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people too particular?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

That people are on here looking to fulfil fantasies so why shouldn't they do so with others who match their fantasy?

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Welcome to the magical world of people. There will be people who like everybody and people who like nobody. There will be people who like you, but that are not your taste and visa-versa. Ultimately though, isn't it the differences that make people so fantastic.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "

Everyone has their tastes. There are so many folk on this site, especially single males, therefore ladies and couples have to be particular to cut out a large amount of users who would message them. Even then they probably still get a large amount of messages from people who aren't the right height, age, cock size for what they are looking for. It maymean they miss out on meeting some great people but in the long run it saves then time and means my tee chance of finding someone they will be attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"That people are on here looking to fulfil fantasies so why shouldn't they do so with others who match their fantasy?"

Not sure many people would share a fantasy with a 5.0 male

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Welcome to the magical world of people. There will be people who like everybody and people who like nobody. There will be people who like you, but that are not your taste and visa-versa. Ultimately though, isn't it the differences that make people so fantastic.

Cal"

Cheers for the sarcasm

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes?"

You mean you want to take a lady out for a drink? Have you tried dating sites?

Or do you mean you want to go to an organised social event? Have you looked in thr Events pages?

Or are you still looking for sex? In which case, you are in amongst 400 other local fellas who want the same thing, and with only 70-80 females you have a fuckload of competition.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "

Well you could just arrange to meet at clubs or you say . Shall we play now

Unless they are a experienced couple with no security issues then they will be just as worried as you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat"

Tiny bit of advice which has already been given, but I'll just reiterate one more time for you: telling someone they are picky because they have said what they are looking for won't help. And just makes you look like you have a sense of entitlement.

So, you say nobody chats. How have you tried to get people to chat? People chat in the chat rooms and thr forums all the time.

Do you mean that you have been firing off messages to people you don't know and expecting them to be sat waiting for a message just like yours so that they can reply to it and start chatting about all the things you two have in common?

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat"
. Members decide who they wish to meet based on information in profiles plus pictures. We all make choices in life . Everyone is entitled to be picky . What you have to do is have a great well. written profile with good pictues and then you might make it to the starting line . Would you meet a ninety year old ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thats true and 90 percent of the women and couples in London wants a bbc in the searches lol.

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

If a guy isn't for me because he isn't tall enough, does that make me picky or particular?? Hell, yes, of course it does! And it is my right to be picky....why would I even want a social meet or chat with someone I know that I am not attracted to? That would be a waste of everybody's time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women are not too picky

There are so few of them

The men lower their standards to get a shag .

Most women will know if a guy contacts them and they are punching above their weight and not be interested in case they get used

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "

We're quite particular in our requirements. When we joined Mr N said I could have anything I wanted so that's what I do. You call it particular, I call it discerning. I don't go into Starbucks wanting a latte and order a cappuccino why would I come on here wanting sex with a tall, dark man and then message a smaller blond?

Of course it's not that cut and dried but you get the picture

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat"

Way too picky? Why can't people be picky? Are you saying that because they are not choosing you, the reason most (not all ) people are on here is so they can meet who they want, when they want, where they want, they may or may not include you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat"

Seriously? I will continue to be picky and meet those who I think I can have fun with, who meet my requirements. If you just want a friendly chat and sympathy fuck you really are on the wrong site OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That people are on here looking to fulfil fantasies so why shouldn't they do so with others who match their fantasy?"

This.

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "
. When you say that the meets did not go as expected what were your expectations and what were the reasons that they did not go as expected .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women are not too picky

There are so few of them

The men lower their standards to get a shag .

Most women will know if a guy contacts them and they are punching above their weight and not be interested in case they get used "

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

In normal life l am attracted to certain attributes, looks and personality types.

On here they are no different. If it means I only get to meet one or two people a year because of my 'pickyness' then so be it. I'm not gonna meet people im not into just for the sake of it. I'd rather go without.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"That people are on here looking to fulfil fantasies so why shouldn't they do so with others who match their fantasy?"

Simply this!

I don't get the "give me a chance" mentality. For most this is fantasy. If you don't match what the person you fancy requires c'est la vie!

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By *kin BohnerMan over a year ago

derby

I'm picky hence the lack of a long list of meets. It's about personal choice but to be honest I would meet more people if only for a social. I'm always amazed at how so many on here have closed minds. How on earth can you judge anyone from a small profile and a few photos! I prefer to make my mind up about someone once I have met them. It takes nothing to meet for a lunch time coffee or an evening drink for a couple of hours. Yes you can meet some right weired folk but equally you could be missing out on something special simply because of a dodgy photo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go to club socials, put some personality and thought into your profile and pics - for me it's about making a connection - that's still nsa sex but it's not just about the cock or the physical attributes. How about putting your kikchat contact details on your profile too? M x

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"In normal life l am attracted to certain attributes, looks and personality types.

This!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat"

If I want a friendly chat I look up my friends on Facebook.

If I want sex I chat with people on here.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"I'm picky hence the lack of a long list of meets. It's about personal choice but to be honest I would meet more people if only for a social. I'm always amazed at how so many on here have closed minds. How on earth can you judge anyone from a small profile and a few photos! I prefer to make my mind up about someone once I have met them. It takes nothing to meet for a lunch time coffee or an evening drink for a couple of hours. Yes you can meet some right weired folk but equally you could be missing out on something special simply because of a dodgy photo.

It's not that easy if you are a single parent with a young child who works and has few options for people to babysit. Organising a meet for me is a pain in the arse so I need to know at least the attraction is there and have chatted on here a while first. I can't just pop out for a coffee whenever I feel like it. So it's not closed minds, just making the most of my available time.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

From a personal point of view, my time is limited. Profile text and photos are the initial lure but it's the content of the message that will make me decide to meet.

I've met unverified men with dodgy pictures: blimey, I moved one in a year ago.

There's an alarming sense of entitlement I've noticed developing on this site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat

If I want a friendly chat I look up my friends on Facebook.

If I want sex I chat with people on here."

That's weird me jason would have more luck getting a shag of my Facebook friends than here

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Exactly!

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By *kin BohnerMan over a year ago

derby

I understand that, my comment was a generalisation not aimed at every individual. I know life and commitments get in the way but honestly, its not that difficult to find an two hour window if you really want to. Also I'm not saying don't talk to people on here, I'm saying don't just judge them on the profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly!

And when they grow up and start leaving home it's get harder not easier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat

If I want a friendly chat I look up my friends on Facebook.

If I want sex I chat with people on here.

That's weird me jason would have more luck getting a shag of my Facebook friends than here "

I prefer not to randomly hit on my friends. Tends to make things messy.

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By *kin BohnerMan over a year ago

derby

From a personal point of view, my time is limited. Profile text and photos are the initial lure but it's the content of the message that will make me decide to meet.

I've met unverified men with dodgy pictures: blimey, I moved one in a year ago.

There's an alarming sense of entitlement I've noticed developing on this site. "

No sense of entitlement here or even any expectations, well maybe one... To be looked as a person not just a profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Two hour window for what?

. Meets take up a lot more time than that. Planning can take ages. Can't talk for anyone else but I'm not wasting any of my spare time on someone who may not be worth my time (or I their's).

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

I haven't got the time or the inclination to message someone with a rubbish profile and crappy pics on the off chance that they might turn out to be alright when there's plenty with decent profiles and nice pics to message.

And yes it is difficult to find an hour or two window for the reasons I listed above.

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By *kin BohnerMan over a year ago

derby

Point missed by a mile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat

If I want a friendly chat I look up my friends on Facebook.

If I want sex I chat with people on here.

That's weird me jason would have more luck getting a shag of my Facebook friends than here

I prefer not to randomly hit on my friends. Tends to make things messy."

Not randomly of Course

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Point missed by a mile. "

Basically most guys can drop everything and go for a shag

If you have young kids at home your chances to play are limited so you choose your meetings a lot more careful

Not rocket science

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"Point missed by a mile. "

I don't see how anyone has missed the point at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And yes it is difficult to find an hour or two window for the reasons I listed above. "

I have no children and work in town. I could meet a fab random for a coffee meet every day. I have no intention of doing that, it would still be a massive waste of my time even if that time is easily found.

I'll keep on judging people by their profiles and messages, ta.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women are not too picky

There are so few of them

The men lower their standards to get a shag .

Most women will know if a guy contacts them and they are punching above their weight and not be interested in case they get used "
is that cos they are a 8, so would they be happy if we went for a 3? Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women are not too picky

There are so few of them

The men lower their standards to get a shag .

Most women will know if a guy contacts them and they are punching above their weight and not be interested in case they get used is that cos they are a 8, so would they be happy if we went for a 3? Lol."

you must know that with women you can never get it right and it's how you handle yourself when your always wrong that counts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From a personal point of view, my time is limited. Profile text and photos are the initial lure but it's the content of the message that will make me decide to meet.

I've met unverified men with dodgy pictures: blimey, I moved one in a year ago.

There's an alarming sense of entitlement I've noticed developing on this site.

No sense of entitlement here or even any expectations, well maybe one... To be looked as a person not just a profile. "
but if the profile makes you look like a total twat, you are not going to want to know the person.

wether we like it or not profile content is important. We are happy to meet people for coffee, but the profile has to have something which intrigues us enough to want to do so

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From a personal point of view, my time is limited. Profile text and photos are the initial lure but it's the content of the message that will make me decide to meet.

I've met unverified men with dodgy pictures: blimey, I moved one in a year ago.

There's an alarming sense of entitlement I've noticed developing on this site.

No sense of entitlement here or even any expectations, well maybe one... To be looked as a person not just a profile. "

But that is all you are on here...until someone takes enough interest in you to look beyond it..

Frankly, if I've got a 2 hour window for a coffee in town, I'd rather spend it with a friend I know, or the monkey than a random from here who thinks I should "give them a chance" even though they don't make enough effort to catch attention in the first place...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women are not too picky

There are so few of them

The men lower their standards to get a shag .

you must know that with women you can never get it right and it's how you handle yourself when your always wrong that counts"
Yes I know and thats right, you can never be sure there with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From a personal point of view, my time is limited. Profile text and photos are the initial lure but it's the content of the message that will make me decide to meet.

I've met unverified men with dodgy pictures: blimey, I moved one in a year ago.

There's an alarming sense of entitlement I've noticed developing on this site.

No sense of entitlement here or even any expectations, well maybe one... To be looked as a person not just a profile. "

Everyone on here is just a profile as there is nothing else to go on. I'm sure I've missed some lovely people by not replying to them but that's the nature of the beast.

I don't use fab's as my only way of meeting others, I use it to enhance what I already do & so far it has served me well.

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By *aneandpaulCouple over a year ago

cleveleys

Its not a case of being to particular i love being fucked and Paul loves sharing me but just wont fuck any thing got to be a bit of something there not just a cock

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People are particular on who they choose to have sex with. Some are more particular than others.

You'll see some couple/single female profiles are only looking for bbc, or 8" plus, some males are only looking for bi or bbw for instance. Just look at peoples interest list on their profile. Not all looking for the same!

Having said all that I have played with a couple who were looking for black only, a single female who wasn't looking for single males and as you can probably see I am not black and also a single male.

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

From a personal point of view, my time is limited. Profile text and photos are the initial lure but it's the content of the message that will make me decide to meet.

I've met unverified men with dodgy pictures: blimey, I moved one in a year ago.

There's an alarming sense of entitlement I've noticed developing on this site.

No sense of entitlement here or even any expectations, well maybe one... To be looked as a person not just a profile. "
Surely your profile is a reflection of you as a person. The content should indicate the type of person that you are . A detailed profile avoids time being wasted as members can make an informed decision on you as an individual. If a profile is only two lines members cannot make that decision. It also indicates a very lazy attitude.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People are particular on who they choose to have sex with. Some are more particular than others."

"My vagina is not an equal opportunities zone."

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Express a preference as to who gets to share intimate experiences with me? How very dare I.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People are particular on who they choose to have sex with. Some are more particular than others.

"My vagina is not an equal opportunities zone.""

Made me chuckle!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

". If a profile is only two lines members cannot make that decision. It also indicates a very lazy attitude.

5 lines is enough would it be right to name a guy with 400 verification on the forum

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

" I know life and commitments get in the way but honestly, its not that difficult to find an two hour window if you really want to. . "

Maybe thats the point, some people ( like us ) don't want to meet with people every night / lunchtime to see if we are suited to someone just because they asked. If the profile and pics don't appeal, then we are not meeting them to waste ours and their time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I know life and commitments get in the way but honestly, its not that difficult to find an two hour window if you really want to. .

We don't want to meet people every day and why should we

Too much aggro . And to be honest if we had a spare hour in the day we would go for lunch together and have couple time

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By *est Wales WifeCouple over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

We don't want to meet people every day and why should we

Too much aggro . And to be honest if we had a spare hour in the day we would go for lunch together and have couple time "

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By *estmidscoupleCouple over a year ago

West Midlands

We are pretty specific in what we ask for and still get deluged with guys way outside what we asked for trying on the off chance. And as other threads have mentioned, sometimes guys (and girls and couples) don't turn up. You may be better off going the club route, being in the same space as people helps and chatting comes easy. Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People are particular on who they choose to have sex with. Some are more particular than others.

"My vagina is not an equal opportunities zone."

Made me chuckle!

Me too...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are pretty specific in what we ask for and still get deluged with guys way outside what we asked for trying on the off chance. And as other threads have mentioned, sometimes guys (and girls and couples) don't turn up. You may be better off going the club route, being in the same space as people helps and chatting comes easy. Good luck OP"

And if they don't turn ip always others there

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By *estmidscoupleCouple over a year ago

West Midlands

And if they don't turn ip always others there "

Very very true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op have you tried dogging meets , gangbangs, or the bdsm community?

I think this might be a good starting point for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat

If I want a friendly chat I look up my friends on Facebook.

If I want sex I chat with people on here."

Perfectly put

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By *ubicinchMan over a year ago

Gwynedd

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat

If I want a friendly chat I look up my friends on Facebook.

If I want sex I chat with people on here."
I have great friends who do both. The key word is friends.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op have you tried dogging meets , gangbangs, or the bdsm community?

I think this might be a good starting point for you."

Why would you suggest BDSM to someone who has expressed no interested in it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat

If I want a friendly chat I look up my friends on Facebook.

If I want sex I chat with people on here.I have great friends who do both. The key word is friends."

Not sure what you are getting at , but those we meet for sex are not friends as such to us . Sure we enjoy the sex , the laughs and their company , but we meet them for sex .

Friends are people we enjoy for going out for a meal with , to the cinema or having round for a drink and a chat . People we share our time with where sex isn't the agenda , conversations about the kids , holidays, work etc....

We don't mix the two .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am picky, you can be picky on here coz loads of guys wanna fuck you so if you put a meet up and guys answer and you don't like none of them you keep it up a few more minutes and eventually someone you fancy will message you. This is why this site is awesome.

I think you'd like clubs. They're for socialising (which you seem keen on). On here you can ignore loads of guys because it's easy to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "

False dichotomy.

There is enough people here that they can have their "regular guy who wants a social and see how it goes" who is also over 5'10" and however many inches they desire.

It's not like every tall or hung man is an arsehole and every short guy with a small cock is God's gift to women and humour.

And the same goes the other way round there are enough women you can find funny, witty, geeky, artsy, fat, thin, serious, dom, sub tall, short, old, young and every possible combination of the above on here.

This site's motto should basically be "fuck settling, find perfect"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op have you tried dogging meets , gangbangs, or the bdsm community?

I think this might be a good starting point for you.

Why would you suggest BDSM to someone who has expressed no interested in it?"

Causeway subs are blatantly easy innit+?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat

If I want a friendly chat I look up my friends on Facebook.

If I want sex I chat with people on here.I have great friends who do both. The key word is friends.

Not sure what you are getting at , but those we meet for sex are not friends as such to us . Sure we enjoy the sex , the laughs and their company , but we meet them for sex .

We don't mix the two ."

See gothic, dirty and no attachment, if the bike hadn't been destroyed before my trip Mrs glos' would have been someone who I'd have loved to indulge a grunge fantasy in a public toilet with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "

My thoughts are that if their preferences included rather than excluded you you would never have started this thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op have you tried dogging meets , gangbangs, or the bdsm community?

I think this might be a good starting point for you.

Why would you suggest BDSM to someone who has expressed no interested in it?

Causeway subs are blatantly easy innit+?"

If people think there are lots of single men moaning that they can't get laid on here... they should see BDSM contact sites. It's far worse. And about thirty times as entitled.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op have you tried dogging meets , gangbangs, or the bdsm community?

I think this might be a good starting point for you.

Why would you suggest BDSM to someone who has expressed no interested in it?

Causeway subs are blatantly easy innit+?

If people think there are lots of single men moaning that they can't get laid on here... they should see BDSM contact sites. It's far worse. And about thirty times as entitled."

Haha epic ain't it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "

I'd be a bit shocked if I'd arranged a social with a man & they dropped their trousers in the middle of Starbucks

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "

but I am guessing that the couples you met with, even thought it didn't go as you planned, didn't meet you because you were an average guy... they saw something in you that was individual...

people always like to complain about the things that exclude them.... just focus on the best "you" you can be

you are never going to appeal to everyone... so why are you fussed about it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

False dichotomy.

There is enough people here that they can have their "regular guy who wants a social and see how it goes" who is also over 5'10" and however many inches they desire.

It's not like every tall or hung man is an arsehole and every short guy with a small cock is God's gift to women and humour.

This site's motto should basically be "fuck settling, find perfect"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

but I am guessing that the couples you met with, even thought it didn't go as you planned, didn't meet you because you were an average guy... they saw something in you that was individual...

people always like to complain about the things that exclude them.... just focus on the best "you" you can be

you are never going to appeal to everyone... so why are you fussed about it?

I did't expect so many replies I found it so superfical was not expecting it to be at that level it is a sex site guess my whole approach needs to be changed and my eyes are wide open now

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "

What's the point fucking someone with a tiny cock who is too short when you want someone with a big cock and who is tall?

Your point makes zero sense.or will you just fuck anything for the sake of it?

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat"

It's SEX!!! People aren't allowed to be picky about who they'll meet to fuck??! How about we just all get raffle tickets, pop our adresses on and compulsory sex with whoever knocks on the door?

Oh no wait, sorry, wrong site. Thought I was on fabswingers, not lets-have-a-cuppa.com

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By *obbytupperMan over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

Of course it's not that cut and dried but you get the picture

Reminder to self:- Book appointment for several sessions on the rack at York dungeon.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

Of course it's not that cut and dried but you get the picture

Reminder to self:- Book appointment for several sessions on the rack at York dungeon.

ooo book me a go too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op have you tried dogging meets , gangbangs, or the bdsm community?

I think this might be a good starting point for you.

Why would you suggest BDSM to someone who has expressed no interested in it?

Causeway subs are blatantly easy innit+?

If people think there are lots of single men moaning that they can't get laid on here... they should see BDSM contact sites. It's far worse. And about thirty times as entitled."

I think the bdsm community is more excepting because it's not all about sex and looks. I don't know about the UK but in America. You will see everything at fetish/bdsm events .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

something for everyone - just might take a while to find it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op have you tried dogging meets , gangbangs, or the bdsm community?

I think this might be a good starting point for you.

Why would you suggest BDSM to someone who has expressed no interested in it?

Causeway subs are blatantly easy innit+?

If people think there are lots of single men moaning that they can't get laid on here... they should see BDSM contact sites. It's far worse. And about thirty times as entitled.

I think the bdsm community is more excepting because it's not all about sex and looks. I don't know about the UK but in America. You will see everything at fetish/bdsm events ."

You do see everything. But you generally have to be both sexually attractive to someone AND have similar BDSM tastes. So it is, actually, quite a bit harder to meet people.

Also you have to be into BDSM. Which the OP doesn't appear to be. Or do people really do BDSM just to get shagged?

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By *heeky202Man over a year ago

manchester

Profile, profile, profile.

You don't just sling the cv out there and take any job that offers.Or do you ?

Plus the first to the last message needs to be in joined up writing.

Times by manners maketh man, with a strong slice of personality.

Then boom! You have got to starting line. I don't think I am an oil painting, only 5'8" in my heels

If you wouldn't have a drink with them in normal life, then don't try to fuck them in this one. But remember that goes both ways.

Don't send stock print messages and chill the fuck out.

N.B. Still taking bookings to chat to f couple plus have got 3 bi fem wing buddies to make up couple.

If of course we jell.

#_heeky202

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op have you tried dogging meets , gangbangs, or the bdsm community?

I think this might be a good starting point for you.

Why would you suggest BDSM to someone who has expressed no interested in it?

Causeway subs are blatantly easy innit+?

If people think there are lots of single men moaning that they can't get laid on here... they should see BDSM contact sites. It's far worse. And about thirty times as entitled.

I think the bdsm community is more excepting because it's not all about sex and looks. I don't know about the UK but in America. You will see everything at fetish/bdsm events .

You do see everything. But you generally have to be both sexually attractive to someone AND have similar BDSM tastes. So it is, actually, quite a bit harder to meet people.

Also you have to be into BDSM. Which the OP doesn't appear to be. Or do people really do BDSM just to get shagged?"

Men will do anything to get a shag

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

Meeting a guy on here just for a social and char that you are not attracted to via profile will nearly always lead to one situation. Him being convinced you will change your mind and he's getting it.. even though you know full well he's not. So many guys message we say no thanks wouldn't want to meet not my type. They say ok but ok to chat yes that's fine always in no more than 3 messages usually they are again asking to meet despite it being made blatantly clear we would never meet. I don't really care what I'm labelled I will only ever consider meeting guys on here that I find initially physically attractive. Then attitude and personality got to fit. Why the hell would I waste time meeting a guy I don't find attractive or fits with what I find attractive. We play mainly away from fab and away from fab I only play with the same age range build etc so not chance I'm going to change that for here. Fed up with people on here who can't get the meets they think they are automatically entitled to because they joined moaning that people are too fussy picky etc because in doing so it clearly excludes them. Swinging doesn't mean you have to meet and fuck anyone and everyone whether attracted to them or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Meeting a guy on here just for a social and char that you are not attracted to via profile will nearly always lead to one situation. Him being convinced you will change your mind and he's getting it.. even though you know full well he's not. So many guys message we say no thanks wouldn't want to meet not my type. They say ok but ok to chat yes that's fine always in no more than 3 messages usually they are again asking to meet despite it being made blatantly clear we would never meet. I don't really care what I'm labelled I will only ever consider meeting guys on here that I find initially physically attractive. Then attitude and personality got to fit. Why the hell would I waste time meeting a guy I don't find attractive or fits with what I find attractive. We play mainly away from fab and away from fab I only play with the same age range build etc so not chance I'm going to change that for here. Fed up with people on here who can't get the meets they think they are automatically entitled to because they joined moaning that people are too fussy picky etc because in doing so it clearly excludes them. Swinging doesn't mean you have to meet and fuck anyone and everyone whether attracted to them or not. "

Thanks for you opinion. Firstly I'm sorry if i started the thread to mean that I am entittled to have any meet that is not the case. I think thats is a very stupid way of looking at any site.

Secondly I don't think fabs is a pick up off the shelf fuck buddy site that people treat it as. You wouldn't walk in a bar or club and approach the person who fits your bill straight away without looking around and talking to people. Pictures paint a diffrent picture of people

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

Thanks for you opinion. Firstly I'm sorry if i started the thread to mean that I am entittled to have any meet that is not the case. I think thats is a very stupid way of looking at any site.

Yes but if you are in a bar you may just be polite and talk to others but you'll aim for the one that fits what you like. This is a swingers site we have bars pubs and facebook for chatting to our friends who we wouldn't consider playing with but can have a good laugh with. We also like to be friends and are with the guys that I am attracted to and play with. We don't use a swingers site to chat to endless guys who do not attract us in the slightest. On here we don't discuss previous meets we don't want to discuss our home and work life etc doesn't leave much apart from the weather. We have regular playmates and non play friends we can talk with about all of that. It's not things we would discuss with a guy from here who could be anybody. So no point I'd rather be down the pub chilling with mates chatting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes it's a swinging site but some if us don't subscribe to instashag. We all have a right to make choices based on our preferences. I personally wouldn't socially meet anyone if i didnt find them attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People are particular on who they choose to have sex with. Some are more particular than others.

"My vagina is not an equal opportunities zone.""

This! I'm stealing this as a message response!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If what you're doing isn't working, then don't be afraid to have a look at your approach to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get this thread now

What people mean is because they are members of a swingers site , all other members must have sex with them immediately

I'm just glad I am not an astronaut, imagine the trouble I would get into because I turned my space rocket round to meet someone as soon as they messaged me

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I get this thread now

What people mean is because they are members of a swingers site , all other members must have sex with them immediately

I'm just glad I am not an astronaut, imagine the trouble I would get into because I turned my space rocket round to meet someone as soon as they messaged me

I'm glad you aren't an astronaut too, what are you doing checking fab when you should be keeping your eyes on the galaxy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for you opinion. Firstly I'm sorry if i started the thread to mean that I am entittled to have any meet that is not the case. I think thats is a very stupid way of looking at any site.

I understand the concept I'm not saying you should sill the beans of life to people. It shouldn't be a fuck and go

I do think there needs to be more chances given aside from physical preferences from people but what do I know the culture of superficial people rules the world

Also why can't people you swing with be friends? I understand sex friends but not normal friends if this site has been created for people to shag like peices of meat maybe i'm in the wrong place

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People are particular on who they choose to have sex with. Some are more particular than others.

"My vagina is not an equal opportunities zone."

Made me chuckle!

Well that is just blatant discrimination!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People can never be TOO particular. It reduces their options but that's THEIR prerogative. No one has the right to tell me who I meet and dont meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do love these nobody wants to shag me posts....

They all make it sound like its everyone elses fault and when you look at their profile its a pic of their cock and a profile text which consists of

Looking for fun

or something similar.

Not always but usually...

Simple.. if you want to get meets put the effort in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do love these nobody wants to shag me posts....

They all make it sound like its everyone elses fault and when you look at their profile its a pic of their cock and a profile text which consists of

Looking for fun

or something similar.

Not always but usually...

Simple.. if you want to get meets put the effort in."

I've got the opposite problem too many people want to shag me I need a receptionist up

*this may not be true*

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "

I think that the day you start meeting gay guys or women over 60, is the day you can accuse others of being picky

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By *ikeywestMan over a year ago

Bournemouth

would i say fussy people??

probably

sent 8 messages out to people in Dorset which i thought were good matches

guess how many replies i got

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman over a year ago

south yorkshire

I know what I'm attracted to and I know what doesn't do it for me. Would you prefer to arrange a meet and me say when you get here that you're not what I'm looking for? Some men want althetic, toned women.... I'm not that. That's their choice and rightly so. I focus on the people looking for me if I want to have sex with men I'm not attracted to ill become a prostitute on a street corner or marry my ex! No one should change their preferences for anyone else. If you don't fit what many women are looking for si be it, blame your genetics. Try to find a very tall lady to have kids with to give your kids a better chance if they decide to become swingers

. Moaning about it is one of the least attractive traits in a man

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks for you opinion. Firstly I'm sorry if i started the thread to mean that I am entittled to have any meet that is not the case. I think thats is a very stupid way of looking at any site.

I understand the concept I'm not saying you should sill the beans of life to people. It shouldn't be a fuck and go

I do think there needs to be more chances given aside from physical preferences from people but what do I know the culture of superficial people rules the world

Also why can't people you swing with be friends? I understand sex friends but not normal friends if this site has been created for people to shag like peices of meat maybe i'm in the wrong place "

You've not given any reason that people should relax their physical preferences other than "it's not fair, I'm not the stereotypically attractive man and I want a shag too".

Suck it up buttercup, I'm genderqueer with a shaved head and piercings - most people don't want to meet me either.

I don't whinge about it either, I just go out and make opportunities for myself instead.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat"

The main reason our profile states we're not looking for single men is because in our experience "friendly chat" always seemed to mean that we'd change our minds about meeting. We're neither in our first flush of youth nor body beautiful so knowing this I don't think we have unrealistic expectations. I (female half) would be wary of exceptionally good looking people being interested as I was when I had a single female profile. However, when we meet it has to be right for everyone and we simply don't have time to chat / social meet endlessly when there's no initial attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat

I'm sorry for your bad expirences. Both parties have to be attracted to each other and trust has to be present

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "

I wouldnt meet a 5.0 guy as im 5'7 and you are too young anyway and nor am I into facial hair. Ive been there. Your profile is a little bit ranty too and your status about your cock doesnt really need to be there. People will meet you because they want to, not because of your big cock, well some might, but not me. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for your response xx

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for your response xx"

You've got a big cock??? Why didn't you say that before???

Can you Fed-Ex it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for your response xx

You've got a big cock??? Why didn't you say that before???

Can you Fed-Ex it

Haha guess you haven't seen my pictures. I could always send a cast model of it for you to use as a dildo

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By *oughandCurvyCouple over a year ago

galway

"That people are on here looking to fulfil fantasies so why shouldn't they do so with others who match their fantasy?"

this pretty much sums up what in was going to say!

Everyone is here for different reasons but most seem to be here to fulfil their fantasies so why should they settle for anything less

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for your response xx

You've got a big cock??? Why didn't you say that before???

Can you Fed-Ex it

Haha guess you haven't seen my pictures. I could always send a cast model of it for you to use as a dildo

Oh yes, oh yes, oh yes, pleaseeeeeee; that is all I look for in a man

My life without a big cock is one empty shell with nothing else to live for

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for your response xx

You've got a big cock??? Why didn't you say that before???

Can you Fed-Ex it

Haha guess you haven't seen my pictures. I could always send a cast model of it for you to use as a dildo

Oh yes, oh yes, oh yes, pleaseeeeeee; that is all I look for in a man

My life without a big cock is one empty shell with nothing else to live for"

OK no need for sarcasm. I was far fetched you didn't think I'd actually do that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site "

It isn't a sex site. This might be where you're forming the wrong impression.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

Its the season.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site "

So you thought if you signed up you'd get sex regardless? This isn't Fabhookers. This whole attitude is the reason a lot of men get no meets. Just because you're prepared to lower your stnadards doesn't mean everyone else has to.

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By *ucyfur77Woman over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

No I didn't think that I thought it would be diffrent expirence. Why would anyone expect sex auomaticlly from a site?. My expectation was to sexy talk and see how it develops but even that sems to tied to standards. Just cause i'm a guy doesn't mean I want stick my dick in to you ever thought that?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

Can you explain what standards you mean? I'm not trying to argue I'm genuinely interested because a lot of men say similar things to this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

I'm just going to copy and paste what you yourself wrote and you have a wee read.

" I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

I'm just going to copy and paste what you yourself wrote and you have a wee read.

" I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site ""

You don't understand where i'm coming from maybe you should make single male profile and expirence the responses they receive its horrible to say the least

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

......"people are on here looking to fulfil fantasies so why shouldn't they do so with others who match their fantasy?"

Not sure many people would share a fantasy with a 5.0 male...."

OP: does your answer above suggest that one reason why people won't meet you is your height?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My expectation was to sexy talk and see how it develops but even that seems to tied to standards

Not really...it's just quite possibly the most boring thing in the entire world ever..

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

I'm just going to copy and paste what you yourself wrote and you have a wee read.

" I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site "

You don't understand where i'm coming from maybe you should make single male profile and expirence the responses they receive its horrible to say the least "

Well I'm a single male and have never received a horrible response in four years. No response, yes, but never a horrible or insulting one...

I think you may be over doing the sympathy search throughout this whining thread....

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"......"people are on here looking to fulfil fantasies so why shouldn't they do so with others who match their fantasy?"

Not sure many people would share a fantasy with a 5.0 male...."

OP: does your answer above suggest that one reason why people won't meet you is your height?

I'll answer my own question.....I think yes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat"

Why does it make them picky because they don't want a friendly chat?

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site "

In the big wide world out there, do you have women tripping over themselves for a glimpse of you?

If so, then wouldn't you be better off there than on this sex-site where the women are setting very high standards and aren't responding in the manner you are accustomed to

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

In the big wide world out there, do you have women tripping over themselves for a glimpse of you?

If so, then wouldn't you be better off there than on this sex-site where the women are setting very high standards and aren't responding in the manner you are accustomed to"

When someone sends you a message on here with just the word "die" you know how i feel not the first time this year thats happened to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks "

Man the hell up ....rejection is a part of life...deal with it !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

In the big wide world out there, do you have women tripping over themselves for a glimpse of you?

If so, then wouldn't you be better off there than on this sex-site where the women are setting very high standards and aren't responding in the manner you are accustomed to

When someone sends you a message on here with just the word "die" you know how i feel not the first time this year thats happened to me"

Block, report, forget and move on. And if messages (however unpleasent) from stranger on what you keep refering to as a 'sex site' bother you that much maybe question if this is the right site for you?

Though I do wonder what you are sending to provoke such a response

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please stop saying people are on here to fulfill fantasies. Makes it sound so childish. We are all adults looking for sexy fun. Well except for the ones only using the site for the forums and to keep in touch with friends. Also stop saying it's not a sex site. Whilst sex is not to be seen as just a gimme the primary reason people join is for that reason.

Op. Sell yourself on your profile primarily. Good pics and good write up are very important. You have to stand out to your audience. Ps dont use my profile as an example or you'll get nowhere lol. As to your messages I don't know. I haven't found any secret formula. If you do let me know!

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

In the big wide world out there, do you have women tripping over themselves for a glimpse of you?

If so, then wouldn't you be better off there than on this sex-site where the women are setting very high standards and aren't responding in the manner you are accustomed to

When someone sends you a message on here with just the word "die" you know how i feel not the first time this year thats happened to me"

Why do I suspect we will never get an honest answer as to what you sent to prompt that message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

But being a free sex chat service is tediously dull especially with someone you don't find attractive.

With someone you've got a spark with when your both in the mood but sadly can't meet it can be fun but with a random stranger it's just "hey I'm having a walk entertain me" and no body can be arsed with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

In the big wide world out there, do you have women tripping over themselves for a glimpse of you?

If so, then wouldn't you be better off there than on this sex-site where the women are setting very high standards and aren't responding in the manner you are accustomed to

When someone sends you a message on here with just the word "die" you know how i feel not the first time this year thats happened to me

Why do I suspect we will never get an honest answer as to what you sent to prompt that message"

Can't comment on that but I can tell you I got a fuck off and die message on another site lol. My crime? I simply messaged to say she didn't sit on the fence. Her status read need a big fucking cock right now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yet another "women shouldn't have standards so i can get laid" thread. Nice to see the oldies never die.

No not at all. I think people standards are defined by type of person they are sadly most on here have high ones. Its a sex site

In the big wide world out there, do you have women tripping over themselves for a glimpse of you?

If so, then wouldn't you be better off there than on this sex-site where the women are setting very high standards and aren't responding in the manner you are accustomed to

When someone sends you a message on here with just the word "die" you know how i feel not the first time this year thats happened to me

Why do I suspect we will never get an honest answer as to what you sent to prompt that message

To be fair your comment just sounds confusing given the context there and they probably assumed it was an attempt at being snarky.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No I didn't think that I thought it would be diffrent expirence. Why would anyone expect sex auomaticlly from a site?. My expectation was to sexy talk and see how it develops but even that sems to tied to standards. Just cause i'm a guy doesn't mean I want stick my dick in to you ever thought that?

Personally I only have sexy-chat with people I want to actually get into bed with at some point. If a guy doesn't want to put his penis in me then I don't want to have sexy-chat with him.

If someone wants to have sexy-chat without any physical interaction then they can pay a webcam escort for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Please stop saying people are on here to fulfill fantasies. Makes it sound so childish. We are all adults looking for sexy fun. Well except for the ones only using the site for the forums and to keep in touch with friends. Also stop saying it's not a sex site. Whilst sex is not to be seen as just a gimme the primary reason people join is for that reason.

Good luck.

Actually your profile is okay, not bad looking though a smile would be nice, so if you were nearer, I wouldn't say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good luck.

Actually your profile is okay, not bad looking though a smile would be nice, so if you were nearer, I wouldn't say no thanks

Well that's put a smile on my face. Thank you very much

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat"

This site isn't aimed at people who want a friendly chat. It's aimed at people who want to fulfil their sexual fantasies. In that respect it's not too surprising that people are picky.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
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Cheeseville, Somerset

"I been on fabs for a while now and still can't find the right people. I have a couple of meets both didn't go as expected for various resasons.

Recently I have been looking though profiles as you do and most of the local couples are so in particular in what they require. i.e males must be over "5.10". or bus me 8 inches plus.

What happened to a regualr guy who wants a social and see how its goes? not a guy who gonna turn up and drop his pants. Apologies for the rant.

What are peoples thoughts?

Thanks

thanks for the reply i just think people are way too picky on here not spoken to anyone who just wants a friedly chat

This site isn't aimed at people who want a friendly chat. It's aimed at people who want to fulfil their sexual fantasies. In that respect it's not too surprising that people are picky."

Not necessarily.

I've nothing against a friendly chat.

But I'm still 'picky' about who any friendly chats will be with.

Like meets - nobody is entitled to a conversation either.

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By *eviousLiasonsCouple over a year ago

Travelling

"Reminder to self:- Book appointment for several sessions on the rack at York dungeon.

We have had a few goes on some nice racks from this site

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