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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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a lot of single guys complain about not being noticed or treated badly here.
so you wouldn't really expect them not to turn up to a date, would you?
I get a bit fed up with this site. we are all people. some respect? |
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"a lot of single guys complain about not being noticed or treated badly here.
so you wouldn't really expect them not to turn up to a date, would you?
I get a bit fed up with this site. we are all people. some respect?"
. Did these members have two line profiles and how much research did you do on them before arranging to meet?. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know that single girls and couples do that too.
I am just surprised that single guys do that too. seeing so many of them complaining about not getting meets.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"a lot of single guys complain about not being noticed or treated badly here.
so you wouldn't really expect them not to turn up to a date, would you?
I get a bit fed up with this site. we are all people. some respect?. Did these members have two line profiles and how much research did you do on them before arranging to meet?. "
We arranged a group sessionn recently and all but one guy turned up.We always invite people we have met previously or recommended by friends or well verified... And one or two newbies .it was the newbie that showed up.
Sadly with fab being in the media so much lately we think it's getting worse. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"a lot of single guys complain about not being noticed or treated badly here.
so you wouldn't really expect them not to turn up to a date, would you?
I get a bit fed up with this site. we are all people. some respect?. Did these members have two line profiles and how much research did you do on them before arranging to meet?. "
sorry. I won't blame us for the bad behaviour of other people. |
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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago
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Its a human condition? There is a percentage of the population that get off on winding people up? by cutting deals that they are never going to fulfill! I used to sell things through news paper adds, they would ring up, haggle a deal then never collect the goods!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happens all the time , we had our first party a few weeks ago, a single guy who we've met several times and we'd say was a banker to turn up didn't turn up and never said a thing, and a couple who we met for a social, messaged us an hour beforehand to say they were excited about coming and were leaving shortly didn't turn up without any word, can happen to any of us |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"a lot of single guys complain about not being noticed or treated badly here.
so you wouldn't really expect them not to turn up to a date, would you?
Did these members have two line profiles and how much research did you do on them before arranging to meet?.
sorry. I won't blame us for the bad behaviour of other people. "
but if the same thing is happening to you again and again.... then the common denominator is you... and that is the point I think is being made...
and thats why people talk about selection processes...
lets say you were 0-10 in meeting people... would you really do the same thing on the 11th occasion, or would you expect a different result...
it happens with regards to couples, it happens in regards to single women.... but yet again single men are being held up and bashed like some sort of pariah's |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not surprised at all at a recent Newport singles social 100 men put there names down to attend and 76 didn't turn up, no contact was made by any of them to the organiser before hand to say the they couldn't attend, 3 females couldn't make it but contacted the organiser to tell her before hand. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I didn't say it happens to me again and again.... 
and I'm not bashing single guys.
I am just surprised that some single guys do that. because I see them complaining here quite often that they are treated badly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I didn't say it happens to me again and again....
and I'm not bashing single guys.
I am just surprised that some single guys do that. because I see them complaining here quite often that they are treated badly."
But would you of mentioned it if it was a couple who didn't turn up, |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I didn't say it happens to me again and again....
and I'm not bashing single guys.
I am just surprised that some single guys do that. because I see them complaining here quite often that they are treated badly."
and i see a lot of couples complaining... and a lot do exactly the same thing.....
and i see a lot of women complaining.... and a lot do exactly the same thing
you picked on single guys in your opening..... i expanded it!!!!
an arse.... is an arse..... is an arse.... whether it be a single bloke, a single woman...or heaven forbid, a couple!!! |
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"I didn't say it happens to me again and again....
and I'm not bashing single guys.
I am just surprised that some single guys do that. because I see them complaining here quite often that they are treated badly."
Some guys for kicks i guess not fair on you of course. Ive always turned up when arranging a meet but ive been let down by others once travelled all way to reading for a meet and she didnt turn up got very upset that night  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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so it happens to all of us and from women, men and couples the same....
now that I think about it....yes, I don't really know why I expected single guys to be different...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I didn't say it happens to me again and again....
and I'm not bashing single guys.
I am just surprised that some single guys do that. because I see them complaining here quite often that they are treated badly.
and i see a lot of couples complaining... and a lot do exactly the same thing.....
and i see a lot of women complaining.... and a lot do exactly the same thing
you picked on single guys in your opening..... i expanded it!!!!
an arse.... is an arse..... is an arse.... whether it be a single bloke, a single woman...or heaven forbid, a couple!!!"
I have no idea why you feel so attacked by me.
but it's probably not my problem. |
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On a slightly different note, have you noticed that the Latin for queen is Regina which rhymes wonderfully well with Vagina. There's a basis for a limerick if ever I saw one.
If a firm agreement to meet has been made and they dont turn up and you don't like their excuse, then report them as above. Whatever sex. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I have no idea why you feel so attacked by me.
but it's probably not my problem."
I don't feel attacked by you at all....
I just pointed out something that you didn't which is that is not just single guys who do this.....
you were the one that picked on single guys in your OP... I said its not just the domain on single guys....
someone else asked you if you would be so loud in your complaint if it was a couple.... its a question you didn't answer
what i said is that "being an arse" isn't exclusive to one group... I don't think that is a controversial thing to say....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"so it happens to all of us and from women, men and couples the same....
now that I think about it....yes, I don't really know why I expected single guys to be different... "
maibe as its easier to blame single men? |
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"so it happens to all of us and from women, men and couples the same....
now that I think about it....yes, I don't really know why I expected single guys to be different... maibe as its easier to blame single men?"
It's even easier to blame you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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rubbish.
and sorry, I didn't see that question.
where was it?
and you guys have to go back and to read my postings again.
I said I knew that women and couples do that. but that I am surprised that single guys do it.
the only explanation I have for you attacking me here is that you might be some of the single guys who are oh so poor and badly treated here.
other than this I can't explain your reaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes a pain in the backside! Especially couples or women who turn down at the
Last minute, esp when I pay for hotels. But it is common, I presume its nerves. Best to have a social first. Before any real physical fun. |
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"Yes a pain in the backside! Especially couples or women who turn down at the
Last minute, esp when I pay for hotels. But it is common, I presume its nerves. Best to have a social first. Before any real physical fun."
People don't turn up for socials either. Less of a pain though, I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always meet for a quick social in a coffee shop on my work break, I'd be there anyway so if its a no show its not really a problem. I've learnt not to arrange things around fab, I arrange fab around my life. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always meet for a quick social in a coffee shop on my work break, I'd be there anyway so if its a no show its not really a problem. I've learnt not to arrange things around fab, I arrange fab around my life."
cool idea!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"so it happens to all of us and from women, men and couples the same....
now that I think about it....yes, I don't really know why I expected single guys to be different... maibe as its easier to blame single men?
It's even easier to blame you. "
lol good one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"rubbish.
and sorry, I didn't see that question.
where was it?
and you guys have to go back and to read my postings again.
I said I knew that women and couples do that. but that I am surprised that single guys do it.
the only explanation I have for you attacking me here is that you might be some of the single guys who are oh so poor and badly treated here.
other than this I can't explain your reaction. "
I didnt attack u and I am not badly treated here. No need to go defencive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I didn't say it happens to me again and again....
and I'm not bashing single guys.
I am just surprised that some single guys do that. because I see them complaining here quite often that they are treated badly."
It's a fair point. It is indeed usually mainly single guys that complain they are treated badly and not given a chance.
They probably got cold feet and chickened out.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always meet for a quick social in a coffee shop on my work break, I'd be there anyway so if its a no show its not really a problem. I've learnt not to arrange things around fab, I arrange fab around my life."
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I didn't say it happens to me again and again....
and I'm not bashing single guys.
I am just surprised that some single guys do that. because I see them complaining here quite often that they are treated badly."
The question is............
Are the guys that complain about being treated badly and not getting meets the ones that don't turn up?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On my way to a party in Birmingham now..i dunno if I'll turn up though...i just like the 7hr journey...
My point really, is i get sick to the back teeth of consistent single man moans...when there are many of us quite capable of keeping and maintaining meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its a human condition? There is a percentage of the population that get off on winding people up? by cutting deals that they are never going to fulfill! I used to sell things through news paper adds, they would ring up, haggle a deal then never collect the goods! "
Lol this!! It's the 'thrill of the chase, head-case' brigade |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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why do some single guys react so angry on this?
I explain it again....... the fourth time?
I know that couples and single women sometimes don't turn up to meets.
it happened now that single guys didn't turn up to meet us.
I am personally surprised that this happens. because I see it very often that single guys complain here about not being treated well.
and therefore I would have thought they would take a chance and turn up.
this is all I said.
I didn't bash single guys.
I didn't say women and couples are better.
maybe I thought single guys are more honest, because I don't see a reason why they would lie.
behind a single girl there can be a guy who pretends to be a girl. or a girl who just wants some attention.
behind a couple profile there might also be a single guy.
I thought if you have a single guy profile the changes are high that you really are one. and that you are genuinely looking to meet someone.
got it now, guys? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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some people react over the smallest thing, why are you surprised...
threads focused on single guys will bring out the same old, same old stuff. People will grandstand their lets down over and over again and it changes nothing.
7 years ago, 3 years ago, 1 year ago & in a years time, the same things will be happening  the people you are trying to influence, unlikely to ever read your words.... |
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Dosent matter if its male or female but it does seem like its more male than fem so if you get let down for not a genuin reason then your right to post it if your a gen bloke it wont stop you getting meets but sitting on fab and not going to socials or clubs will shorten your odds. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The point of the op was simply that it is puzzling that do many guys complain that they can't get meets , yet plenty say they will turn up for a meet , and don't.
We used to believe that couples and single women were the worst for this , but believe me , single guys are the worst by a country mile !
Our block listt for single guys not showing up with no excuse is now nearing 100 !
We only have 5 couples and 2 single women on it for the same reason . And no tv's .
Hard facts , but facts all the same
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"The point of the op was simply that it is puzzling that do many guys complain that they can't get meets , yet plenty say they will turn up for a meet , and don't.
We used to believe that couples and single women were the worst for this , but believe me , single guys are the worst by a country mile !
Our block listt for single guys not showing up with no excuse is now nearing 100 !
We only have 5 couples and 2 single women on it for the same reason . And no tv's .
Hard facts , but facts all the same
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But as I said earlier - are these no shows from guys posting forum threads bemoaning their treatment and their struggles to get meets - or are they from the 99% of the male Fab population that don't set foot in the forums?
The higher volume of male members will undoubtedly mean there is a higher probablility of a let down.
It's simple numbers.
But whether you're looking to meet guys, women or couples there's always a risk. And many things you can do to minimise (but never remove) that risk.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ahhh OP but have you been stood up 5 times in one night by 5 single men who swore on their mother's lives they would meet you in a club? I have. Well at least the funeral directors in my area made a killing
I helped organise a bi fem social the other week. All the ladies turned up that said they would (bar one who was a maybe but even she was messaging us on the day). The general consensus amongst us was that genuine women will turn up if they say they will and most single men on fab just talk the talk. That is why the successful men on fab are in demand. Women and couples can see through the bullshit. |
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By *hyguyMan
over a year ago
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"I always meet for a quick social in a coffee shop on my work break, I'd be there anyway so if its a no show its not really a problem. I've learnt not to arrange things around fab, I arrange fab around my life.
cool idea! "
is there really anything else but fab haha .... Just kidding before anyone picks me up on it
Being serious though ... i always arrange to meet anyone for the first time socially for a coffee (where ever Im going to be at the time) ..... or at a club as there's no loss then if they don't turn up.
From my experience there are lots of fabulous genuine people on fab and long may it continue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"a lot of single guys complain about not being noticed or treated badly here.
so you wouldn't really expect them not to turn up to a date, would you?
Did these members have two line profiles and how much research did you do on them before arranging to meet?.
sorry. I won't blame us for the bad behaviour of other people.
but if the same thing is happening to you again and again.... then the common denominator is you... and that is the point I think is being made...
and thats why people talk about selection processes...
lets say you were 0-10 in meeting people... would you really do the same thing on the 11th occasion, or would you expect a different result...
it happens with regards to couples, it happens in regards to single women.... but yet again single men are being held up and bashed like some sort of pariah's"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"a lot of single guys complain about not being noticed or treated badly here.
so you wouldn't really expect them not to turn up to a date, would you?
I get a bit fed up with this site. we are all people. some respect?"
The irony of saying "we are all people some respect?" While snagging off an entire gender is amusing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"a lot of single guys complain about not being noticed or treated badly here.
so you wouldn't really expect them not to turn up to a date, would you?
I get a bit fed up with this site. we are all people. some respect?
The irony of saying "we are all people some respect?" While snagging off an entire gender is amusing"
and entire gender?
where?
I suggest you read it again.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"a lot of single guys complain about not being noticed or treated badly here.
so you wouldn't really expect them not to turn up to a date, would you?
I get a bit fed up with this site. we are all people. some respect?
The irony of saying "we are all people some respect?" While snagging off an entire gender is amusing
and entire gender?
where?
I suggest you read it again.
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On an entire gender who doesn't have a partner better? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"a lot of single guys complain about not being noticed or treated badly here.
so you wouldn't really expect them not to turn up to a date, would you?
I get a bit fed up with this site. we are all people. some respect?
The irony of saying "we are all people some respect?" While snagging off an entire gender is amusing
and entire gender?
where?
I suggest you read it again.
On an entire gender who doesn't have a partner better?"
again: where do I do that? |
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Just curious - how will reporting help? I've never thought or expected this site to do anything about no shows?
Fake profiles using others peoples pics, being rude or aggressive in messages, yes - but not policing meets.
It's like complaining to google that your plumber didn't turn up.
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Just another day in the life of a fab member..
Block report move on.
On a side note, I've not had a no show who hasn't contacted to to say why. Either I've been very lucky or I choose wisely.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why do some single guys react so angry on this?
I explain it again....... the fourth time?
I know that couples and single women sometimes don't turn up to meets.
it happened now that single guys didn't turn up to meet us.
I am personally surprised that this happens. because I see it very often that single guys complain here about not being treated well.
and therefore I would have thought they would take a chance and turn up.
this is all I said.
I didn't bash single guys.
I didn't say women and couples are better.
maybe I thought single guys are more honest, because I don't see a reason why they would lie.
behind a single girl there can be a guy who pretends to be a girl. or a girl who just wants some attention.
behind a couple profile there might also be a single guy.
I thought if you have a single guy profile the changes are high that you really are one. and that you are genuinely looking to meet someone.
got it now, guys?"
I cannot see what the OP has said wrong !! And I am a single guy. She was pointing out that it's mostly single guys whinging about not getting meets so she is surprised when they don't turn up for one. !!! Well that's how I read it. Obviously others did not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just curious - how will reporting help? I've never thought or expected this site to do anything about no shows?
Fake profiles using others peoples pics, being rude or aggressive in messages, yes - but not policing meets.
It's like complaining to google that your plumber didn't turn up.
D"
I agree but I guess if other people report the same, ie that the same person keeps no showing, then something will probably be done? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just curious - how will reporting help? I've never thought or expected this site to do anything about no shows?
Fake profiles using others peoples pics, being rude or aggressive in messages, yes - but not policing meets.
It's like complaining to google that your plumber didn't turn up.
D"
I arranged to meet a couple when I got there it was a empty house tried to mail them and found they had gone offline so blocked them and reported them to admin as being timewasters the next day they had been removed by admin |
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If I ever secured a 'date' to meet I'd be there.
Trying to wade through the fakes is getting tiresome, I see so many negative comments about single guys but my god the so called single women profiles that turn out to be fake is unreal. I trust no one on here now and treat them all as fake until proven otherwise. There has to be a better vetting system than the one in place now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I ever secured a 'date' to meet I'd be there.
Trying to wade through the fakes is getting tiresome, I see so many negative comments about single guys but my god the so called single women profiles that turn out to be fake is unreal. I trust no one on here now and treat them all as fake until proven otherwise. There has to be a better vetting system than the one in place now. "
Gut instinct - nothing's more reliable |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I never read the entire gender, she said some
The word some isn't even in the op...."
did I say it was in the OP, she is meaning some single guys, not all of us, that is really clear in her thread. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I never read the entire gender, she said some
The word some isn't even in the op...."
the third time now: where do I say all of them?
we can discuss. but can't just blame me here without being able to show me where I did it.
do you understand that? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I never read the entire gender, she said some
The word some isn't even in the op...."
english is not my mother tongue.
but do I really have to explain your own language? |
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"Just curious - how will reporting help? I've never thought or expected this site to do anything about no shows?
Fake profiles using others peoples pics, being rude or aggressive in messages, yes - but not policing meets.
It's like complaining to google that your plumber didn't turn up.
D
I arranged to meet a couple when I got there it was a empty house tried to mail them and found they had gone offline so blocked them and reported them to admin as being timewasters the next day they had been removed by admin"
Ok, I'm a bit surprised and fail to see what's stopping anyone saying this about anyone else?
Still if that's how it works fair enough. Admin must be busy
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