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"OP. As you well know, there are many here looking for black (or whatever is politically acceptable at the moment) cock. May I be controversial and suggest that it is you raising the race card here?" Was thinking that myself  | |||
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"i have 3 carefully chose and thought out words for you..... speak for yourself " | |||
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"Move to the UK! That's all! " What's a bwoy? | |||
Not that I buy into that stereotype. But it made me laugh. | |||
"Do we in the UK have a corresponding term to AA? I think as far as I know we say black apart from the tick boxes on forms where they like you to be specific. Anyone born here is called British. I've never heard anyone say Black British or African British. I'm just wondering out loud. " I've wondered that too. I think that, maybe, British people don't try so hard to be PC that they keep inventing new names for people. I could be wrong. We're starting to say "black" more here too. I've never been to Africa, nor do I know any of my African heritage. I'm about as African as my Norwegian wife. Lol. I'm just black. | |||
"Personally, I think it's just as bad, no matter what race you put under "please, no ___" but it seems kind of oddly specific to point out race like that at all. I'd think it would be something to take on a case by case basis. We don't really enjoy the thought of passing with heavier gentlemen, (try getting away from that in the U.S.) but even then, if someone came along that we liked, we wouldn't mind. Meh. I just had to rant for a minute. The fact is, I've had that happen a few times recently and it was just bugging me that it was always that same thing. On a positive note: one girl that said she wouldn't sleep with black men, said it was because the only black guy she had slept with had a dick that was just way too big
Not that I buy into that stereotype. But it made me laugh."I wouldn't invest any money into it if I were you
Have you ever seen a race of people you aren't attracted to? Inuits maybe? If you were constantly messaged by Inuit people you may decide to give them a heads up and say sorry but we are not attracted to Eskimos. Some people don't find people of a different race attractive and say so. It may save those people the bother of messaging | |||
"Do we in the UK have a corresponding term to AA? I think as far as I know we say black apart from the tick boxes on forms where they like you to be specific. Anyone born here is called British. I've never heard anyone say Black British or African British. I'm just wondering out loud. I've wondered that too. I think that, maybe, British people don't try so hard to be PC that they keep inventing new names for people. I could be wrong. We're starting to say "black" more here too. I've never been to Africa, nor do I know any of my African heritage. I'm about as African as my Norwegian wife. Lol. I'm just black. " Who invents the terms we use? I've been messaged by "chocolate" men and BBCs on here. Some usernames have certain words in that black people use to identify themselves. | |||
"Do we in the UK have a corresponding term to AA? I think as far as I know we say black apart from the tick boxes on forms where they like you to be specific. Anyone born here is called British. I've never heard anyone say Black British or African British. I'm just wondering out loud. I've wondered that too. I think that, maybe, British people don't try so hard to be PC that they keep inventing new names for people. I could be wrong. We're starting to say "black" more here too. I've never been to Africa, nor do I know any of my African heritage. I'm about as African as my Norwegian wife. Lol. I'm just black. Who invents the terms we use? I've been messaged by "chocolate" men and BBCs on here. Some usernames have certain words in that black people use to identify themselves. " I don't mean that you do invent new words. I meant that you don't. In America, we're always hopping from one foot to the next inventing new, more PC sounding names for people. The new name usually ends up being more insulting than the old one. Lol | |||
"Being a black swinger, I have been subjected to one very strange type of treatment that I just don't understand. People who say, very specifically, might I add, that they don't want anything to do with black men. Or, as many people put it "AA" which means African Americans. I just don't get it. Is it the thug image? Because every race has their own group of classless, violent people. It can't be just that. And it can't be the skin color, because, here in America, we have Hispanic and Latino people. Which span every skin color from pale white to deep black, and I see no one complaining about them. It's not education or professionalism, because I know too many doctorate holding, highly professional black people personally and we're all over TV and movies too. Hell, I'm nothing special, but even I have a 134 IQ. It's nothing superhuman, but I'm not an idiot. So, what is it? What is so bad about black people, especially black American men that turns people off? I doubt I've ever seen a profile that specifically states "NO WHITE MEN". But I have seen "NO BLACK MEN" or "please no African Americans" on people's profiles all over the place. Including here on fab. I don't like to pull the race card...but I mean.... Isn't that crap kinda racist? Maybe y'all could help me out. I mean, I get plenty of play. Don't get me wrong. I've stacked the deck in my favor by working out, studying, and getting money. So, I'm good. I really am. Just curious. A tiny bit disappointed, but mostly curious." | |||
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"Do we in the UK have a corresponding term to AA? I think as far as I know we say black apart from the tick boxes on forms where they like you to be specific. Anyone born here is called British. I've never heard anyone say Black British or African British. I'm just wondering out loud. I've wondered that too. I think that, maybe, British people don't try so hard to be PC that they keep inventing new names for people. I could be wrong. We're starting to say "black" more here too. I've never been to Africa, nor do I know any of my African heritage. I'm about as African as my Norwegian wife. Lol. I'm just black. Who invents the terms we use? I've been messaged by "chocolate" men and BBCs on here. Some usernames have certain words in that black people use to identify themselves. I don't mean that you do invent new words. I meant that you don't. In America, we're always hopping from one foot to the next inventing new, more PC sounding names for people. The new name usually ends up being more insulting than the old one. Lol" Is this where Don King pops up and says "Only in America!"? | |||
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"I have a white South African friend, i always wonder what she would be called if she became an American. Would she be an African American?" She'd be more African-American than I am. That's for sure! | |||
"I have a white South African friend, i always wonder what she would be called if she became an American. Would she be an African American? She'd be more African-American than I am. That's for sure!" And what about actual people born in Africa that are just working there or visiting, that are not American citizens? Are they African Africans? | |||
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"We do not play with white people, and have had "NO WHITE PEOPLE" on our profile before but only got abuse, wouldn't say it's racist just A gas her preferences" Welcome to fab, the place where your supposedly liberating preferences are abused by someone or another!! It's not racist at all.. | |||
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"You can't be looking that hard, there are many many profiles on here that state "no white men, black only" Just relax and enjoy, people are entitled to their own tastes, it's not a racist thing." this | |||
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"I guess its personal taste, my gf doesn't fancy black man, neither does she like ginger guys, bushy beards, fat guys or small cocks. Nothing to do with being racist or thinking every black guys is a gangster. As people have pointed out there's loads more profiles saying black men only or BBC than those saying no blacks. As far as iam aware its not yet become compulsory." There are a lot of profiles with whites only. On one day l read 6 random profiles in a row of women which said white men only. I can only say from my experience that it appears to me that there are more that say whites only. It is just not as noticeable for some people as a profile with BBC. | |||
"Being a black swinger, I have been subjected to one very strange type of treatment that I just don't understand. People who say, very specifically, might I add, that they don't want anything to do with black men. Or, as many people put it "AA" which means African Americans. I just don't get it. Is it the thug image? Because every race has their own group of classless, violent people. It can't be just that. And it can't be the skin color, because, here in America, we have Hispanic and Latino people. Which span every skin color from pale white to deep black, and I see no one complaining about them. It's not education or professionalism, because I know too many doctorate holding, highly professional black people personally and we're all over TV and movies too. Hell, I'm nothing special, but even I have a 134 IQ. It's nothing superhuman, but I'm not an idiot. So, what is it? What is so bad about black people, especially black American men that turns people off? I doubt I've ever seen a profile that specifically states "NO WHITE MEN". But I have seen "NO BLACK MEN" or "please no African Americans" on people's profiles all over the place. Including here on fab. I don't like to pull the race card...but I mean.... Isn't that crap kinda racist? Maybe y'all could help me out. I mean, I get plenty of play. Don't get me wrong. I've stacked the deck in my favor by working out, studying, and getting money. So, I'm good. I really am. Just curious. A tiny bit disappointed, but mostly curious." Lol why does that,"don't like to pull the race card"quote, always come,just before someone pulls the race card. Your most likely shagging more than most white guys on here,and yet you think you deserve more. Get me some of that same kind of racism brother. | |||
"Being a black swinger, I have been subjected to one very strange type of treatment that I just don't understand. People who say, very specifically, might I add, that they don't want anything to do with black men. Or, as many people put it "AA" which means African Americans. I just don't get it. Is it the thug image? Because every race has their own group of classless, violent people. It can't be just that. And it can't be the skin color, because, here in America, we have Hispanic and Latino people. Which span every skin color from pale white to deep black, and I see no one complaining about them. It's not education or professionalism, because I know too many doctorate holding, highly professional black people personally and we're all over TV and movies too. Hell, I'm nothing special, but even I have a 134 IQ. It's nothing superhuman, but I'm not an idiot. So, what is it? What is so bad about black people, especially black American men that turns people off? I doubt I've ever seen a profile that specifically states "NO WHITE MEN". But I have seen "NO BLACK MEN" or "please no African Americans" on people's profiles all over the place. Including here on fab. I don't like to pull the race card...but I mean.... Isn't that crap kinda racist? Maybe y'all could help me out. I mean, I get plenty of play. Don't get me wrong. I've stacked the deck in my favor by working out, studying, and getting money. So, I'm good. I really am. Just curious. A tiny bit disappointed, but mostly curious." Who gives a shit? | |||
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"Let me see, OP. You're straight, you say? Isn't that sexist or discrimination against gay or bi-men that might want to meet you? What's that? You aren't attracted to men? How can you know? Surely it should be on a case by case basis? We're all wired however we're wired and we're attracted to whomever we're attracted to. Nobody likes to be excluded but it's not discrimination to have sexual preferences. That's why you're allowed to define yourself as straight without being accused of discrimination. I'm not often attracted to black guys, at least based on their looks and a profile on here. If I got to know them, maybe there would be an attraction. But this isn't a place for getting to know people in great depth prior to meeting. Because I am occasionally attracted to black men, I do take it on a case by case basis. I have never yet been attracted to a man of Indian subcontinent descent or appearance so my profile says I'm not interested in meeting them. Yes, I may miss out on a few that I do fancy, but the balance of probabilities, based on experience, is that I won't fancy them. Therefore I'd rather prioritise people I am more likely to be attracted to. It also avoids the high risk of meeting and me having to say, 'sorry but there's no spark'. So, when you change your status to bisexual and start considering ever man that contacts you on a case by case basis, I'll do the same for Asians. Deal?" Well said..bet he feels like a fool for even posting this up | |||
"Let me see, OP. You're straight, you say? Isn't that sexist or discrimination against gay or bi-men that might want to meet you? What's that? You aren't attracted to men? How can you know? Surely it should be on a case by case basis? We're all wired however we're wired and we're attracted to whomever we're attracted to. Nobody likes to be excluded but it's not discrimination to have sexual preferences. That's why you're allowed to define yourself as straight without being accused of discrimination. I'm not often attracted to black guys, at least based on their looks and a profile on here. If I got to know them, maybe there would be an attraction. But this isn't a place for getting to know people in great depth prior to meeting. Because I am occasionally attracted to black men, I do take it on a case by case basis. I have never yet been attracted to a man of Indian subcontinent descent or appearance so my profile says I'm not interested in meeting them. Yes, I may miss out on a few that I do fancy, but the balance of probabilities, based on experience, is that I won't fancy them. Therefore I'd rather prioritise people I am more likely to be attracted to. It also avoids the high risk of meeting and me having to say, 'sorry but there's no spark'. So, when you change your status to bisexual and start considering ever man that contacts you on a case by case basis, I'll do the same for Asians. Deal?" so op must be homophobic , I can't believe in this day and age , someone is refusing to have sex with someone just because of their sexuality | |||
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"There are so many profiles on here only looking for black guys.. When I was on here as a couple our profile stated black guys only (that was our thing) white guys didn't pull the racist card on us...because...it's personal preferance. ..." When I was meeting guys alone, before meeting my partner here, I had no end of abuse from white guys when I said my preference was for black guys .... we are as good, do you only duck monkeys, etc., quite disgusting really, considering I have mixed race children, to think that people think of them like that ... but of course, I know it happens. I have said before that often the language used on profiles can be inflammatory, and harks back to the segregationalist language used in the USA or South African, or even the NO Irish, No Dogs, No Blacks from last century in the UK .... I feel people should take responsibility for the power of the language they use and what their choices are instigating ... you can express your sexual preferences in a different and more positive way, surely? | |||
"I think that the op is being a little disingenuous here. He claims to come from the US, historically one of the most racist countries in the world. You only have to turn on the TV at the moment, and this is in the UK, to hear what seems like yet another story about the police killing an unarmed black man. The awful incident we saw in charlstown where black church goers were murdered in cold blood, while they worshiped, in Church. The list goes on and on. So to come on here and effectivley start a thread with the premise of, "Somebody, somewhere said something racist on the internet. I'm so offended." I really don't follow. He could be suggesting that because of swingers open minded attitudes towards certain subjects, He believed them to be so liberally intelligent and without prejudice, to the man and without exception, that the chance of someone being both a swinger and a racist was next to impossible. Imagine his suprise when the very next day when he when onto FS and found one almost straight away. Sniff, sniff, Nah. "I'm a black woman and I thought exactly this! | |||
"One thing I found odd, even strange is the fact that, if I spoke to a elder person, and asked them is a spade a black racial slur? I get the answer yes, yet these days people have black spades tattooed on women to signify their so called love for black men, yet not one of them date, nor get into relationships with black people... hmmm... my black activist speaking here, but the history is deep enough... " i have no tattoos and I was married to a man of African origin for 13 years. What do you make of this? | |||
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"people always find a way to complain about the things that exclude them.... and use to to blame everything for their woes... "oh but its everyone elses fault.... those mean nasty pastys!!! I am completely blameless and it was beyond my control!" complete copout!!! i don't see the current fixation of trying to convert people to something they are not interested in.... as opposed to spend that time and energy making yourself not worth passing up to those who would be interested.... chip on shoulder...... people are happy to play the game and play up the game when it goes in their favour.... but quick to play the race card when it doesn't.... oh that double edged sword eh...... " Well you have been verified by 129 people it's certainly not your looks drawing them in Must be the same thing I always say women don't care what you look like wether your clever or rich or even how you dress its personality nothing else , If more guys realised they too could have 100 plus meets if they worked on their personality and stopped whinging the forums would be very quiet But most importantly they should listen to guys like you and what you say | |||
"Let me see, OP. You're straight, you say? Isn't that sexist or discrimination against gay or bi-men that might want to meet you? What's that? You aren't attracted to men? How can you know? Surely it should be on a case by case basis? We're all wired however we're wired and we're attracted to whomever we're attracted to. Nobody likes to be excluded but it's not discrimination to have sexual preferences. That's why you're allowed to define yourself as straight without being accused of discrimination. I'm not often attracted to black guys, at least based on their looks and a profile on here. If I got to know them, maybe there would be an attraction. But this isn't a place for getting to know people in great depth prior to meeting. Because I am occasionally attracted to black men, I do take it on a case by case basis. I have never yet been attracted to a man of Indian subcontinent descent or appearance so my profile says I'm not interested in meeting them. Yes, I may miss out on a few that I do fancy, but the balance of probabilities, based on experience, is that I won't fancy them. Therefore I'd rather prioritise people I am more likely to be attracted to. It also avoids the high risk of meeting and me having to say, 'sorry but there's no spark'. So, when you change your status to bisexual and start considering ever man that contacts you on a case by case basis, I'll do the same for Asians. Deal?" I am sorry really disagree with this agreement in terms of gender preference because if you follow your logic then gay men who dont sleep with women are mysogenitic and lesbians are men haters. If we accept that gay choices are innate l am puzzled why being straight is is not nnate. Certainly there is the argument that sexuality is a spectrum but if gay people can be one end of the spectrum then being straight can be one end of the spectrum. I also disagree about people complaining about the use of the so called race card. Racism exists and it is not myth as is sexism. A lot of our preferences are not hot wired but cultural and social extensions we do not spend the time to analyse the origin and just say that is the way I am made. Personally whenever anyone says that is they way things are l disagree my reaction is why. Challenging lazy preconceptions is the duty of right thinking people. That being said l accept that once society dictates who anyone sleeps with or forms a relationship it is a slippery slope. It is not too long ago that america revoked its interracial sex laws. I always remember seeing a picture from the second world war of a German women whose head had been shaved and she was wearing a placard saying "I am a swine for sleeping with a jew." The concern when people say 'whites only' is the history of white supremacy. The blacks only does not have such a powerful or corrosive history. Sorry for the rant but different discrimination comes from different history and circumstances. I | |||
"people always find a way to complain about the things that exclude them.... and use to to blame everything for their woes... "oh but its everyone elses fault.... those mean nasty pastys!!! I am completely blameless and it was beyond my control!" complete copout!!! i don't see the current fixation of trying to convert people to something they are not interested in.... as opposed to spend that time and energy making yourself not worth passing up to those who would be interested.... chip on shoulder...... people are happy to play the game and play up the game when it goes in their favour.... but quick to play the race card when it doesn't.... oh that double edged sword eh...... " Why is referred to as a 'race card'? Suggests that it's some sort of advantage (a hand or 'get out of jail card') that you play when things gets difficult. Also, strange that it often used in reference to groups where no such advantage exists! | |||
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"Being a black swinger, I have been subjected to one very strange type of treatment that I just don't understand. People who say, very specifically, might I add, that they don't want anything to do with black men. Or, as many people put it "AA" which means African Americans. I just don't get it. Is it the thug image? Because every race has their own group of classless, violent people. It can't be just that. And it can't be the skin color, because, here in America, we have Hispanic and Latino people. Which span every skin color from pale white to deep black, and I see no one complaining about them. It's not education or professionalism, because I know too many doctorate holding, highly professional black people personally and we're all over TV and movies too. Hell, I'm nothing special, but even I have a 134 IQ. It's nothing superhuman, but I'm not an idiot. So, what is it? What is so bad about black people, especially black American men that turns people off? I doubt I've ever seen a profile that specifically states "NO WHITE MEN". But I have seen "NO BLACK MEN" or "please no African Americans" on people's profiles all over the place. Including here on fab. I don't like to pull the race card...but I mean.... Isn't that crap kinda racist? Maybe y'all could help me out. I mean, I get plenty of play. Don't get me wrong. I've stacked the deck in my favor by working out, studying, and getting money. So, I'm good. I really am. Just curious. A tiny bit disappointed, but mostly curious." Our profile states that i do not find men of colour sexually attractive. Neither do i find blonde, fair or ginger men attractive. It is not a racist thing as i have black male friends & females from different cultures, its just my sexual preference. No offence is ever intended. Mrs _d40 x | |||
"Being a black swinger, I have been subjected to one very strange type of treatment that I just don't understand. People who say, very specifically, might I add, that they don't want anything to do with black men. Or, as many people put it "AA" which means African Americans. I just don't get it. Is it the thug image? Because every race has their own group of classless, violent people. It can't be just that. And it can't be the skin color, because, here in America, we have Hispanic and Latino people. Which span every skin color from pale white to deep black, and I see no one complaining about them. It's not education or professionalism, because I know too many doctorate holding, highly professional black people personally and we're all over TV and movies too. Hell, I'm nothing special, but even I have a 134 IQ. It's nothing superhuman, but I'm not an idiot. So, what is it? What is so bad about black people, especially black American men that turns people off? I doubt I've ever seen a profile that specifically states "NO WHITE MEN". But I have seen "NO BLACK MEN" or "please no African Americans" on people's profiles all over the place. Including here on fab. I don't like to pull the race card...but I mean.... Isn't that crap kinda racist? Maybe y'all could help me out. I mean, I get plenty of play. Don't get me wrong. I've stacked the deck in my favor by working out, studying, and getting money. So, I'm good. I really am. Just curious. A tiny bit disappointed, but mostly curious." From a UK perspective this seems like the typical 'race card'/it's not fair/I've got a chip on my shoulder attitude. Some people don't want to meet blacks/Asians or even whites. It's not a bit 'rascist', it's called freedom of choice. Live with it and man up instead if whining. And btw, my profile clearly states 'Black men only' and I've had enough white guys moan like old sissys'. Swinging is all about personal freedom and I don't see the point in wasting the time of white guys, whatever their IQ, so I state clearly, Black only. Respect the choice of others and move on and enjoy swinging. Don't focus on those who don't want to meet you. Focus on those who do! I've spoken with many white couples in the US who only want black men, or AA as you call it. So enjoy and be positive. | |||
"Being a black swinger, I have been subjected to one very strange type of treatment that I just don't understand. People who say, very specifically, might I add, that they don't want anything to do with black men. Or, as many people put it "AA" which means African Americans. ..... Isn't that crap kinda racist? Maybe y'all could help me out." Sorry OP but it sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder... and are bloody greedy. As has already been said. Some people find one race or skin type less attractive sexually. This is not racist, simply preference. You have loads of veris so just enjoy those that are interested, and get over yourself.
For the record, we have no racial or colour preference at all. We both find people from a variety of backgrounds attractive. | |||
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"Let me see, OP. You're straight, you say? Isn't that sexist or discrimination against gay or bi-men that might want to meet you? What's that? You aren't attracted to men? How can you know? Surely it should be on a case by case basis? We're all wired however we're wired and we're attracted to whomever we're attracted to. Nobody likes to be excluded but it's not discrimination to have sexual preferences. That's why you're allowed to define yourself as straight without being accused of discrimination. I'm not often attracted to black guys, at least based on their looks and a profile on here. If I got to know them, maybe there would be an attraction. But this isn't a place for getting to know people in great depth prior to meeting. Because I am occasionally attracted to black men, I do take it on a case by case basis. I have never yet been attracted to a man of Indian subcontinent descent or appearance so my profile says I'm not interested in meeting them. Yes, I may miss out on a few that I do fancy, but the balance of probabilities, based on experience, is that I won't fancy them. Therefore I'd rather prioritise people I am more likely to be attracted to. It also avoids the high risk of meeting and me having to say, 'sorry but there's no spark'. So, when you change your status to bisexual and start considering ever man that contacts you on a case by case basis, I'll do the same for Asians. Deal? I am sorry really disagree with this agreement in terms of gender preference because if you follow your logic then gay men who dont sleep with women are mysogenitic and lesbians are men haters. If we accept that gay choices are innate l am puzzled why being straight is is not nnate. Certainly there is the argument that sexuality is a spectrum but if gay people can be one end of the spectrum then being straight can be one end of the spectrum. I also disagree about people complaining about the use of the so called race card. Racism exists and it is not myth as is sexism. A lot of our preferences are not hot wired but cultural and social extensions we do not spend the time to analyse the origin and just say that is the way I am made. Personally whenever anyone says that is they way things are l disagree my reaction is why. Challenging lazy preconceptions is the duty of right thinking people. That being said l accept that once society dictates who anyone sleeps with or forms a relationship it is a slippery slope. It is not too long ago that america revoked its interracial sex laws. I always remember seeing a picture from the second world war of a German women whose head had been shaved and she was wearing a placard saying "I am a swine for sleeping with a jew." The concern when people say 'whites only' is the history of white supremacy. The blacks only does not have such a powerful or corrosive history. Sorry for the rant but different discrimination comes from different history and circumstances. I" Absolutely, yes, if it's racist for white people to not want to want to shag black people then any and every preference is open to the same interpretation. Being straight (whether male or female) is discrimination, being gay (again, male or female) is discrimination. If we're saying, as the OP is, that it's not possible to say we're not attracted to an entire group of people, and we should take people on a case by case basis, then that same argument can be used for any preference. I used being allowed to identify as straight without being accused of discrimination because the OP identifies as straight. Any sexual identity that isn't bisexual/pansexual is just the same. | |||
"One thing I found odd, even strange is the fact that, if I spoke to a elder person, and asked them is a spade a black racial slur? I get the answer yes, yet these days people have black spades tattooed on women to signify their so called love for black men, yet not one of them date, nor get into relationships with black people... hmmm... my black activist speaking here, but the history is deep enough... i have no tattoos and I was married to a man of African origin for 13 years. What do you make of this? "My goodness me, how could I have missed this original post? I was married to an African American in the US for a few years (not too many, but enough to have three children with him) and all of my relationships have been with black guys since. When I started here on fabs I only met black guys, now, I am in a long term and serious relationship with my partner, who is black. I rarely meet alone these days, and when I do it is with women, and when we play as a couple, it is mainly him who plays with bi guys, not me ... there are plenty, plenty women who meet black guys on the scene who have been in serious relationships and had children with black guys - I know it because many of them are my friends. | |||
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"I think there are women, and couples, who treat the BBC as an object, but many of us do not. Indeed the very reason we prefer BBC is because of the relationship, be it restricted to the bedroom or outside it. Just as there are people on here who treat others they meet as objects in the loosest sense of the word. " | |||
"I think there are women, and couples, who treat the BBC as an object, but many of us do not. " and this in a nutshell is what it comes down to... but this isn't just the issue and its a two-way thing in that there are enough people willing to be objectified if it means helping their chances of getting a meet and enough people playing it up becuase they see it as any advantage....and giving it enough thought for example to have it in their names... or running it as a theme thru their profiles... or putting it in messages they may send to people.... and the sad thing is it wont get any better because the little brain overrules the big brain so to speak | |||
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"Wife got told off for saying black man at work apparently it's colored man what color tho ffs? !!! And she wasn't being racist " Uh coloured is generally seen as an unacceptable term. "Person of colour" is the currently accepted phrase. Black is considered fine by most black people I've ever heard comment. | |||
"Being a black swinger, I have been subjected to one very strange type of treatment that I just don't understand. People who say, very specifically, might I add, that they don't want anything to do with black men. Or, as many people put it "AA" which means African Americans. I just don't get it. Is it the thug image? Because every race has their own group of classless, violent people. It can't be just that. Hi friend this really shouldn't surprise you its a mentality/attitude which is here to stay so I wouldn't give it a f..k we all live to die which means no ones superior and no ones inferior the moment you entertain such conceptions you're a loser coz whatever is stored up and hidden away in a dark heart it will take just a spark for the mouth to reveal ones true nature so my advice to u is....dont give it fuck
And it can't be the skin color, because, here in America, we have Hispanic and Latino people. Which span every skin color from pale white to deep black, and I see no one complaining about them. It's not education or professionalism, because I know too many doctorate holding, highly professional black people personally and we're all over TV and movies too. Hell, I'm nothing special, but even I have a 134 IQ. It's nothing superhuman, but I'm not an idiot.
So, what is it? What is so bad about black people, especially black American men that turns people off? I doubt I've ever seen a profile that specifically states "NO WHITE MEN". But I have seen "NO BLACK MEN" or "please no African Americans" on people's profiles all over the place. Including here on fab.
I don't like to pull the race card...but
I mean....
Isn't that crap kinda racist? Maybe y'all could help me out.
I mean, I get plenty of play. Don't get me wrong. I've stacked the deck in my favor by working out, studying, and getting money. So, I'm good. I really am.
Just curious. A tiny bit disappointed, but mostly curious." | |||
"Move to London, OP. You will have no time to complain. "its never always greener on the so called other side x | |||
"I doubt I've ever seen a profile that specifically states "NO WHITE MEN". But I have seen "NO BLACK MEN" or "please no African Americans" on people's profiles all over the place. Including here on fab. " Really? I've seen hundreds of "looking for BBC only" profiles. | |||
"Wife got told off for saying black man at work apparently it's colored man what color tho ffs? !!! And she wasn't being racist Uh coloured is generally seen as an unacceptable term. "Person of colour" is the currently accepted phrase. Black is considered fine by most black people I've ever heard comment." I personally prefer being referred to as black coz thats what I am | |||
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"Play the race card too much and the cry wolf syndrome kicks in. That's why real racism is on the rise. The race carders and pc muppets have played it too much, bored society silly with it, diluted understanding of racism whilst real racists are cashing in on it's effects. Funny as fcuk to think anyone would hint at racism or racial hatred because someone isn't interested in someone sexually "racism has never been on the rise , its been ever present just concealed and its here to stay | |||
"I've already posted on the other Black , BBC thread, and by the way, I don't like the term BBC, but that's my view, and if it gets people what they want out of this site , then surely that's up to them In all honesty I don't even look at Caucasain men, now being politically correct here. I love chocolate of the non fattening kind and feel I have way more in common with them outside the bedroom and to me that's vital to the development of some mental turn on I've heard horror stories from guys who are being treated with a severe lack of respect because of their skin colour, like one stopped in Asda while shopping with his son, to be asked by a guy to meet him in the car park afterwards as him and his wife have a proposition for him.... Shameful " what was the proposition? | |||
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"Wife got told off for saying black man at work apparently it's colored man what color tho ffs? !!! And she wasn't being racist " Was this in 1976? | |||
"I've already posted on the other Black , BBC thread, and by the way, I don't like the term BBC, but that's my view, and if it gets people what they want out of this site , then surely that's up to them In all honesty I don't even look at Caucasain men, now being politically correct here. I love chocolate of the non fattening kind and feel I have way more in common with them outside the bedroom and to me that's vital to the development of some mental turn on I've heard horror stories from guys who are being treated with a severe lack of respect because of their skin colour, like one stopped in Asda while shopping with his son, to be asked by a guy to meet him in the car park afterwards as him and his wife have a proposition for him.... Shameful what was the proposition?"^ This | |||
"bloody hell paddy... when did you get all serious.... who's kidnapped the real paddy!!! seriously though.... fair play... i feel the same.... I have walked from situations where i have felt that i was there in a meet as some kind of object.... if my early swinging days i probably got myself into situations that I know from hindsight I wouldn't do now... because I have grown within myself and am much better at saying " this is me... like it or hate it, but i aint gonna change" did the black/white party scene... tried it, didn't like it, wouldn't do it again for a whole lot of reasons too numerous, but the main one was the objectification that was going on..... "
lol Fabio,
One example I will never forget:
A couple invited an asian couple(that they thought were hot)to their party..but retracted the invite because other party goers would not meet asians...
I'm still flummoxed it was posted..and I was pretty much disgusted.
Even in a play environment(with similar people) not everyone's gonna want to play with another person..its easy enough to say no thanks, in a civil manner then continue to party.
I just dont see why thats so hard to do when you meet someone outwith your sexual preference. | |||
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"I doubt I've ever seen a profile that specifically states "NO WHITE MEN". But I have seen "NO BLACK MEN" or "please no African Americans" on people's profiles all over the place. Including here on fab. Really? I've seen hundreds of "looking for BBC only" profiles." Get a penis extension and some black paint Problem solved | |||
"what about Pandas? They are black and white and asian ". They are also ideal for quick meets cos they eat shoots and leaves  | |||
"I doubt I've ever seen a profile that specifically states "NO WHITE MEN". But I have seen "NO BLACK MEN" or "please no African Americans" on people's profiles all over the place. Including here on fab. Really? I've seen hundreds of "looking for BBC only" profiles. Get a penis extension and some black paint Problem solved " What problem? | |||
"I've already posted on the other Black , BBC thread, and by the way, I don't like the term BBC, but that's my view, and if it gets people what they want out of this site , then surely that's up to them In all honesty I don't even look at Caucasain men, now being politically correct here. I love chocolate of the non fattening kind and feel I have way more in common with them outside the bedroom and to me that's vital to the development of some mental turn on I've heard horror stories from guys who are being treated with a severe lack of respect because of their skin colour, like one stopped in Asda while shopping with his son, to be asked by a guy to meet him in the car park afterwards as him and his wife have a proposition for him.... Shameful what was the proposition?
^ This". Clearly they'd locked their keys in in the car and needed someone to help them break into it | |||
"I've already posted on the other Black , BBC thread, and by the way, I don't like the term BBC, but that's my view, and if it gets people what they want out of this site , then surely that's up to them In all honesty I don't even look at Caucasain men, now being politically correct here. I love chocolate of the non fattening kind and feel I have way more in common with them outside the bedroom and to me that's vital to the development of some mental turn on I've heard horror stories from guys who are being treated with a severe lack of respect because of their skin colour, like one stopped in Asda while shopping with his son, to be asked by a guy to meet him in the car park afterwards as him and his wife have a proposition for him.... Shameful what was the proposition?
^ This.
Clearly they'd locked their keys in in the car and needed someone to help them break into it "She had ran out of | |||
"I've already posted on the other Black , BBC thread, and by the way, I don't like the term BBC, but that's my view, and if it gets people what they want out of this site , then surely that's up to them In all honesty I don't even look at Caucasain men, now being politically correct here. I love chocolate of the non fattening kind and feel I have way more in common with them outside the bedroom and to me that's vital to the development of some mental turn on I've heard horror stories from guys who are being treated with a severe lack of respect because of their skin colour, like one stopped in Asda while shopping with his son, to be asked by a guy to meet him in the car park afterwards as him and his wife have a proposition for him.... Shameful what was the proposition?
^ This"Doesn't look as though we're going to find out. Very intriguing | |||
"I've already posted on the other Black , BBC thread, and by the way, I don't like the term BBC, but that's my view, and if it gets people what they want out of this site , then surely that's up to them In all honesty I don't even look at Caucasain men, now being politically correct here. I love chocolate of the non fattening kind and feel I have way more in common with them outside the bedroom and to me that's vital to the development of some mental turn on I've heard horror stories from guys who are being treated with a severe lack of respect because of their skin colour, like one stopped in Asda while shopping with his son, to be asked by a guy to meet him in the car park afterwards as him and his wife have a proposition for him.... Shameful " | |||
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"Mmm"Precious Danger" I think you and I better sit down ...or probably lie down ".I always read your user name as " black rape"  | |||
"Being a black swinger, I have been subjected to one very strange type of treatment that I just don't understand. People who say, very specifically, might I add, that they don't want anything to do with black men. Or, as many people put it "AA" which means African Americans. I just don't get it. Is it the thug image? Because every race has their own group of classless, violent people. It can't be just that. And it can't be the skin color, because, here in America, we have Hispanic and Latino people. Which span every skin color from pale white to deep black, and I see no one complaining about them. It's not education or professionalism, because I know too many doctorate holding, highly professional black people personally and we're all over TV and movies too. Hell, I'm nothing special, but even I have a 134 IQ. It's nothing superhuman, but I'm not an idiot. So, what is it? What is so bad about black people, especially black American men that turns people off? I doubt I've ever seen a profile that specifically states "NO WHITE MEN". But I have seen "NO BLACK MEN" or "please no African Americans" on people's profiles all over the place. Including here on fab. I don't like to pull the race card...but I mean.... Isn't that crap kinda racist? Maybe y'all could help me out. I mean, I get plenty of play. Don't get me wrong. I've stacked the deck in my favor by working out, studying, and getting money. So, I'm good. I really am. Just curious. A tiny bit disappointed, but mostly curious." Seems like old-fashioned racism to me. Although it's quite a useful filter I reckon - we want nothing to do with bigots, sexually or otherwise! | |||
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"Wife got told off for saying black man at work apparently it's colored man what color tho ffs? !!! And she wasn't being racist Uh coloured is generally seen as an unacceptable term. "Person of colour" is the currently accepted phrase. Black is considered fine by most black people I've ever heard comment. I personally prefer being referred to as black coz thats what I am "
I try not to offend but sometimes it's really difficult. When I was growing up, black was bad and coloured was the 'acceptable' term.
I'm told that the term coloured has negative connotations and we're now back to saying black of people of colour.
I'll refer to people however they want to be referred to, as long as they let me know. | |||
"I've already posted on the other Black , BBC thread, and by the way, I don't like the term BBC, but that's my view, and if it gets people what they want out of this site , then surely that's up to them In all honesty I don't even look at Caucasain men, now being politically correct here. I love chocolate of the non fattening kind and feel I have way more in common with them outside the bedroom and to me that's vital to the development of some mental turn on I've heard horror stories from guys who are being treated with a severe lack of respect because of their skin colour, like one stopped in Asda while shopping with his son, to be asked by a guy to meet him in the car park afterwards as him and his wife have a proposition for him.... Shameful what was the proposition?"When this friend ignored him the other guy pulled up in front of his car so he couldn't move and past him a card through the window and said , my wife wants for her birthday. I can't imagine the explanation my friend had to give his son on the way home | |||
"Wife got told off for saying black man at work apparently it's colored man what color tho ffs? !!! And she wasn't being racist Uh coloured is generally seen as an unacceptable term. "Person of colour" is the currently accepted phrase. Black is considered fine by most black people I've ever heard comment. I personally prefer being referred to as black coz thats what I am
I try not to offend but sometimes it's really difficult. When I was growing up, black was bad and coloured was the 'acceptable' term.
I'm told that the term coloured has negative connotations and we're now back to saying black of people of colour.
I'll refer to people however they want to be referred to, as long as they let me know."My ex brother in law lives in the states and is with a lady who is part Pawnee , my son said ah that's a red Indian..... Well that's TV for you.... Needless to say we all know they're Native Americans ! | |||
"Mmm"Precious Danger" I think you and I better sit down ...or probably lie down "Now why didn't I think of that  | |||
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"Mmm"Precious Danger" I think you and I better sit down ...or probably lie down
Now why didn't I think of that "your place or mine ?xxx | |||
"Mmm"Precious Danger" I think you and I better sit down ...or probably lie down
Now why didn't I think of that your place or mine ?xxx"Invitation accepted ....watch this space | |||
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"Mmm"Precious Danger" I think you and I better sit down ...or probably lie down
Now why didn't I think of that your place or mine ?xxx
Invitation accepted ....watch this space "Amongst the barrage of efforts trying to deconstruct racism, at least two people find positivity through all the noise. Mr. | |||
Op it's only sex , don't worry about who doesn't want to fuck you. Focus on those that will | |||
"This post reminds me of a joke. What's the difference between a whore and bitch? A whore will fuck everybody but a bitch will fuck everybody but you.
Op it's only sex , don't worry about who doesn't want to fuck you. Focus on
those that will" | |||
"Play the race card too much and the cry wolf syndrome kicks in. That's why real racism is on the rise. The race carders and pc muppets have played it too much, bored society silly with it, diluted understanding of racism whilst real racists are cashing in on it's effects. Funny as fcuk to think anyone would hint at racism or racial hatred because someone isn't interested in someone sexually racism has never been on the rise , its been ever present just concealed and its here to stay "Definitely agree with this unfortunately  | |||
"Do we in the UK have a corresponding term to AA? I think as far as I know we say black apart from the tick boxes on forms where they like you to be specific. Anyone born here is called British. I've never heard anyone say Black British or African British. I'm just wondering out loud. " Sorry but you're wrong, I have to tick black Caribbean /white British. There's a few options available lol | |||
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"Do we in the UK have a corresponding term to AA? I think as far as I know we say black apart from the tick boxes on forms where they like you to be specific. Anyone born here is called British. I've never heard anyone say Black British or African British. I'm just wondering out loud. Sorry but you're wrong, I have to tick black Caribbean /white British. There's a few options available lol " So how is she wrong when that's exactly what she said? | |||
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"I have seen a lot of profiles that state Black only and others that states White only. People just have to respect others preference. " | |||
"I have seen a lot of profiles that state Black only and others that states White only. People just have to respect others preference. I'm a black African who prefers white woman. " | |||
"Do we in the UK have a corresponding term to AA? I think as far as I know we say black apart from the tick boxes on forms where they like you to be specific. Anyone born here is called British. I've never heard anyone say Black British or African British. I'm just wondering out loud. Sorry but you're wrong, I have to tick black Caribbean /white British. There's a few options available lol So how is she wrong when that's exactly what she said? " Here's the irony of ethnicity 'pigeon holing'. You don't actually have to tick ANY box. You are actually supposed to tick the category that you feel you fall into. So you tick what you feel you are. I've known a couple of folk from African or carribean heritage tick 'other' and write 'British'. Simple. | |||
"Do we in the UK have a corresponding term to AA? I think as far as I know we say black apart from the tick boxes on forms where they like you to be specific. Anyone born here is called British. I've never heard anyone say Black British or African British. I'm just wondering out loud. Sorry but you're wrong, I have to tick black Caribbean /white British. There's a few options available lol So how is she wrong when that's exactly what she said? Here's the irony of ethnicity 'pigeon holing'. You don't actually have to tick ANY box. You are actually supposed to tick the category that you feel you fall into. So you tick what you feel you are. I've known a couple of folk from African or carribean heritage tick 'other' and write 'British'. Simple. " | |||
