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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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in trying to make friends i have tended to wink at those im interested in in the hope they wink back
my feelings are that if they wink back then they've obviously liked what they've seen and then i will take the leap and send a message to see what develops from there
i didnt want to be so presumptious as to invite them as friends first because then i may run the risk of being blocked etc etc.....
Is this wrong? Please give ur advice
Thanx
Gem x x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think what you're doing is wrong at all,and your reasoning seems logical,but lots of people don't like winks and think they are a lazy way of making contact,they prefer to receive a message rather than a wink
Everyone is different though and there are also those that will use the wink system as you have 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No you're not wrong in sending a wink, after all, that's why they are there.
But ...
A lot of people are not keen on winks and tend to ignore them, and others tend not to check them or simply overlook them
The best and most efficient way to contact someone is by sending a message (Not a friends request- send that later after contact has been established) and see what happens. Don't get too down in the mouth if they don't reply - it happens, but at least you can look at your sent messages and see if it has been read or not - you cannot do that with a wink.
If there is no response from a message, it's probably best to take it as a 'no thanks'
Hope this helps .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i usually delete winks i have winks off ppl i know but if winks have never messaged me i just delete em the same as if i get friend invites without chatting first i delete. prefer messages anytime, well prefer real thing but messages are a good start lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It does mention in some profiles that they will not respond to winks and friends invites and for that reason i dont wink its not that i dont want to just that it takes time to compose a message saying all i wanna say. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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yeah i had created my profile before i met my partner.
We werent sure what to do whether to just use mine and make the profile clear or whether we need to eventually create a couples profile.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest, and this isn't meant to sound nasty in any way shape or form, but I'd ask admin if they can change it to a couple profile, alternatively you could delete this one and make a new one.
The reason I'm suggesting this is because a lot of people do get their backs up when they see either a couple posing as a single fem or a guy posing as woman - you know how it is ? It can appear if there is something shifty happening ..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yeah i can understand that
how do i contact admin tho? if i were to delete this profile and recreate it would i be able to use the same profile name?"
Just go to the bottom of any page, to the blue bar and in small letter at the end you'll see the word 'contact' click on the like and it will take you straight to admins message page.
I'm not sure if you'd be able to use the same name, but one problem in creating a new profile would be that you'd look like a brand new member, so I'd try to get Admin to change your existing profile if possible. I'm sure that they will do it for you .. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i have sent them a message so fingers crossed they can do something although it states they dont respond to personal requests!! 
thank you for ur suggestions tho |
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Back to winking - you dont have to write an essay when you reply to an ad, but 2-3 lines to say what you liked about their profile (their interests, where they live, what they look like) will work 10 times better than a wink.
Your comment that you'd get sore fingers if you typed a message to everyone you wink at is exactly why we dont like winks - a wink implies that you've sent one to 100 couples already and that you probably havent even read our profile. If you cant be arsed to write a reply, I cant be arsed to respond!
Winks might work for some people but you're reducing your chances if its what you rely on. |
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