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What do couples & females like in an opening message
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
Well this may be controversial, but I think the whole idea of the perfect first message is a myth.
It you send a shit message, but we look are your profile, like what we see and read, then we will respond positively (as long as you message isn't offensive etc.)
If you write a fantastic message but we don't fancy you, you're not going to end up getting laid, which is probably the outcome you are looking for.
Profiles vary, some have info and lots of pics, some are very thin on both. If there us info in the profile try to use that so they know you read it. If not I would go with something along the lines of "Hi guys, How's things? I loved your profile, here is a pic of me, let me know if you're interested." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well this may be controversial, but I think the whole idea of the perfect first message is a myth.
It you send a shit message, but we look are your profile, like what we see and read, then we will respond positively (as long as you message isn't offensive etc.)
If you write a fantastic message but we don't fancy you, you're not going to end up getting laid, which is probably the outcome you are looking for.
Profiles vary, some have info and lots of pics, some are very thin on both. If there us info in the profile try to use that so they know you read it. If not I would go with something along the lines of "Hi guys, How's things? I loved your profile, here is a pic of me, let me know if you're interested.""
This for me as well.
If i don't fancy someone then no matter what they write i won't be interested. If i fancy them and the message isn't shit then i'll reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't want an essay or something that has taken you half an hour to think of.
hi how're you, really like your profile seen that you like going to clubs,we really enjoy them too. Anyway take a look at our profile and would love to chat if you're interested.
Have attatched some pics.
That is literally all it takes.
We see a first messages as serving the simple purpose of sparking the interest/attraction, everything else flows from there. |
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"Well this may be controversial, but I think the whole idea of the perfect first message is a myth.
It you send a shit message, but we look are your profile, like what we see and read, then we will respond positively (as long as you message isn't offensive etc.)
If you write a fantastic message but we don't fancy you, you're not going to end up getting laid, which is probably the outcome you are looking for.
Profiles vary, some have info and lots of pics, some are very thin on both. If there us info in the profile try to use that so they know you read it. If not I would go with something along the lines of "Hi guys, How's things? I loved your profile, here is a pic of me, let me know if you're interested.""
Some truths here. In our case, we put plenty of information in our profile in order to help couples make a reasonable assessment of compatibility and filter us in or out accordingly. When someone makes it patently obvious that they've either not read or not understood our profile or are not willing to invest a bit of time, intelligence and personality in their approach to us, then we're less likely to be enamoured. |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"Well this may be controversial, but I think the whole idea of the perfect first message is a myth.
It you send a shit message, but we look are your profile, like what we see and read, then we will respond positively (as long as you message isn't offensive etc.)
If you write a fantastic message but we don't fancy you, you're not going to end up getting laid, which is probably the outcome you are looking for.
Profiles vary, some have info and lots of pics, some are very thin on both. If there us info in the profile try to use that so they know you read it. If not I would go with something along the lines of "Hi guys, How's things? I loved your profile, here is a pic of me, let me know if you're interested."
Some truths here. In our case, we put plenty of information in our profile in order to help couples make a reasonable assessment of compatibility and filter us in or out accordingly. When someone makes it patently obvious that they've either not read or not understood our profile or are not willing to invest a bit of time, intelligence and personality in their approach to us, then we're less likely to be enamoured. "
For example im sure the above poster gets messages like "want to watch me fuck your wife in the arse?" As an opening message, and probably isn't impressed. We're not when we get messages like that, as well as the occasional racist message. So as long as you're message isn't as shit as that, you'll probably be fine.
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"Well this may be controversial, but I think the whole idea of the perfect first message is a myth.
It you send a shit message, but we look are your profile, like what we see and read, then we will respond positively (as long as you message isn't offensive etc.)
If you write a fantastic message but we don't fancy you, you're not going to end up getting laid, which is probably the outcome you are looking for.
Profiles vary, some have info and lots of pics, some are very thin on both. If there us info in the profile try to use that so they know you read it. If not I would go with something along the lines of "Hi guys, How's things? I loved your profile, here is a pic of me, let me know if you're interested."
Some truths here. In our case, we put plenty of information in our profile in order to help couples make a reasonable assessment of compatibility and filter us in or out accordingly. When someone makes it patently obvious that they've either not read or not understood our profile or are not willing to invest a bit of time, intelligence and personality in their approach to us, then we're less likely to be enamoured.
For example im sure the above poster gets messages like "want to watch me fuck your wife in the arse?" As an opening message, and probably isn't impressed. We're not when we get messages like that, as well as the occasional racist message. So as long as you're message isn't as shit as that, you'll probably be fine.
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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago
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For me, when meeting, the guy's Profile text matters way more than message content, as I'll usually check that before I read their message.
If I like their profile, fancy them and their message isn't offensive, I'll reply/be interested.. if I don't fancy them I'll reply to say so, most of the time.
I delete 'crap/ offensive / basic/ fill in later' profiles or messages.
Doesn't Have to be war and peace, but I like guys that actually have preferances in their profile (NOT: I like curvy, slim, cougar, milf or young things... Aka I'll shag anything!), then message me because they meet my profile preferances, and are curious to see if I share their preferances.. and if I do, bonus!
Also like guys that talk like they would face2face when meeting a stranger. Like being nice, flirty but respectful, not crude, or like I am a free sex aid to be objectified, instead of a human with feelings.. I like to suss a person out before I talk mischief  |
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what worked for me when i was a single guy
started off with a brief introduction then complimented the fem and the partner, mentioning stuff on their profile; and ask if they would be so kind as to look at my profile and reply if they both thought it worth chatting more with the intention of meeting up socially first.
without sounding as if i'm bragging this did work for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kiss them not Kill them*
A brief intro, what you have in common and take at look at my/our profile.
*keep it short and sweet not kept it long and lengthy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just send multiple cock pics with the words
FANCY A FUCK..... Thank me later
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Well, not just one, obviously: Cut and paste a copy to everyone who has just joined and is logged on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just send multiple cock pics with the words
FANCY A FUCK..... Thank me later
Well, not just one, obviously: Cut and paste a copy to everyone who has just joined and is logged on. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I bash your back door in or fancy one in pink one in stink works for me!
Allow me to pick my knickers back up off the floor  "
Clearly the comments were tongue in cheek.
I tend to find a complimentary message gets a reply, then I strike up conversation from it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Face pic, body pic. Signs that you have read the profile. A modicum of intelligence. Manners. Some indication that you understand English."
All of which got me nowhere lol |
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I know what makes me ignore or delete and that is either a quick one liner or saying we have loads in common, but not mentioning any of it, an obviously cut and paste one, or one that involves loads of detail about what you want to do, but no acknowledgement that it may not be what we want to do. As our involvement in play is fluid, and dependent on the person or persons involved, I like to have a conversation. A message will make me look at the profile of the sender and from that alone, including the verifications and the profile text and the pictures. I will make the decision as to whether to message back. Responses to forum posts just asking for information are fine too, as I am always up front about the fact that I do not too often plan whereas Mr does, with men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Crude and hi type messages just get deleted. I always go to the profile if it is half decent and I like the pics I'll reply. So for me it's the second message that is more important. You have my attention- nows the opportunity to sell yourself. Rarely impressed! |
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By *P2903Couple
over a year ago
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"Face pic, body pic. Signs that you have read the profile. A modicum of intelligence. Manners. Some indication that you understand English.
All of which got me nowhere lol "
That just meant we read your message rather than insta-binning it. Obviously for some other reason you didn't make the grade. Did you want to do this publicly? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Face pic and decent body pics and no text speak. It amazes me the men expect to get a meet without actualy showing what they look like, it isn't blind date! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Face pics, body pics, matching profile.
Then so long as the text of the message isn't offensive and the guy is attractive then it'll be a positive response.
No pics, or just a cock in 20 different positions, is an immediate no. Have no idea how anyone could hope to get a positive response when they don't show what they look like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So long as it's not actively offensive, I don't really care that much. I decide whether to even read it based on looking at the profile first anyway, so I don't really want someone to spend 4 years carefully crafting a perfectly worded missive that I might just delete. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Something that sounds like they are genuinely interested rather than trying to shoot fish in a barrel.
I hate one liners. 'How's things', 'what u up 2' 'hi' etc.
I've started just deleting them and blocking profiles who do that now.
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Any message is less lazy than a wink. Nothing wrong with a wink, and if we like the look you can wink back. But someone genuinely interested in meeting you will look at your pics and read your profile and will send a genuine message to make contact.
We had a wink today. Looked at the couple, not particularly attractive of interesting so no time wasted so we do what we always do and not wink back.
However they have this status that says "if we wink you then don't just ignore send a message saying no thanks "
So they are too lazy to send an actual message and just hit the wink button, but they'd expect you to write out a message just for them just to say no thanks. No thanks to what exactly, they haven't sent you a message, a request, an offer, just a wink.
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