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"If you're in the throws of things with another couple and suddenly you (the M), find yourself with the other bloke playing with your knob and you quite like it, have you crossed the bi line? What if he sucks it? If you like it but don't fancy returning the favour does that make you only semi bi? If you try it and aren't keen, can you come back across the bi line to the straight side? Are you only straight if you've never tried? What if you've thought about it but never tried it? Is that where bi-curious comes in? Oh it's so confusing knowing which box to tick on the profile page!! " Me personally would say your curious and you never know until you try! if you cant imagine yourself dating a man or even find them attractive then i don't think you have anything to worry about saying bi-curious there are 1000's of men just like you my bf included and i just class him as orally bi  | |||
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And I wasn't so much thinking about it as thinking about what someone thinking about it would do (if that makes sense?)
People do what they want and describe themselves how they want in my book. My point was really that the general classifications seem to be gay, bi, bi-curious or straight but in real life the lines between these don't seem to have agreed definitions.
You know how sometimes you just wonder about stuff?
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"Oh I wasn't worried.
And I wasn't so much thinking about it as thinking about what someone thinking about it would do (if that makes sense?)
People do what they want and describe themselves how they want in my book. My point was really that the general classifications seem to be gay, bi, bi-curious or straight but in real life the lines between these don't seem to have agreed definitions.
You know how sometimes you just wonder about stuff?
Yes i completely agree everything has to have a label on it lol and sometimes you cant even get your head around it yourself never mind putting a definition in the dictionary lol
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"Just relax and have fun. Try what you are comfortable with. Don't use labels. Yes the profile asks but people change as they travel along the "fab highway". Pm us if you want to chat more " Thank you for the lovely thought. My OP was really more of a question about the concept of labels. I'm comfortable with what I like and don't like and I'm not really bothered by the tag that will have to be associated with it. As it happens, I've never had a bi experience or been particularly curious about trying it. If something happened in a particular encounter I'd go with the flow and see if I enjoyed it or not. We should all just go with what we enjoy if it doesn't harm anyone else in my book. My point really is that there are replies to other posts on this forum where some people seem to have very clear cut ideas of what the boundaries are between these headings and I was questioning those opinions to understand how they defined certain scenarios. But thank you again for your kind offer. It was a very sweet post. | |||
"Why label it why not just go with what feels good at the time. I see myself as a trysexual " Why not label it? | |||
"Why label it why not just go with what feels good at the time. I see myself as a trysexual Why not label it? " So can you explain the definitions of your labels? This isn't being funny, I'm genuinely curious as to how you define each one of straight, bi-curious and bi. If it as you have said above, "if you enjoy it your bi" then I assume bi-curious can only mean someone has thought about it but never touched it been touched by another member of the same sex in that way? | |||
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"Bi playful? X" This should definitely be an officially recognised sexual preference.
Would certainly help threads like these.
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"Bi playful? X This should definitely be an officially recognised sexual preference.
Would certainly help threads like these.
D"It would certainly help a lot if people... More than curious less than bi..... Maybe we should suggest to admin;) | |||
"Bi playful? X This should definitely be an officially recognised sexual preference.
Would certainly help threads like these.
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It would certainly help a lot if people... More than curious less than bi..... Maybe we should suggest to admin;) " exactly! Admin!
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"Bi playful? X This should definitely be an officially recognised sexual preference.
Would certainly help threads like these.
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It would certainly help a lot if people... More than curious less than bi..... Maybe we should suggest to admin;)
exactly! Admin!
D"I am going to message them.. Watch this space!! | |||
"Why label it why not just go with what feels good at the time. I see myself as a trysexual Why not label it? So can you explain the definitions of your labels? This isn't being funny, I'm genuinely curious as to how you define each one of straight, bi-curious and bi. If it as you have said above, "if you enjoy it your bi" then I assume bi-curious can only mean someone has thought about it but never touched it been touched by another member of the same sex in that way?" Please define bi curious. Is it before or after having a non/enjoyable experience with someone of the same sex? To my mind, if you enjoyed it...you are bi. If it was too much but you liked the presence of a cock/pussy...then you are bi curious and waiting to find the way you can fulfil yourself with your new sexual genre. If you hated it...ypu are mostly straight. | |||
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"Ignore labels.Just enjoy "This.... | |||
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"I had a vegetarian pizza once I liked it . I may have it again. But I am not vegetarian or vegetarian curious. And in no way vegan . " Ah go on with you are you sure you are not even a little vegan curious
I think Bi Curious stands for a few encounters, after all you may have to try something more than once to decide if you really like it or not. But there is a point where you have to drop the curious label, it's fine to be still curious after 2 encounters, but a bit silly after 20.
But in group situations Bi Playful is another category which unfortunately I still don't fit into, but I would vote on it getting added as an option if this were a democracy. | |||
"I had a vegetarian pizza once I liked it . I may have it again. But I am not vegetarian or vegetarian curious. And in no way vegan . " Buy you are omnivorous  | |||
"If you're in the throws of things with another couple and suddenly you (the M), find yourself with the other bloke playing with your knob and you quite like it, have you crossed the bi line? What if he sucks it? If you like it but don't fancy returning the favour does that make you only semi bi? If you try it and aren't keen, can you come back across the bi line to the straight side? Are you only straight if you've never tried? What if you've thought about it but never tried it? Is that where bi-curious comes in? Oh it's so confusing knowing which box to tick on the profile page!! " Why are you so afraid of people thinking you might be bi? | |||
"If you're in the throws of things with another couple and suddenly you (the M), find yourself with the other bloke playing with your knob and you quite like it, have you crossed the bi line? What if he sucks it? If you like it but don't fancy returning the favour does that make you only semi bi? If you try it and aren't keen, can you come back across the bi line to the straight side? Are you only straight if you've never tried? What if you've thought about it but never tried it? Is that where bi-curious comes in? Oh it's so confusing knowing which box to tick on the profile page!! " lol there should also be a box for "curious about everyone else's sex lives/ psyche/setup"  | |||
"If you're in the throws of things with another couple and suddenly you (the M), find yourself with the other bloke playing with your knob and you quite like it, have you crossed the bi line? What if he sucks it? If you like it but don't fancy returning the favour does that make you only semi bi? If you try it and aren't keen, can you come back across the bi line to the straight side? Are you only straight if you've never tried? What if you've thought about it but never tried it? Is that where bi-curious comes in? Oh it's so confusing knowing which box to tick on the profile page!! " When I joined the site I was confused, so I made a conscious decision to tick the bi curious box as I thought this would open up a whole new world of experiences to me and also increase my chances of meeting someone. As soon as I clicked "save profile" I instantly started craving cock, it was unbelievable! It's a good thing I didn't tick the bi or gay box by accident, who knows what I'd be getting up to right now! | |||
I also have to ask, why do women find it easy to embrace their bi-ness whilst men seem to find any variation on a theme, to water down their like of sausage?
Why does the occasional dalliance by a man (with a man), need a million threads to debate the scale of their activity and then find a word that can blur the idea that they like cock, whilst the female of the couple wears their love of what lies beneath a vejazzle as a badge of honour?
Social acceptability is the only thing I can think of. If it became all the rage to be bi, would more men admit to being flexible in the sexuality of their bed/car/toilet mates? Of course they would.
Also, and please can someone explain this, how on earth does sucking a guys cock/being sucked mean you are not into kissing men? 
I mean, to do it properly you or he must be kissing a cock. That is kissing a man isn't it?
I kiss my best mate on the cheek. We love each other and I am comfortable with that. Some people do wonder when they see us meet, although less so now. You can see it in their eyes. But I feel no need to explain we have been friends for 40 yrs....its no one's business.
But I could never touch a guy's cock in a sexual way. I played rugby and have touched other guys cocks as part of forfeits. I once drank a pint that had the guy next to me's balls dangled in them for a minute before hand. We all did it in big daisey chain. I have been in showers and team baths with loads of guys. I have never once looked at or touched any of them and thought anything sexual.
I am straight. I find it restrictive and am envious of those who can enjoy their own sex...to whatever degree, but it leaves me cold and I have no idea why. But I am not going to force myself to try it...like many men do try with women...because I know it repels me. Seeing guys kiss is an instant turn off to me. I don't think I could even do a straight MFM, which is a shame as I have contacted by quite a few couples.
So, all you peeps who are lucky enough to be bi... EMBRACE IT PLEASE.
Fuck what anyone else thinks...but for the clarity of knowing others sexual panorama, put it your profile. You dont have to use the "bisexual" description, but "bi-curious" must be the minimum level of description. Be true to yourself and stop hiding a perfectly acceptable part of your sexuality. Especially on here.
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Even if you label yourself jam someone will say it's conserve. Whatever you are, enjoy it. | |||
"If you enjoy any sexual encounter with someone of the same sex...you are bi. To what degree, or however you want to measure a sliding scale of bi-ness, is irrelevant. As is what other people think of you. The label is not a negative thing as many appear to think, it is a common noun. That is all. Why people think admitting you are Bi means you will be a raging gayer in a week confounds me. You are exactly the same person as before. If a 'Vegetarian' ate meat once a month or a year, but enjoyed it and was happy to do it again, then they would be a 'predominantly vegetarian omnivore'..but an omnivore they would be. No true vegetarian would accept this persons claims to Carni-playfulness. Admitting this doesn't mean their usual diet is made any less valid; nor will it lead to a carnivorous frenzy where the knowledge of Tofu is discarded and they will cruise Butchers shops with a blood stained mouth
I also have to ask, why do women find it easy to embrace their bi-ness whilst men seem to find any variation on a theme, to water down their like of sausage?
Why does the occasional dalliance by a man (with a man), need a million threads to debate the scale of their activity and then find a word that can blur the idea that they like cock, whilst the female of the couple wears their love of what lies beneath a vejazzle as a badge of honour?
Social acceptability is the only thing I can think of. If it became all the rage to be bi, would more men admit to being flexible in the sexuality of their bed/car/toilet mates? Of course they would.
Also, and please can someone explain this, how on earth does sucking a guys cock/being sucked mean you are not into kissing men?
I mean, to do it properly you or he must be kissing a cock. That is kissing a man isn't it?
I kiss my best mate on the cheek. We love each other and I am comfortable with that. Some people do wonder when they see us meet, although less so now. You can see it in their eyes. But I feel no need to explain we have been friends for 40 yrs....its no one's business.
But I could never touch a guy's cock in a sexual way. I played rugby and have touched other guys cocks as part of forfeits. I once drank a pint that had the guy next to me's balls dangled in them for a minute before hand. We all did it in big daisey chain. I have been in showers and team baths with loads of guys. I have never once looked at or touched any of them and thought anything sexual.
I am straight. I find it restrictive and am envious of those who can enjoy their own sex...to whatever degree, but it leaves me cold and I have no idea why. But I am not going to force myself to try it...like many men do try with women...because I know it repels me. Seeing guys kiss is an instant turn off to me. I don't think I could even do a straight MFM, which is a shame as I have contacted by quite a few couples.
So, all you peeps who are lucky enough to be bi... EMBRACE IT PLEASE.
Fuck what anyone else thinks...but for the clarity of knowing others sexual panorama, put it your profile. You dont have to use the "bisexual" description, but "bi-curious" must be the minimum level of description. Be true to yourself and stop hiding a perfectly acceptable part of your sexuality. Especially on here.
"I can kiss a cock, I can't open kiss a guy on the mouth, I tried, I didn't enjoy it. I'm not into masculinity, don't find men's appearances attractive, they just don't really do it for me. However I do find a good looking cock exciting and tasty and have played but the whole male thing just doesn't do it. Unsurprisingly I find transsexuals very exciting, the best of both worlds. Who knows maybe over time this outlook will change but that's where I am at the moment. | |||
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