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Hi there. .
At odd times during my sexual life I have had a little bit of ED problems.
I have always been a little bit shy about it and felt a bit shame when it has happened.
These days I sometimes need a good sucking. .or a good wank for it to come to life
One of my favourite things is for my limp cock to be made hard inside a lovely ladies mouth. .
I do take the odd blue pill (but only on new meets/parties)
I find that if I am upfront with people about it, then less of a problem it becomes. .
I still sometimes feel a little bit 'less of a man' if I have to wank myself into a hard on. .
Just wondered if anybody else feels like this
Would be good to get both male and female perspective on this. .
Cheers
Michael |
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I think hearing and seeing a man wank is very sexy, especially with eye contact and with me touching myself too. I wouldn't be put off at all -and as for growing hard in my mouth.......yummy!
I wish more men would talk openly about Ed, blue pills give an artificial stamina that is unrealistic so there is danger of a vicious circle. M x |
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"Hi there. .
At odd times during my sexual life I have had a little bit of ED problems.
I have always been a little bit shy about it and felt a bit shame when it has happened.
These days I sometimes need a good sucking. .or a good wank for it to come to life
One of my favourite things is for my limp cock to be made hard inside a lovely ladies mouth. .
I do take the odd blue pill (but only on new meets/parties)
I find that if I am upfront with people about it, then less of a problem it becomes. .
I still sometimes feel a little bit 'less of a man' if I have to wank myself into a hard on. .
Just wondered if anybody else feels like this
Would be good to get both male and female perspective on this. .
Cheers
Michael "
I can totally relate to that Michael and have experienced the same feelings and ED occassionaly. My fav is having the lady suck me hard so sexy for both of us. Take the odd blue pill too but dont feel any less of a man for my experiences. The sexual pleasure is still very much there and enjoyed. |
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Sounds like Viagra isn't the best choice for you.
See your doc and tell him what's going on. Ask for cialis. It doesn't give you an erection, it just enables one easier. It'll be stronger and harder too. Much more natural feeling than Viagra. |
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I don't think it makes you less of a man at all, but I totally get that you might feel like that.
I think you are right when you say it is better if you are upfront as then the pressure is lifted off both partners as they know what to expect.
I personally find the idea of a guy wanking incredibly hot and would not be put off by that, i would happily watch and play at the same time  |
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By *ofUs4UCouple
over a year ago
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I had ED problems for years, a few visits to the doc's and a referral to a specialist. Nik and I discussed how this was affecting us as a couple and he prescribed cialis. WONDER DRUG our sex life improved so much and inspired us to swing. Michael if it wasn't for ED I doubt we would have met and we wouldn't have the fantastic fun with Nik that we had on Monday . See you soon P |
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"I think hearing and seeing a man wank is very sexy, especially with eye contact and with me touching myself too. I wouldn't be put off at all -and as for growing hard in my mouth.......yummy!
I wish more men would talk openly about Ed, blue pills give an artificial stamina that is unrealistic so there is danger of a vicious circle. M x"
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Wanking yourself can be part of the foreplay, lot's of women play with themselves for the guy to watch - you could turn it into something similar.
Might as well get yourself to the doctors in case something is wrong down there, if there isn't then at least he can reassure you everything is normal. |
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"I think hearing and seeing a man wank is very sexy, especially with eye contact and with me touching myself too. I wouldn't be put off at all -and as for growing hard in my mouth.......yummy!
I wish more men would talk openly about Ed, blue pills give an artificial stamina that is unrealistic so there is danger of a vicious circle. M x"
I agree about viagra in the artificial stamina stakes. .
When I take it I have no problems at all with an erection. (I only need around 25mg to secure a good one)
I have lovely regular girls that I see and a hard on with them is no problem (without v) sometimes stress/no money/kids etc tho can bring on ED (but I dare say all blokes come to that)
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I think one of the reasons why I am like this is a fair few years back I was seeing a girlfriend and ED arrived. .. She loved sex. .. So wasnt happy. .she wasnt sympathetic, turned her back to me a few times when I couldnt get hard. .
I did eventually go to the docs and he prescribed v for me and that was great. .
But I have always this fear of back turning and unsympathetic feelings. . 
But fantastic that sooo many ladies go with the flow. .are happy to discuss..
I do actually joke about it with some ladies. . You get the fucka hard and I will do anything you want me to do with it. . hehe |
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"I had ED problems for years, a few visits to the doc's and a referral to a specialist. Nik and I discussed how this was affecting us as a couple and he prescribed cialis. WONDER DRUG our sex life improved so much and inspired us to swing. Michael if it wasn't for ED I doubt we would have met and we wouldn't have the fantastic fun with Nik that we had on Monday . See you soon P"
Yeah Monday was great. .. .
I didnt need any V then. .
Was very very sexy. .
Did you see my post on crying Sex. .
Wow that was powerful. .
See you again soon P and N xx |
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By *ait88Man
over a year ago
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I’ve always thought it was all about libido. Sometimes I’m climbing the walls, other times I’m not interested. Just one of those “mood” things that will pass. Very occasionally, not even a BJ helps. Tended to happen sometimes in long-term relationships which become less sexually exciting as familiarity increases. Never bothered me enough to think about getting medical help. |
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"I’ve always thought it was all about libido. Sometimes I’m climbing the walls, other times I’m not interested. Just one of those “mood” things that will pass. Very occasionally, not even a BJ helps. Tended to happen sometimes in long-term relationships which become less sexually exciting as familiarity increases. Never bothered me enough to think about getting medical help. "
I have a very high libido and a good stamina rate too..but even then I need a hand. Hehe. . |
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"I think hearing and seeing a man wank is very sexy, especially with eye contact and with me touching myself too. I wouldn't be put off at all -and as for growing hard in my mouth.......yummy!
I wish more men would talk openly about Ed, blue pills give an artificial stamina that is unrealistic so there is danger of a vicious circle. M x
I agree about viagra in the artificial stamina stakes. .
When I take it I have no problems at all with an erection. (I only need around 25mg to secure a good one)
I have lovely regular girls that I see and a hard on with them is no problem (without v) sometimes stress/no money/kids etc tho can bring on ED (but I dare say all blokes come to that)
Michael x"
Agreed. Absolutely. Also the ambient temperature of the environment (if M too hot or too cold) as well, and even *too much* visual stimulation with lots of play going on can "overload" M and cause detumescence. M has considered Cialis as a possible aid to overcome performance anxiety but he knows that really it's about his own psychology and physiology. Strangely enough Crabbe's Alcoholic Ginger Beer seems to have some positive effects too. Advantage of that is it doesn't require a visit to the GP and is available without prescription.  |
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It wouldnt bother me. If I'm on a meet where no sex is involved just foreplay, I don't mind if the man wanks himself as I'm happy to suck him but I don't like cum in my mouth so he can cum through wanking
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Have suffered it occasionally and an unsympathetic partner tends to make the issue worse, not something I'd wish on anybody and I'm pretty sure if you've never suffered (Brewers droop aside) you'd not understand how bad it can make you feel |
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