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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing? "
You're here 3 weeks? I dunno really much about what it's like across the water but you don't sign up and instantly get meets, it takes a bit of time |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing? "
Look at a random selection of profiles.
Then look at their veris.
I suspect you will find many, many people who meet.
So that may give you the answer.
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"Neither.
Keep asking.
P.S. The Soldier thing always puts me off.
You don't get ..Hi a Baker here.
Hi a van driving man. Hi a Brickie here.
Why do soldiers do that ?"
Personally I'd never announce what I do for a living but some guys have slightly too much pride in what they do, that or they're hoping to use the uniform to get laid  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Neither.
Keep asking.
P.S. The Soldier thing always puts me off.
You don't get ..Hi a Baker here.
Hi a van driving man. Hi a Brickie here.
Why do soldiers do that ?"
Don't forget the fireman  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing? "
we are meeting 2 single fellas tonight - so yes there are some genuine people - but getting harder to find meets on here, we agree  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do it to hopefully gain attention after all I'm here to have fun not anything else "
Try stop being so desperate...you wouldnt do it in a club. Dony do it here |
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"Neither.
Keep asking.
P.S. The Soldier thing always puts me off.
You don't get ..Hi a Baker here.
Hi a van driving man. Hi a Brickie here.
Why do soldiers do that ?
Don't forget the fireman "
oooooooo Guess what ? They do it too.
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing?
You're here 3 weeks? I dunno really much about what it's like across the water but you don't sign up and instantly get meets, it takes a bit of time"
Yes seem some guys sign up here thinking its instashag.com |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing? "
I'm just HERE to correct the bad spelling and grammar |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I offended anyone just trying to get people's thoughts on this"
Wrong. Its just another in an endless procession of 'look at me' posts designed to drum up interest.
Yaaaaawwwwn. |
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"Sorry if I offended anyone just trying to get people's thoughts on this
Wrong. Its just another in an endless procession of 'look at me' posts designed to drum up interest.
Yaaaaawwwwn."
We guess that is just about spot on.
Especially the Yaaaaaawn!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing?
I'm just HERE to correct the bad spelling and grammar"
Are there.
It's always going to be difficult for single men here. I think many proceed with a slight misconception of what this site is. The sex is lovely of course, but there is so much more to be explored. You'll have to be patient and gently persistent. However if it's not working for you, maybe you're looking in the wrong place. |
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"Neither.
Keep asking.
P.S. The Soldier thing always puts me off.
You don't get ..Hi a Baker here.
Hi a van driving man. Hi a Brickie here.
Why do soldiers do that ?
Don't forget the fireman
oooooooo Guess what ? They do it too.
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They do that outside of fab though in everyday life. Teachers and doctors are the same. They always have to get it into a conversation. Not sure why they do that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it is getting harder & harder to find people genuinly wanting to meet tere is to many time wasters!!!"
I agree. ..had 3 guys turn me down yesterday for a meet ...all been chatting with for weeks! !!! |
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"it is getting harder & harder to find people genuinly wanting to meet tere is to many time wasters!!!
I agree. ..had 3 guys turn me down yesterday for a meet ...all been chatting with for weeks! !!! "
Are they mad??!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it is getting harder & harder to find people genuinly wanting to meet tere is to many time wasters!!!
I agree. ..had 3 guys turn me down yesterday for a meet ...all been chatting with for weeks! !!! "
Well ta feck with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing? "
Nah. We just like to wave. If you can't find a meet, consider why.i |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I last had sex in 1992 from here..but its been timewasters since, better off with facebook OP..really
92, what a year."
yup..and I have a half bottle of thunderbird to drink from then...its gonna taste so good, now its aged |
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"Neither.
Keep asking.
P.S. The Soldier thing always puts me off.
You don't get ..Hi a Baker here.
Hi a van driving man. Hi a Brickie here.
Why do soldiers do that ?
Don't forget the fireman
oooooooo Guess what ? They do it too.
They do that outside of fab though in everyday life. Teachers and doctors are the same. They always have to get it into a conversation. Not sure why they do that "
I never tell anyone I'm a Doctor. Say arrrrrrrrrr. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Neither.
Keep asking.
P.S. The Soldier thing always puts me off.
You don't get ..Hi a Baker here.
Hi a van driving man. Hi a Brickie here.
Why do soldiers do that ?
Don't forget the fireman
oooooooo Guess what ? They do it too.
They do that outside of fab though in everyday life. Teachers and doctors are the same. They always have to get it into a conversation. Not sure why they do that "
So what do you do lol  |
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing? "
when you signed up to this site did you realise that men outnumber the ladies 100-1
and you would be in competition with them all;
1-1/2 lines on your profile won't cut it.
what are your unique selling points(why a lady should pick you)and what can you do for the lady that others can't do ?
aim your profile a pleasing the ladies.
What you like to do can be covered at the end and brought up when you are chatting to them as once you get a meet you will find most of your wishes will happen.
The most important part is to make the lady feel special.
I hope this helps and you don't take it the wrong way, as this was my strategy when I was a single on here and found it did work.
any way good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its just that a lot of people on here like to have a moan about nothing or are arrogant even when you just send a friendly message. seems like it's hard work to be pleasant on here for some people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I offended anyone just trying to get people's thoughts on this"
Did your mates down the pub tell you this site was full of easy women that are desperate for a fuck? Unfortunately that's not true. Read the forums. Find out what swinging is.
Many people do want just a shag. Many want socials and friendship. ...And everything in between.
None of those things are wrong. Just figure out which you prefer and find people the same as you.
Good luck.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I offended anyone just trying to get people's thoughts on this
Did your mates down the pub tell you this site was full of easy women that are desperate for a fuck? Unfortunately that's not true. Read the forums. Find out what swinging is.
Many people do want just a shag. Many want socials and friendship. ...And everything in between.
None of those things are wrong. Just figure out which you prefer and find people the same as you.
Good luck. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah,I just come on to wank over pics n troll the forums...
All my veris are from an alternate universe where an alternate version of my good self gets semi regular sex...the lucky devil!
Seriously though,patience n perseverance is key.
Good luck n keep on truckin' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I offended anyone just trying to get people's thoughts on this
You won't have offended anyone. Most get uppity who ever speaks."
Like bloody thirsty wolves. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Sometimes I log on to Fab to arrange a meet, sometimes I log on to Fab to read the forums. Depends how I feel.
Time wasters are people who arrange a meet then don't turn up. If you're already logged into Fab then how can your time be wasted more? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Neither.
Keep asking.
P.S. The Soldier thing always puts me off.
You don't get ..Hi a Baker here.
Hi a van driving man. Hi a Brickie here.
Why do soldiers do that ?
Don't forget the fireman "
Or policemen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I offended anyone just trying to get people's thoughts on this
Wrong. Its just another in an endless procession of 'look at me' posts designed to drum up interest.
Yaaaaawwwwn."
Either that or its a 'ive bombarded every female in a 50 mile radius and they all think im a twat so now im crying on the forum' thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I log on to Fab to arrange a meet, sometimes I log on to Fab to read the forums. Depends how I feel.
Time wasters are people who arrange a meet then don't turn up. If you're already logged into Fab then how can your time be wasted more?"
i have chatted to a few women on here and two of them wanted to meet i gave the second the benefit of the dout but whan she asked to meet at a certain bar in manchester that i know for a fact you have to book A MONTH advance . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing? "
I would mate, but I've just had a pizza, sorry.  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I log on to Fab to arrange a meet, sometimes I log on to Fab to read the forums. Depends how I feel.
Time wasters are people who arrange a meet then don't turn up. If you're already logged into Fab then how can your time be wasted more? i have chatted to a few women on here and two of them wanted to meet i gave the second the benefit of the dout but whan she asked to meet at a certain bar in manchester that i know for a fact you have to book A MONTH advance ."
So you chose not to meet her. How did that waste any more of your time? Sure, you could have been making arrangements with a, shall we say, more plausible female. But you were already on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I log on to Fab to arrange a meet, sometimes I log on to Fab to read the forums. Depends how I feel.
Time wasters are people who arrange a meet then don't turn up. If you're already logged into Fab then how can your time be wasted more? i have chatted to a few women on here and two of them wanted to meet i gave the second the benefit of the dout but whan she asked to meet at a certain bar in manchester that i know for a fact you have to book A MONTH advance ."
You have to book a month in advance to go in for a drink? That's a busy bar  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I log on to Fab to arrange a meet, sometimes I log on to Fab to read the forums. Depends how I feel.
Time wasters are people who arrange a meet then don't turn up. If you're already logged into Fab then how can your time be wasted more? i have chatted to a few women on here and two of them wanted to meet i gave the second the benefit of the dout but whan she asked to meet at a certain bar in manchester that i know for a fact you have to book A MONTH advance .
You have to book a month in advance to go in for a drink? That's a busy bar "
Sounds like a place to avoid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a couple of female friends who use this and the feedback is usually that they get so many messages they just automatically delete anyone with no photos, people who are mono syllabic , people who use 'babe' or 'hun' a lot or guys who take cock pics with the flash on and generally lack a sense of aesthetics.
Iv only met 3 girls from here but had better luck on fetlife for my tastes.
You will notice a lot of women have angry sounding profiles on here. Its frustrating for them for obvious reasons.
But most of all, no one likes a moaning mini.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sometimes I log on to Fab to arrange a meet, sometimes I log on to Fab to read the forums. Depends how I feel.
Time wasters are people who arrange a meet then don't turn up. If you're already logged into Fab then how can your time be wasted more? i have chatted to a few women on here and two of them wanted to meet i gave the second the benefit of the dout but whan she asked to meet at a certain bar in manchester that i know for a fact you have to book A MONTH advance ."
So Either she was messing you.
Or, she had already booked, been let down by other person and so was looking for the +1?
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"Neither.
Keep asking.
P.S. The Soldier thing always puts me off.
You don't get ..Hi a Baker here.
Hi a van driving man. Hi a Brickie here.
Why do soldiers do that ?
Don't forget the fireman
oooooooo Guess what ? They do it too.
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I have never had a Hi I'm a traffic warden though |
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing? "
. Yes. I had three meets last week ,but not from this site . Two are long term regulars and I also turned down two regulars because I was in Ireland at the weekend .
However to obtain meets you have to have an interesting and detailed profile plus good pictures ..You really have to make the effort to market yourself and identify your unique selling points .
I did a thread a short time ago asking members to identify their 15 unique selling points . All those who replied had interesting detailed profiles and good pictures . A profile which states that you are male and looking for sex will not get anyone very far on this site . |
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"Neither.
Keep asking.
P.S. The Soldier thing always puts me off.
You don't get ..Hi a Baker here.
Hi a van driving man. Hi a Brickie here.
Why do soldiers do that ?
Don't forget the fireman
oooooooo Guess what ? They do it too.
They do that outside of fab though in everyday life. Teachers and doctors are the same. They always have to get it into a conversation. Not sure why they do that
So what do you do lol "
I'm a gynecologist |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I joined to find out what the fuss was about after my first club experience, I'm here to get some, but sending messages out all over the place doesn't work for me, so I just post where I'm gonna be and when |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing? "
This is a swinging site NOT a sex site, there is a difference.
A well written profile and interesting messages will get you much further than a 'poor me' post.
Socials, clubs etc are good places to start, it's not instashag |
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing?
This is a swinging site NOT a sex site, there is a difference.
A well written profile and interesting messages will get you much further than a 'poor me' post.
Socials, clubs etc are good places to start, it's not instashag"
This
But try telling it to the guys who get abusive when they get rejected  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that your list of interests is too long. As a single what are you offering to swap? If the answer is nothing then why have swaps on the list? The fisting might put people off too, we wouldn't meet anyone who wants that. There's a few more too, are you really interested in them or did you get tick happy? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots meet......... But if you want advice then look at:
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(A) loads of other similar posts on this kind of topic
(B) your own rather brief profile....it is your advert. Your "hook". The way you sell yourself.
If your profile is do short....then you are selling yourself short.
Also remember this is a swinging site....it is about lifestyle....it isn't "instashag " |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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Some people struggle to get meets on here, others dont. I think there are a large numbers of factors that come into play, but your biggest one is probably going to be the fact that you are a single guy.
As you are in the military, you are also literally surrounded by hundreds of other single guys, of a similar age to yourself, which is going to make it even tougher for you to stand out from the crowd. There are only so many women in your local area who are wanting to play. |
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing?
when you signed up to this site did you realise that men outnumber the ladies 100-1
and you would be in competition with them all;
1-1/2 lines on your profile won't cut it.
what are your unique selling points(why a lady should pick you)and what can you do for the lady that others can't do ?
aim your profile a pleasing the ladies.
What you like to do can be covered at the end and brought up when you are chatting to them as once you get a meet you will find most of your wishes will happen.
The most important part is to make the lady feel special.
I hope this helps and you don't take it the wrong way, as this was my strategy when I was a single on here and found it did work.
any way good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I offended anyone just trying to get people's thoughts on this
Wrong. Its just another in an endless procession of 'look at me' posts designed to drum up interest.
Yaaaaawwwwn.
Either that or its a 'ive bombarded every female in a 50 mile radius and they all think im a twat so now im crying on the forum' thread"
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"Sorry if I offended anyone just trying to get people's thoughts on this
Wrong. Its just another in an endless procession of 'look at me' posts designed to drum up interest.
Yaaaaawwwwn.
Either that or its a 'ive bombarded every female in a 50 mile radius and they all think im a twat so now im crying on the forum' thread "
The thing is, the status with "...need to find a meet" isn't going help.
Keep up the good work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dude some of the comments made towards you are a bit harsh but it's only because these questions get asked a lot and for long term members it gets a bit annoying. Don't take it personally and have patience. |
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You've only been here 3 weeks lol. Posts like this certainly won't help your chances of finding a meet.
My advice just relax, get involved in the forums, try to get to social events when you see them advertised and most of all be yourself. Guaranteed that will help you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find myself having trouble finding a meet is there too many time wasters or is it me that's not appealing? "
This is described as a swingers site not a casual meets site, even if that's how some people use it.
You may have unrealistic expectations, but these threads rarely go well for the op. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try tinder. Much better and more to the point imo
Tinder has become a dating app in the states
wasn't it always a dating app?"
Tinder was created to be a quick hook up app by location. When it started it was great. If someone was online close by , you could meet at a bar or invite them over and have crazy sex all night . It was a little safer due to them verifying you through Facebook.
Now people on tinder want to meet during the day for lunch or really want to date. 5 of my friends in long term relationships have all met on tinder |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try tinder. Much better and more to the point imo
Tinder has become a dating app in the states
wasn't it always a dating app?
Tinder was created to be a quick hook up app by location. When it started it was great. If someone was online close by , you could meet at a bar or invite them over and have crazy sex all night . It was a little safer due to them verifying you through Facebook.
Now people on tinder want to meet during the day for lunch or really want to date. 5 of my friends in long term relationships have all met on tinder "
Thanks for that |
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By *sontopMan
over a year ago
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Hi I'm a single 50y old male and have been on here for 2 months I've had 2 meets with wonderful couples
You could try removing your age limits on meets
Just be patient it will happen when you least expect it |
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