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I just can't win on this site

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

Chin up.... Perseverance and be yourself.

Your profile, be happy with it

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By *estmidscoupleCouple over a year ago

West Midlands

You've only been here 2 weeks give it a chance LOL

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

What are you trying to win?

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

I'm on the other site to this called fabguys it's really good so I come on here hoping for the same I was wrong some of the people on here are not nice some even said this site is not for sex lol and because Iv not been to clubs I'm a timewaster

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I'm on the other site to this called fabguys it's really good so I come on here hoping for the same I was wrong some of the people on here are not nice some even said this site is not for sex lol and because Iv not been to clubs I'm a timewaster "

With all due respect you need to grow a thick skin on here. If someone is rude to you, report, block, and move on.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No offence but women and couples are completely different to men, so if you are treating them the same that is where your going wrong.

More effort needs to be applied to the other sex as MOST men are turned on by other aspects and not just meet right now (just my opinion of course)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are you trying to win?"

Numberwang.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are you trying to win?

Numberwang."

You've numbered your wang???

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

Don't forget - the house always wins

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman over a year ago

gosport ish

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Four negative threads in the last few days and you've been on the site two weeks. You've been given good advice on these threads only you can change things op

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't forget - the house always wins

Until you finally get that perfect hand, bet big and take the house

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

These sites are for a quick way to talk meet people. So for what people are saying my first message has got to be an a4 page of everything about me or I'm a timewaster just looking to message and when I do that they will just delete it and not even message back saying no what we are looking for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As you can see by the comment above that women expect men to put in more effort than anyone else. This is sadly true unless you fit certain criteria. So,chin up and make yourself irresistible to everyone. This isn't Fabguys,it's going to be harder to find someone willing to have sex with you.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Four negative threads in the last few days and you've been on the site two weeks. You've been given good advice on these threads only you can change things op

I didn't look at the green arrow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And whining about it is going to improve your chances a 100%, a bit of advice, desperation is never a turn on and women can sniff it out a mile away away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are you trying to win?

Numberwang.

You've numbered your wang???

Yeah!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

[Removed by poster at 01/07/15 21:32:59]

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Boo hoo. Man up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's the taking part that counts

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"These sites are for a quick way to talk meet people."

Fabguys might be (not sure - not a guy) but Fabswingers is more of a lifestyle site.

There are men who have been on here much, much longer than you without a meet. Patience is key, plus the ability to take it in your stride. Is getting a shag really that important?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"These sites are for a quick way to talk meet people. So for what people are saying my first message has got to be an a4 page of everything about me or I'm a timewaster just looking to message and when I do that they will just delete it and not even message back saying no what we are looking for "

Nope. Without wanting to blow my own trumpet (physically impossible. I've tried) I get a reply to probably 80% of my messages just by reading a profile or a forum post properly, picking something on there I can use to start a conversation and maybe have a little joke about

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

You live in a castle; what are you complaining about?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No, we are not saying or agreeing with that at all, I personally don't see this as a sex site, I see this as a social site with an aim to meet for sex, if you don't engage my brain on a social level you will never engage my will to give you my body, but that is just me, others may have other ideas and it depends on if YOU can change how you interact between Fabguys and Fabswingers......

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"These sites are for a quick way to talk meet people.

Fabguys might be (not sure - not a guy) but Fabswingers is more of a lifestyle site.

There are men who have been on here much, much longer than you without a meet. Patience is key, plus the ability to take it in your stride. Is getting a shag really that important?"

Patience is definitely not the key being proactive is.

get talking to people, it's not a ticket system where you join and after X number of weeks your number comes up

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

No, we are not saying or agreeing with that at all, I personally don't see this as a sex site, I

see this as a social site with an aim to meet for sex, if you don't engage my brain on a social level you will never engage my will to give you my body, but that is just me, others may have other ideas and it depends on if YOU can change how you interact between Fabguys and Fabswingers......"

Same thing

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"These sites are for a quick way to talk meet people.

Fabguys might be (not sure - not a guy) but Fabswingers is more of a lifestyle site.

There are men who have been on here much, much longer than you without a meet. Patience is key, plus the ability to take it in your stride. Is getting a shag really that important?

Patience is definitely not the key being proactive is.

get talking to people, it's not a ticket system where you join and after X number of weeks your number comes up"

Yeah, but the patience comes in when you've had message #548 ignored

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Chill...

You've been here a week and been verified. More than some guy who have been here longer!

This site is all about patience and more importantly never expecting!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women dont like guys who put up whiny status's all the time moaning about how they never get a meet. They also dont like profiles where the person doesnt seem to care who they attract, oh pretty much amyone will do is not very flattering. Well, i say women, but thats what puts me off certain profiles

good luck anyway

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No, we are not saying or agreeing with that at all, I personally don't see this as a sex site, I

Same thing "

They are not the same thing!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, all I have seen is folk gently taking the piss and, all in all, helping you. Take it on board and help yourself. That is not a cruel thing to say.

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

I don't care that Iv not had a meet yet I'm new to the swinging world so Iv asked for help and the only thing Iv been told is to not be myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't care that Iv not had a meet yet I'm new to the swinging world so Iv asked for help and the only thing Iv been told is to not be myself "

Then maybe swinging isn't for you........

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By *horltzMan over a year ago

heysham

Try Ladbrokes ( other gambling apps are available )

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

Try Ladbrokes ( other gambling apps are available )"

This is what I mean

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't care that Iv not had a meet yet I'm new to the swinging world so Iv asked for help and the only thing Iv been told is to not be myself "

Why have you been told not to be yourself?

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Try Ladbrokes ( other gambling apps are available )

This is what I mean "

A bit of gentle ribbing? Count yourself lucky that the world famous harridans of Fab (TM) haven't descended yet.

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By *horltzMan over a year ago

heysham

Try Ladbrokes ( other gambling apps are available )

This is what I mean "

Sorry no offence intended , it just popped into my head

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

Iv been told to Change I'm profile for what I'm looking for to go to the gym because I'm fat and to do things I don't want to do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't care that Iv not had a meet yet I'm new to the swinging world so Iv asked for help and the only thing Iv been told is to not be myself "

If you do not like the advice freely given to you, then fine. I do not recall anyone advising you not to be yourself. Most of the advice seems to be that you should be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Boo fucking who

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe if you had a face pic you would get a meet????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, do you know why "having a shag" is also known as "having a bit of FUN"?

If you're this whiny now when things aren't going your way what would a woman expect when you're in the bedroom and she isn't up for doing something you requested.

Basically, you don't sound like a FUN guy to be around. Change that and you will unlock a world of pussy (and cock)!

Hope this helps.

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

"Maybe if you had a face pic you would get a meet????"

80% of the people on here don't have a fave pic

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv been told to Change I'm profile for what I'm looking for to go to the gym because I'm fat and to do things I don't want to do "

But putting what you're looking for and the kind of person you're attracted to will help you be more successful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe if you had a face pic you would get a meet????

80% of the people on here don't have a fave pic"

That's fair enough but do you send a face pic when you message someone?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe if you had a face pic you would get a meet????

80% of the people on here don't have a fave pic

That's fair enough but do you send a face pic when you message someone?"

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

OP: if your current approach ain't working, how about taking time to consider changing your approach?

Sorry, but if your approach to ladies is the same as men, your chances of sexual success are minimised. I could find a guy on here and within a short period of time, have him sucking my cock. It's taken me a lot, lot longer than that with a lady. Men are visual, women are cerebral so think about that.

Sweeping generalisations allowed!

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

"Maybe if you had a face pic you would get a meet????

80% of the people on here don't have a fave pic

That's fair enough but do you send a face pic when you message someone?"

Yes I do

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Bloody hell mate, you are definitely the 'glass half empty' type arent you? Cheer the fuck up,it might help!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe if you had a face pic you would get a meet????

80% of the people on here don't have a fave pic

That's fair enough but do you send a face pic when you message someone?"

Of course

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv been told to Change I'm profile for what I'm looking for to go to the gym because I'm fat and to do things I don't want to do "

I've never been to a gym. Don't think of it as not being yourself, think of it like being what your future sexual partner wants you to be.

Also, there's lots of free sites on the net that will help with self improvement. Try googling "how to improve myself" for a start...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe if you had a face pic you would get a meet????

80% of the people on here don't have a fave pic"

You really need to approach this more positively. If you were talking to someone in a coffee shop, how would you impress them? By saying, "Shit place?"

Sorry, OP, I have tried but I think I will refrain from further comment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bloody hell mate, you are definitely the 'glass half empty' type arent you? Cheer the fuck up,it might help!

Haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP: if your current approach ain't working, how about taking time to consider changing your approach?

Sweeping generalisations allowed!"

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I really don't know why you don't understand that men,women and couples think and act differently to each other

As soon as you grasp that concept all the better!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really don't know why you don't understand that men,women and couples think and act differently to each other

As soon as you grasp that concept all the better!"

You'd actually be surprised (or not) how many guys don't understand this basic fact. I't probably the reason for the plague that is the cock pic.

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

I am new to this when I say I want help to get into this more I don't mean meets or sex

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I really don't know why you don't understand that men,women and couples think and act differently to each other

As soon as you grasp that concept all the better!

You'd actually be surprised (or not) how many guys don't understand this basic fact. I't probably the reason for the plague that is the cock pic."

Doesn't surprise me in the slightest! I keep trying to give advise in my status updates but all I get is abuse

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I am new to this when I say I want help to get into this more I don't mean meets or sex "

What do you want help with then?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I am new to this when I say I want help to get into this more I don't mean meets or sex "

You've been given plenty of hints and advise what more do you want? Genuine question ...

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

"I am new to this when I say I want help to get into this more I don't mean meets or sex

What do you want help with then?"

Well advice about everything really

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I am new to this when I say I want help to get into this more I don't mean meets or sex

What do you want help with then?

Well advice about everything really "

But what? You can't just say you're not getting the help you want if you don't know what help you want.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I am new to this when I say I want help to get into this more I don't mean meets or sex

What do you want help with then?

Well advice about everything really "

Wyrd, I've given up, so over to you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You wanna try being a Newcastle united fan mate, we cant win fooking anywhere never mind this site

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"You wanna try being a Newcastle united fan mate, we cant win fooking anywhere never mind this site

Yeah but at least you can take the shirt off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If FabGuys is working better than here for you, stick to that.

Simple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ive got the badge tattooed on my arm

, but those tattoo fixers on tv look good

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By *horltzMan over a year ago

heysham

"You wanna try being a Newcastle united fan mate, we cant win fooking anywhere never mind this site

Yeah but at least you can take the shirt off

That will surely end the ridicule

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

"Iv been told to Change I'm profile for what I'm looking for to go to the gym because I'm fat and to do things I don't want to do

But putting what you're looking for and the kind of person you're attracted to will help you be more successful."

Thank You and this other man who sent me a private message are the nice people on here and who have helped me so thanks and I'm not posting anymore

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"ive got the badge tattooed on my arm

, but those tattoo fixers on tv look good

Hmmm.

Sucks to be you then I guess.

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"I am new to this when I say I want help to get into this more I don't mean meets or sex

What do you want help with then?

Well advice about everything really "

Jeez....talk about pulling teeth!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Iv been told to Change I'm profile for what I'm looking for to go to the gym because I'm fat and to do things I don't want to do

But putting what you're looking for and the kind of person you're attracted to will help you be more successful.

Thank You and this other man who sent me a private message are the nice people on here and who have helped me so thanks and I'm not posting anymore "

Surely that advice pertains to successful meets, which is what you said you weren't looking for.

Flummoxed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ive got the badge tattooed on my arm

, but those tattoo fixers on tv look good

Hmmm.

Sucks to be you then I guess.

"
sure does

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By *tokeyash1991 OP Man over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

"I am new to this when I say I want help to get into this more I don't mean meets or sex

What do you want help with then?

Well advice about everything really

But what? You can't just say you're not getting the help you want if you don't know what help you want. "

Lol because that's nice

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman over a year ago

gosport ish

"I am new to this when I say I want help to get into this more I don't mean meets or sex

What do you want help with then?

Well advice about everything really "
don't eat yellow snow

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By *oachman 9CoolMan over a year ago

derby

"You wanna try being a Newcastle united fan mate, we cant win fooking anywhere never mind this site

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I thought you,d got steve mc claren there now.. from derby..or has he Just moved shop to live up there where he comes from..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Chin.up chum

Just join in the forums and have a chuckle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am new to this when I say I want help to get into this more I don't mean meets or sex

What do you want help with then?

Well advice about everything really

But what? You can't just say you're not getting the help you want if you don't know what help you want.

Lol because that's nice "

My advice would be.

Have a look through this thread tomorrow and judge how your "poor me" posts have helped your cause. Do you think there will be women fighting eachother now to get at you?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I personally give up as your not taking anything on board so I am out!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Patience is they key lol

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By *ransGuyTV/TS over a year ago

Cardiff

I've found it the other way round. A lot of guys on Fabguys don't feel like they need to make an effort and you're a time waster if you don't drop everything and meet them arse presented ready. Guys seem to make more of an effort here.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS over a year ago

Cardiff

Well, not all of them do, obviously, but more than on FG

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