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Not managing to stand out!

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi everyone. I'm pretty new on here and new to swinging. I'm on here as a single guy looking to explore and try new things sexually with like minded people. My profile isn't amazing no, but it isn't a half arsed attempt with a cock pic for a profile pic! I've been as honest as I can be but have had no luck what so ever. Can anyone tell me where I'm going wrong? I don't want to start bullshitting just to find someone! That's just not me :/ Any help will be greatly appreciated

thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

More photos, such as few cock pics, maybe fully nude pic and a few more torso shots

Write more about yourself. Things such as will you to socials, when can you meet, are you willing to travel, basically all points that are the usual questions

also, add more about what you are into. Are you into group meets, how do you feel about playing around other naked males, do you not like any activities,etc

Just finally, I honestly think most of my success has been down to being online at the right time. I have had last minute weekend meets with couples purely because I have a half decent profile and am verified and more importantly available to travel to them. So if you are serious maybe spend one friday or saturday online keeping an eye out for last minute meets ...you might do well

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks mate, appreciate it

I haven't gone into too much depth yet as I feel I'm still testing the water if you like. Still a 'meet Virgin' so kind of hard to know where to begin. Thanks for taking the time to reply, il work in those points over the next few days

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By *ohjaneCouple over a year ago

south staffs

You lost me completely by the use of the word "filthy".

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi everyone. I'm pretty new on here and new to swinging. I'm on here as a single guy looking to explore and try new things sexually with like minded people. My profile isn't amazing no, but it isn't a half arsed attempt with a cock pic for a profile pic! I've been as honest as I can be but have had no luck what so ever. Can anyone tell me where I'm going wrong? I don't want to start bullshitting just to find someone! That's just not me :/ Any help will be greatly appreciated

thanks "

I haven;t looked at your proifile but if you yourself think it isn;t amazing why do you think anyone else would be interested?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would pass right by your profile. One blurry torso pic is never going to get my attention. You need mire and better pics. Your text is also somewhat meaningless. There is no personality or fun in it.

Not trying to be harsh, but you come across as just another dude on fab. Nothing special. Make it special. Make me laugh if you're funny. Make it sensual if you are sensual. Make it erotic you are are erotic. Right now it's blah, and I wouldn't meet with blah if the next message in my inbox was clever/witty/intelligent/sensual/etc.

Hope that helps?

-Courtney

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By *ovely CummingsWoman over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

Forum post is longer than your profile, that's never a good thing

If you're going to describe yourself, maybe stick to things I can picture?

'not to shabby male'? What is that exactly? Doesn't tell me anything really, so from your profile I knew your tall and in your twenties....... Next!

'here to meet local people with similar interests'

How local is local for you? Are you happy to travel? How far if so? and what similar interests are we talking? Again, not really much info to go on

'I'm Sex mad '

I see this and wonder, does that mean you'll happily shag anything and anyone? Does it mean you're one of those that has a high sex drive and are continuously looking for the next shag as it's more fun than wanking?

'Looking for women and couples for filthy fun'

What's filthy fun to you? Might not be what I consider it to be, so again, doesn't really tell me much

Best way I've found to write a profile is to write something that I would be interested in reading. Have pics that id want to see.

For me, it's worked as I then meet the people I'm hoping to attract

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

......"My profile isn't amazing"...

Then why allow it to be shown? Why not take time to make it the best you can before you show it? Because a lousy profile on show will already have cost you in lost meets. A few more days might lose you more. No reason to put up barriers to meeting.

Explain more about what you want and what you have to offer.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

thanks "

You've answered your own question.

Your profile isn't amazing but the fact that you've excused it by saying 'well at least it's not half arsed...' just says to me you think you're better than those with half arsed profiles.

You get out what you put in and so far you've not put in very much. You need to make people want to approach you or respond to your approach. If you can't put any effort into your profile, what do you think people will assume you're going to put into a meeting?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As above.....but "looking to push boundaries "?

From where already and to what/how far?

Many here look for specifics.....While being so may eliminate some it will let "like minded people" know what you are after or in to. But be honest or you may end up in uncomfortable territory !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well, I did ask :/ Thanks guys, I'm open to criticism, it can only help me improve my profile and my chances of finding what I am looking for. Thank you all for takin the time to view and think about me and my profile. It's appreciated more than you think. Profile 2.0 will be on it's way shortly with all your tips and advice on board! Lesson learnt, thanks again. Mick

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Well, I did ask :/ Thanks guys, I'm open to criticism, it can only help me improve my profile and my chances of finding what I am looking for. Thank you all for takin the time to view and think about me and my profile. It's appreciated more than you think. Profile 2.0 will be on it's way shortly with all your tips and advice on board! Lesson learnt, thanks again. Mick "

Good work! A lot of people ignore the advice then pop up a month later and nothing has changed. It's worth a revamp if you really want to stick around and get something out of the site. Good luck

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

You might want to consider your name as well. You want to stand out from the crowd, but have called yourself Random Guy 17. At the moment, that is exactly what you are, and exactly the opposite of what you want to be.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

thanks "

I truely hope version 2 is better than version 1... because version 1 is poor... sorry, but it is!

your post here is the same length as your shop window to the world.... so why should someone say "oh my god i have to meet that person" over any of the other thousands of countless profiles out there.....

let me ask you a question, just to raise and prove a point...

if i was a person reading your profile (your shop window to the world)... how would I know that I was the right person for you???

the answer is... you wouldn't! you don't mention the type of person you are after at all!

all it is is actually a statement, a bland one, and then you are asking people to do there best mindreading...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yeah that's true, but that was the point of it. The whole 'talk dark and not too shabby' didn't want to seem a big headed pig thinking I'm mr handsome! And the name is meant to make you laugh, just another random guy! Guess not haha! Well il make a start tonight and hopefully get somewhere. First attempt at this... Failed! Thanks again.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Pretend you're a woman. Would you meet you?

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman over a year ago

Bathwyche

Id oveook you as you look like, in words i mean, a half arsed chancer

Ive been on off n back on fab for a year and found an honest profil is a good way to start. Sod what you think others want to hear i get fewer idiots messaging me with my profilethe way it is....

And if you want to meet people n get veris for who you are as a person, go to a club n be social! Ive found out there is more tothe lifestyle than a quick grope behind a shed with a random. What you put out is what u will get back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thanks "

Go find a decent club that accepts single guys. Do some research also and go with no preconceptions. It's not foolproof, but I've been very fortunate and met some lovely people both socially and sexually.Recommend it, but treat it as a social

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

thanks

I truely hope version 2 is better than version 1... because version 1 is poor... sorry, but it is!

let me ask you a question, just to raise and prove a point...

if i was a person reading your profile (your shop window to the world)... how would I know that I was the right person for you???

the answer is... you wouldn't! you don't mention the type of person you are after at all!

all it is is actually a statement, a bland one, and then you are asking people to do there best mindreading... "

I can't argue with that at all mate. You do make a good point. Like I said I'm no expert, this is a first for me, but you've certainly put it into perspective

you all have! Now piss off you nasty bastards!! Hahahaha just kidding

thanks a bunch. Now racking my brain far and wide! In the words of arnie 'I'll be back!'

Eeeeh you're not a bad bunch are ya

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

That's a good attitude.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"That's a good attitude.

This!

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