!

Jazz up your profile a little, get along to a social/club

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

fab is whatever anyone wants it to be for us it is sex sex and sex only

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, it really is not down to verifications. It is not a magic key.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We attach the word 'snob' to lots of things like Wine, Music, Food ~ I don't think anything else was meant by it than simply that.

And yes OP it is hard to get the ball rolling without a veri but if you stick with it, get yourself out there & known it will happen.

Some take offence at the smallest thing on the forums. Don't let it get to you OP."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pack it in both of you, or god help me you'll both be going over my knee.

And if I start? I do love being put over a knee

Not mine you wont young lady.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Welcome to the forums, fab and the world of swing!

May I take the opportunity to suggest adding some more content to your profile?

Inject a little humour, as mentioned previously, be patient!

Be polite

Never expect, use the forum to raise awareness and show your personality.

In the mean time you could attend socials or a club.

I hope you find this helpful and I wish you a very enjoyable Fab experience

Good luck

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By *lackgrapeMan over a year ago

Purley

Parties and clubs are the way forward don't rely heavily on this site, its a good platform to get started.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go to a club OP

Nobody knows you're unverified there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP, it really is not down to verifications. It is not a magic key. "

It is a key that unlocks a filter that many have set

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lose the sense of entitlement: no one is compelled to give you anything, let alone a chance!

I find attitudes like yours off putting!

I'm not alone in meeting unverified people. Even with the "coveted" verification there's no guarantee you'll be balls deep in pum pum.

May I suggest that you invest in a dictionary. I suspect that once you have looked up the definition for the word 'snob' you may begin to understand why some people find it offensive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a single woman i would think twice about meeting a guy with no veris. Purely as an extra safety precaution. "Phew, well she made it home safely so probably not an axe murderer.." type of thing :D

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Lose the sense of entitlement: no one is compelled to give you anything, let alone a chance!

I find attitudes like yours off putting!

I'm not alone in meeting unverified people. Even with the "coveted" verification there's no guarantee you'll be balls deep in pum pum.

May I suggest that you invest in a dictionary. I suspect that once you have looked up the definition for the word 'snob' you may begin to understand why some people find it offensive.

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I suggest you don't suggest

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As a single woman i would think twice about meeting a guy with no veris. Purely as an extra safety precaution. "Phew, well she made it home safely so probably not an axe murderer.." type of thing :D"
yeah I do understand it but everyone here had to start with no veris ,im now 50/50 on it lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP,unfortunately you are a man. If you were a woman with just one pic of your arse,tits or knickers the invitations would come rolling in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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lol that is a shame after looking at your pics x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP,unfortunately you are a man. If you were a woman with just one pic of your arse,tits or knickers the invitations would come rolling in. "
ha ha I bet x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have met many times with newbies whom are not been veried and damm good it was too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It seems to be the larger people on here that try and rule the roost when it comes to the forums!!

OP, we have all been where you are at one point! Even the people with loads of verifications!

Jazz up your profile a little, get along to a social/club

"
cheers x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/ "

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP,unfortunately you are a man. If you were a woman with just one pic of your arse,tits or knickers the invitations would come rolling in. "

Tbh.....if you have a vag you don't need even need the above ^^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

Has he really managed to do that, I haven't read every comment but he certainly hasn't offended me......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Blimey this got blown right out of proportion

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

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seriously if admin find me offensive I will happily be removed , I have had loads of messages of people saying ignore the haters and you are the minority but your aloud your opinion as I am mine ,if admin read all messages im sure they will see I was attacked first am I bothered not in the slightest ,I take offence of your tone when suggesting im stupid and to buy a dictionary ,that's where im coming from ,its easy to have a opinion behind a computer ,I wud stand by mine in the real world ,but I will apolagise for any offence ,just different worlds I quess

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

seriously if admin find me offensive I will happily be removed , I have had loads of messages of people saying ignore the haters and you are the minority but your aloud your opinion as I am mine ,if admin read all messages im sure they will see I was attacked first am I bothered not in the slightest ,I take offence of your tone when suggesting im stupid and to buy a dictionary ,that's where im coming from ,its easy to have a opinion behind a computer ,I wud stand by mine in the real world ,but I will apolagise for any offence ,just different worlds I quess "

Chap you have not been rude. Some people need to have a look within themselves sometimes.

Welcome to the forums join in and ignore the negativity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

Has he really managed to do that, I haven't read every comment but he certainly hasn't offended me......"
people talking to me like im stupid that gets my back up and I will reply not everone likes me im cool with that wont lose any sleep ,I no what im about

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Blimey this got blown right out of proportion

"
oh my dayz

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

That doesn't actually work.

Our best veris have come from people under duress while they watch me sharpen my axe and while Mrs ddc whispers "if you say something really nice he sometimes lets people go"

Mr ddc

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

Not meaning to have a stir with the shit stick but l;

you do realise you could choose to rise above the negative comments and focus on the positive ones instead?

This way you come of looking like the bigger/better person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

Lol I've been here over 3 years,being on the forums for years doesn't give you automatic rights to be respected or listened to. I would say being on here has soured some of them and as some aren't actually meeting they haven't really been kept in the loop,so to speak. That's what I think anyway,but I'm only really here for the sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

Chap you have not been rude. Some people need to have a look within themselves sometimes.

Welcome to the forums join in and ignore the negativity. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

Chap you have not been rude. Some people need to have a look within themselves sometimes.

Welcome to the forums join in and ignore the negativity. "
cheers and I will lol phewwwwwww ha ha x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

Not meaning to have a stir with the shit stick but l;

you do realise you could choose to rise above the negative comments and focus on the positive ones instead?

This way you come of looking like the bigger/better person"

Seconded. Don't get drawn into arguments with people. You asked a question,focus on people trying to help you and answer your question. Not people who enjoy picking holes in people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

I never suggested for one moment that you are stupid. My 'dictionary' comment was in response to your comment about 'snob' being 'just a word'

All words have meanings. That was the point I was trying to make. But perhaps you can see the problem here. I did not intend to offend, but you have taken offence by my comments - and that is precisely the point some of us have been making. Sometimes we can offend unintentionally. We can either choose to apologise for any offence caused and learn from the experience or lash out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

Not meaning to have a stir with the shit stick but l;

you do realise you could choose to rise above the negative comments and focus on the positive ones instead?

This way you come of looking like the bigger/better person

Seconded. Don't get drawn into arguments with people. You asked a question,focus on people trying to help you and answer your question. Not people who enjoy picking holes in people. "
I will had loads of positive feedback all good

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

Has he really managed to do that, I haven't read every comment but he certainly hasn't offended me......people talking to me like im stupid that gets my back up and I will reply not everone likes me im cool with that wont lose any sleep ,I no what im about "

He suggested you look up the word snob, since you've declared several times it isn't an insult. Then you might realise why it's not a nice thing to call people just because they don't want to meet you.

You don't like what you have interpreted as someone calling you stupid but it's ok for you to call people snobs. Whatever.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

im done like I said learn from good and bad x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

Not meaning to have a stir with the shit stick but l;

you do realise you could choose to rise above the negative comments and focus on the positive ones instead?

This way you come of looking like the bigger/better person

Best to not react to negative remarks. Say thank you very much and leave them with no one to talk to. If you do stick around you get to know who to ignore

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

Not meaning to have a stir with the shit stick but l;

you do realise you could choose to rise above the negative comments and focus on the positive ones instead?

This way you come of looking like the bigger/better person

Best to not react to negative remarks. Say thank you very much and leave them with no one to talk to. If you do stick around you get to know who to ignore

"
I will take that approach from here on in x

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Be careful what you wish for. Look at my new one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

You don't like what you have interpreted as someone calling you stupid but it's ok for you to call people snobs. Whatever."

He wasn't personally calling anyone a snob though. I can see where he's coming from in calling people snobs. Calling someone stupid is far,far worse. IMO.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had some of my best meets with people who've not been verified."
shhhhh

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

You don't like what you have interpreted as someone calling you stupid but it's ok for you to call people snobs. Whatever.

He wasn't personally calling anyone a snob though. I can see where he's coming from in calling people snobs. Calling someone stupid is far,far worse. IMO. "
nice one for understanding what it ment ,but just leave it now far too much time wasted on it x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

why not try and get veriefied by cam as a start, and try not to be hung up on verifications as they say fuck all if you meet a hottie with none

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

OP if you report your own thread to admin they can close it for you otherwise it has the possibility to keep going for approx 175 posts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

You don't like what you have interpreted as someone calling you stupid but it's ok for you to call people snobs. Whatever."

The tone of the opening post is derisery to people having a preference that excludes the OP. How is that anything other than insulting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

He hasn't offended me either. In fact I've found some of the comments from some forum regulars more offensive in tone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

He hasn't offended me either. In fact I've found some of the comments from some forum regulars more offensive in tone."

Yup same! people getting offended over words on a screen that are not even personally directed. The same old yammering.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

You don't like what you have interpreted as someone calling you stupid but it's ok for you to call people snobs. Whatever.

He wasn't personally calling anyone a snob though. I can see where he's coming from in calling people snobs. Calling someone stupid is far,far worse. IMO. "

But nobody called him stupid. That was his interpretation of being told if he looked up the word snob he might see why some consider it an insult.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

He hasn't offended me either. In fact I've found some of the comments from some forum regulars more offensive in tone.

Yup same! people getting offended over words on a screen that are not even personally directed. The same old yammering. "

They don't have to be personally directed for someone to think they are out of order.

The OP started off negatively by calling anyone who won't meet him a snob. He was then surprised to get a negative response.

Like I said earlier, respect for other people's preferences is a fundamental in swinging. Calling people names because you don't like their preferences is unnecessary and disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

You don't like what you have interpreted as someone calling you stupid but it's ok for you to call people snobs. Whatever.

The tone of the opening post is derisery to people having a preference that excludes the OP. How is that anything other than insulting

I see his opening post as a newcomer asking a question, nothing more nothing less.

I've referred to people as 'wine snobs' before & I've been called it too so I fail to see the issue

Now if he had called everyone a c*nt for not wanting to verify him then I could see the issue..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

You don't like what you have interpreted as someone calling you stupid but it's ok for you to call people snobs. Whatever.

He wasn't personally calling anyone a snob though. I can see where he's coming from in calling people snobs. Calling someone stupid is far,far worse. IMO.

But nobody called him stupid. That was his interpretation of being told if he looked up the word snob he might see why some consider it an insult."

He didn't directly call him stupid but the tone of his comment implies it . All this fuss over such a trivial thing

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

You don't like what you have interpreted as someone calling you stupid but it's ok for you to call people snobs. Whatever.

He wasn't personally calling anyone a snob though. I can see where he's coming from in calling people snobs. Calling someone stupid is far,far worse. IMO.

But nobody called him stupid. That was his interpretation of being told if he looked up the word snob he might see why some consider it an insult."

Gotta agree with VV here and it emphasises my earlier comments made about how things that are said as an impact on how they were interpreted. The OP did outright call all verified users snobs, (even though I read it as it was a word used for attention grabbing purposes and not as an offence), whereas he wasn't outrightly called stupid (yet he responded to the dictionary comment IMO stupidly)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess I got too much awesome in my life to gnaw away at the little things on here. Can't see for the life of me how asking a clumsy question gets so much faux offence.

Play on players.........

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I suggest you don't suggest

^^^ very rude. Not sure the lack of veris are the problem :/

I would be inclined to agree.

OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site.

A good deal of them are the very people he needs to help with his dilemma.

He also needs to familiarise himself with site rules, particularly with regard to interacting with other users or he runs the risk of getting into trouble with admin.

You don't like what you have interpreted as someone calling you stupid but it's ok for you to call people snobs. Whatever.

He wasn't personally calling anyone a snob though. I can see where he's coming from in calling people snobs. Calling someone stupid is far,far worse. IMO.

But nobody called him stupid. That was his interpretation of being told if he looked up the word snob he might see why some consider it an insult.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I guess I got too much awesome in my life to gnaw away at the little things on here. Can't see for the life of me how asking a clumsy question gets so much faux offence.

Play on players........."

Oh to be a young, single guy eh? Get your bones picked clean

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I've no problem with anyone asking a question. If they ask reasonably and I have advice, I'll usually give it.

Kicking this off by being negative about people, and their preferences that he feels unfairly exclude him, is what made me respond negatively.

Even if it was said with the intention of getting people's attention, snob is a word with negative connotations.

Sure, the word can be used in terms of 'wine snob' or similar but that's usually something you say about yourself or those you know, not about a group of strangers when you're complaining they are unfairly excluding you and not giving you a chance.

Besides, as far as we know, the OP may be sending 17 photos of his cock with a 'fancy a fuck' first message. It may not be his lack of veris that is the problem.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

I think the OP got a very hard time over something of nothing. There was certainly no need to keep labouring a point for 175 posts or more.

Without reading the thread again I am not sure who wrote the quote from a post that I have copied just below but I think it needs to be picked up on.

"OP has been here 7 days and has already managed to successfully insult and offend many long term users of this site."

Being a long term user doesn't give anyone special rights over a newbie.

To the OP...welcome to the forum, please don't think you have to bow down to the "long term users" of the forum, you didn't offend or insult all people, it was just a couple of people but in the great scheme of things it doesn't matter as there are many other people on the site. I think you handled yourself well on this thread.

My opinion of your first post....some people meet unverified people some don't. If you accept that you will enjoy your time on the site better

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